I think I've been love with being in love and have made many embarassing public proclamations about it.

But, no... I don't think I've ever really been in love.

imago said:

I think I've been love with being in love and have made many embarassing public proclamations about it.

But, no... I don't think I've ever really been in love.

From what you shared here you probably never really have been in love. Lucky guy .

Serious said:

imago said:

I think I've been love with being in love and have made many embarassing public proclamations about it.

But, no... I don't think I've ever really been in love.

From what you shared here you probably never really have been in love. Lucky guy .

Now, this doesn't mean I don't go through intense feelings or painful emoitons, etc.

But I bounce back from them quickly.

I was thinking on the other thread about folks who say they stay in love with their exes forever, and being that I gueniunely have never felt that, coupled with a few other insights, I have to conclude I've never actually been in love.

@ Byron:

Are you scared of dead spiders as well ?

imago said:

Serious said:

From what you shared here you probably never really have been in love. Lucky guy .

Now, this doesn't mean I don't go through intense feelings or painful emoitons, etc.

But I bounce back from them quickly.

I was thinking on the other thread about folks who say they stay in love with their exes forever, and being that I gueniunely have never felt that, coupled with a few other insights, I have to conclude I've never actually been in love.

But being in short yet intense pain is sure better than being in pain forever, right !

Serious said:

imago said:

Now, this doesn't mean I don't go through intense feelings or painful emoitons, etc.

But I bounce back from them quickly.

I was thinking on the other thread about folks who say they stay in love with their exes forever, and being that I gueniunely have never felt that, coupled with a few other insights, I have to conclude I've never actually been in love.

But being in short yet intense pain is sure better than being in pain forever, right !

Like hermeroids vs. herpes I suppose.

kimberly1 said:

"It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"

I've only been in love once...

He never knew.

And it was the most heartbreaking phase of my young life.

Since then I've never really been "in love"...but I was close to getting there. I would always first have respect for the person, then feelings, then caring, and then i'd start falling for them. Problem is..I'd always get to the feelings and caring stage...and just when I'm teettering on the edge of falling in love....

I realized NONE of them really felt that way about me. They couldn't qualify for being decent friends, let alone be anything more.

Needless to say this has left me very disillusioned, and severely disappointed in the whole idea.

The guy I'm currently with now...I think (think being the key word) is the first guy I've been truly in love with since the first time. I was surprised how quickly I developed feelings...and how quickly I fell for him. I trusted him quicker than I ever trusted anyone. And the best part is...he fell for me first. He loves me and cares for me just as much as I love and care about him.

Idk where is this going to go, or what's going to happen in the future. The only difference between falling in love now from the first time, is that I can feel that I'm always guarded and ready to pack up and move along should this not work out. A back up plan or escape route. I know it seems strange, but this is self-preservation measure for me. I didn't have that the first time around.

So far, everything's going wonderfully, and we've never been happier.

paintedlady said:

Two differnet guys...

Ah, ok. Just the way it read. Shame really, I was looking forward to your "I Found Love again" thread.

purplemajesty23 said:

I've never been in love

do you have ancestors? a soul . you have a mouth, brains and a . work with that . a smile beneath my knows.

I feel the hurt and pain pouring in.

[Edited 2/18/13 15:59pm]

iaminparties said:

I guess they are benefits for not falling in love or being married with kids.Some bad things that may happen to you if you fall in love

Being hurt

Embitterment

Heart broken

Crushed

Child support

Child custody loss

Divorce

Dead Broke

Bankruptcy

Living in one bedroom apartment

Viewing every woman as a bitch

Viewing every man as an asshole

Being cheated on

Loss of trust in others

Loss of faith in humanity

Seeing a shrink

Joining a cult

Wanting to kill a motherfucker

Hurting or killing your kids to get back at your EX- EXTREME

Killing your spouse

Spending rest of your life in prison for killing your spouse

Physical and Emotional trauma

FUCK THIS-I ain't never falling in Love.

This should be in my original post.

iaminparties said:

I guess they are benefits for not falling in love or being married with kids.Some bad things that may happen to you if you fall in love

Being hurt

Embitterment

Heart broken

Crushed

Child support

Child custody loss

Divorce

Dead Broke

Bankruptcy

Living in one bedroom apartment

Viewing every woman as a bitch

Viewing every man as an asshole

Being cheated on

Loss of trust in others

Loss of faith in humanity

Seeing a shrink

Joining a cult

Wanting to kill a motherfucker

Hurting or killing your kids to get back at your EX- EXTREME

Killing your spouse

Spending rest of your life in prison for killing your spouse

Physical and Emotional trauma

FUCK THIS-I ain't never falling in Love.

Just make sure to wait until you're older & wiser before tying the knot.

Heed the warning from Mach's post on my old "Words of Wisdom" thread;

Never marry someone you don't love,

and never marry someone JUST because you love them.

Truer words could never be spoken.

Richard Pryor Words of Wisdom-paraphrasing

If you never gone through life wanting to killing a motherfucker,you never been in love.

iaminparties said:

Richard Pryor Words of Wisdom-paraphrasing

If you never gone through life wanting to killing a motherfucker,you never been in love.

PurpleJedi said:

iaminparties said:

Richard Pryor Words of Wisdom-paraphrasing

If you never gone through life wanting to killing a motherfucker,you never been in love.

It's True.I never gone through life wanting to kill a motherfucker.

I never been in love

Serious said:

Byron said:

Can't say I agree...when I've been in love it's been worth every second, regardless of any emotional pain when it ended.

Then again, I don't love spiders, so...

Good for you, except for the spiders part of course...you'd be better of if you'd not mind them .

For me there's nothing worse than losing somebody you love, to not go through that pain I'd prefer to have been without love all my life.

Worse emotional pain I've EVER experienced was losing my sister to cancer. That's truly losing someone, and it was overwhelming. ... Never made me wish I was an only child, though...

Now my brother farting in my face?...THAT made me wish I was an only child lol

Serious said:

@ Byron:

Are you scared of dead spiders as well ?

That pic doesn't bother me at all lol...

iaminparties said:

Richard Pryor Words of Wisdom-paraphrasing

If you never gone through life wanting to killing a motherfucker,you never been in love.

I thought that was Chris Rock? lol...Eh, he probably stole the bit from Pryor.

"If you never practiced your alibi in front of a mirror...you ain't been in love!"

Or something like that ...

Byron said:

Serious said:

Good for you, except for the spiders part of course...you'd be better of if you'd not mind them .

For me there's nothing worse than losing somebody you love, to not go through that pain I'd prefer to have been without love all my life.

Worse emotional pain I've EVER experienced was losing my sister to cancer. That's truly losing someone, and it was overwhelming. ... Never made me wish I was an only child, though...

Now my brother farting in my face?...THAT made me wish I was an only child lol

I am very sorry about your sister, my brother-in-law died of cancer last year, I know how much pain it is for a family member .

I am different, I decided to never have a dog again after my dog died to avoid future pain. And when I had 4 puppies in Trinidad I tried to get attached to them as little as possible which was a wise decision as they are all dead now .

I lost my dad to multiple sclerosis and my aunt who raised me died of a heart attack. I thought I'd never overcome it, as I loved them so much and I still do and I still miss them after more than 20 years that passed since they died. But the pain when my boyfriend left me was worse and does not ease down slowly like it happened when my dad and my aunt died. I told him it would be easier for me if he had died and he completely understood it. As much pain as it was when my dad and aunt died, it was "natural" and could not be avoided that they died and they would have never left me alone and caused me so much pain. And I hope to see them again one day and I know that they want to be re-united with me. And they are still in my heart and I know that they love me wherever they are. But to know that the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with is the one who hurts you most in your life is just so wrong and painful .

Byron said:

Serious said:

@ Byron:

Are you scared of dead spiders as well ?

That pic doesn't bother me at all lol...

I guess I need to go to google right now

Fonkyman said:

paintedlady said:

Two differnet guys...

Ah, ok. Just the way it read. Shame really, I was looking forward to your "I Found Love again" thread.

I was never any good at grammer.

The guy I did love like crazy has twelve children now and is a hardass police officer.... they can keep him.

paintedlady said:

I was never any good at grammer.

The guy I did love like crazy has twelve children now and is a hardass police officer.... they can keep him.

I wouldn't blame ya grammar I'm constantly having to read things twice and I still get the wrong idea sometimes.

I thought you said he had twelve kids for a minute there... Shit, you did! Sounds like you had a lucky escape.

I have been once or twice and it was one sided. I'll never make that mistake again.

iaminparties said:

I have never been in love.

What about you?

Pitfalls of Love

Being hurt

Embitterment

Heart broken

Crushed

Child support

Child custody loss

Divorce

Dead Broke

Bankruptcy

Living in one bedroom apartment

Viewing every woman as a bitch

Viewing every man as an asshole

Being cheated on

Loss of trust in others

Loss of faith in humanity

Seeing a shrink

Joining a cult

Wanting to kill a motherfucker

Hurting or killing your kids to get back at your EX- EXTREME

Killing your spouse

Spending rest of your life in prison for killing your spouse

Physical and Emotional trauma

FUCK THIS-I ain't never falling in Love.

[Edited 2/18/13 9:48am]

I don't understand.

How can you be afraid of the things on this list if you've never been in love?

I mean, if you stay away from things that you've heard can be damaging......

Do you have agoraphobia???

Besides, the end of the list suggests the problem of the loved/hated one gets resolved, right?

Ending up on your own and even getting diner served on a regular schedule.

What's the problem then?

[Edited 2/19/13 7:32am]

purplepolitician said:

dunno where she's coming from. angles are in order.

let yo shit get cancelled or me renew my hbo and keep those non-appreciative little motherfuckers away from your rudeness .

[Edited 2/18/13 8:28am]

WTF!...... and no i have never been in love.

JoeyC said:

Being in love with someone can be the most heartbreaking, emotionally destructive force like ever.

What do you do when you love someone and can't possibly ever be with that person ?

True love can be a motherfucker . It can take you thru some serious changes.

[Edited 2/17/13 18:56pm]

I know

dJJ said:

iaminparties said:

I have never been in love.

What about you?

Pitfalls of Love

Being hurt

Embitterment

Heart broken

Crushed

Child support

Child custody loss

Divorce

Dead Broke

Bankruptcy

Living in one bedroom apartment

Viewing every woman as a bitch

Viewing every man as an asshole

Being cheated on

Loss of trust in others

Loss of faith in humanity

Seeing a shrink

Joining a cult

Wanting to kill a motherfucker

Hurting or killing your kids to get back at your EX- EXTREME

Killing your spouse

Spending rest of your life in prison for killing your spouse

Physical and Emotional trauma

FUCK THIS-I ain't never falling in Love.

[Edited 2/18/13 9:48am]

I don't understand.

How can you be afraid of the things on this list if you've never been in love?

I mean, if you stay away from things that you've heard can be damaging......

Do you have agoraphobia???

Besides, the end of the list suggests the problem of the loved/hated one gets resolved, right?

Ending up on your own and even getting diner served on a regular schedule.

What's the problem then?

[Edited 2/19/13 7:32am]

I seen others destroyed.

imago said:

I think I've been love with being in love and have made many embarassing public proclamations about it.

But, no... I don't think I've ever really been in love.

Same here. I think I was very infatuated but when it ended I realized it wasn't true love.

imago said:

Serious said:

From what you shared here you probably never really have been in love. Lucky guy .

Now, this doesn't mean I don't go through intense feelings or painful emoitons, etc.

But I bounce back from them quickly.

I was thinking on the other thread about folks who say they stay in love with their exes forever, and being that I gueniunely have never felt that, coupled with a few other insights, I have to conclude I've never actually been in love.

In retrospect, I realize I was really hurt when my relationships ended, not because I was really in love, but because I felt like a failure for not being able to make it work.