ZombieKitten said:

dJJ said:

Depends on the best age for the second marriage.

Second marriage at 45 sounds good to me!

As soon as possible (and legal). How else are you going to get to the second and third marriages?

At some point after your corpse has started rotting. That way the chances of you having an idea what's going on are pretty slim.

25 and up.

30 and up. folks need time to get to know themselves first

Don't get married. Marriage is a dead end to mediocrity and self loathing. You'll have children and end up living for them, giving your own life up to the demands of screaming demons who request the world and then some. You'll find other people attractive, wanting to rape them daft, hate yourself for getting married, secretly wish death upon eveyone who relies on you and crave to be free again. It all kinda sucks. Don't get married.

Cloudbuster said:

Don't get married. Marriage is a dead end to mediocrity and self loathing. You'll have children and end up living for them, giving your own life up to the demands of screaming demons who request the world and then some. You'll find other people attractive, wanting to rape them daft, hate yourself for getting married, secretly wish death upon eveyone who relies on you and crave to be free again. It all kinda sucks. Don't get married.

or, get married for the duration of a two-year contract.

XxAxX said:

or, get married for the duration of a two-year contract.

Screaming demons optional.

I'm ready to get married (40)

But looking back over life and at situations with people in general

I think somewhere in the mid - late 20's for a few reasons

1.) you have more time to plan for children, and you're energy level can probably deal with it more

2.) people aren't as brused jaded fearful yet, the longer people go thru life, unless they aren't heavy into dating and navigated life well. A lot of people have a lot of baggage the older they get.

OldFriends4Sale said:

I'm ready to get married (40)

But looking back over life and at situations with people in general

I think somewhere in the mid - late 20's for a few reasons

1.) you have more time to plan for children, and you're energy level can probably deal with it more

2.) people aren't as brused jaded fearful yet, the longer people go thru life, unless they aren't heavy into dating and navigated life well. A lot of people have a lot of baggage the older they get.

Ya know...that's why the ex & I had kids relatively early.

But it's a trade-off. The money problems (most) young parents have stresses you out just as much. Kids are VERY expensive. Money is also a major part in why relationships fail.

And as for the second part...most people have baggage from early in life. The older you get, the more able you are to address your issues as a mature adult and get over them.

I'm sticking to my original answer (35-40).

PurpleJedi said:

OldFriends4Sale said:

I'm ready to get married (40)

But looking back over life and at situations with people in general

I think somewhere in the mid - late 20's for a few reasons

1.) you have more time to plan for children, and you're energy level can probably deal with it more

2.) people aren't as brused jaded fearful yet, the longer people go thru life, unless they aren't heavy into dating and navigated life well. A lot of people have a lot of baggage the older they get.

Ya know...that's why the ex & I had kids relatively early.

But it's a trade-off. The money problems (most) young parents have stresses you out just as much. Kids are VERY expensive. Money is also a major part in why relationships fail.

And as for the second part...most people have baggage from early in life. The older you get, the more able you are to address your issues as a mature adult and get over them.

I'm sticking to my original answer (35-40).

I think money problems are always an issue no matter the age. Some young people live good and don't live a life where they feel they have to keep up with the Jones. And there are people in their 30s & 40's who still do. My cowork and his wife are in their 40s 3 kids and the more money he makes the less they have. And he usually blames it on the kids being a part of so many different sports and groups etc.

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Of course people have stuff happen to them depending on their lifestyle and exposures. But I doubt most 14yr olds have the baggage a 44yr old woman still in the date arena has

And from what I've seen (people are stupid) a lot of people don't work through anything, don't want to work through anything. I don't think age = maturity in a lot of ways that says people will address issues. If at age 35-40 they haven't they probably don't want to, do see a problem,...

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But I do understand who 35-40 for some people can be a good age, because certain segments of the population spend most of their (20's and 30's) 'finding themselves'

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It really depends on the social culture people grow up in.

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also sometimes the longer you live on your own the harder it is to open to include someone into your lifestyle.

XxAxX said:

30 and up. folks need time to get to know themselves first

Exactly! And people continue to learn, grow as individuals after age 30.

When I do get married one day in the future, it will be at City Hall, just like Carrie and Big did in the movie "Sex and the City". Simple and not a waste of money. Big weddings are a waste of money and very expensive.

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Cloudbuster said:

Don't get married. Marriage is a dead end to mediocrity and self loathing. You'll have children and end up living for them, giving your own life up to the demands of screaming demons who request the world and then some. You'll find other people attractive, wanting to rape them daft, hate yourself for getting married, secretly wish death upon eveyone who relies on you and crave to be free again. It all kinda sucks. Don't get married.

lol! dark post, but I kinda agree with that^

that's why I said 58 years old!

JoeTyler said:

Cloudbuster said:

Don't get married. Marriage is a dead end to mediocrity and self loathing. You'll have children and end up living for them, giving your own life up to the demands of screaming demons who request the world and then some. You'll find other people attractive, wanting to rape them daft, hate yourself for getting married, secretly wish death upon eveyone who relies on you and crave to be free again. It all kinda sucks. Don't get married.

lol! dark post, but I kinda agree with that^

that's why I said 58 years old!

Ummm, I wasn't being serious. Sure, some folk get married too soon but I was just exaggerating that fact.

Cloudbuster said:

JoeTyler said:

lol! dark post, but I kinda agree with that^

that's why I said 58 years old!

Ummm, I wasn't being serious. Sure, some folk get married too soon but I was just exaggerating that fact.

JoeTyler said:

Ok, I was being serious.

Cloudbuster said:

JoeTyler said:

Ok, I was being serious.

TonyVanDam said:

TD3 said:

JustErin said: Superb post. A lot of men think that way because they weren't taking care of their kids in first place. Their ex-wives or ex-significant others were doing everything in the first place, that's why women leave. Many men have the mentality of infants. The baby test where if you drop something from a babies view, it's out of sight out of mind. Which why I said what I said in the 'No Single Men Left' in response to Ivy's post?

Excuse you, but I do not fall under THAT^ negative stereotype. I'm a happily single man with zero children.

And besides, this thread was supposed to be about what is the right age for marriage. I said what I had to say in my first post in this thread and I still say by my words.......regardless of what Erin OR any other man or woman in prince.org thinks.

It's my perspective. It's not that bad, fellow orgers!

Where did I type Tony when I said, A lot of men think that way because they weren't taking care of their kids in first place? Where? I'm very much aware you are childless and single, but your intial statement was nonsense.

I said what I meant to say and I shall repeat....

Men who think child support payments are "overpriced" believe this because they weren't providing for their kid(s) in the first place. A lot of married men aren't taking care of their families either, it's a shock to many of them when wives seek court ordered child support payments. It's a diffucult concept for some men to comprehend, you don't get to pick and choose to pay what you want. This isn't Burger King, "Have It My Way".

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it all depends how people feel when they feel which age is a good age to be married

also finding the right person to be with and how their relationship evolved

and finding the common ground and how to evolved a strong foundation

to make it last if u want a commitment

once they know theyre right for each other then tht the time u know when to get married

marriage is a big commitment to make

if u want to spend the rest of life with tht person itself

that why its very important to find the right person for tht

who can give u the strong foundation and comprises in that

instead of pushing the button about babies and other stuff

and being equal in everything ....

Very rarely do I find anything I want to post here that I think is within site guidelines but would still offend enough people that I think better of it. THIS, however, is one of those things.

Cerebus said:

Very rarely do I find anything I want to post here that I think is within site guidelines but would still offend enough people that I think better of it. THIS, however, is one of those things.

That list is coming from a burned individual that's for sure.

I get the list, there is just a bitterness about it that makes it not as funny as it coud be.

kewlschool said:

Cerebus said:

Very rarely do I find anything I want to post here that I think is within site guidelines but would still offend enough people that I think better of it. THIS, however, is one of those things.

That list is coming from a burned individual that's for sure.

I get the list, there is just a bitterness about it that makes it not as funny as it coud be.

Speak for yourself. It goes over the line a bit in the name of comedy, but from where I sit most of it is spot on.

Cerebus said:

Very rarely do I find anything I want to post here that I think is within site guidelines but would still offend enough people that I think better of it. THIS, however, is one of those things.

Although where do you get married nowadays for only 10 grand?

It depends on the country, I guess.

In Suadi Arabia, 9 is about right.

Cerebus said:

kewlschool said:

That list is coming from a burned individual that's for sure.

I get the list, there is just a bitterness about it that makes it not as funny as it coud be.

Speak for yourself. It goes over the line a bit in the name of comedy, but from where I sit most of it is spot on.

Yeah, I have to come in and be debbie downer. Jokes about rape are generally not funny, especially to women.

That said, this guy will never have to worry about getting married.

PurpleJedi said:

Cerebus said:

Very rarely do I find anything I want to post here that I think is within site guidelines but would still offend enough people that I think better of it. THIS, however, is one of those things.

Although where do you get married nowadays for only 10 grand?

City Hall

Justice of The Peace

Wedding at Home

Everyone I knew who had one of those over the top weddings split. Keep it simple, keep it small you'll be al'right.

CarrieMpls said:

Cerebus said:

Speak for yourself. It goes over the line a bit in the name of comedy, but from where I sit most of it is spot on.

Yeah, I have to come in and be debbie downer. Jokes about rape are generally not funny, especially to women.

That said, this guy will never have to worry about getting married.

Agreed. I debated not posting the link at all, or removing the really offensive stuff and posting the text here. But what's offensive to me might not be offensive to others. And in the end I found that so much of the heart of his points mirrorred my own opinions that I had to pass it along.