I thought that was some shit to be honest, but shows on how fickle grounds many choose their partners (and how little it takes to motivate some men to want to get out of marriage).

so this here is the judge of what a beautiful woman looks like

looking at this I blame him

[Edited 1/17/13 4:09am]

KingBAD said:

"if i had your wife i'd drink too"

Genesia said:

Well, obviously he's wrong to put it all on the wife. But by the same token, I think people who think there aren't folks who start to take their relationships for granted - maybe letting themselves go just a tad in the process - are delusional.

Keeping a relationship humming takes work - and keeping up your appearance should be part of that.

Yep

littlemissG said:

DEMENTIA

Stymie said:

There's no reason to cheat on a spouse, period. If you aren't happy, get a divorce.

And Pat Robertson can go fuck himself.

PurpleJedi said:

Stymie said:

There's no reason to cheat on a spouse, period. If you aren't happy, get a divorce.

And Pat Robertson can go fuck himself.

JustErin said:

Serious said:

Yes that's true, but my impression is that usually it's the women who pay more attention to keep up their appearance than their men do.

Let's be honest here. Women are masters when it comes to luring men. We pretty ourselves up in as many ways we can, we fake interests to have shit in common with the man of our liking, we use sex as a way to get and secure a man.

And as soon as we have our man on lock down, all the things that we did to attract him no longer is important and we no longer feel the need to keep up the illusion.

Now of course, not all women are like that...but sure seems like a lot of them are.

Dudes on the other hand, well, what you see is often what you get and sure, we all get older and change physically but I don't think it can be compared to how women tend to change once they get married.

And this doesn't even touch the sexual bait-and-switch that goes on. How many men get married and never get head again? Or suddenly find that their sex life is gone when children appear?

JustErin said:

Serious said:

Yes that's true, but my impression is that usually it's the women who pay more attention to keep up their appearance than their men do.

Let's be honest here. Women are masters when it comes to luring men. We pretty ourselves up in as many ways we can, we fake interests to have shit in common with the man of our liking, we use sex as a way to get and secure a man.

And as soon as we have our man on lock down, all the things that we did to attract him no longer is important and we no longer feel the need to keep up the illusion.

Now of course, not all women are like that...but sure seems like a lot of them are.

Dudes on the other hand, well, what you see is often what you get and sure, we all get older and change physically but I don't think it can be compared to how women tend to change once they get married.

BINGO.

Genesia said:

JustErin said:

Let's be honest here. Women are masters when it comes to luring men. We pretty ourselves up in as many ways we can, we fake interests to have shit in common with the man of our liking, we use sex as a way to get and secure a man.

And as soon as we have our man on lock down, all the things that we did to attract him no longer is important and we no longer feel the need to keep up the illusion.

Now of course, not all women are like that...but sure seems like a lot of them are.

Dudes on the other hand, well, what you see is often what you get and sure, we all get older and change physically but I don't think it can be compared to how women tend to change once they get married.

And this doesn't even touch the sexual bait-and-switch that goes on. How many men get married and never get head again? Or suddenly find that their sex life is gone when children appear?

True

Genesia said:

JustErin said:

Let's be honest here. Women are masters when it comes to luring men. We pretty ourselves up in as many ways we can, we fake interests to have shit in common with the man of our liking, we use sex as a way to get and secure a man.

And as soon as we have our man on lock down, all the things that we did to attract him no longer is important and we no longer feel the need to keep up the illusion.

Now of course, not all women are like that...but sure seems like a lot of them are.

Dudes on the other hand, well, what you see is often what you get and sure, we all get older and change physically but I don't think it can be compared to how women tend to change once they get married.

And this doesn't even touch the sexual bait-and-switch that goes on. How many men get married and never get head again? Or suddenly find that their sex life is gone when children appear?

Some women sell themselves like a corporation. Isn't that what corporations do to lure you into their product? Now, you gonna have to keep it up because there's competition out there, the 8-1 ratio kind.

novabrkr said:

I watched some TV show on private detectives that handled adultery cases in the UK. Women hired them because they suspected their husbands were cheating and wanted evidence for the divorce. The detectives had handled hundreds of cases and told that in all of the cases the wife had cut her hair short the new woman had long hair.

I remember watching Oprahs: Why Do Men Cheat

and there was a woman who's husband volunteered, because he cheated on his wife (with another MARRIED woman)

the wife was angry, saying "men should grow up, isn't it supposed to turn into friendship" and she looked like a dude in that she had on a simple T, plain jeans and hair cut into a simple very short hair cut, no make up, she was petite. Then I looked at the MARRIED woman he cheated with she was curvy-healthy black dress above the knees, showing some bossom, curled styled long hair & make-up.

the angry wife, I'm thinking if he wanted to end up living with a friend he and his best friend could have bought a house together and had sex with women without marriage. You look like a dude..

I never got her(married woman he cheated with) story, I bet it was her husband wasn't available or something and here was another man showing her much needed attention.

Hmm I guess I stand corrected even though I was referring to the looks . I guess women who are not very interested in sex (or certain things like giving head) anyway, might only do it (or more often) in the beginning of a relationship when they are still very much in love . Just like being more interested in things( hobbies) the man is interested in. I doubt it is really tactics just to "catch" a man, but who knows . I guess I am a pretty untypical woman as I am way too selfish and lazy to pretend being interested in things he is interested in that I am not .

And I think a man should be able to get it if a woman really enjoys sex or certain sexual paractices a lot or is only half interested. If it is the later then it is very likely she will lose interest even more once the honeymoon will be over.

Serious said:

Hmm I guess I stand corrected even though I was referring to the looks . I guess women who are not very interested in sex (or certain things like giving head) anyway, might only do it (or more often) in the beginning of a relationship when they are still very much in love . Just like being more interested in things( hobbies) the man is interested in. I doubt it is really tactics just to "catch" a man, but who knows . I guess I am a pretty untypical woman as I am way too selfish and lazy to pretend being interested in things he is interested in that I am not .

And I think a man should be able to get it if a woman really enjoys sex or certain sexual paractices a lot or is only half interested. If it is the later then it is very likely she will lose interest even more once the honeymoon will be over.

co-sign

he must not have a mirror or ever watch himself on tv...

OnlyNDaUsa said:

he must not have a mirror or ever watch himself on tv...

I've noticed depressed or sad women stop to care not just about their appearance, but also about their health and doing all sorts of things in general when they are married to a person who makes them sad.

It whittles them away. I think the same can be said vice-versa.

People need a supportive spouse, and if they do not get that, then a new mother will look tore the hell up if she's doing it all and gets no time to take care of herself. Which could lead to a man who feels he is with someone who "no longer cares for herself". It all spirals downhill from there.

I guess it is important not to get tied up with a selfish fucker.

BTW men court women by wining and dining them, dress well, are all nice, patient and funny.... and once they get married do they do for their wives like they did when he was dating her?

No woman is gonna stay gussied up if she's always in the kitchen ... she'll only look like a worn down housemaid.

So ladies marry a supportive guy that will take you out on dates AFTER you are married, if you don't you may have to look forward to getting depressed and have your selfish husband call you ugly and cheat on you.

Then one day while he's in the shower you will heat up a skillet til it's searing hot and grab a pot holder and go to the shower and beat him with that skillet until he's bloody, burned and motionless.

....and this is why I stay single.

[Edited 1/21/13 8:31am]

paintedlady said:

I've noticed depressed or sad women stop to care not just about their appearance, but also about their health and doing all sorts of things in general when they are married to a person who makes them sad.

It whittles them away. I think the same can be said vice-versa.

People need a supportive spouse, and if they do not get that, then a new mother will look tore the hell up if she's doing it all and gets no time to take care of herself. Which could lead to a man who feels he is with someone who "no longer cares for herself". It all spirals downhill from there.

I guess it is important not to get tied up with a selfish fucker.

BTW men court women by wining and dining them, dress well, are all nice, patient and funny.... and once they get married do they do for their wives like they did when he was dating her?

No woman is gonna stay gussied up if she's always in the kitchen ... she'll only look like a worn down housemaid.

So ladies marry a supportive guy that will take you out on dates AFTER you are married, if you don't you may have to look forward to getting depressed and have your selfish husband call you ugly and cheat on you.

Then one day while he's in the shower you will heat up a skillet til it's searing hot and grab a pot holder and go to the shower and beat him with that skillet until he's bloody, burned and motionless.

....and this is why I stay single.

[Edited 1/21/13 8:31am]

...and THIS^^^ is why I will never marry another Puerto Rican.

(You know I love you)

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

I've noticed depressed or sad women stop to care not just about their appearance, but also about their health and doing all sorts of things in general when they are married to a person who makes them sad.

It whittles them away. I think the same can be said vice-versa.

People need a supportive spouse, and if they do not get that, then a new mother will look tore the hell up if she's doing it all and gets no time to take care of herself. Which could lead to a man who feels he is with someone who "no longer cares for herself". It all spirals downhill from there.

I guess it is important not to get tied up with a selfish fucker.

BTW men court women by wining and dining them, dress well, are all nice, patient and funny.... and once they get married do they do for their wives like they did when he was dating her?

No woman is gonna stay gussied up if she's always in the kitchen ... she'll only look like a worn down housemaid.

So ladies marry a supportive guy that will take you out on dates AFTER you are married, if you don't you may have to look forward to getting depressed and have your selfish husband call you ugly and cheat on you.

Then one day while he's in the shower you will heat up a skillet til it's searing hot and grab a pot holder and go to the shower and beat him with that skillet until he's bloody, burned and motionless.

....and this is why I stay single.

[Edited 1/21/13 8:31am]

...and THIS^^^ is why I will never marry another Puerto Rican.

(You know I love you)

You know I honestly do not know one Puerto Rican woman who isn't prone to violence (when provoked that is) .

I know there's gotta be a few gentle Rican ladies out there... we aren't the most reasonable bunch are we?

[Edited 1/21/13 8:46am]

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

...and THIS^^^ is why I will never marry another Puerto Rican.

(You know I love you)

You know I honestly do not know one Puerto Rican woman who isn't prone to violence (when provoked that is) .

I know there's gotta be a few gentle Rican ladies out there... we aren't the most reasonable bunch are we?

[Edited 1/21/13 8:46am]

No, can't say y'all are "gentle"...but then...there are definite benefits to that.

paintedlady said:

I've noticed depressed or sad women stop to care not just about their appearance, but also about their health and doing all sorts of things in general when they are married to a person who makes them sad.

It whittles them away. I think the same can be said vice-versa.

People need a supportive spouse, and if they do not get that, then a new mother will look tore the hell up if she's doing it all and gets no time to take care of herself. Which could lead to a man who feels he is with someone who "no longer cares for herself". It all spirals downhill from there.

I guess it is important not to get tied up with a selfish fucker.

BTW men court women by wining and dining them, dress well, are all nice, patient and funny.... and once they get married do they do for their wives like they did when he was dating her?

No woman is gonna stay gussied up if she's always in the kitchen ... she'll only look like a worn down housemaid.

So ladies marry a supportive guy that will take you out on dates AFTER you are married, if you don't you may have to look forward to getting depressed and have your selfish husband call you ugly and cheat on you.

Then one day while he's in the shower you will heat up a skillet til it's searing hot and grab a pot holder and go to the shower and beat him with that skillet until he's bloody, burned and motionless.

....and this is why I stay single.

my 67 yr old mother does (on Sundays at least)

She started doing it about 5 years ago, my 2 brothers and I came over for dinner one sunday, sitting in the dinette talking with my dad and my mom sauntered downstairs all done up 50's glam in heals jewels makeup and finished cooking dinner

It was so cute and funny, it was almost like we could hear her coming down the stairs because we all sorta turned at the same time (couldn't hear her)

OldFriends4Sale said:

paintedlady said:

I've noticed depressed or sad women stop to care not just about their appearance, but also about their health and doing all sorts of things in general when they are married to a person who makes them sad.

It whittles them away. I think the same can be said vice-versa.

People need a supportive spouse, and if they do not get that, then a new mother will look tore the hell up if she's doing it all and gets no time to take care of herself. Which could lead to a man who feels he is with someone who "no longer cares for herself". It all spirals downhill from there.

I guess it is important not to get tied up with a selfish fucker.

BTW men court women by wining and dining them, dress well, are all nice, patient and funny.... and once they get married do they do for their wives like they did when he was dating her?

No woman is gonna stay gussied up if she's always in the kitchen ... she'll only look like a worn down housemaid.

So ladies marry a supportive guy that will take you out on dates AFTER you are married, if you don't you may have to look forward to getting depressed and have your selfish husband call you ugly and cheat on you.

Then one day while he's in the shower you will heat up a skillet til it's searing hot and grab a pot holder and go to the shower and beat him with that skillet until he's bloody, burned and motionless.

....and this is why I stay single.

my 67 yr old mother does (on Sundays at least)

She started doing it about 5 years ago, my 2 brothers and I came over for dinner one sunday, sitting in the dinette talking with my dad and my mom sauntered downstairs all done up 50's glam in heals jewels makeup and finished cooking dinner

It was so cute and funny, it was almost like we could hear her coming down the stairs because we all sorta turned at the same time (couldn't hear her)

God bless Momma-moderator in her Sunday best!

Me.... I'll be the one in my panties, cami-top with one eye open, still yawning and my hair all over the place... somedays its sexy, other days its just plain wrong.

purplethunder3121 said:

OnlyNDaUsa said:

he must not have a mirror or ever watch himself on tv...

If Alfred E. Newman grew up...

[Edited 1/22/13 12:27pm]

Stymie said:

uPtoWnNY said:

Genesia said:Well, obviously he's wrong to put it all on the wife. But by the same token, I think people who think there aren't folks who start to take their relationships for granted - maybe letting themselves go just a tad in the process - are delusional.

Keeping a relationship humming takes work - and keeping up your appearance should be part of that.

Exactly. Husbands and wives should keep themselves looking good for each other.

As for Pat Robertson, I wish god would call him home already.

Adisa said:

I wish the creator (if it exists) would take all these douchebag televangelists off our hands. Don't stop with Falwell - take Jimmy Swaggart & Oral Roberts too.