ZombieKitten said:

I'm sort of like that sister I have a very strained relationship with my super flakey sister. I got sick of all the bullshit and removed myself from her drama. I won't call her (although I do answer calls and texts) but take no initiative - years of doing so have left me with disappointment after disappointment. I don't like her and I'm really pleased she moved to the other side of the country.

Nothinbutjoy said:

Steadwood said:

Buy her a boomerang

I'm tempted to smack her in the head with one.

Knock some sense into her!!!

Seriously, I have a younger sister who calls when she wants something. I always answer the phone with "what do you want"?

btw Victoria, on Vancouver Island is gorgeous!!!

luv4u said:

It's 46 degrees outside (hardship, I know) and I'm about to go pick peppers and tomatoes by flashlight. There's a possibility it's going to freeze tonight and I would be wasting a healthy harvest (fourth of the year) if I didn't grab them. Been putting it off for a while... no time like the present... I guess

Oh, and apologies if this thread wasn't for general venting. I wanted to complain and couldn't find another thread.

Ah, yes. An early Fall full moon harvest would have been lovely. This was more like, 'grrrr!'

Got a TON of Jalepenos, small Green Bells and various strains of red and green tomatoes. Looking up some Green Tomato Relish recipes right now.

i haven't read all the replies

but just in case it has not been mentioned......

maybe she is embarrassed because her wedding has sent her broke and she cant afford to spoil you in return.... which is why she may not have replied to your text

Also she may feel that you making an effort to go to the wedding would be more than enough and she does not really want anything else

sometimes when ppl dont say how they really feel they end up looking bad even tho they really have good intentions

so if i were u i would just go to the wedding and not worry about anything else

rdhull said:

Adria said:

My younger sister is the EXACT same way! She's 9 years younger than me. She moved about 700 miles away and got married to some guy none of us had ever met. She moved when she was 26. Up until then, I thought we had a good relationship. We did a lot of things together. Since she's been married, she NEVER calls me or my other sister who still lives here. She talks to my brother maybe a little bit more than us. She talks to my mom and dad several times a week.

I have called her, left messages. She might return one out of 10 of the messages, usually days later. She replies to half of the texts I send her and almost none of the emails. She moved five years ago, and I basically feel like she and I really are not sisters now, more like distant cousins or something. It's sad, and it really hurts my feelings. I cried for weeks when she moved away. I've missed her so bad at random times, it just puts me in a deep funk for days. I don't have the money to visit her, but she and her husband are quite well off. She only comes here for one weekend a year. She doesn't work or have kids.

I don't know what happened. I talk to my mom about it, but she's afraid if she says anything that my sister won't talk to her anymore either.

So, yeah...I can see why you are mad/hurt. But still participate in her life any way you can. Hopefully one day she will realize what she's doing before it's too late. But you do get to a point where you just have to quit trying to have a relationship with someone who doesn't reciprocate. It's just hurtful and confusing when it's your own family.

She drifted apart form you is what happened. It happens.

If it bothers you why dont you phone her and tell her exactly what you just posted here? You may or may not like the answer buit at least youll know why/what's going on.

I know it's hard to admit or accept but if someone does that to you constantly, perhaps that could be a sign they simply just don't want to be bothered. And some people choose to communicate that by ignoring messages. I'm not gonna lie. I've done plenty of times.

kitbradley said:

rdhull said:

She drifted apart form you is what happened. It happens.

If it bothers you why dont you phone her and tell her exactly what you just posted here? You may or may not like the answer buit at least youll know why/what's going on.

I know it's hard to admit or accept but if someone does that to you constantly, perhaps that could be a sign they simply just don't want to be bothered. And some people choose to communicate that by ignoring messages. I'm not gonna lie. I've done plenty of times.

Thats why I told her that she DOES know whats going on..(but just doesn't want to admit to it becasue its hurtful etc).

Nothinbutjoy said:

luv4u said:

Knock some sense into her!!!

Seriously, I have a younger sister who calls when she wants something. I always answer the phone with "what do you want"?

btw Victoria, on Vancouver Island is gorgeous!!!

That's what I've heard. I'm looking forward to going, 'cept for the rude sister shit.

Well........... leave BC and make your way to my place. If you can make it to my neck of the woods.

Nothinbutjoy said:

Vent away Cerebus. Enjoy your night time harvest if you can. It sounds kinda cool except for the flashlight and 46 degrees part. I'm imagining the harvest being a bit warmer and under the bright light of a full moon. (I've known Mach awhile now )

and

Just stop texting and calling-that'll teach her then she'll call u asking why u don't call?

OK, seriously.

"Men. Be Aware. Twenty seven penises get broken in America each year."

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