Just the way it is dude, specially when youre young.

Your "friend" values his relationship with his girl more than he does your friendship. Leave him alone to sniff behind his girl's behind until either she kicks him to the curb or he gets tired of her and wants to hook back up with his boys. But I agree with lazycrockett. It's a hazzard of being young and immature. I just don't see why he couldn't bring his gril to your party? Was it a dude only affair?

This is why married couples are like "where did all our friends go?"

Cinny said:

This is why married couples are like "where did all our friends go?"

Shyra said:

Your "friend" values his relationship with his girl more than he does your friendship. Leave him alone to sniff behind his girl's behind until either she kicks him to the curb or he gets tired of her and wants to hook back up with his boys. But I agree with lazycrockett. It's a hazzard of being young and immature. I just don't see why he couldn't bring his gril to your party? Was it a dude only affair?

I bet I know why.

then you can't stand normal people

Shyra said:

Your "friend" values his relationship with his girl more than he does your friendship. Leave him alone to sniff behind his girl's behind until either she kicks him to the curb or he gets tired of her and wants to hook back up with his boys. But I agree with lazycrockett. It's a hazzard of being young and immature. I just don't see why he couldn't bring his gril to your party? Was it a dude only affair?

No it was an anyone come over party, but oh well. I'll stop inviting him to things, then when stuff happens and he ask, Ill just say "oh Rikka was not available?"

Can't keep friends just good to let them be

Apparently pussy will do that to you I could tell when my 20 yr old son got some cuz he started acting totally different

I got one guilt tripping me right now about not visiting, but 2012 was anotha story

Cinny said:

I got one guilt tripping me right now about not visiting, but 2012 was anotha story

LOL!!!! I guess they miss ya man

robertlove said:

"But i always support him like when he needed me", that sounds like he should see you out of guilt. Things change, it's his choice. Apperently he likes this girl a lot, so let him enjoy it.

You right..you right. I wont say that even though I want to. I just know better now than to ask him to come to any gatherings anymore..and I'll send a maybe when he has one.

nursev said:

Apparently pussy will do that to you I could tell when my 20 yr old son got some cuz he started acting totally different

Guess its something you just cant help lol

I think he sounds like a whipped dummy from what you've described.

I won't be asking "permission" from anyone, to go to any friends birthday party, ever.

Newly minted couples need time to bond as they go through their infatuation phase. Eventually they tend to come around once they reconfigure their relationship priorities, especially if it's not a serious thing.

If a friend is in a serious relationship or a marriage we should to realize, (without resentment), that our role in their lives may be permanently diminished.

Sometimes being a good friend means you have to give your pals their space.

babynoz said:

Newly minted couples need time to bond as they go through their infatuation phase. Eventually they tend to come around once they reconfigure their relationship priorities, especially if it's not a serious thing.

If a friend is in a serious relationship or a marriage we should to realize, (without resentment), that our role in their lives may be permanently diminished.

Sometimes being a good friend means you have to give your pals their space.

No truer words...

babynoz said:

Newly minted couples need time to bond as they go through their infatuation phase. Eventually they tend to come around once they reconfigure their relationship priorities, especially if it's not a serious thing.

If a friend is in a serious relationship or a marriage we should to realize, (without resentment), that our role in their lives may be permanently diminished.

Sometimes being a good friend means you have to give your pals their space.

Guess you are right.

I need to find more happily single friends.

In my circle of friends I only have one that does that. He has a hard time getting a Girlfriend so when he does he makes her his #1 focus and shuts the rest of us out. We're all use to it and he knows if he needs us we're there for him. I'm guessing once he gets Married that'll be the last we'll see of him...LOL...

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That's not my Style at all. I'm not Controling, the Jealous type & Clingy but I do Love Hard. But I don't move to a Private Island when I'm in relationships. Now once the relationship is over you will NEVER hear from me again. I start a brand new chapter and I don't go back. I picked you for a Reason and if you break my heart I will Protect myself from letting you do it to me a 2nd time.

paisleypark4 said:

Lemme tell u what happened. So a good friend had once dropped my bday party to hang with some girl he screwing so i left it alone for a while. So i asked him if he wants to hang out this friday. He said, "let me ask rikka if i can". I said..."oh i did not know you needed permission!" Do i sound like a prick? They are not even in a relationship. But i always support him like when he needed me and my boys to make him feel good stripping in the club. Oh but get some pussy and he nowhere to be found

I'm not convince that you're being a prick as much as I've convince that your male friend has become a victim of whip appeal.

.

Sad but true.

Cinny said:

This is why married couples are like "where did all our friends go?"

..........OR one married couple specifically are too busy to even bother making a phone call to at least know if any of their friends are still alive. F*** a Facebook, a Twitter, and an e-mail. I said a phone call!

Love is sick. haha

paisleypark4 said:

babynoz said:

Newly minted couples need time to bond as they go through their infatuation phase. Eventually they tend to come around once they reconfigure their relationship priorities, especially if it's not a serious thing.

If a friend is in a serious relationship or a marriage we should to realize, (without resentment), that our role in their lives may be permanently diminished.

Sometimes being a good friend means you have to give your pals their space.

Guess you are right.

I need to find more happily single friends.

I have a friend who does this a lot so I know it's easy to feel a little sidelined by it. I just remind myself that people need to experience life on their own terms and grow at their own pace.

Just keep it movin' with other friends...when and if he decides to come up for air then it'll be, "get in where ya fit in, buddy",

Shyra said:

babynoz said:

Newly minted couples need time to bond as they go through their infatuation phase. Eventually they tend to come around once they reconfigure their relationship priorities, especially if it's not a serious thing.

If a friend is in a serious relationship or a marriage we should to realize, (without resentment), that our role in their lives may be permanently diminished.

Sometimes being a good friend means you have to give your pals their space.

No truer words...

paisleypark4 said:

robertlove said:

"But i always support him like when he needed me", that sounds like he should see you out of guilt. Things change, it's his choice. Apperently he likes this girl a lot, so let him enjoy it.

You right..you right. I wont say that even though I want to. I just know better now than to ask him to come to any gatherings anymore..and I'll send a maybe when he has one.

Is he your friend or not?

If he's a good friend of mine, he'll get the invite even if he doesn't show.

He'd still get emails and texts.

He may not have as much time to spend with me as when he was single but as long as we can still text and email each other, we'll see each other when we can.

Still sounds lame to me.

He said "They are not even in a relationship." Extra lame.

Live your life how you wanna. If you need permission from girlfriend/whatever to go do normal things, there are some major confidence/self esteem issues involved. Address them and then live your life to the fullest.

The only time you'd ever need "permission" although I wouldn't call it that, is if you'd already planned something with your girl/fulla and then something else comes up that you'd like to attend on the same date.

nd33 said:

Still sounds lame to me.

He said "They are not even in a relationship." Extra lame.

Live your life how you wanna. If you need permission from girlfriend/whatever to go do normal things, there are some major confidence/self esteem issues involved. Address them and then live your life to the fullest.

The only time you'd ever need "permission" although I wouldn't call it that, is if you'd already planned something with your girl/fulla and then something else comes up that you'd like to attend on the same date.

Co-sign on the dotted line................

nd33 said:

Still sounds lame to me.

He said "They are not even in a relationship." Extra lame.

Live your life how you wanna. If you need permission from girlfriend/whatever to go do normal things, there are some major confidence/self esteem issues involved. Address them and then live your life to the fullest.

The only time you'd ever need "permission" although I wouldn't call it that, is if you'd already planned something with your girl/fulla and then something else comes up that you'd like to attend on the same date.

I am. I just have to look the other way, even if his excuse is "Friday is the day she first asked me to eat so we always eat on Friday now"...which was his reason for not going to my birthday party as well :smh: Oh well win some you lose some.

Chancellor said:

In my circle of friends I only have one that does that. He has a hard time getting a Girlfriend so when he does he makes her his #1 focus and shuts the rest of us out. We're all use to it and he knows if he needs us we're there for him. I'm guessing once he gets Married that'll be the last we'll see of him...LOL...

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That's not my Style at all. I'm not Controling, the Jealous type & Clingy but I do Love Hard. But I don't move to a Private Island when I'm in relationships. Now once the relationship is over you will NEVER hear from me again. I start a brand new chapter and I don't go back. I picked you for a Reason and if you break my heart I will Protect myself from letting you do it to me a 2nd time.

He actually did tell me he had no friends for 6 years with his last girlfriend because of this exact reason. Eventually she dumped him and ran off with a trucker, and here I was picking him back on his feet for a year emotionally. I'm glad he is feeling better though but I just have no sympathy when he whines about how she is mildy bi polar and yells at him in public places :smh: