There is a co-worker of mine who has asked me several times to add her to my friends list. The last time she asked me, I kind of explained it away by saying, "I keep forgetting". I don't know if there is a way to tell someone that you don't want to add them to your friends list without hurting their feelings.

I don't add co-workers simply because I post some stuff on my Facebook page that I don't want them to know about. Shoot, I don't even have family members on my Facebook page for the exact same reason. It would just be my luck to post something on my Facebook page, a co-worker reading it, then telling other co-workers about it. Nope, it's not going to happen. What I post on my Facebook page is something I don't care to have co-workers to have access to. To me, it's none of their damn business anyway.

What's your opinion on this? Do you have co-workers on your Facebook friends list?

Stymie said:

I have one co-worker as a friend but we really are friends. In Your case, I would simply explain that you don't add co-workers.

I will have to say something to the effect of, "Sorry, it's nothing against you personally, but I don't add co-workers to my Facebook friends list".

Some.
But we keep each other updated with information about school, and post videos and news articles about education in general. I am pretty friendly with most of them, though. I've been there 13 years.
There are a couple on there that I kind of added out of "guilt" because they are friends with other teachers on my list. One got another job, and was immediately defriended; I didn't care for her or her trite comments.

It makes me uncomfortable that some of them have the Principal on their friends list. She's nice, but...
I don't feel like I can post comments about work, or share my concert pix (after a "personal/sick" day) with her hanging around. I have it so that only friends can see my comments and pictures, but still....

I have friended most of my co-workers. For the most part it's okay, but there are times that I really would love to rant about work and cannot. Same with family though. I save all that for here. Lucky .org! No one in my family and none of my co-workers come here.

Hear....really?!?...edit

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Yes, I have a few, including folks I've worked with at previous jobs. We've stayed in touch over the years.

I'm on the fence because I've gotten requests from some of my cooler co-workers but they really don't need to see the shit I'm posting...

I have everyone from the Justice league as a friend on my facebook except for Martian Manhunter......such an ass.

I have friended a VERY select one or two coworkers with whom I occasionally hang out socially. I am strict on what content I allow them to access, however. And for all other professional contacts, I keep to a "no Facebook friend" rule, and I explain that to whomever asks.

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none! i'm a bit of a coward really, i use an alias i only have close friends & family on fb

ZombieKitten said:

I have 2 accounts, one for relatives, friends of my parents(!) acquaintances and work contacts that I don't really post on, plus my org one which is a more anonymous/false name anything goes type thing.

I ask this out of complete ignorance: Isn't it possible to arrange your Facebook friends in various groups, with control over what they have access to? Or is that a big headache?

Lammastide said:

ZombieKitten said:

Lammastide said:

I ask this out of complete ignorance: Isn't it possible to arrange your Facebook friends in various groups, with control over what they have access to? Or is that a big headache?

Apparently you can! It's just easier this way for me NOT to make a massive error when drunkenly facebooking on a Friday or Saturday night

I have a few (former) colleagues on FB. I consider them friends and one of them actually is one of my best friends. Also family, a slew of Orgers and friends.

I don't really care that everyone can see what I'm posting. I never post 'personal' stuff anyway.

My FB is pretty boring; it's either news articles that I've read and consider repost-worthy or pictures when travelling.

I have a few coworkers on my facebook page, folks I get along with at work or have shared interests outside of work. I won't add bosses or anyone I may want to work for someday and I don't add anyone I don't want to. I'm not afraid to tell folks that I don't generally add people I work with or whatever.

I really only add people I feel comfortable adding. The older I get, the more I don't give a hoot what folks think of me. I also do far fewer things people may judge me for that could show up on facebook.

CarrieMpls said:

The older I get, the more I don't give a hoot what folks think of me. I also do far fewer things people may judge me for that could show up on facebook.

One of the best things about getting older!
I still do stuff that I'm sure people would judge me for, I just don't post that shit on FB.

I do.

Reminds me...I have to filter my Facebook account.

of course NOT

having casual sex with a supervisor/boss/co-worker is one thing...

but adding a co-worker on Facebook's "friends" (ha!) list is a GROSS MISTAKE for so many reasons

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I see my co-workers for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week and I'm forced into listening to all of their nonsense and foolishness that I really don't care to hear about. Why on earth would I add them to my facebook friends list? I don't need to hear about their drama AND read about it. So, yeah, just tell them you don't add co-workers to your facebook page. Most of them probably just want to pry so they can gossip about you. I hear it all the time.

I had 2 on there that I considered friends. Current co workers are a NO. I have some from where I worked before, but if they get froggy I will unfriend a muthphuka in a minute. My explaination when asked to be friends on facebook with co workers or other associates is "You wouldn't like who I am on facebook."

I started off with EVERYBODY from work on there.. the only thing I really didin't like was ppl bringing up what I said on FB at wrk. Even if it was just me talking about food. I didn't like the fact that ppl were paying attn to me .. sounds strange but I really didn't like that

When I first joined Facebook I added some co-workers. (They were the ones who convinced me to join.) I quit about a month after that and since then I will only add you if we're no longer working at the same place. I just say my rule is that I'm not FB friends with co-workers; most people understand that.

At my current job a lot of people are FB friends with one another, follow each other on Instagram and "like" the company FB page. I liked the company FB page, but I never post comments. The most I'll do is "like" something they post. They are also big on taking photos at work events (e.g. exhibition openings) but I told the PR department I didn't feel comfortable having my photo taken and posted online. They don't bother me about it.

I have quite a few people from my old job. I only have one from my current job because most of my co-workers have huge sticks up their asses.

I don't have Facebook.

But if I did have one for personal contacts, I would just simply explain that I don't add work contacts to keep the unwanted at bay. You just have to be firm (but polite) and say, "sorry, but no".

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No.

kitbradley said:

I see my co-workers for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week and I'm forced into listening to all of their nonsense and foolishness that I really don't care to hear about. Why on earth would I add them to my facebook friends list? I don't need to hear about their drama AND read about it. So, yeah, just tell them you don't add co-workers to your facebook page. Most of them probably just want to pry so they can gossip about you. I hear it all the time.

Knowing my co-workers, they'd find a way to put the sound of them chomping granola and baby carrots on Facebook - and I'd really have to kill them.