My son and daughter have a key to my place... they are free to come and go as they please.. However, my daughter does let me know when she is coming over because of the grandbabies...

As for all other people, I dont mind people stopping over.. as long as it isnt something they do constantly... I too like a surprise "pop in" ... My aunt always told me growing up, "keep your house clean in case someone unexpected comes over" That has always stuckin my head...

I figure if someone is taking the time to want to come over and see me I am a lucky person!

TD3 said:

I know you aren't trying to talk about my people, Southerner's.

I have an open door policy my family and friends don't have to call, they are welcomed to my home whenever. Acutally we don't have to be there, they can walk in. It may very well be a Southern thing. My late Aunt and Uncle never locked their side door, if the weren't there you were more then welcome to go in and wait or whatever. Their children are the same way and I find comfort in that.

I know a lot of people prefer you call first and manners do dictate you do so, I don't take issue with that at all. I think its equally rude to be rude to those who've showed up at your door. There's a polite way somewhere along the conversation to say, it would be more convenient for me if you called before you come visit. Something along those lines...

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Before the cell phone craze, I used to know several people and the only way to be a guest at their house was to be uninvited because they didn't have a phone. But then again, that was back in the days when the only purpose in our lives was to party so it was all night parties every night so uninvited guests were expected.

I have very few uninvited guests though. Everybody knows my routine. If it's Sunday through Thursday, the only thing I'm going to do when I get home is eat, watch TV, and look at the internet for a little while. I don't like guests unless we're going to drink, listen to music, talk shit, cuss, and have a good time. You can't do that when you have to go to work the next morning so everybody knows my routine. Hell, I don't even answer my home phone during the week because I don't want to be bothered with anyone. Now, weekends are entirely different story altogether. I never turn my TV on on Friday and Saturday nights. It's strictly for music and drinking and I love uninvited guests and bring some dick with them.

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If you can make it up the drive ~ the door is open

Very few just stop by here ~ though they are welcome any time of the day or night

The house is very very rarely locked

Like I said ... IF you can make it up the drive

I dont usually just stop by anyone's house except my Dad ~ because there I know I am welcome any time of day or night !

The only time I ever showed up unannounced somewhere was occassionally (when I was married) I'd drop by to see my parents at lunchtime...and more often than not I'd call to see if they wanted me to bring anything.

My ex has a cousin who had a penchant for showing up unannounced. It drove her crazy.

TD3 said:

i hate making visiting arrangements, who's got time for that & what's a messy house & shitty hair between friends?

excited said:

i hate making visiting arrangements, who's got time for that & what's a messy house & shitty hair between friends?

I just don't like people, generally speaking. I need to be prepared to be around them. Some more than others.

Cerebus said:

excited said:

i hate making visiting arrangements, who's got time for that & what's a messy house & shitty hair between friends?

I just don't like people, generally speaking. I need to be prepared to be around them. Some more than others.

I like people generally speaking but I NEED to be prepared to be around them. Some more than others Tha's why I hate surprise visits

Cerebus said:

excited said:

i hate making visiting arrangements, who's got time for that & what's a messy house & shitty hair between friends?

I just don't like people, generally speaking. I need to be prepared to be around them. Some more than others.

aww nothing that a cuppa & gossip don't put right. live & let live!

tinaz said:

My son and daughter have a key to my place... they are free to come and go as they please.. However, my daughter does let me know when she is coming over because of the grandbabies...

As for all other people, I dont mind people stopping over.. as long as it isnt something they do constantly... I too like a surprise "pop in" ... My aunt always told me growing up, "keep your house clean in case someone unexpected comes over" That has always stuckin my head...

I figure if someone is taking the time to want to come over and see me I am a lucky person!

this is nice, exactly how i feel.

Cerebus said:

I just don't like people, generally speaking. I need to be prepared to be around them. Some more than others.

PANDURITO said:

Knock, knock!

come on in, my back door is open

seriously tho. my door is always locked. people i know call me before they visit.

so if the doorbell rings, it's someone i don't know personally. or neighbours

last time i answered the door when someone just kept ringing it and banging on

the door at 3 AM (!!) it was 2 drunk whores, who had been visiting a neighbour

(also a whore), then left her appartment and got lost in our building and locked

themselves into the hallway where i live. so they needed someone to unlock the

main door for them so they could get out. they were sooooo incredibly rude/vile/

obnoxious/disgusting that i swore to myself to never ever open the door again

unless i know who's there.

get lost in the building again? well fuck you, sleep it off in the hall way

excited said:

i hate making visiting arrangements, who's got time for that & what's a messy house & shitty hair between friends?

exactly! if you're unannounced, I don't mind if you don't mind

This man knocked on my door 5 times over the last year---I don't really know him other than he seems a bit lonely and desperate for friendship.

I won't even answer to the door for him--he's only 4 condo rooms away, and I won't answer the door for him.

I refuse to meet people who show up unannounced....ever.

Unless, you're somebody I really find interesting, even if you were to give me ample warning, fly around the world to Thailand and text me 3 days ahead of time about where you will be, expect me not to really be interested.

I had spent my 20s meeting anyone and everyone. When I lived in the military dorms my door was never locked and anyone could walk in. I always made sure to show guests a good time, and would spend as much time as I had with them if they visited.

That shit just doesn't work for me. Most guests are rude, many visiters are folks you don't 'click' with, and anyone with the nerve to just knock on your door without warning doesn't respect your space or time.

I'm not a bad person. I just have bounderies.

What a bunch of weirdos!

imago said:

This man knocked on my door 5 times over the last year---I don't really know him other than he seems a bit lonely and desperate for friendship.

I won't even answer to the door for him--he's only 4 condo rooms away, and I won't answer the door for him.

I refuse to meet people who show up unannounced....ever.

Unless, you're somebody I really find interesting, even if you were to give me ample warning, fly around the world to Thailand and text me 3 days ahead of time about where you will be, expect me not to really be interested.

I had spent my 20s meeting anyone and everyone. When I lived in the military dorms my door was never locked and anyone could walk in. I always made sure to show guests a good time, and would spend as much time as I had with them if they visited.

That shit just doesn't work for me. Most guests are rude, many visiters are folks you don't 'click' with, and anyone with the nerve to just knock on your door without warning doesn't respect your space or time.

I'm not a bad person. I just have bounderies.

Why the hell are you friends with these people then?

tinaz said:

imago said:

This man knocked on my door 5 times over the last year---I don't really know him other than he seems a bit lonely and desperate for friendship.

I won't even answer to the door for him--he's only 4 condo rooms away, and I won't answer the door for him.

I refuse to meet people who show up unannounced....ever.

Unless, you're somebody I really find interesting, even if you were to give me ample warning, fly around the world to Thailand and text me 3 days ahead of time about where you will be, expect me not to really be interested.

I had spent my 20s meeting anyone and everyone. When I lived in the military dorms my door was never locked and anyone could walk in. I always made sure to show guests a good time, and would spend as much time as I had with them if they visited.

That shit just doesn't work for me. Most guests are rude, many visiters are folks you don't 'click' with, and anyone with the nerve to just knock on your door without warning doesn't respect your space or time.

I'm not a bad person. I just have bounderies.

Why the hell are you friends with these people then?

tinaz said:

imago said:

This man knocked on my door 5 times over the last year---I don't really know him other than he seems a bit lonely and desperate for friendship.

I won't even answer to the door for him--he's only 4 condo rooms away, and I won't answer the door for him.

I refuse to meet people who show up unannounced....ever.

Unless, you're somebody I really find interesting, even if you were to give me ample warning, fly around the world to Thailand and text me 3 days ahead of time about where you will be, expect me not to really be interested.

I had spent my 20s meeting anyone and everyone. When I lived in the military dorms my door was never locked and anyone could walk in. I always made sure to show guests a good time, and would spend as much time as I had with them if they visited.

That shit just doesn't work for me. Most guests are rude, many visiters are folks you don't 'click' with, and anyone with the nerve to just knock on your door without warning doesn't respect your space or time.

I'm not a bad person. I just have bounderies.

Why the hell are you friends with these people then?

That's a damned good question!

vainandy said:

TD3 said:

I know you aren't trying to talk about my people, Southerner's.

I have an open door policy my family and friends don't have to call, they are welcomed to my home whenever. Acutally we don't have to be there, they can walk in. It may very well be a Southern thing. My late Aunt and Uncle never locked their side door, if the weren't there you were more then welcome to go in and wait or whatever. Their children are the same way and I find comfort in that.

I know a lot of people prefer you call first and manners do dictate you do so, I don't take issue with that at all. I think its equally rude to be rude to those who've showed up at your door. There's a polite way somewhere along the conversation to say, it would be more convenient for me if you called before you come visit. Something along those lines...

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Before the cell phone craze, I used to know several people and the only way to be a guest at their house was to be uninvited because they didn't have a phone. But then again, that was back in the days when the only purpose in our lives was to party so it was all night parties every night so uninvited guests were expected.

I have very few uninvited guests though. Everybody knows my routine. If it's Sunday through Thursday, the only thing I'm going to do when I get home is eat, watch TV, and look at the internet for a little while. I don't like guests unless we're going to drink, listen to music, talk shit, cuss, and have a good time. You can't do that when you have to go to work the next morning so everybody knows my routine. Hell, I don't even answer my home phone during the week because I don't want to be bothered with anyone. Now, weekends are entirely different story altogether. I never turn my TV on on Friday and Saturday nights. It's strictly for music and drinking and I love uninvited guests and bring some dick with them.

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My mother is from a family of 11. When you have 11 people living in a shotgun house, you don't have too have many boundaries... with the exception of the bathroom. My mother and I were laughing about this a couple weeks ago as she explained to her granddaughter (my kid) about the customs and manners of Southern culture. When we lived in the South everyone had a front porch and unless they were cleaning, cooking, or sleeping, people lived/stayed on their porches. You had to say hi to everyone on their porch or those passing by. "Hi Ms. Sula." "Well good morning Ms. Marietta how you doin'" This shit would go on for about an hour. Folks would stop by for a spell and you would have to offer drinks and/or food. Or some folks just happened to show during dinner time everyday and you would have to feed them... never would you say no or ask them to leave.

My mom siblings use to play cards and party together every weekend when we were kids/young adults. She and a brother were the only 2 who left home and the south... So, her siblings -(along with their kids) who had too much to drink- decided they wanted to see their sista. We looked up and 25 cars were outside of my parents home on a Sunday. My mother always cooked as if she had to feed 11 + people versus the 5 in our family. Our family came in and it was like The Day of the Locust... they ate everyday thing in sight. The stayed for a couple hours and got into their cars and drove back to Kentucky. We had to go out to eat.

Unless you have scrubs for family and /or friends very seldom do my folks pop up on a regular bases, anyway. Even so, they would be welcomed none the same.

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Cerebus said:

excited said:

i hate making visiting arrangements, who's got time for that & what's a messy house & shitty hair between friends?

I just don't like people, generally speaking. I need to be prepared to be around them. Some more than others.

I usually need to be prepared to be around most people, too. A couple of Long Island Iced Teas will usually do the trick!

I don't terribly mind surprise visits, as long as you don't mind waiting outside while I tidy up and get presentable... I have literally left people outside for 10 minutes while I got dressed and fixed my hair, but then happily let them in..

HOWEVER, if I'm doing someting that can't be disturbed, I may not answer.

I once heard the door while I was in the bathtub as a teen and I just ignored it, only to find out later it was my grandma stopping by to hang out . Felt terrible.