Let me clarify:

A man (in general) is not about being "payed off in the end".

A man (in general) seeks result NOW.

Preferably INSTANT gratification.

Rather No games, no foreplay, no bullshit, just give him what he WANTS.

Of course, men aren't generally succumbing to this URGE.

They (have to) fight it, simply because they Know they would rather Act as a Man instead of as an Animal.

In order to get the Woman...

Tempest said:

JoeTyler, come ask the Magic 8 Ball what you should do.

Tremolina said:

Tempest said:

Not the last time I checked.

Then there's not that much you can say, except from the experiences you have had with men.

OK. Now I have a question. There are several people on this thread that also advised Joe not to go with his "urge" but to refrain. Why is it that my statement was any different than theirs? Why does my statement somehow "tempt Joe to do exactly the opposite" and the other admonitions do not? Just curious.

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Tempest said:

Tremolina said:

Then there's not that much you can say, except from the experiences you have had with men.

OK. Now I have a question. There are several people on this thread that also advised Joe not to go with his "urge" but to refrain. Why is that my statement was any different than theirs? Why does my statement somehow "tempt Joe to do exactly the opposite" and the other admonitions do not? Just curious.

Because you "promised" him "it'll pay off in the end"if he keeps his "trousersnake under control".

You are telling him to do the exact opposite of what he is URGED to do NOW (if all this hoopla is really true..) .

Moreover, you are even Promising that it will "pay off".

Subconsciously, that's an outright invitation for a man (in general) to Ignore and do the Opposite.

Just because he can NOT Resist BUT ALSO wants to see/know if you are Right or Wrong


He subconscioulsy truly wants to Know what you, as a Woman Know... (but "Do U No?" or "Do U Lie" )


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Tremolina said:

Tempest said:

OK. Now I have a question. There are several people on this thread that also advised Joe not to go with his "urge" but to refrain. Why is that my statement was any different than theirs? Why does my statement somehow "tempt Joe to do exactly the opposite" and the other admonitions do not? Just curious.

Because you "promised" him "it'll pay off in the end"if he keeps his "trousersnake under control".

You are telling him to do the exact opposite of what he is URGED to do NOW (if all this hoopla is really true..) .

Moreover, you are even Promising that it will "pay off".

Subconsciously, that's an outright invitation for a man (in general) to Ignore and do the Opposite.

Just because he can NOT Resist BUT ALSO wants to see/know if you are Right or Wrong



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So, are you one of those people who has to reach out and touch the painted wall whenever you see a "Wet Paint" sign? You cannot refrain from the urge? Is that what you're telling me? In other words, men (in general) seriously lack self control? Unable to contemplate or assess the end result of their actions (paint on their hand)? Or, future consequences associated with certain actions (having sex whenever they feel the urge)? Self control is one of the fruits of the Spirit. I won't get into that now but just thought I'd mention it. At the end of the day, it's not important whether I'm right or wrong. What's important is what God sees as right or wrong. Obviously, banging everyone because you have an "urge" is not OK. It's called "renewing the mind" in the Scriptures. Also, obeying God (and exercising self control) always pays off in the end.

There is NEVER a good reason to not have sex!

Tempest said:

Tremolina said:

Because you "promised" him "it'll pay off in the end"if he keeps his "trousersnake under control".

You are telling him to do the exact opposite of what he is URGED to do NOW (if all this hoopla is really true..) .

Moreover, you are even Promising that it will "pay off".

Subconsciously, that's an outright invitation for a man (in general) to Ignore and do the Opposite.

Just because he can NOT Resist BUT ALSO wants to see/know if you are Right or Wrong



_

[Edited 8/2/13 16:15pm]

So, are you one of those people who has to reach out and touch the painted wall whenever you see a "Wet Paint" sign? You cannot refrain from the urge? Is that what you're telling me? In other words, men (in general) seriously lack self control? Unable to contemplate or assess the end result of their actions (paint on their hand)? Or, future consequences associated with certain actions (having sex whenever they feel the urge)? Self control is one of the fruits of the Spirit. I won't get into that now but just thought I'd mention it. At the end of the day, it's not important whether I'm right or wrong. What's important is what God sees as right or wrong. Obviously, banging everyone because you have an "urge" is not OK. It's called "renewing the mind" in the Scriptures. Also, obeying God (and exercising self control) always pays off in the end.

Assumption is the mother of all f%$k ups not?

What did I assume? I asked some questions. I didn't assume anything.

NDRU said:

There is NEVER a good reason to not have sex!

this... this right here...

You only live once, looking forward to the thread explaining how it went...

also... who does she resemble??

some things:

a) it was HER who approached me, WORD, I swear, I was both and

b) he's a co-worker, NOT a friend

c) I'm a man, but wth I LOVE foreplay, games and that stuff

d) I think I will keep my willy under control, thanks for the advice you all

e) my boss lady is currently MILES AWAY (summer vacation) LOL

Good for you Joe. You've chosen. . . . . . wisely.

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luv4u said:

JoeTyler said:

yay or nay?

I don't know what to do, the possibility is THERE (omg she's HAWT), but I think it could lead to T-R-O-U-B-L-E

what should I do? I need advice: BRAIN/SAFETY? or LUST?

help

And there is your answer. Not only that, the possibility of it affecting your job or getting fired.

Why would sleeping with a co-worker's mum get him fired?

I think that, if both people are healthy grown-ups - and we shouldn't objectify a woman by forgetting her right to simply say "no" - and give their consent, why should it be a problem?

Why should the co-worker (or anyone, for that matter) have a right to judge who his/her mother has sex with, let alone a co-worker of their own. Sure, it would probably feel awkward for Joe's co-worker, but in the end it is something he/she will have to deal with, if both Joe and the mother agreed on having sex.

If the mother is not a senile, old woman or under the influence of drugs, I am sure she can very well decide herself whether it is "right" to so do or not, assuming she knows that Joe is her son/daughter's co-worker.

JoeTyler said:

some things:

a) it was HER who approached me, WORD, I swear, I was both and

b) he's a co-worker, NOT a friend

c) I'm a man, but wth I LOVE foreplay, games and that stuff

d) I think I will keep my willy under control, thanks for the advice you all

e) my boss lady is currently MILES AWAY (summer vacation) LOL

How did she approach you? Did she make it known that she was sexually attracted to you? In that case, Hell, she might be a strumpet.

Shyra said:

JoeTyler said:

some things:

a) it was HER who approached me, WORD, I swear, I was both and

b) he's a co-worker, NOT a friend

c) I'm a man, but wth I LOVE foreplay, games and that stuff

d) I think I will keep my willy under control, thanks for the advice you all

e) my boss lady is currently MILES AWAY (summer vacation) LOL

How did she approach you? Did she make it known that she was sexually attracted to you?

we were BOTH sexually attracted

In that case, Hell, she might be a strumpet.

damn! can't a 40-something divorced woman have some fun anymore???

Dave1992 said:

I think that, if both people are healthy grown-ups - and we shouldn't objectify a woman by forgetting her right to simply say "no" - and give their consent, why should it be a problem?

Why should the co-worker (or anyone, for that matter) have a right to judge who his/her mother has sex with, let alone a co-worker of their own. Sure, it would probably feel awkward for Joe's co-worker, but in the end it is something he/she will have to deal with, if both Joe and the mother agreed on having sex.

If the mother is not a senile, old woman or under the influence of drugs, I am sure she can very well decide herself whether it is "right" to so do or not, assuming she knows that Joe is her son/daughter's co-worker.

damn!

JoeTyler said:

Dave1992 said:

I think that, if both people are healthy grown-ups - and we shouldn't objectify a woman by forgetting her right to simply say "no" - and give their consent, why should it be a problem?

Why should the co-worker (or anyone, for that matter) have a right to judge who his/her mother has sex with, let alone a co-worker of their own. Sure, it would probably feel awkward for Joe's co-worker, but in the end it is something he/she will have to deal with, if both Joe and the mother agreed on having sex.

If the mother is not a senile, old woman or under the influence of drugs, I am sure she can very well decide herself whether it is "right" to so do or not, assuming she knows that Joe is her son/daughter's co-worker.

damn!

JoeTyler said:

some things:

a) it was HER who approached me, WORD, I swear, I was both and

b) he's a co-worker, NOT a friend

c) I'm a man, but wth I LOVE foreplay, games and that stuff

d) I think I will keep my willy under control, thanks for the advice you all

e) my boss lady is currently MILES AWAY (summer vacation) LOL

Wise to keep your pants up.

Lady boss will come back from holiday. And will not be pleased when she finds out.

Just try to keep your job, allright?