iaminparties said:

iaminparties said:

I guess they are benefits for not falling in love or being married with kids.Some bad things that may happen to you if you fall in love

Being hurt

Embitterment

Heart broken

Crushed

Child support

Child custody loss

Divorce

Dead Broke

Bankruptcy

Living in one bedroom apartment

Viewing every woman as a bitch

Viewing every man as an asshole

Being cheated on

Loss of trust in others

Loss of faith in humanity

Seeing a shrink

Joining a cult

Wanting to kill a motherfucker

Hurting or killing your kids to get back at your EX- EXTREME

Killing your spouse

Spending rest of your life in prison for killing your spouse

Physical and Emotional trauma

FUCK THIS-I ain't never falling in Love.

This should be in my original post.

some list u got here

Serious said:

Byron said:

Worse emotional pain I've EVER experienced was losing my sister to cancer. That's truly losing someone, and it was overwhelming. ... Never made me wish I was an only child, though...

Now my brother farting in my face?...THAT made me wish I was an only child lol

I am very sorry about your sister, my brother-in-law died of cancer last year, I know how much pain it is for a family member .

I am different, I decided to never have a dog again after my dog died to avoid future pain. And when I had 4 puppies in Trinidad I tried to get attached to them as little as possible which was a wise decision as they are all dead now .

I lost my dad to multiple sclerosis and my aunt who raised me died of a heart attack. I thought I'd never overcome it, as I loved them so much and I still do and I still miss them after more than 20 years that passed since they died. But the pain when my boyfriend left me was worse and does not ease down slowly like it happened when my dad and my aunt died. I told him it would be easier for me if he had died and he completely understood it. As much pain as it was when my dad and aunt died, it was "natural" and could not be avoided that they died and they would have never left me alone and caused me so much pain. And I hope to see them again one day and I know that they want to be re-united with me. And they are still in my heart and I know that they love me wherever they are.

...Life can throw some stuff at you, definitely.

But to know that the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with is the one who hurts you most in your life is just so wrong and painful .

...It was me, wasn't it?...I'm so sorry!! But there was so much distance between us, and that whole spider fetish thing...it just wouldn't have worked.

And falling in love is not a conscious decision...you either do or you don't. You can choose not to get into a relationship, you can choose not to express the feelings...but you can't say "This is why I'm not going to fall in love" lol ...You can't make yourself fall in love and you can't make yourself NOT fall in love.

The heart wants what the heart wants.

Byron said:

Byron said:

And falling in love is not a conscious decision...you either do or you don't. You can choose not to get into a relationship, you can choose not to express the feelings...but you can't say "This is why I'm not going to fall in love" lol ...You can't make yourself fall in love and you can't make yourself NOT fall in love.

The heart wants what the heart wants.

Yes, yes, yes 100% yes!

Byron said:

Serious said:

...Life can throw some stuff at you, definitely.

But to know that the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with is the one who hurts you most in your life is just so wrong and painful .

...It was me, wasn't it?...I'm so sorry!! But there was so much distance between us, and that whole spider fetish thing...it just wouldn't have worked.

Hmm The org does not let me quote properly ...
This is for destroying our bright future just because of these sweet creatures

This could have been you and me

veronikka said:

Byron said:

And falling in love is not a conscious decision...you either do or you don't. You can choose not to get into a relationship, you can choose not to express the feelings...but you can't say "This is why I'm not going to fall in love" lol ...You can't make yourself fall in love and you can't make yourself NOT fall in love.

The heart wants what the heart wants.

hmm, wondering when my heart will want to fall in love again, its been a while

If you consider the time of year, your age, the planetary alignment, the current windchill factor and your shoe size....I'd say next Thursday at 2:47 pm.

Be ready.

Serious said:

This is for destroying our bright future just because of these sweet creatures

This could have been you and me

I'm the one on the left, aren't I...

Byron said:

Serious said:

I'm the one on the left, aren't I...

Heck yeah - for the last 26 years! And for the rest of time, too!

I hope everyone finds love. Love is what life is all about. And no matter what, remember this:

I love you!

Anyone seen Frank Zappa about? ... No? ... Must be me.

As people usually define it, I have not.

RodeoSchro said:

And no matter what, remember this:

I love you!

I don't even feel the need to be in love to understand the pain of someone who's been hurt because of love.I just know.You spend time with significant one and you break up,get divorce or worse a tragedy.It's gonna hurt bad.

My condolences

DysregulatedToxicity said:

imago said:

Now, this doesn't mean I don't go through intense feelings or painful emoitons, etc.

But I bounce back from them quickly.

I was thinking on the other thread about folks who say they stay in love with their exes forever, and being that I gueniunely have never felt that, coupled with a few other insights, I have to conclude I've never actually been in love.

In retrospect, I realize I was really hurt when my relationships ended, not because I was really in love, but because I felt like a failure for not being able to make it work.

That's me.

The last time it happened was in 2009 for me, but the reason was that I had emotionally invested in the relationship, and made promises to 'make it work' no matter what. I didn't really even like the person I was with but determined to make it work.

It's sort of like being a Buccaneers football fan. The team is....less than stellar. But, it's your team, and you're invested, and when they lose, you're dissapointed. Taken to an extreme, I felt like I 'lost'.

The relationship that I ended in 08 was even worse. All of them had two very common themes--first, I wasn't actually in love. Second, I thought I was in love and felt like I failed at making it work.

Nobody wants to feel like they failed.

I

m in love with the awesome power of SATAN!

AVE SATANAS!!

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I'm not sure you can truly be in love with someone if they aren't in love with you back, equally.

That kind of "in love", when two people are truly, madly, deeply, STUPIDLY attracted to everything about each other, to the point that the rest of the world just ceases to matter because the two of you can do ANYTHING, that's awesome. But I also think it's different than the kind of "in love" where you're just infatuated, or attracted to someone.

I've been lucky enough to be there twice and lucky that both of them ended in such a way that we're still friends. One of them is a friend for life who I've now known longer than any person in my life who isn't family. I hope everybody has a chance to experience that at least once, because it's worth everything.

Rococo said:

I

m in love with the awesome power of SATAN!

AVE SATANAS!!

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Cerebus said:

I'm not sure you can truly be in love with someone if they aren't in love with you back, equally.

That kind of "in love", when two people are truly, madly, deeply, STUPIDLY attracted to everything about each other, to the point that the rest of the world just ceases to matter because the two of you can do ANYTHING, that's awesome. But I also think it's different than the kind of "in love" where you're just infatuated, or attracted to someone.

I've been lucky enough to be there twice and lucky that both of them ended in such a way that we're still friends. One of them is a friend for life who I've now known longer than any person in my life who isn't family. I hope everybody has a chance to experience that at least once, because it's worth everything.

So you don't believe in unrequited love?

I (personally) don't see how reciprocity affects what your heart feels.

There has to be a midpoint between a simple "infactuation" and a full-blown loving relationship (which is what you're describing).

PurpleJedi said:

Cerebus said:

I'm not sure you can truly be in love with someone if they aren't in love with you back, equally.

That kind of "in love", when two people are truly, madly, deeply, STUPIDLY attracted to everything about each other, to the point that the rest of the world just ceases to matter because the two of you can do ANYTHING, that's awesome. But I also think it's different than the kind of "in love" where you're just infatuated, or attracted to someone.

I've been lucky enough to be there twice and lucky that both of them ended in such a way that we're still friends. One of them is a friend for life who I've now known longer than any person in my life who isn't family. I hope everybody has a chance to experience that at least once, because it's worth everything.

So you don't believe in unrequited love?

I (personally) don't see how reciprocity affects what your heart feels.

There has to be a midpoint between a simple "infactuation" and a full-blown loving relationship (which is what you're describing).

Maybe because when it's not reciprocated you don't truly get to know that person or experience them on the same level as you would if they were also madly in love with you as well. You don't fully get to love the whole person...?

I can see how at that point it's more of an infatuation.

JustErin said:

PurpleJedi said:

So you don't believe in unrequited love?

I (personally) don't see how reciprocity affects what your heart feels.

There has to be a midpoint between a simple "infactuation" and a full-blown loving relationship (which is what you're describing).

Maybe because when it's not reciprocated you don't truly get to know that person or experience them on the same level as you would if they were also madly in love with you as well. You don't fully get to love the whole person...?

I can see how at that point it's more of an infatuation.

I see...so the point is that Love is "enhanced" when you are loved back?

Interesting.

Follow-up question then...

...would a heartbreak then be LESS intense/hurtful if your lover never really loved you, as opposed to being dumped by someone who reciprocated fully (in the beginning)???

I think there are many different flavors of love.

I don't love my mother and my best friend and my boyfriend and my cats all in the same way. But I can honestly say I love them all. And they all love me back, all in their different ways. (I suppose the cats are debatable, but I can choose to believe what I want about that.)

Unrequited love is still love, even if it's different then being-married-for-30-years love. Heck, old married love is different from just-falling-in-love, love. But they're all love.

The relationships are all different, but that doesn't mean they're not love.

PurpleJedi said:

JustErin said:

Maybe because when it's not reciprocated you don't truly get to know that person or experience them on the same level as you would if they were also madly in love with you as well. You don't fully get to love the whole person...?

I can see how at that point it's more of an infatuation.

I see...so the point is that Love is "enhanced" when you are loved back?

Interesting.

Follow-up question then...

...would a heartbreak then be LESS intense/hurtful if your lover never really loved you, as opposed to being dumped by someone who reciprocated fully (in the beginning)???

Heartbreak hurts in any situation. That's not what we are talking about.

JustErin said:

PurpleJedi said:

I see...so the point is that Love is "enhanced" when you are loved back?

Interesting.

Follow-up question then...

...would a heartbreak then be LESS intense/hurtful if your lover never really loved you, as opposed to being dumped by someone who reciprocated fully (in the beginning)???

Heartbreak hurts in any situation. That's not what we are talking about.

That's why it's a "follow-up question".

I don't necessarily agree that love has to be a 2-way street...but I'm willing to grant it consideration...AND as a result of this train of thought, I'm asking whether or not that emphasis on reciprocration has any effect on the hurt of its dissolution.

It's a valid question.

PurpleJedi said:

JustErin said:

Heartbreak hurts in any situation. That's not what we are talking about.

That's why it's a "follow-up question".

I don't necessarily agree that love has to be a 2-way street...but I'm willing to grant it consideration...AND as a result of this train of thought, I'm asking whether or not that emphasis on reciprocration has any effect on the hurt of its dissolution.

It's a valid question.

Wash that ex out of your hair!

wavesofbliss said:

purplepolitician said:

dunno where she's coming from. angles are in order.

let yo shit get cancelled or me renew my hbo and keep those non-appreciative little motherfuckers away from your rudeness .

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WTF!...... and no i have never been in love.

i find her attractive and may need to update my services. she has a bad attitude but changes are in order.

i love me (a little too much, i suppose, realizing it a little late). and anyone who'll listen.

purplepolitician said:

wavesofbliss said:

WTF!...... and no i have never been in love.

i find her attractive and may need to update my services. she has a bad attitude but changes are in order.

More nudity in season 2 which has sucked

CarrieMpls said:

I think there are many different flavors of love.

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