JustErin said:

Sucks that we only have one side of this story. I'd love to hear what hubby has to say.

In all fairness, that's true.

Beautifulstarr123 said:

JustErin said:

Sucks that we only have one side of this story. I'd love to hear what hubby has to say.

In all fairness, that's true.

But really, most guys don't really give a fuck about what happened in the past or have any desire to take the time to try and explain anything to anyone.

They just want to move on.

Oh, that stuff just gets saved to your guy friends when you've been drinking all night with them and somebody puts on the Pink Floyd or Genesis records.

novabrkr said:

Oh, that stuff just gets saved to your guy friends when you've been drinking all night with them and somebody puts on the Pink Floyd or Genesis records.

morningsong said:

Wiped out the bank account? And nothing was set aflame?

RIP Left Eye.

JustErin said:

Beautifulstarr123 said:

In all fairness, that's true.

But really, most guys don't really give a fuck about what happened in the past or have any desire to take the time to try and explain anything to anyone.

They just want to move on.

In general guys think they did well and she fucked op.

And in general everybody agrees with him.

A self critical reflection on ones own behaviour doesn't come naturally to men.

There is a gender difference in attribution style.

Men tend to attribute

mistakes externally

(it's not their fault, failure was caused by something out of their control) and

attribute succes internally

(I did a great job and therefore it was succesfull).

Whereas

women tend to attribute

mistakes externally

(It was succesfull because I got lucky and all circumstances worked out) and

attribute failure internally

(I'm not competent and therefore it failed).

And people in general attribute

mistakes

externally when it's a male

(he had the odds against him) and

internally when it concerns a female (she just hasn't got the capability).

And people in general attrtibute

succes

internally when it's a male

(he's capable so it succeeded) and

externally when it involves a female

(She succeeded because all circumstances were good and she got lucky).

Given these tendencies, irregard of what actually happened, majority of reflections leads to a conclusion:

He did a great job, she must be stupid.

So, dispite any effort to reflect objectively, men get evaluated positive, irregard of the actual capacity.

JustErin said:

Sucks that we only have one side of this story. I'd love to hear what hubby has to say.

You don't belief what she says?

purplethunder3121 said:

isn't she getting sued for something like this too?

OnlyNDaUsa said:

purplethunder3121 said:

isn't she getting sued for something like this too?

I don't know.

What about him?

Can he steal all the money from their joint business account without getting sued?

dJJ said:

JustErin said:

Sucks that we only have one side of this story. I'd love to hear what hubby has to say.

You don't belief what she says?

Sure, she said her husband left her for another woman, she talked about going through a break up...I totally believe her.

Lying, cheating husband...that's probably true too...but maybe not and it would be nice to hear what he has to say...especially the claims of him taking her jewelry and clearing out the bank account, etc.

Just reading her posts here...to me, she doesn't come off that stable and if this really is the woman in the story, her posts definitely back up a state of mind that would do such a stupid act.

dJJ said:

OnlyNDaUsa said:

isn't she getting sued for something like this too?

I don't know.

What about him?

Can he steal all the money from their joint business account without getting sued?

I wouldn't think so....that is if it truly is a joint business and not just something she thinks she's just automatically entitled to because of marriage.

He could be doing shady things to protect his assets because they are splitting up, but who knows...since we have heard nothing about him except her accusations.

dJJ said:

OnlyNDaUsa said:

isn't she getting sued for something like this too?

I don't know.

What about him?

Can he steal all the money from their joint business account without getting sued?

if it was joint? i am not sure. But I think it was texas so community property may make it legal.

JustErin said:

dJJ said:

You don't belief what she says?

Sure, she said her husband left her for another woman, she talked about going through a break up...I totally believe her.

Lying, cheating husband...that's probably true too...but maybe not and it would be nice to hear what he has to say...especially the claims of him taking her jewelry and clearing out the bank account, etc.

Just reading her posts here...to me, she doesn't come off that stable and if this really is the woman in the story, her posts definitely back up a state of mind that would do such a stupid act.

I belief her. And I doubt that she is stupid.

Infuriated yes, but crazy no.

By protecting his photos, momentos and things that are irreplaceable, she shows it's not just a simple vindictive crazy act.

On what ground do you doubt that he took all of her jewelry, our cash from our bank account, and all of the assets of our business? Why not belief he changed the locks on their joing business without telling her?

What makes you belief that he did not steal from her in the first place?

Her last two posts indicate that she made deliberate choices, which contradicts that she was simply enraged because he left her for another woman.

BTW, I don't feel the need to convince you that he's a fraudulous thief. And next to that a cheater. I just think the varying interpretations and attributes are interesting.

OnlyNDaUsa said:

dJJ said:

I don't know.

What about him?

Can he steal all the money from their joint business account without getting sued?

if it was joint? i am not sure. But I think it was texas so community property may make it legal.

Interesting.

So, he can't get sued for taking her jewelry, money and business assets, whereas,

she can get sued for selling the house and his stuf?

You think that's just?

dJJ said:

JustErin said:

Sure, she said her husband left her for another woman, she talked about going through a break up...I totally believe her.

Lying, cheating husband...that's probably true too...but maybe not and it would be nice to hear what he has to say...especially the claims of him taking her jewelry and clearing out the bank account, etc.

Just reading her posts here...to me, she doesn't come off that stable and if this really is the woman in the story, her posts definitely back up a state of mind that would do such a stupid act.

I belief her. And I doubt that she is stupid.

Infuriated yes, but crazy no.

By protecting his photos, momentos and things that are irreplaceable, she shows it's not just a simple vindictive crazy act.

On what ground do you doubt that he took all of her jewelry, our cash from our bank account, and all of the assets of our business? Why not belief he changed the locks on their joing business without telling her?

What makes you belief that he did not steal from her in the first place?

Her last two posts indicate that she made deliberate choices, which contradicts that she was simply enraged because he left her for another woman.

BTW, I don't feel the need to convince you that he's a fraudulous thief. And next to that a cheater. I just think the varying interpretations and attributes are interesting.

Wait a sec...I never said that I didn't believe her. I said I don't know.

Yes, she did make deliberate choices, I never claimed she acted out of some out of control rage.

She clearly knew exactly what she was doing, and this is what makes her crazy and stupid to me.

JustErin said:

Beautifulstarr123 said:

In all fairness, that's true.

But really, most guys don't really give a fuck about what happened in the past or have any desire to take the time to try and explain anything to anyone.

They just want to move on.

Apparently, in this case, both of them have moved on

dJJ said:

JustErin said:

Sucks that we only have one side of this story. I'd love to hear what hubby has to say.

You don't belief what she says?

As the saying goes, there's three sides to every story, her side, his side, and the truth.

dJJ said:

OnlyNDaUsa said:

if it was joint? i am not sure. But I think it was texas so community property may make it legal.

Interesting.

So, he can't get sued for taking her jewelry, money and business assets, whereas,

she can get sued for selling the house and his stuf?

You think that's just?

I do not know, What I was saying is joint accounts and state laws of community property may complicate the issue.

OnlyNDaUsa said:

dJJ said:

Interesting.

So, he can't get sued for taking her jewelry, money and business assets, whereas,

she can get sued for selling the house and his stuf?

You think that's just?

I do not know, What I was saying is joint accounts and state laws of community property may complicate the issue.

This is in BC, Canada.

JustErin said:

OnlyNDaUsa said:

I do not know, What I was saying is joint accounts and state laws of community property may complicate the issue.

This is in BC, Canada.

ahh sotty i just saw White Rock and a boat... though it was White Rock Texas...

novabrkr said:

Oh, that stuff just gets saved to your guy friends when you've been drinking all night with them and somebody puts on the Pink Floyd or Genesis records.

Who the fuck listens to Genesis AND has friends? I call bullshit on this so-called 'insight' into men.

Fauxie said:

novabrkr said:

Oh, that stuff just gets saved to your guy friends when you've been drinking all night with them and somebody puts on the Pink Floyd or Genesis records.

Who the fuck listens to Genesis AND has friends? I call bullshit on this so-called 'insight' into men.

Oh please, you know that you and your friends all air drum together to "In the Air Tonight".

Oh wait, maybe that's not Genesis. Whatevs, same shit.

JustErin said:

Fauxie said:

Who the fuck listens to Genesis AND has friends? I call bullshit on this so-called 'insight' into men.

Oh please, you know that you and your friends all air drum together to "In the Air Tonight".

Oh wait, maybe that's not Genesis. Whatevs, same shit.

Yes.

So no.

And what about Canadian women? I picture you sitting around in a group crying together while carving pumpkins or something and listening to Alanis Morrisette.

Fauxie said:

And what about Canadian women? I picture you sitting around in a group crying together while carving pumpkins or something and listening to Alanis Morrisette.

No, listening to Celine Dion.

Fauxie said:

novabrkr said:

Oh, that stuff just gets saved to your guy friends when you've been drinking all night with them and somebody puts on the Pink Floyd or Genesis records.

Who the fuck listens to Genesis AND has friends? I call bullshit on this so-called 'insight' into men.

I'm sort of confused by the banality of your joke. Are you really one of those people that are not aware of how much the band changed after Peter Gabriel left and Phil Collins took over?

dJJ said:

SUPRMAN said:

Women support each other? Ha!

You think you're at your best destroying each other.

If you replace "women" with "black men", you might understand how ridicilous this statement is.

Actually it would still make just as much sense.

Listen to how women talk to each other, and about each other.

dJJ said:

OnlyNDaUsa said:

isn't she getting sued for something like this too?

I don't know.

What about him?

Can he steal all the money from their joint business account without getting sued?

yes. As long as he had full access to the account, he can empty it. Nothing illegal.

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novabrkr said:

Fauxie said:

Who the fuck listens to Genesis AND has friends? I call bullshit on this so-called 'insight' into men.

I'm sort of confused by the banality of your joke. Are you really one of those people that are not aware of how much the band changed after Peter Gabriel left and Phil Collins took over?

It was a cheap shot, I know.