Divorce...

Who's done it? What was involved? Any funny stories? Did she get half? Eddie, I want half!

Relate your divorce disasters here...

This is gonna be a happy thread!

Ian, are you asking this because you are planning one?

It's never pretty...but I kept mine free of drama, and managed to keep lawyers out of it. Lawyers are the ones that make everything all nasty--they want you to be pissed at your ex--it means more money for them!

Oooh, we just bought a house, it would take atleast a year to get built, arranged the morgage and all (for a lot of money) !! Then there came this other boy and booom it was over. Had to cancel the hole thing (he didn't want to wait till it was built, to sell it with proffit) and hell it cost me loads !!

He's still the sweetest though !!

I've never been married, but I hope to be divorced someday.

I won't ever marry. Just not my thing.

Cloudbuster said:

I'm going through one now. I hope it works out well in the end... so far so good - it could be worse.

I will never get married again though... I know that much!

Ian asked us all about divorce
When the love has gone, as has the intercourse
A small number of people replied to his thread
But apart from that, it's just about dead.

AzureStar said:

Yeah, right. What is wrong with just loving one another. That's all that matters, surely.

Cloudbuster said:

Right... and that way, when it's over, you can just walk out and away from it all without having this whole process to go through in order to leave.

I come from a broken family, my parents devorced when I was twelve. I can say that it´s no ride in the park.

One tip if there are children involved, leave them out of the troubles you have with your partner.

Jasper said:

Easier said than done. It's the children that suffer most during divorce anyway.

Cloudbuster said:

True, but children have to suffer from it almost their whole lifetime. So keep them out of arguments and don´t talk bad about eachother in front of them.

Jasper said:

I relate. My parents slagging eachother off in front of me crucified me. I became ill from the effect my parents divorce had. Luckily i got help and realised that they loved me even if they behaved inappropriately.

Children are the most important concern during a divorce... or they should be anyway.

Luckily, my two kids are doing well, and I really didn't think they would. I told them if they had any questions to just ask me and I would talk to them about it, and so far they have had none. I think they knew already and know this is for the best.

AzureStar said:

Hope you all come through it unscathed.

Cloudbuster said:

Thanks... I think all of us will get through it just fine. So far I really have nothing to complain about.

The thing that I've found that is shocking to me is that it appears that everyone thinks that the one who asked for the divorce doesn't have any feeling or emotions, when it really isn't easy on them either. It's certainly not easy on anyone involved.

AzureStar said:

That's a bitch, isn't it? It's just one of those things you have to let roll off your back, because until people have actually been there, they don't get it.

I initiated my divorce and was supposedly the "bad guy," even though she was unfaithful.

teller said:

You heartless prick!!!

IceNine said:

ChocolateInvasion said:

Well I'd hardly be spending this much time on the Org if I was happily married

teller said:

Yep... I got a call from him the morning after I moved out with him yelling at me and calling me a heartless, selfish, emotionless bitch. He did this for nearly four hours until I had to leave to go to work. He even broke it down for me and gave me examples of how I am all of those things!

The next day he was fine. I have to remember that it is not easy on him, since he didn't want this and still doesn't... and that things like this will happen and it's maybe his way of dealing with it. So, I'm trying to remember that and trying to be understanding.

ian said:

Sorry to hear that, Ian. I hope it works out for you... the one thing I did learn through this is that if it isn't working out... don't wait. I waited far too long to do this.

AzureStar said:

I got plenty of that sort of thing myself--true, you have to realize that're going to vent on you and so you try not take it too personally. But at the same time, you don't have to listen to it for four hours--it isn't your problem anymore.

Funny, Ian and Teller, I had the impression somehow that you were both happily married. Are these previous, in-the-distant-past divorces? I hope?

Marriage is stupid. People, and I think women especially, often use it as a way to control the other person. I can only stand to be married because mine is so unconvetional.

tackam said:

Oh I'm still married... divorce isn't on the cards just yet But maybe I should be thinking about it. Sometimes people marry for the wrong reasons , and when it doesn't work out they spend the rest of their natural lives trying to make it work. What's the bloody point...

No plans to marry...I live like a freespirit, and that is how I like to live my life.

Luckily, my manfriend is ok with the way it is... As long as we can have our booty time..We are happy.

Ian, I'm sorry to hear this.. I guess everyone knows in their gut what is right, and what is wrong...