So I was reading Miss Manners the other day where some chick wrote in and was complaining about how she sometimes receives the cold shoulder when she shows up at people’s homes unannounced. And she was asking Miss Manners was it okay for people to treat their uninvited guests rudely?

Anyone who knows me is aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests. If you don’t call me and get my permission first, you can ring my doorbell and bang on my door until the cows come home, I will not let you in.

I do know some people who welcome unexpected guests. But, it seems like these people are from the South or have very strong southern roots. I personally think it is incredibly rude to show up at someone’s home unannounced/uninvited. The person you are coming to visit could be sleeping, having sex, walking around stark naked, in deep meditation or just involved in other things that they may not want you to be a part of. How dare you show up uninvited at someone’s home and expect to be welcome with open arms!

Anyway, I’m sure there are people who feel differently. What are your feelings on uninvited guests?

I never have any and I would never be one.

I expect a warning call and even then, be prepared for me to say I'm not available.

I would never go to someone's house without an invitation. Even with family and close friends I would call first if I wanted to, say, drop something off.

When I moved in w/my bf I was worried about his family showing up unannounced as his parents own the house (we rent from them) and I saw that happen from time to time before I moved in. He let them know they must always call first and it hasn't been an issue. Whew.

I know you aren't trying to talk about my people, Southerner's.

I have an open door policy my family and friends don't have to call, they are welcomed to my home whenever. Acutally we don't have to be there, they can walk in. It may very well be a Southern thing. My late Aunt and Uncle never locked their side door, if the weren't there you were more then welcome to go in and wait or whatever. Their children are the same way and I find comfort in that.

I know a lot of people prefer you call first and manners do dictate you do so, I don't take issue with that at all. I think its equally rude to be rude to those who've showed up at your door. There's a polite way somewhere along the conversation to say, it would be more convenient for me if you called before you come visit. Something along those lines...

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If my doorbell rings and I'm not expecting someone, I don't answer it. And the door is always locked, so I don't have to worry about anyone just walking in.

says a lot about the person who does it...

...and not exactly positive

I think it's something that should be done only if there's this huge bond of love and confidence, like visiting your parents or something like that

My older sister is rude.

She will stop by at your home unannounced WITH her boyfriend you never met before. Bitch.

If I have a mess or my tittays are swinging then I don't want him to see all that!!

I consider calling my home 5 minutes beofre you knock on my door showing up unannounced.

That is the type of mess she pulls often.

Now let me show up at her door unannounced... she will look through a curtain... see its me (just me only) and close the curtain and NEVER open the door.

She did it to me once and I never went to visit her again unless I was invited to her home, she now bitches that I never visit her. Fuck her.

Now my mother will show up... no prior call... nothing.... and if I am home I will let her in and deal with her by acting like I am happy to see her come over. She usually shows up at my house at like 8am on a Saturday.... complaining as to why I am always sleeping when she visits.

I NEVER go to these womens home unannouced, I go to no one's home unannounced... people complain I don't visit them. With the family I have, they trained me to want to stay away from people in general.

paintedlady said:

My older sister is rude.

She will stop by at your home unannounced WITH her boyfriend you never met before. Bitch.

If I have a mess or my tittays are swinging then I don't want him to see all that!!

I consider calling my home 5 minutes beofre you knock on my door showing up unannounced.

That is the type of mess she pulls often.

Now let me show up at her door unannounced... she will look through a curtain... see its me (just me only) and close the curtain and NEVER open the door.

She did it to me once and I never went to visit her again unless I was invited to her home, she now bitches that I never visit her. Fuck her.

Now my mother will show up... no prior call... nothing.... and if I am home I will let her in and deal with her by acting like I am happy to see her come over. She usually shows up at my house at like 8am on a Saturday.... complaining as to why I am always sleeping when she visits.

I NEVER go to these womens home unannouced, I go to no one's home unannounced... people complain I don't visit them. With the family I have, they trained me to want to stay away from people in general.

OMG! Your sister is something!

Yeah, my mom is probably the only one who I will let in unannounced. She knows that I hate it and she will call first but sometimes she forgets. But, I deal with it cause she's my mom.

Knock, knock!

PANDURITO said:

Knock, knock!

who's there?

kitbradley said:

So I was reading Miss Manners the other day where some chick wrote in and was complaining about how she sometimes receives the cold shoulder when she shows up at people’s homes unannounced. And she was asking Miss Manners was it okay for people to treat their uninvited guests rudely?

Anyone who knows me is aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests. If you don’t call me and get my permission first, you can ring my doorbell and bang on my door until the cows come home, I will not let you in.

I do know some people who welcome unexpected guests. But, it seems like these people are from the South or have very strong southern roots. I personally think it is incredibly rude to show up at someone’s home unannounced/uninvited. The person you are coming to visit could be sleeping, having sex, walking around stark naked, in deep meditation or just involved in other things that they may not want you to be a part of. How dare you show up uninvited at someone’s home and expect to be welcome with open arms!

Anyway, I’m sure there are people who feel differently. What are your feelings on uninvited guests?

I totally agree with you. The least they could do is call first. I would welcome them if they gave me a "heads up" before just appearing on my doorstep.

If you dont tell me you are coming over, I will not open the door! I especially hate the earlybirds who come knocking before noon time on the weekends

I like surprise visits, although it rarely happens.

I would never, ever not open the door if someone I knew was knocking.

But I can't think of a single time that I just showed up at someone's place unannounced.

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I have only shown up unannounced a handful of times, but only in emergency situations or when I was surprising someone. (Surprise, surprise you cheating motherfucker!! )

I actually don't mind when someone stops by unexpectedly. If I am busy, I will tell you that it isn't

the best time and send you on your way, with lots of love!

If I am not busy, I will let you in without a problem.

Most of the people I know won't just stop by, more because it is a waste of time than anything else.

I'm not home all that often, waste of gas.

JustErin said:

kitbradley said:

paintedlady said:

My older sister is rude.

She will stop by at your home unannounced WITH her boyfriend you never met before. Bitch.

If I have a mess or my tittays are swinging then I don't want him to see all that!!

I consider calling my home 5 minutes beofre you knock on my door showing up unannounced.

That is the type of mess she pulls often.

Now let me show up at her door unannounced... she will look through a curtain... see its me (just me only) and close the curtain and NEVER open the door.

She did it to me once and I never went to visit her again unless I was invited to her home, she now bitches that I never visit her. Fuck her.

Now my mother will show up... no prior call... nothing.... and if I am home I will let her in and deal with her by acting like I am happy to see her come over. She usually shows up at my house at like 8am on a Saturday.... complaining as to why I am always sleeping when she visits.

I NEVER go to these womens home unannouced, I go to no one's home unannounced... people complain I don't visit them. With the family I have, they trained me to want to stay away from people in general.

OMG! Your sister is something!

Yeah, my mom is probably the only one who I will let in unannounced. She knows that I hate it and she will call first but sometimes she forgets. But, I deal with it cause she's my mom.

I feel the same way about my mom... its mom after all! I don't mind her visits really... I just wish she wouldn't come by so early! Old people

When I first moved into my house, my Mom (and sister) and I had a big fight because I said, "Calling from the driveway is not calling ahead."

She was highly insulted, and said that family should be able to show up any time they feel like it.

I disagree.

And I don't do it to others.

NOT a fan of the "drop-by".

When I was young (only the rich had cell phones) I would sometimes stop by close friends or family with the understanding that they might not be available. However, I did have standing open invitations with all of them.

Now, with cell phones there is no need to not call ahead. I, as an adult, always call ahead before going to some one's house.

I expect some one to call ahead to come over, but my mom does surprise me from time to time.(She doesn't own a computer or a cell phone.)

kitbradley said:

So I was reading Miss Manners the other day where some chick wrote in and was complaining about how she sometimes receives the cold shoulder when she shows up at people’s homes unannounced. And she was asking Miss Manners was it okay for people to treat their uninvited guests rudely?

Anyone who knows me is aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests. If you don’t call me and get my permission first, you can ring my doorbell and bang on my door until the cows come home, I will not let you in.

I do know some people who welcome unexpected guests. But, it seems like these people are from the South or have very strong southern roots. I personally think it is incredibly rude to show up at someone’s home unannounced/uninvited. The person you are coming to visit could be sleeping, having sex, walking around stark naked, in deep meditation or just involved in other things that they may not want you to be a part of. How dare you show up uninvited at someone’s home and expect to be welcome with open arms!

Anyway, I’m sure there are people who feel differently. What are your feelings on uninvited guests?

and what if someone hot unexpectedly knocks on yourdoor and wants to fuck??

would u say= "are u aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests????"

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JoeTyler said:

kitbradley said:

So I was reading Miss Manners the other day where some chick wrote in and was complaining about how she sometimes receives the cold shoulder when she shows up at people’s homes unannounced. And she was asking Miss Manners was it okay for people to treat their uninvited guests rudely?

Anyone who knows me is aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests. If you don’t call me and get my permission first, you can ring my doorbell and bang on my door until the cows come home, I will not let you in.

I do know some people who welcome unexpected guests. But, it seems like these people are from the South or have very strong southern roots. I personally think it is incredibly rude to show up at someone’s home unannounced/uninvited. The person you are coming to visit could be sleeping, having sex, walking around stark naked, in deep meditation or just involved in other things that they may not want you to be a part of. How dare you show up uninvited at someone’s home and expect to be welcome with open arms!

Anyway, I’m sure there are people who feel differently. What are your feelings on uninvited guests?

and what if someone hot unexpectedly knocks on yourdoor and wants to fuck??

would u say= "are u aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests????"

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Well, yeah, I would have the same reaction. Because a great fuck for me calls for proper preparation. Now, if someone hot unexpectedly drops by for a BJ, then I MIGHT let them in. As long as my favorite TV show "The Walking Dead" isn't on, then they may have a shot.

I don't even understand the concept. If you haven't made plans ahead of time or been invited to go someplace, what would make you think its OK to just knock on someone's door unexpectedly. This is a completely foreign concept to me. And no, I would not let them in unless they had a valid reason. Like, "my car broke down a couple blocks away and my cell phone is dead, figured I stop by and see if I could use your phone".

I agree I would open the door, though. And the first time I would let them in. But part of the visit would be explaining that they need to call first before just stopping by. This wouldn't be a problem for me now as all my friends are long term and they know the deal. But I did have a conversation with a couple of them about ten years ago, shortly after we first started hanging out. Call FIRST. And I WILL screen my calls like a mother fucker.

I totally agree about the family thing, too. They need to call ahead MORE than friends. There is shit I do that I don't mind my friends knowing about, not so much with the family.

Cerebus said:

I don't even understand the concept. If you haven't made plans ahead of time or been invited to go someplace, what would make you think its OK to just knock on someone's door unexpectedly. This is a completely foreign concept to me. And no, I would not let them in unless they had a valid reason. Like, "my car broke down a couple blocks away and my cell phone is dead, figured I stop by and see if I could use your phone".

I agree I would open the door, though. And the first time I would let them in. But part of the visit would be explaining that they need to call first before just stopping by. This wouldn't be a problem for me now as all my friends are long term and they know the deal. But I did have a conversation with a couple of them about ten years ago, shortly after we first started hanging out. Call FIRST. And I WILL screen my calls like a mother fucker.

I totally agree about the family thing, too. They need to call ahead MORE than friends. There is shit I do that I don't mind my friends knowing about, not so much with the family.

Until your favorite Porn Star shows up uninvited and asks you if she can use your shower.

kewlschool said:

Cerebus said:

I don't even understand the concept. If you haven't made plans ahead of time or been invited to go someplace, what would make you think its OK to just knock on someone's door unexpectedly. This is a completely foreign concept to me. And no, I would not let them in unless they had a valid reason. Like, "my car broke down a couple blocks away and my cell phone is dead, figured I stop by and see if I could use your phone".

I agree I would open the door, though. And the first time I would let them in. But part of the visit would be explaining that they need to call first before just stopping by. This wouldn't be a problem for me now as all my friends are long term and they know the deal. But I did have a conversation with a couple of them about ten years ago, shortly after we first started hanging out. Call FIRST. And I WILL screen my calls like a mother fucker.

I totally agree about the family thing, too. They need to call ahead MORE than friends. There is shit I do that I don't mind my friends knowing about, not so much with the family.

Until your favorite Porn Star shows up uninvited and asks you if she can use your shower.

Reality, dog, reality. They'd have to know where I live before they could show up uninvited. Now, truthfully, I've got a couple girl friends who I might not question if they showed up at the front door with a towel.

kewlschool said:

Cerebus said:

I don't even understand the concept. If you haven't made plans ahead of time or been invited to go someplace, what would make you think its OK to just knock on someone's door unexpectedly. This is a completely foreign concept to me. And no, I would not let them in unless they had a valid reason. Like, "my car broke down a couple blocks away and my cell phone is dead, figured I stop by and see if I could use your phone".

I agree I would open the door, though. And the first time I would let them in. But part of the visit would be explaining that they need to call first before just stopping by. This wouldn't be a problem for me now as all my friends are long term and they know the deal. But I did have a conversation with a couple of them about ten years ago, shortly after we first started hanging out. Call FIRST. And I WILL screen my calls like a mother fucker.

I totally agree about the family thing, too. They need to call ahead MORE than friends. There is shit I do that I don't mind my friends knowing about, not so much with the family.

Until your favorite Porn Star shows up uninvited and asks you if she can use your shower.

sorry, that might have worked before the creation of the "Pornstars before & after makeup" thread

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chocolate1 said:

When I first moved into my house, my Mom (and sister) and I had a big fight because I said, "Calling from the driveway is not calling ahead."

She was highly insulted, and said that family should be able to show up any time they feel like it.

I disagree.

And I don't do it to others.

NOT a fan of the "drop-by".

OMG! You too? I HATE that.

The phone rings, you answer it and they say... "Open the door!" Ugh.

I have a handful of people who can just drop by anytime but everybody else has to call first and I never show up unannounced at other people's houses.

However, my son has a couple of friends who show up whenever and I always have to remind him that I do not want to see these people at all hours not to mention that they never know when to go home.

But my friends and I were like that when we were youngsters too, so I try not to make it a federal case.

kitbradley said:

So I was reading Miss Manners the other day where some chick wrote in and was complaining about how she sometimes receives the cold shoulder when she shows up at people’s homes unannounced. And she was asking Miss Manners was it okay for people to treat their uninvited guests rudely?

Anyone who knows me is aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests. If you don’t call me and get my permission first, you can ring my doorbell and bang on my door until the cows come home, I will not let you in.

I do know some people who welcome unexpected guests. But, it seems like these people are from the South or have very strong southern roots. I personally think it is incredibly rude to show up at someone’s home unannounced/uninvited. The person you are coming to visit could be sleeping, having sex, walking around stark naked, in deep meditation or just involved in other things that they may not want you to be a part of. How dare you show up uninvited at someone’s home and expect to be welcome with open arms!

Anyway, I’m sure there are people who feel differently. What are your feelings on uninvited guests?

I'm with you, if I'm not prepared for guests and they just show up at my door then I will NOT let them in. In this day and age there's no excuse for not calling ahead of time, even if it's just 20 minutes or so ahead of time.

kitbradley said:

So I was reading Miss Manners the other day where some chick wrote in and was complaining about how she sometimes receives the cold shoulder when she shows up at people’s homes unannounced. And she was asking Miss Manners was it okay for people to treat their uninvited guests rudely?

Anyone who knows me is aware that one of my biggest pet peeves is uninvited guests. If you don’t call me and get my permission first, you can ring my doorbell and bang on my door until the cows come home, I will not let you in.

I do know some people who welcome unexpected guests. But, it seems like these people are from the South or have very strong southern roots. I personally think it is incredibly rude to show up at someone’s home unannounced/uninvited. The person you are coming to visit could be sleeping, having sex, walking around stark naked, in deep meditation or just involved in other things that they may not want you to be a part of. How dare you show up uninvited at someone’s home and expect to be welcome with open arms!

Anyway, I’m sure there are people who feel differently. What are your feelings on uninvited guests?

I'm from the South but I agree with your policy about uninvited guests. Everyone who knows me knows that when we talk about visiting each other's homes, the first thing out of my mouth is "call me first so you can be sure that I'm home"....nice way of saying "call me before you come so that I can be prepared because you know if you don't, I'll be pissed or don't open the door at all". And I do the same for others as well. Hell, I wouldn't even feel comfortable popping up unannounced at someone's house. You never know these days what you are walking into.

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when i was married it used to always happen.... always his fam

loving divorce

TD3 said:

PANDURITO said:

Knock, knock!

who's there?

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