How many of you reflect on the problems you have/had in your life & say "I fucked up" or "I am @ fault" for something that has happened to you? I can sit here & go over countless things that I know I am @ fault for & acknowledge the fact that if I was more mature or more thoughtful & patient about some things, maybe things could have turned out totally different. [Positively or Negatively]

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u have just combined 10 threads in one topic........

how do i post a short - straight to the point answer

oh i dont know LOOK AT WHAT U HAVE DONE!!!! YES ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!!! U HAVE CONFUSED ME!!!

u better b sorry Titty!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

all jokes aside (yes after reflecting i realised that was a bad one )

anyway on a whole reflecting is a good thing as it helps you understand different situations and if u realise you were wrong it gives u the opportunity to make amends

Also.... for many years i was often blamed for everything that went wrong and it resulted in me walking on egg shells so for this not to happen i decided that if i do my best and something happens that is out of my control well then its not my fault and i dont need to waste energy worrying about it

ThisOne said:

u have just combined 10 threads in one topic........

how do i post a short - straight to the point answer

oh i dont know LOOK AT WHAT U HAVE DONE!!!! YES ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!!! U HAVE CONFUSED ME!!!

u better b sorry Titty!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

all jokes aside (yes after reflecting i realised that was a bad one )

anyway on a whole reflecting is a good thing as it helps you understand different situations and if u realise you were wrong it gives u the opportunity to make amends

Also.... for many years i was often blamed for everything that went wrong and it resulted in me walking on egg shells so for this not to happen i decided that if i do my best and something happens that is out of my control well then its not my fault and i dont need to waste energy worrying about it

Yes, I am sure I have combined too many topics in one thread & I am sorry for that. [a lot on my mind this morning, I guess ]. Don't worry about the joke. ...Now that I think about it, I may need to edit this whole thread. So to not confuse others. [which I just did]

I am very happy that your situation is changing for the better & I hope things continue in the positive direction for you. But yes, reflection itself is very good.

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I do it. Too much actually. I don't forgive myself for my mistakes either and it makes me hard to move forward. My thing usually is to beat myself up, telling myself I am too old to continue to do this stupid shit. :sigh:

The worst part is I am smart enough to know I am doing the wrong thing at the time and do it anyway.

Stymie said:

I do it. Too much actually. I don't forgive myself for my mistakes either and it makes me hard to move forward. My thing usually is to beat myself up, telling myself I am too old to continue to do this stupid shit. The worst part is I am smart enough to know I am doing the wrong thing at the time and do it anyway.

I totally understand. I find myself doing it a lot too. I do try to forgive myself [& whoever else is affect by such decisions].

i cannot spend any time dwellin on the past

i seen nothin to be gained in such wastful thinkin.

whut has been HAS been, nothin any-one can do can

change whut has been done.

i live my life NOW so that i can live better the day ahead of me.

that plain is there because a lot of whut i say

will just go over peoples heads

KingBAD said:

i cannot spend any time dwellin on the past

i seen nothin to be gained in such wastful thinkin.

whut has been HAS been, nothin any-one can do can

change whut has been done.

i live my life NOW so that i can live better the day ahead of me.

that plain is there because a lot of whut i say

will just go over peoples heads

I feel you [it didn't go over my head ].

Tittypants said:

KingBAD said:

i cannot spend any time dwellin on the past

i seen nothin to be gained in such wastful thinkin.

whut has been HAS been, nothin any-one can do can

change whut has been done.

i live my life NOW so that i can live better the day ahead of me.

that plain is there because a lot of whut i say

will just go over peoples heads

I feel you [it didn't go over my head ].

i wasn't referrin to you

i was talkin about the geniouses...

they know how to spell, but they

don't know how to think.

KingBAD said:

Tittypants said:

I feel you [it didn't go over my head ].

i wasn't referrin to you

i was talkin about the geniouses...

they know how to spell, but they

don't know how to think.

Okay.

I think that it's natural for people to do that.

It's unhealthy when it consumes us and we dwell on it for far too long.

Tittypants said:

How many of you reflect on the problems you have/had in your life & say "I fucked up" or "I am @ fault" for something that has happened to you? I can sit here & go over countless things that I know I am @ fault for & acknowledge the fact that if I was more mature or more thoughtful & patient about some things, maybe things could have turned out totally different. [Positively or Negatively]

In fact, it used to be my default response.

Stymie said:

I do it. Too much actually. I don't forgive myself for my mistakes either and it makes me hard to move forward. My thing usually is to beat myself up, telling myself I am too old to continue to do this stupid shit. The worst part is I am smart enough to know I am doing the wrong thing at the time and do it anyway.

I'm exactly the same way.