6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

To DANCE only, I saw women who picked up guys at the club as dumbasses- I still do.

-Go with my girls, leave with my girls!!!

-Don't approach me

-I do not want you to buy me any fucking drink, I can buy my own

-Don't stare at me while I dance, its fucking creepy

-Move the fuck out my way when I dance

-Bitch if you touch me Imma kick your ballz in your ass and stomp your face

-I ALWAYS snuck a sharp knife in on my person, touch me, I WILL cut you and stayed close to bouncers JIC so weirdos kept their distance

I dislike THIS strong an attitude, and I'll be honest about it. What were you wearing? How much skin did you show?

FrenchGuy said:

1) Are you a club-goer? I WAS

2) How often? When do you think you'll stop? or when did you stop? I stopped some years ago (prob 4, I was 23-24) when I realized it was a waste of time and MONEY; also I couldn't stand fuckin' reaggeton, and during the 03-09 years every damn club seemed to play it almost non-stop

3) Do you dance? a little? a lot? or not? Only when I was slighty drunk and if the people around me were bad dancers (like myself )

4) What kind of music moves you? REAL DANCE music, not POP or TECHNO

5) How do/did people club in your area? dancing and drinking from 00:00 am to 6:00 am, basically, and trying to score, oh and "dancing" to the music of Rihanna or Pitbull , or some anonymous/faceless techno bassline

6) What WAS your purpose of going out and clubbing? ehhm ...to get my weekly dose of misplaced vanity , or to "feel" surrounded by people, to be part of "the In-Crowd"...probably

7) Ever picked someone or being picked in a club? One night Stand or more? NEVER, wasn't my intention, anyway, 18-22 years old girls didn't interest me when I was 18-22 myself, and older girls/women always ignored me

nowadays I just prefer to go to a pub, chilling out for a couple of hours guess I'm getting older (and wiser)

domainator2010 said:

6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

To DANCE only, I saw women who picked up guys at the club as dumbasses- I still do.

-Go with my girls, leave with my girls!!!

-Don't approach me

-I do not want you to buy me any fucking drink, I can buy my own

-Don't stare at me while I dance, its fucking creepy

-Move the fuck out my way when I dance

-Bitch if you touch me Imma kick your ballz in your ass and stomp your face

-I ALWAYS snuck a sharp knife in on my person, touch me, I WILL cut you and stayed close to bouncers JIC so weirdos kept their distance

I dislike THIS strong an attitude, and I'll be honest about it. What were you wearing? How much skin did you show?

So, to be honest about it.

What paintedlady was wearing is neither here or there. I hope you aren't making an assumption that what she wore or didn't wear dictated how she should be treated. Because if that's the case, that's why sista had a knife for people who think like you.

1)are you a clubgoer?

yes, i love to dance

2)how often? and will you ever stop?

as much as i can. i can't imagine myself not dancing anymore,

but i'm mid thirty so i'll guess i will stop going out sometime

3)do you dance?

i dance all night

4)what kind of music moves you?

all kinds of dance music but it has to hit my funk spot

5)how do people club in your area?

all night and anything goes, but i love NY, Paris and Berlin too

curious about London

6)what's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

to dance, to get relief from work

i work with guys who only love their computer or

they treat me like i'm their Red Sonja or sumtin

so i guess to meet other people too

7)ever picked someone or being picked up in a club? one night stand or more?

danced with a lot of guys and kissed a few

never a one night stand though

TD3 said:

domainator2010 said:

6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

To DANCE only, I saw women who picked up guys at the club as dumbasses- I still do.

-Go with my girls, leave with my girls!!!

-Don't approach me

-I do not want you to buy me any fucking drink, I can buy my own

-Don't stare at me while I dance, its fucking creepy

-Move the fuck out my way when I dance

-Bitch if you touch me Imma kick your ballz in your ass and stomp your face

-I ALWAYS snuck a sharp knife in on my person, touch me, I WILL cut you and stayed close to bouncers JIC so weirdos kept their distance

I dislike THIS strong an attitude, and I'll be honest about it. What were you wearing? How much skin did you show?

So, to be honest about it.

What paintedlady was wearing is neither here or there. I hope you aren't making an assumption that what she wore or didn't wear dictated how she should be treated. Because if that's the case, that's why sista had a knife for people who think like you.

EXACTLY!!!

domainator2010, I will explain my reason why... it wasn't what I wore, I think it was more about how I moved and looked like. I mostly wore all black in the usual club gear for the time.

I am polite, and men mistake my politeness and courtesy for "flirting".

I can dance, and people (men and women) usually look at me while I dance... I like to dance with a guy who can dance for a song or two, but after I need to keep it moving.

Guys like how I move and think they can start grabbing shit, because they can not hold their liquor, so I push them away aggressively if they get out of hand with my body.

I do not like getting my ass grabbed or guys trying to corner me against a wall to dry hump me.

If his dick gets hard and he starts panting then I move away since I know he does not want to dance but instead bust a nut on my leg. To me that is not dancing, I didn't come to the club for that.

Now why I used to bring a knife??? It was because one time I let a guy buy me a pepsi (I was 17) and he wouldn't leave me alone and hounded me for hours and pulled a knife out on me when I told him I wasn't interested in him. I turned and ran to the bouncers as he tried to snatch me up but the bouncers threw him out of the club pronto....

I thought I was OK, until that same fucker waited for me at the parking lot with that blade in his hand. Thank GOD I was with a large group of friends that night!! Carrying a blade saved my ass a few times after that. Dudes back off QUICK when they see a blade come out and understand what "no" means then.

No woman should go through shit like that, that is why me and my girls stay together since some guys do not handle rejection well. It is also why I WAS aggressive with the horny drunks at the club.

Its been ages since I went to clubbing, but from what my nieces tell me... its gotten downright dangerous. Its crazy.

I now only go to boat parties with the 35+ agegroup. I love the way those men dance and I always have an awesome time, they never confuse my politeness and are gentlemen. I even let them hug me up. I usually go to the fireman/police parties and I no longer have to show up with hardware.

[Edited 1/20/13 10:41am]

TD3 said:

I clubbed up until my mid 30's but clubbing and dancing were paramount in the Black community then; if you couldn't dance you didn't have much of a social life. I've never not danced, I still dance, I love to dance, and will dance to I'm no longer able. We have some clubs in the greater Chicago are that cater to Steppin'. Or, Stepper-sets are organized as functions held at a banquet hall or hotels. People then came to dance their ass off and when you entered a Black club you have to be dressed to the nines and you better know how to dance. Nobody tripped over what you look like, you were asked to dance and that was that. If a man saw a women not dancing they'd ask her to the dance floor. Not to say passes weren't attempted and fack home numbers were given

I went to clubs alone, with relatives, men, women or a combination of all three. Funk, Soul, House, and Disco gets me on my feet every-time. Never had a one night stand or left a club with a man I just met, that's just damn crazy and dangerous. The club scene in the Black community is all but dead, live music is nonexistent. The club scene now is knowing when to go, to avoid the 20 somethings never go on the weekend. Steppers go to a club during the week and there's a dress code which leaves the hip-hoppers at home polishing their gym shoes and playing video games. Besides, they can't Step hell, that can't dance. That's why they are alll up against the wall like they are a support beam and shit. Amazing.

I WISH folks knew about steppin' here. My type of party!!

paintedlady said:

TD3 said:

So, to be honest about it.

What paintedlady was wearing is neither here or there. I hope you aren't making an assumption that what she wore or didn't wear dictated how she should be treated. Because if that's the case, that's why sista had a knife for people who think like you.

EXACTLY!!!

domainator2010, I will explain my reason why... it wasn't what I wore, I think it was more about how I moved and looked like. I mostly wore all black in the usual club gear for the time.

I am polite, and men mistake my politeness and courtesy for "flirting".

I can dance, and people (men and women) usually look at me while I dance... I like to dance with a guy who can dance for a song or two, but after I need to keep it moving.

Guys like how I move and think they can start grabbing shit, because they can not hold their liquor, so I push them away aggressively if they get out of hand with my body.

I do not like getting my ass grabbed or guys trying to corner me against a wall to dry hump me.

If his dick gets hard and he starts panting then I move away since I know he does not want to dance but instead bust a nut on my leg. To me that is not dancing, I didn't come to the club for that.

Now why I used to bring a knife??? It was because one time I let a guy buy me a pepsi (I was 17) and he wouldn't leave me alone and hounded me for hours and pulled a knife out on me when I told him I wasn't interested in him. I turned and ran to the bouncers as he tried to snatch me up but the bouncers threw him out of the club pronto....

I thought I was OK, until that same fucker waited for me at the parking lot with that blade in his hand. Thank GOD I was with a large group of friends that night!! Carrying a blade saved my ass a few times after that. Dudes back off QUICK when they see a blade come out and understand what "no" means then.

No woman should go through shit like that, that is why me and my girls stay together since some guys do not handle rejection well. It is also why I WAS aggressive with the horny drunks at the club.

Its been ages since I went to clubbing, but from what my nieces tell me... its gotten downright dangerous. Its crazy.

I now only go to boat parties with the 35+ agegroup. I love the way those men dance and I always have an awesome time, they never confuse my politeness and are gentlemen. I even let them hug me up. I usually go to the fireman/police parties and I no longer have to show up with hardware.

[Edited 1/20/13 10:41am]

OK, *my* culture is Totally, TOTALLY, totally different from yours. I have never in my life heard of a boy pulling a knife on a girl - it's not something that happens around here, regardless of what type of news about India reaches you guys over there. Here, if you rejected a boy, he'd get his heart broken, and slink off, and probably tell his male friends - that would be the most.

Nobody here grabs anything. But interesting that you mention it - the very first time I went to a nightclub (in the UK), an extremely drunk girl grabbed my ass. Hard. I wasn't altogether unhappy

But what I was *trying* to say was - I don't like being teased. If I see a sexy girl, with her tits spilling out of her dress, I would get turned on. I would hit on her, with the intention of having sex. If she said no, I'd probably have to go home and er, <deleted>. But what I want out of her is - did she say yes to someone? If not, she has no business dressing like that. There is a code between the sexes. If we are gentlemen, it's because you don't lead us on.

And TD3... she doesn't need you to defend her - let her thrash this out with ME.

[Edited 1/21/13 9:57am]

domainator2010 said:

paintedlady said:

EXACTLY!!!

domainator2010, I will explain my reason why... it wasn't what I wore, I think it was more about how I moved and looked like. I mostly wore all black in the usual club gear for the time.

I am polite, and men mistake my politeness and courtesy for "flirting".

I can dance, and people (men and women) usually look at me while I dance... I like to dance with a guy who can dance for a song or two, but after I need to keep it moving.

Guys like how I move and think they can start grabbing shit, because they can not hold their liquor, so I push them away aggressively if they get out of hand with my body.

I do not like getting my ass grabbed or guys trying to corner me against a wall to dry hump me.

If his dick gets hard and he starts panting then I move away since I know he does not want to dance but instead bust a nut on my leg. To me that is not dancing, I didn't come to the club for that.

Now why I used to bring a knife??? It was because one time I let a guy buy me a pepsi (I was 17) and he wouldn't leave me alone and hounded me for hours and pulled a knife out on me when I told him I wasn't interested in him. I turned and ran to the bouncers as he tried to snatch me up but the bouncers threw him out of the club pronto....

I thought I was OK, until that same fucker waited for me at the parking lot with that blade in his hand. Thank GOD I was with a large group of friends that night!! Carrying a blade saved my ass a few times after that. Dudes back off QUICK when they see a blade come out and understand what "no" means then.

No woman should go through shit like that, that is why me and my girls stay together since some guys do not handle rejection well. It is also why I WAS aggressive with the horny drunks at the club.

Its been ages since I went to clubbing, but from what my nieces tell me... its gotten downright dangerous. Its crazy.

I now only go to boat parties with the 35+ agegroup. I love the way those men dance and I always have an awesome time, they never confuse my politeness and are gentlemen. I even let them hug me up. I usually go to the fireman/police parties and I no longer have to show up with hardware.

[Edited 1/20/13 10:41am]

OK, *my* culture is Totally, TOTALLY, totally different from yours. I have never in my life heard of a boy pulling a knife on a girl - it's not something that happens around here, regardless of what type of news about India reaches you guys over there. Here, if you rejected a boy, he'd get his heart broken, and slink off, and probably tell his male friends - that would be the most.

Nobody here grabs anything. But interesting that you mention it - the very first time I went to a nightclub (in the UK), an extremely drunk girl grabbed my ass. Hard. I wasn't altogether unhappy

But what I was *trying* to say was - I don't like being teased. If I see a sexy girl, with her tits spilling out of her dress, I would get turned on. I would hit on her, with the intention of having sex. If she said no, I'd probably have to go home and er, pleasure myself. But what I want out of her is - did she say yes to someone? If not, she has no business dressing like that. There is a code between the sexes. If we are gentlemen, it's because you don't lead us on.

And TD3... she doesn't need you to defend her - let her thrash this out with ME.

The CULTURE makes a HUGE difference.

The men I take major issue with are the ones who believe the stereotype that Puerto Rican women are "easy" and are always horny. I ran into that so much back in the day.

The would think Latina = extra horny chick

... and they would ask me what was my background.... as soon as I say "I am a Puerto Rican" they make a sleezy move and then act shocked that I do not want to be finger-fucked on the dance floor. That is why I got pissy because I saw those men as horny bigots. I'd be like GTFOffa me!! .... and dude would get butthurt.

THANK GOODNESS things are so different now, more diversity in cities allows different people to enjoy each others company... so now ALL girls are presumed to be sleezy for the most part, not just the Latinas.

domainator2010 said:

But what I was *trying* to say was - I don't like being teased. If I see a sexy girl, with her tits spilling out of her dress, I would get turned on. I would hit on her, with the intention of having sex. If she said no, I'd probably have to go home and er, pleasure myself. But what I want out of her is - did she say yes to someone? If not, she has no business dressing like that. There is a code between the sexes. If we are gentlemen, it's because you don't lead us on.

Teasing men....

this subject deserves its own thread!

I never teased men, I dance straight forward, but I will get "close" ... bend back, sway, lean against a guy while dancing, but not enough to rub up on his dick. We do NOT want a pants tent!

But some some guys go to the clubs with the sole purpose of being on that pussy hunt and when they saw me would be like

Him: "You a Latina?"

Me: "Yeah."

Him thinking- *easy pussy!!!*

Me thinking- *where are the bouncers, I need to get away!!*

*I mostly hit the "black" clubs were FEW if any Latinas would be present. The "white" clubs sported enough brunettes that I would be left alone (for the most part) and the blondes with excess boobage would get all the attention. Which was never an issue since dancing was my reason to hit the club.

... suck. i'd at least like to know your name (at least) before i come up behind you and start humping . or at least see your face first or ask you for the weather... or the time... I'M old fashioned

purplepolitician said:

... suck. i'd at least like to know your name (at least) before i come up behind you and start humping . or at least see your face first or ask you for the weather... or the time... I'M old fashioned

FrenchGuy said:

1) Are you a club-goer?

2) How often? When do you think you'll stop? or when didi you stop?

3) Do you dance? a little? a lot? or not?

4) What kind of music moves you?

5) How do/did people club in your area?

6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

7) Ever picked someone or being picked in a club? One night Stand or more?

[Edited 1/19/13 3:26am]

1. Yes

2. Alot...... Probably stop when Im Dr. Evans

3.LOVE Dancing ALOT

4. Old Skool 90s mix/mostly 90s tunes

5. I dont quite understand this question but I will try to answer it People from my area generally go to D.C for the clubs/lounges. They have a diverse range of clubs for different backgrounds and music taste.Their are urban clubs, multicultural, espanic, latin etc

6. Enjoy having fun with friends and dancing

7.No one night stands

But have flirted and danced with guys... I generally go to clubs for the fun and to be with friends not to pick up guys.

missfee said:

purplepolitician said:

... suck. i'd at least like to know your name (at least) before i come up behind you and start humping . or at least see your face first or ask you for the weather... or the time... I'M old fashioned

someone got it. thank god . now what is your name exactly? i have a name tag to save the trouble

mjscarousal said:

FrenchGuy said:

1) Are you a club-goer?

2) How often? When do you think you'll stop? or when didi you stop?

3) Do you dance? a little? a lot? or not?

4) What kind of music moves you?

5) How do/did people club in your area?

6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

7) Ever picked someone or being picked in a club? One night Stand or more?

[Edited 1/19/13 3:26am]

5. I dont quite understand this question but I will try to answer it People from my area generally go to D.C for the clubs/lounges. They have a diverse range of clubs for different backgrounds and music taste.Their are urban clubs, multicultural, espanic, latin etc

Girl yes! One of my best club memories was when I went to a club in DC for NYE 2005. Damn near lost my mind that night (and my memory)!

ZombieKitten said:

1) Are you a club-goer?

not any more! I was more a live music scene-goer

2) How often? When do you think you'll stop? or when didi you stop?

I never really started, I probably only went to a club like 20 times in my whole life

3) Do you dance? a little? a lot? or not?

danced the whole time

4) What kind of music moves you?

I used to go to a place called retro, it was new wave

5) How do people club in your area?

I'll ask my kids!

6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

To accompany my friends generally

7) Ever picked someone or being picked in a club? One night Stand or more?

Nope. Although there was this one time, when a very beautiful guy told me he bet he could have a very interesting conversation with me. I could have taken him home, if only there wasn't already a warm body waiting for me in my bed that night

I wish i could dance.

purplepolitician said:

missfee said:

someone got it. thank god . now what is your name exactly? i have a name tag to save the trouble

ForgottenPassword said:

vainandy you crack me up - I like your writing style and its honesty.

Thank you. My writing style had no choice but improve over the years since there's nothing else to occupy time other than write these days. Clubs sure ain't worthy of occupying time these days.

As for the trance, techno, or whatever the hell it's called, scene that's going on in the white gay clubs these days, I've noticed something in the last five years or so. Every time I've gone out in recent years, I've never seen a DJ through the glass in the booth except during the drag shows. I know DJs will sometimes record some mixes onto tapes (or in these days, onto CD-Rs) and play them early in the evening before the club becomes packed and also while they get their drink on to get inspired to mix later. I used to do this myself too when I DJ'd for a short while years ago. But maybe I just haven't looked up at the booth at the right times lately, but I haven't seen a DJ behind the glass in years.

I've also noticed what sounds to be the same exact mix song for song each time I went out. All the songs sound so generic and so much alike that it was really hard to tell but I know many times I've felt like "I've heard this song for song previously somewhere". I even noticed it in another club and it sounded like they played the exact same mix. And the people in the club don't seem to know anything about the songs. It feels like it's just generic background music for them while they mingle kinda like a trance version of muzak that's pumped into grocery stores. When I partied during the house era, even though the songs were underground and not played on the radio, all the clubgoers were familiar with every song and knew the names of the songs and the artists. It's not like that these days. Before the record stores closed a few years ago, I used to see these trance compilations in the compilation section of the record store. The songs on those compilations seemed to be on the compilations only and I never saw any of those artists in the artist section or the 12 Inch section. It was kinda like the compilations were made for generic party background music only and that's what clubs feel like these days.

will not go to trance, techno white, gay clubs, vainandy. thank you

went to a black (heterosexual, i'm assuming, since my punkass didn't even dance with anyone) club once. heard weezy a million times and fell in love with the gremlin . 2 fights broke out. everybody got kicked out. i PERSONALLY did not get hurt or "hook-up". fun night.

[Edited 1/20/13 19:10pm]

purplepolitician said:

went to a black (heterosexual, i'm assuming, since my punkass didn't even dance with anyone) club once. heard weezy a million times and fell in love with the gremlin . 2 fights broke out. everybody got kicked out. i PERSONALLY did not get hurt or "hook-up". fun night.

[Edited 1/20/13 19:10pm]

As for the black clubs these days, both straight and gay, they're even worse. If I closed my eyes and didn't see all those black people and just went by the sound of the music alone, I'd swear as was at a white senior citizens ballroom dance because the music never gets faster than a Lawrence Welk tempo.

Some of best dance clubs were the gay clubs and then the straight guys showed up... that was the end of that.

vainandy said:

purplepolitician said:

went to a black (heterosexual, i'm assuming, since my punkass didn't even dance with anyone) club once. heard weezy a million times and fell in love with the gremlin . 2 fights broke out. everybody got kicked out. i PERSONALLY did not get hurt or "hook-up". fun night.

[Edited 1/20/13 19:10pm]

As for the black clubs these days, both straight and gay, they're even worse. If I closed my eyes and didn't see all those black people and just went by the sound of the music alone, I'd swear as was at a white senior citizens ballroom dance because the music never gets faster than a Lawrence Welk tempo.

the music didn't/ doesn't (always) bother me. i had to wait in line forever. tight as shit. smelling like funk and i dunno what. the fight was the highlight. my attitude and the people i was with are gone (not physically as far as i know) . would do it again. would at least TRY to have some sort of a good time before i was removed.

I've never been to a club.

TD3 said:

Some of best dance clubs were the gay clubs and then the straight guys showed up... that was the end of that.

Oh Lord yes! It used to be the best music all night long. The straight clubs would open around 7:00 or 8:00 at night but our clubs didn't open until 11:00 at night and while the straight clubs used to close around 1 a.m., ours didn't close until the crowd thinned out. Sometimes we would leave and the sun would be coming up. Our world began when the striaght world went to sleep. We were the night people and when a wife was at home asleep in her bed wearing her facemask, her husband was out circling the club in his car trying to pick one of us up.

And there was no slow music played whatsoever. Mainly because most of us are whores and don't have lovers so if they did play a slow song, who would we dance with? Most of the lesbians seemed to have lovers but very few of us men did. And the few of us that actually had lovers knew that when you have one, you do NOT bring him to the club....EVER. You bring him to the club, he won't be with you for long because those whores will take him from you. Fights would break out big time if a slow song was played in a gay club. And the DJs in the gay clubs didn't just play the music, they mixed it. I've been to very few straight clubs where the DJs actually mixed. When you went to a gay club, you weren't just going to mingle, you were going to be entertained. It's not like that now.

FrenchGuy said:

1) Are you a club-goer? Sort of, I mainly go to see bands play.

2) How often? When do you think you'll stop? or when did you stop? I try to go to live shows whenever a good artisit is in my area and I can afford to attend so it varies. No plans to stop.

3) Do you dance? a little? a lot? or not? I dance a little. I can be kind of shy and self conscious, but when the music good I gotta move.

4) What kind of music moves you? Anything with a good beat

5) How do/did people club in your area? Night life here is pretty divided in my opinion ... hip-hop clubs with people getting drunk and dancing like strippers, college-y bar/clubs with people getting drunk and spilling their beer-dancing and cool clubs that play the good music, but are full of hip artsy ppl in moto jackets that don't dance, but stand around looking politely edgy.

6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing? Mainly for live music... When I go to a DJ-ed dance club it's usually just cause friends want to go.

7) Ever picked someone or being picked in a club? One night Stand or more?

I'm too shy and too sober for one night stands.

paintedlady said:

I never teased men, I dance straight forward, but I will get "close" ... bend back, sway, lean against a guy while dancing, but not enough to rub up on his dick. We do NOT want a pants tent!

Yes, that's all I wanted to know.

Just to clear the air between us, to show there's no ill feeling..... give me a huggle

FrenchGuy said:

1) Are you a club-goer?

2) How often? When do you think you'll stop? or when didi you stop?

3) Do you dance? a little? a lot? or not?

4) What kind of music moves you?

5) How do/did people club in your area?

6) What's your purpose of going out and clubbing?

7) Ever picked someone or being picked in a club? One night Stand or more?

[Edited 1/19/13 3:26am]

1. Yes, for life.

2. These days, very occasionally. A few times in a year would be a lot. I go when old friends throw reunion parties, when a DJ I used to particularly love comes through the area or if a band I want to see is performing at a club instead of a more traditional venue.

Back in the day, 1991 to be exact, a friend asked me if I wanted to go to a "party" on the beach. I asked what kind of party, or who was going to be there, something like that, and he said "a rave". I had no damn idea what he was talking about, but back then I was a Dead show attending hippie and a party was a party, so I said yes. That party ended up being a Wicked full moon (you can read a bit about that scene here and here). Changed my world, my life, forever. From 1991 to 1995 I (we, a group of 5-12 of us at any given time) averaged 3 "parties" a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. From 96-97 I slowed down a bit, maybe five parties a month. From 98 to 2000 it was even less, maybe one or two a month. I was there through the birth, growth, explosion and ultimate destruction of the Bay Area "rave scene". But in that roughly ten year period I would guess I went to a "club" somewhere around 600 times.

I stopped because for a lot of reasons. I got older - I was 19 when started, 28 when I all but stopped. I couldn't do a certain drug of choice anymore because it was wrecking my sanity. I chose to stop doing a different drug that was turning some of my friends into sucked up alien people, and to them that was a traiterous notion. My hearing had become permanently damaged and I wanted to give it a break. But mostly, eventually, I stopped because the scene I came up in had completely disappeared. Due to the drugs, the commercialization of the culture, the ever increasing costs of throwing affordable parties and the city of San Franciscos mission to stamp out dance culture as we knew it so they could gentrify SOMA, the magic was gone, utterly and completely.

3. Yes, I dance. I danced then. I dance now. Dancing is a happy place. I'll do it in my living room if inspiration hits.

4. House. Other forms of electronic music are definitely part of my regular listening and collecting habbits, and I dance to them, but house is what grabs my guts and says, "move!"

5. Did, anyway we could. Bars, warehouses, basements, stores, parks, beaches, house parties and traditional clubs. The beauty of the rave scene, particularly in the early days, was the anything goes attitude. You didn't have to be beautiful or rich or part of any particular club, either. Just show up, dance and have a good time and you'd be accepted.

Now, in overpriced, shiny, well policed and monitored clubs, some of which have dress codes. I hear that some of the old still exists from time to time, that a "greaty party" happened. But the underground is gone forever.

6. Going to sound cheesy, but for me it was to find the darkest dancefloor, with the deepest, most gone group of heads who just wanted to close their eyes and dance like nobody was watching and nobody cared until they kicked us off the floor. I just really loved the full body euphoria of the real, fully immersive party experience. I was, obviously, addicted to it. For me the best time at most parties was from three in the morning (after the bars had closed and all the drinkers had lost their buzzes and gone home) until whenever the party ended. Very few things have ever made me happier than having 50,000 watts thumping away for the 40 people who have stayed at some hole in the wall bar or dirty warehouse until seven or eight in the morning, the lights come up, the last record ends and all you're left with is the hum of the sound system as you hug your brothers and sisters (most of whom you likely didn't even know) and walk slowly, nowhere near sober, out into a world that for all it's realness seems incredibly foriegn after completely loosing yourself the night before. That's the magic that is gone forever. Clubs aren't even allowed to stay open all night anymore. Squashed it.

7. Yes. And no. I was usually with someone when I got there. I did meet someone that ended up being more than a one night stand, though.

Using older tracks, but released in 1997, this is one of the best dj mix cds ever released (my opinion of course) and a great representation of an earlier in the night SF dj set. The three 'til dawn stuff would have gone even deeper. Jeno is my favorite dj of all time, btw. Like anybody cares.

YouTube is sorely lacking when it comes to early Bay Area rave sets. I have about 200 cassettes, so I think it's time to get to converting and uploading. This however, is one of the tapes I still own from 1991. Thankfully, mine doesn't have the tape warble at the beginning of Side A, because that's a nice jam right there.

Lastly, Jeno and friends have been working on a documentary about the early days of the SF rave scene for a couple years. It's been delayed often, but they're hoping for a Spring release. You better believe I'll make it known here at the org when that happens.

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The rave scene is / was pretty different to what we understand by "nightclubs" these days though. These days most of them are really just big ass meatmarkets for the women to show everyone what new clothing items they've found on sale and the men buying them drinks hoping to get somewhere. In cities like mine they're pretty much the only places where 20-somethings have any social life outside maybe hanging out with their friends in their own apartments. They're certainly not about doing drugs and everyone dancing 'til the dawn.

The smaller clubs are still more music-oriented, but it's like what thekidsgirl stated - very few people seem to actually have fun in them. They just stand around and try to look cool.

I kind of wish I had been around during the days when a "nighclub" usually referred to a smallish place that was in the basement of a hotel. The entrance decorated with neon lights and all that. Leisure Suit Larry style.

I think the OP is secretly trying to say

Today's music sucks! It's no longer a myth.