MoBetterBliss said:

i think it's important to stop and think about the people that you've found attractive during your life... i bet most of them weren't plastic looking "perfect" people

yet it's so common to think that we can't be attractive because of our imperfections

That is an EXCELLENT post!

I hope all the young people read this thread and take notice of how many of us older folks thought we were unattractive as kids but when we look back at that time, it turns out we weren't unattractive at all.

Some outside stimulus convinced us we were not attractive, or were ugly but guess what? The stimulus was wrong.

So it is with you. If you're having issues with your appearance, remember these two things: (1) this thread and our life experiences should prove to you that you're certainly far more attractive than you think you are; and (2) when you realize that, your beauty will shine so brightly that it will be seen on Venus!

RodeoSchro said:

MoBetterBliss said:

i think it's important to stop and think about the people that you've found attractive during your life... i bet most of them weren't plastic looking "perfect" people

yet it's so common to think that we can't be attractive because of our imperfections

That is an EXCELLENT post!

Yes

Oh yes, for a while.

In highschool I was 1) very popular 2) very athlectic 3) very bright

Junior year everything was great, everyone knew I was being scouted, I had a BF that wanted to

marry me, and I was being courted by Ivy League schools.

Than, I was diagnosed with cancer and everything changed. I missed a hell of a lot of school, I was

denied the right to participate in sports, and I underwent a number of treatments and surgeries.

I had an adverse reaction to some of my treatments and my lungs have never been the same.

Also, I began gaining weight like crazy. My doctors told me that it was due to how my body was

holding water and some other aspects of my illness, but I gained a huge amount of weight in less

than 6 months.

Suddenly the scouts were gone, I couldn't have kids, my grades were low, and I was suddenly fat,

had trouble breathing, and couldn't get cleared to play sports.

Things are better now. Weight can still be an issue but I deal with it. I am in a better place, and being

thick never stopped me from having the men and women lined up. But I hated my body for

a while. Inside and out. I hated my boyfriend for trying to convince me that there wernt any

changes or that the changes that occured didn't matter.

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If you are not an alpha dog,narcissist,soiciopath,an asshole.You are likely gonna have self image problems.Girls don't even care much about looks.They really don't.Guys are more shallow.

Gym rat guys? That's all they got for them.It's all about their image.I got more personality and a bigger dick to boot.

LadyCasanova said:

Oh yes, for a while.

In highschool I was 1) very popular 2) very athlectic 3) very bright

Junior year everything was great, everyone knew I was being scouted, I had a BF that wanted to

marry me, and I was being courted by Ivy League schools.

Than, I was diagnosed with cancer and everything changed. I missed a hell of a lot of school, I was

denied the right to participate in sports, and I underwent a number of treatments and surgeries.

I had an adverse reaction to some of my treatments and my lungs have never been the same.

Also, I began gaining weight like crazy. My doctors told me that it was due to how my body was

holding water and some other aspects of my illness, but I gained a huge amount of weight in less

than 6 months.

Suddenly the scouts were gone, I couldn't have kids, my grades were low, and I was suddenly fat,

had trouble breathing, and couldn't get cleared to play sports.

Things are better now. Weight can still be an issue but I deal with it. I am in a better place, and being

thick never stopped me from having the men and women lined up. But I hated my body for

a while. Inside and out. I hated my boyfriend for trying to convince me that there wernt any

changes or that the changes that occured didn't matter.

[Edited 1/9/13 11:55am]

WOW.

LadyCasanova said:

Oh yes, for a while.

In highschool I was 1) very popular 2) very athlectic 3) very bright

Junior year everything was great, everyone knew I was being scouted, I had a BF that wanted to

marry me, and I was being courted by Ivy League schools.

Than, I was diagnosed with cancer and everything changed. I missed a hell of a lot of school, I was

denied the right to participate in sports, and I underwent a number of treatments and surgeries.

I had an adverse reaction to some of my treatments and my lungs have never been the same.

Also, I began gaining weight like crazy. My doctors told me that it was due to how my body was

holding water and some other aspects of my illness, but I gained a huge amount of weight in less

than 6 months.

Suddenly the scouts were gone, I couldn't have kids, my grades were low, and I was suddenly fat,

had trouble breathing, and couldn't get cleared to play sports.

Things are better now. Weight can still be an issue but I deal with it. I am in a better place, and being

thick never stopped me from having the men and women lined up. But I hated my body for

a while. Inside and out. I hated my boyfriend for trying to convince me that there wernt any

changes or that the changes that occured didn't matter.

[Edited 1/9/13 11:55am]

And look at the part I bolded,

LadyCasanova said:

Oh yes, for a while.

In highschool I was 1) very popular 2) very athlectic 3) very bright

Junior year everything was great, everyone knew I was being scouted, I had a BF that wanted to

marry me, and I was being courted by Ivy League schools.

Than, I was diagnosed with cancer and everything changed. I missed a hell of a lot of school, I was

denied the right to participate in sports, and I underwent a number of treatments and surgeries.

I had an adverse reaction to some of my treatments and my lungs have never been the same.

Also, I began gaining weight like crazy. My doctors told me that it was due to how my body was

holding water and some other aspects of my illness, but I gained a huge amount of weight in less

than 6 months.

Suddenly the scouts were gone, I couldn't have kids, my grades were low, and I was suddenly fat,

had trouble breathing, and couldn't get cleared to play sports.

Things are better now. Weight can still be an issue but I deal with it. I am in a better place, and being

thick never stopped me from having the men and women lined up. But I hated my body for

a while. Inside and out. I hated my boyfriend for trying to convince me that there wernt any

changes or that the changes that occured didn't matter.

[Edited 1/9/13 11:55am]

I never knew all this about you.

That's a lot to go through in high school, as if high school alone wasn't enough .

Thank you.

RodeoSchro said:

I hope all the young people read this thread and take notice of how many of us older folks thought we were unattractive as kids but when we look back at that time, it turns out we weren't unattractive at all.

Some outside stimulus convinced us we were not attractive, or were ugly but guess what? The stimulus was wrong.

So it is with you. If you're having issues with your appearance, remember these two things: (1) this thread and our life experiences should prove to you that you're certainly far more attractive than you think you are; and (2) when you realize that, your beauty will shine so brightly that it will be seen on Venus!

True.

I wish that most kids had parents that said this to them.

My mother was a beauty, a 5'1" version of Disney Princess Jasmine only flat chested.

My dad looked like Carol O'Connor, better known as Archie from All in the Family. He was 5'7" and a thick waisted Irishman.

When I was a teenager Cheryl Tiegs came on the TV and my mother looked at me and said "Why could one of you girls have looked like that???"

She offered to get me a boob job later on..

Some parents want the kid that all the other mothers will say " your daughter is soooo beautiful".

I forgive my Mom, but still.....

RodeoSchro said:

I hope all the young people read this thread and take notice of how many of us older folks thought we were unattractive as kids but when we look back at that time, it turns out we weren't unattractive at all.

Some outside stimulus convinced us we were not attractive, or were ugly but guess what? The stimulus was wrong.

So it is with you. If you're having issues with your appearance, remember these two things: (1) this thread and our life experiences should prove to you that you're certainly far more attractive than you think you are; and (2) when you realize that, your beauty will shine so brightly that it will be seen on Venus!

Sometimes I pull out my junior high school pictures and show the girls. All I say is, "It does get better."

All the time. I honestly dont ever remember a time when I was happy or satisfied with how I look. I got shit about it throughout school and it has changed how I react in social situations. I still have issues with being jealous of my little sister who is the perfect one, I find that I worry alot about people laughing at me (even if they arent) and if anyone says anything nice I find it hard/I wont believe them. I try to have the attitude that I dont care but the reality is I hate alot about myself and the fact I cant just be happy annoys me even more. I dont know I have good days and bad days I have a feeling that this post is a tad more blah than it should be as I decided to post on a blah day but yeah I dont think anyone is truely happy. Everyone notices the flaws in themselves which others cant see.

LadyCasanova said:

Oh yes, for a while.

In highschool I was 1) very popular 2) very athlectic 3) very bright

Junior year everything was great, everyone knew I was being scouted, I had a BF that wanted to

marry me, and I was being courted by Ivy League schools.

Than, I was diagnosed with cancer and everything changed. I missed a hell of a lot of school, I was

denied the right to participate in sports, and I underwent a number of treatments and surgeries.

I had an adverse reaction to some of my treatments and my lungs have never been the same.

Also, I began gaining weight like crazy. My doctors told me that it was due to how my body was

holding water and some other aspects of my illness, but I gained a huge amount of weight in less

than 6 months.

Suddenly the scouts were gone, I couldn't have kids, my grades were low, and I was suddenly fat,

had trouble breathing, and couldn't get cleared to play sports.

Things are better now. Weight can still be an issue but I deal with it. I am in a better place, and being

thick never stopped me from having the men and women lined up. But I hated my body for

a while. Inside and out. I hated my boyfriend for trying to convince me that there wernt any

changes or that the changes that occured didn't matter.

[Edited 1/9/13 11:55am]

Wow LadyC...had no idea.

Glad you're ok and here spicing up the Org.

Stymie said:

I've had them all my life. Hell, I'm 43 years old and people still call me "ugly". Couple that with the amount of weight I put on.

The fact that people find me "ugly" or "unattractive" though is just something I'll have to deal with. I'm not changing a damn thing to make THEM feel better about ME. Losing weight though, is for my own health and something that I work on.

I've heard you mention this before. I swear I don't say this to be kind, but it is absolutely beyond me how people 1) see you as ugly; and 2) have the social ineptitude in 2013 to call you ugly. In what sort of Munsters episode do you live? You need to come up here to TO. I know fellas who would just eat you up.

[Edited 1/9/13 20:09pm]

Always...

Gunsnhalen said:

i am very strong and confident in my strength and fighting abilities.

can you explain this in a bit more detail?... do you mean you do mma or something?... are your "fighting abilities" a sport thing?

sorry... i don't get it

MoBetterBliss said:

Gunsnhalen said:

i am very strong and confident in my strength and fighting abilities.

can you explain this in a bit more detail?... do you mean you do mma or something?... are your "fighting abilities" a sport thing?

sorry... i don't get it

Ahh my mistake! yes i train in MMA and kickboxing. I stopped for a while but got into it again last year and am still pretty good at it.

I was once in football but idk if that counts as fighting abilities

Lammastide said:

Stymie said:

I've had them all my life. Hell, I'm 43 years old and people still call me "ugly". Couple that with the amount of weight I put on.

The fact that people find me "ugly" or "unattractive" though is just something I'll have to deal with. I'm not changing a damn thing to make THEM feel better about ME. Losing weight though, is for my own health and something that I work on.

I've heard you mention this before. I swear I don't say this to be kind, but it is absolutely beyond me how people 1) see you as ugly; and 2) have the social ineptitude in 2013 to call you ugly. In what sort of Munsters episode do you live? You need to come up here to TO. I know fellas who would just eat you up.

[Edited 1/9/13 20:09pm]

Any of them need a green card?

Stymie said:

LadyCasanova said:

I was being courted by Ivy.

And look at the part I bolded,

Anytime! I would be the luckiest person on the org if that were true.

Gunsnhalen said:

MoBetterBliss said:

can you explain this in a bit more detail?... do you mean you do mma or something?... are your "fighting abilities" a sport thing?

sorry... i don't get it

Ahh my mistake! yes i train in MMA and kickboxing. I stopped for a while but got into it again last year and am still pretty good at it.

I was once in football but idk if that counts as fighting abilities

I think my self image would greatly improve if I knew that I could beat the shit out of someone if I had to!

yup. still do. a fatty with poor skin. the fatty came after the poor skin and other things. i digress... i'm dealing with it. learning that it doesn't (always) matter what you look like, but always kinda matters what you say and how you carry yourself

I don't have a lot of self-image problems. Sometimes I wonder if 12 inches is enough.