Well, I guess there ain't many people here who date black guys. I recently read a study from the Department of Justice that says 1 out of every 3 black men will go to prison in their lifetime. 1 out of every 15 are currently incarcerated and many of them will be released at some point. So, if you are dating black men, chances are pretty darn high that you have also dated a parolee.

As long as they are not murders, rapists, child molesters or animal abusers, hell yeah I'd date a parolee. They are usually the best fucks.

i had a bit of a sexual fling with this white collar criminal who was on parole.

nothing white colar about his bedside manner though.

he fcked like he'd been inside for some deeply disturbing shit

What a funny question.

No, I've never dated a parolee. But while that status wouldn't exactly be a tick in the favour of a prospective partner, I'd definitely consider their crime, the circumstances around it, and the person they now are before I completely wrote them off. I know a ton of people who've made stupid decisions, yet are still very good people.

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Nothinbutjoy said:

Fauxie said:

Y'all are missing out.

But seriously, I've been convicted of selling drugs and so according to most of these responses most of you wouldn't even consider dating me. Am I how you picture a drug dealer though?

I'd definitely think twice about it Fauxieone.

You know I lubs you and as we stand right now, your choices affect your life and your lovely wife's, not mine.

I'm invested in you as a friend who I really care about, but I don't know if I'd date you, adorable as you are.

I get it though.

And thank you.

say if I loved Fauxie, I don't think I could stand that amount of time being apart from him because of being caught doing something a bit stupid. that alone is a good reason, not to mention the crime

Fauxie said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

I'd definitely think twice about it Fauxieone.

You know I lubs you and as we stand right now, your choices affect your life and your lovely wife's, not mine.

I'm invested in you as a friend who I really care about, but I don't know if I'd date you, adorable as you are.

I get it though.

And thank you.

ZombieKitten said:

say if I loved Fauxie, I don't think I could stand that amount of time being apart from him because of being caught doing something a bit stupid. that alone is a good reason, not to mention the crime

Very true.

Makes things tough.

Fauxie said:

does my hand count if I was on parole?

depends on the initial crime

if it was "constantly making out with other women in public", i think that'd be ok

kitbradley said:

Well, I guess there ain't many people here who date black guys. I recently read a study from the Department of Justice that says 1 out of every 3 black men will go to prison in their lifetime. 1 out of every 15 are currently incarcerated and many of them will be released at some point. So, if you are dating black men, chances are pretty darn high that you have also dated a parolee.

As long as they are not murders, rapists, child molesters or animal abusers, hell yeah I'd date a parolee. They are usually the best fucks.

There are many decent black men out there who were raised right and are law abiding citizens with no criminal record so it is unfair to label an ethnic group. All ethnic groups have their bad apples.

luv4u said:

kitbradley said:

Well, I guess there ain't many people here who date black guys. I recently read a study from the Department of Justice that says 1 out of every 3 black men will go to prison in their lifetime. 1 out of every 15 are currently incarcerated and many of them will be released at some point. So, if you are dating black men, chances are pretty darn high that you have also dated a parolee.

As long as they are not murders, rapists, child molesters or animal abusers, hell yeah I'd date a parolee. They are usually the best fucks.

There are many decent black men out there who were raised right and are law abiding citizens with no criminal record so it is unfair to label an ethnic group. All ethnic groups have their bad apples.

and i've never been to jail

HuMpThAnG said:

luv4u said:

There are many decent black men out there who were raised right and are law abiding citizens with no criminal record so it is unfair to label an ethnic group. All ethnic groups have their bad apples.

and i've never been to jail

I rest my case

luv4u said:

kitbradley said:

Well, I guess there ain't many people here who date black guys. I recently read a study from the Department of Justice that says 1 out of every 3 black men will go to prison in their lifetime. 1 out of every 15 are currently incarcerated and many of them will be released at some point. So, if you are dating black men, chances are pretty darn high that you have also dated a parolee.

As long as they are not murders, rapists, child molesters or animal abusers, hell yeah I'd date a parolee. They are usually the best fucks.

There are many decent black men out there who were raised right and are law abiding citizens with no criminal record so it is unfair to label an ethnic group. All ethnic groups have their bad apples.

Hey, I'm just going by the stats from the Department of Justice. I didn't make them up. Of course there are bad apples and criminals in every race. Do they all go to jail? Nope. A disproportionate of the men who are given jail and prison sentences are black. That's a fact. Now, there are many reasons why we are given jail sentences more often but that's a whole separate thread. I only brought it up because of the people on here saying they would never date a parolee under any circumstances. When the truth is, unless you do an extremely thorough background check on the dude, you don't know what kind of history he has. If I were a gambling man, I would be willing to bet there are a lot of people who have dated and probably even married parolees and ex-cons and didn't even know it.

kitbradley said:

luv4u said:

There are many decent black men out there who were raised right and are law abiding citizens with no criminal record so it is unfair to label an ethnic group. All ethnic groups have their bad apples.

Hey, I'm just going by the stats from the Department of Justice. I didn't make them up. Of course there are bad apples and criminals in every race. Do they all go to jail? Nope. A disproportionate of the men who are given jail and prison sentences are black. That's a fact. Now, there are many reasons why we are given jail sentences more often but that's a whole separate thread. I only brought it up because of the people on here saying they would never date a parolee under any circumstances. When the truth is, unless you do an extremely thorough background check on the dude, you don't know what kind of history he has. If I were a gambling man, I would be willing to bet there are a lot of people who have dated and probably even married parolees and ex-cons and didn't even know it.

Why not create a thread in politics and religion if you wanna discuss race issues............

ZombieKitten said:

Fauxie said:

Very true.

Makes things tough.

I love you again now that you are a free man again

fank yoo

kitbradley said:

luv4u said:

There are many decent black men out there who were raised right and are law abiding citizens with no criminal record so it is unfair to label an ethnic group. All ethnic groups have their bad apples.

Hey, I'm just going by the stats from the Department of Justice. I didn't make them up. Of course there are bad apples and criminals in every race. Do they all go to jail? Nope. A disproportionate of the men who are given jail and prison sentences are black. That's a fact. Now, there are many reasons why we are given jail sentences more often but that's a whole separate thread. I only brought it up because of the people on here saying they would never date a parolee under any circumstances. When the truth is, unless you do an extremely thorough background check on the dude, you don't know what kind of history he has. If I were a gambling man, I would be willing to bet there are a lot of people who have dated and probably even married parolees and ex-cons and didn't even know it.

When I was 16 I dated a thug (a REAL thug, who was feared by many in my neighborhood and no one messed with me or my family because of it) he was 18 at the time -black guy and fine as hell... sold weed and smoked it daily... yup dated him for one summer... then was too happy when we broke up because I realized he was dangerous.

Now he is a police officer.

That is as far as I will go with wanting any dangerous type, bad boy-ish guy.... I'm over it. I have kids I need to consider.

So agin NO.... and guess what... I have a black male boyfriend that never went to jail.

I used to go with a man who had done time for attempted robbery (a bank). He was one of the sweetest men I have ever known. He never stole from me or laid a finger on me. I met him long after he had done his time. He got caught up as a youngster with the wrong crowd. He had come from a good family, but just got turned around wanting the high life. He got himself together and turned out to be a decent, productive member of society. However, I would never date a man convicted of rape, murder or child molestation or cruelty to animals.

On the other hand, I have dated police officers, too. Um, they are a bit "different." One was an alocholic. I couldn't take that shit, so we didn't last long. The other one turned out to be married and was lying to me, so I kicked his ass to the curb quickly. The one benefit of dating cops is that no one is going to fuck with you or your property. I always felt very secure when his cruiser was parked in my driveway. My neighbors loved him

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Shyra said:

I used to go with a man who had done time for attempted robbery (a bank). He was one of the sweetest men I have ever known. He never stole from me or laid a finger on me. I met him long after he had done his time. He got caught up as a youngster with the wrong crowd. He had come from a good family, but just got turned around wanting the high life. He got himself together and turned out to be a decent, productive member of society. However, I would never date a man convicted of rape, murder or child molestation or cruelty to animals.

On the other hand, I have dated police officers, too. Um, they are a bit "different." One was an alocholic. I couldn't take that shit, so we didn't last long. The other one turned out to be married and was lying to me, so I kicked his ass to the curb quickly.

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I think what you said is spot on.

Not all people that have done time or have been on parole or probation(there's a difference)are bad people. They probably made some bad decisions but they aren't necessarily unworthy of being a husband, boyfriend, wife or girlfriend(women can be on probation or parole as well ).

I think the important things to consider when thinking about dating a parolee are what were they on parole for, how long have they been on parole, how many times have they been to prison(or Jail) and what type of support system do they have(on the outside).

Here's the thing. Prisoners are some of the most sneaky, conniving, violent, ego driven, impulsive, dysfunctional and smartest people out there. The prison environment is not conducive to positive, lovey dovey, nurturing feelings so even though a person may enter prison a good person, they might not leave it the same way. Some do manage to keep their humanity but a lot don't.

I don't like to admit this but i have been to jail(not prison and almost 20 years ago)and i do know quite a bit of people that have been to prison so i thought could offer a little insight into the convict mentality.

Anyway one thing i would like to say to the women out there is don't think you can turn a parolee with a gangster/thug/prison/player mentality into a respectable man.... That shit don't and won't work. Some women think that if they just stick by their man and show him that he has someone who loves and cares for him, he'll change.

Well, trust me when i say you probably have a better chance of being used, abused, mistreated and taken advantaged of than you have of changing your man's mindset. Change has to come from within the individual.

Anyway as for the question of the OP.

No i have never dated someone that's on parole. I have thought of becoming a pen pal with a women prisoner though.

Peace.

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JoeyC said:

Shyra said:

I used to go with a man who had done time for attempted robbery (a bank). He was one of the sweetest men I have ever known. He never stole from me or laid a finger on me. I met him long after he had done his time. He got caught up as a youngster with the wrong crowd. He had come from a good family, but just got turned around wanting the high life. He got himself together and turned out to be a decent, productive member of society. However, I would never date a man convicted of rape, murder or child molestation or cruelty to animals.

On the other hand, I have dated police officers, too. Um, they are a bit "different." One was an alocholic. I couldn't take that shit, so we didn't last long. The other one turned out to be married and was lying to me, so I kicked his ass to the curb quickly.

[Edited 3/18/13 13:14pm]

I think what you said is spot on.

Not all people that have done time or have been on parole or probation(there's a difference)are bad people. They probably made some bad decisions but they aren't necessarily unworthy of being a husband, boyfriend, wife or girlfriend(women can be on probation or parole as well ).

I think the important things to consider when thinking about dating a parolee are what were they on parole for, how long have they been on parole, how many times have they been to prison(or Jail) and what type of support system do they have(on the outside).

Here's the thing. Prisoners are some of the most sneaky, conniving, violent, ego driven, impulsive, dysfunctional and smartest people out there. The prison environment is not conducive to positive, lovey dovey, nurturing feelings so even though a person may enter prison a good person, they might not leave it the same way. Some do manage to keep their humanity but a lot don't.

I don't like to admit this but i have been to jail(not prison and almost 20 years ago)and i do know quite a bit of people that have been to prison so i thought could offer a little insight into the convict mentality.

Anyway one thing i would like to say to the women out there is don't think you can turn a parolee with a gangster/thug/prison/player mentality into a respectable man.... That shit don't and won't work. Some women think that if they just stick by their man and show him that he has someone who loves and cares for him, he'll change.

Well, trust me when i say you probably have a better chance of being used, abused, mistreated and taken advantaged of than you have of changing your man's mindset. Change has to come from within the individual.

Anyway as for the question of the OP.

No i have never dated someone that's on parole. I have thought of becoming a pen pal with a women prisoner though.

Peace.

[Edited 3/18/13 16:28pm]

Very, very well said.

IstenSzek said:

i had a bit of a sexual fling with this white collar criminal who was on parole.

nothing white colar about his bedside manner though.

he fcked like he'd been inside for some deeply disturbing shit

I've read this post several times

kitbradley said:

Well, I guess there ain't many people here who date black guys. I recently read a study from the Department of Justice that says 1 out of every 3 black men will go to prison in their lifetime. 1 out of every 15 are currently incarcerated and many of them will be released at some point. So, if you are dating black men, chances are pretty darn high that you have also dated a parolee.

As long as they are not murders, rapists, child molesters or animal abusers, hell yeah I'd date a parolee. They are usually the best fucks.

Seriously? I'm married to a Black men, I have two brothers, 4 nephews, and 22 first cousins; needless to say all brotha's and no one has ever been to prison.

My reply to the question, no.

kitbradley said:

Well, I guess there ain't many people here who date black guys. I recently read a study from the Department of Justice that says 1 out of every 3 black men will go to prison in their lifetime. 1 out of every 15 are currently incarcerated and many of them will be released at some point. So, if you are dating black men, chances are pretty darn high that you have also dated a parolee.

If two thirds of black men in the states have never been or will be incarcerated then if you have dated a few black men, the chances are not "pretty darn high" that one or more were parolees.