JustErin said:

Um I don't know about your mustache dude and his approach.

The guy in the article didn't make any effort apart from being good looking.

NDRU said:

I don't know for sure. It was an actual dating site as opposed to a sex one
I thought the article was Australian at first but it was a reprint from a US newspaper

ZombieKitten said:

Maybe your guy actually IS different - you need to ask HIM what his success rate is.

I don't find it hilarious at all, it's sad

ZombieKitten said:

ZombieKitten said:

Um I don't know about your mustache dude and his approach. The guy in the article didn't make any effort apart from being good looking.

Maybe your guy actually IS different - you need to ask HIM what his success rate is. I don't find it hilarious at all, it's sad

I know a guy, good looking and all, who joined such a dating site and hardly made any effort either to bang dozens or more of women.

Then after a couple of years he found the love of his life and married her. They now have a wonderful house and child together.

For real.

Tremolina said:

On the site??

ZombieKitten said:

ZombieKitten said:

Um I don't know about your mustache dude and his approach. The guy in the article didn't make any effort apart from being good looking.

Maybe your guy actually IS different - you need to ask HIM what his success rate is. I don't find it hilarious at all, it's sad

You find dating sites sad?

ZombieKitten said:

Tremolina said:

I know a guy, good looking and all, who joined such a dating site and hardly made any effort either to bang dozens or more of women.

Then after a couple of years he found the love of his life and married her. They now have a wonderful house and child together.

For real.

On the site??

Yup

I didn't like dating sites... I tried a few out and it seemed to have people who were just trolling for sex.

The worst part was that the guys were on the sites just for sex for a lack of something better to do.

After a couple of honest tries I deleted my profile. You are better off finding someone in a discussion forum for a specific interest (like this site and others similar to it). At least there the people aren't just there looking for sex, they come to share ideas and you get to know people that way.

paintedlady said:

I didn't like dating sites... I tried a few out and it seemed to have people who were just trolling for sex.

The worst part was that the guys were on the sites just for sex for a lack of something better to do.

After a couple of honest tries I deleted my profile. You are better off finding someone in a discussion forum for a specific interest (like this site and others similar to it). At least there the people aren't just there looking for sex, they come to share ideas and you get to know people that way.

Not every dude is just looking for sex. Some guys are in the same boat as me. I just weed out the creeps right away.

JustErin said:

paintedlady said:

I didn't like dating sites... I tried a few out and it seemed to have people who were just trolling for sex.

The worst part was that the guys were on the sites just for sex for a lack of something better to do.

After a couple of honest tries I deleted my profile. You are better off finding someone in a discussion forum for a specific interest (like this site and others similar to it). At least there the people aren't just there looking for sex, they come to share ideas and you get to know people that way.

Not every dude is just looking for sex. Some guys are in the same boat as me. I just weed out the creeps right away.

Yeah, but the decent guys are far a few inbetween the sites I visited... also depends on your area. If I cast a wide net (the whole USA) then lots of nice guys can be found... but in my area??

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

ZombieKitten said: Maybe your guy actually IS different - you need to ask HIM what his success rate is. I don't find it hilarious at all, it's sad

You find dating sites sad?

yeah, depressing

the way some women just sleep with the guys they meet hoping that it might turn out to be more, when in reality it's pretty obvious the guys that are on there just want sex. Regardless of what each party seeks in reality, it seems like what they GET out of it mostly are empty couplings without any real connection - and that's pretty sad to me.

but that's just what I've heard from you, other people on here, or newspaper articles. I've never actually even seen a dating site I also hear of success stories - people who really DO meet the loves of their lives. But then, that article on the other thread about men not marrying for love makes me totally depressed too.

I'm going to be a hermit I swear I can't handle it any more!!!!

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

You find dating sites sad?

yeah, depressing

the way some women just sleep with the guys they meet hoping that it might turn out to be more, when in reality it's pretty obvious the guys that are on there just want sex. Regardless of what each party seeks in reality, it seems like what they GET out of it mostly are empty couplings without any real connection - and that's pretty sad to me.

but that's just what I've heard from you, other people on here, or newspaper articles. I've never actually even seen a dating site I also hear of success stories - people who really DO meet the loves of their lives. But then, that article on the other thread about men not marrying for love makes me totally depressed too.

I'm going to be a hermit I swear I can't handle it any more!!!!

Well, I've only ever met two dudes from a dating site. One I was with for over a year and it was fucked up serious, and the other I wasn't feeling it so nothing came from it, except him texting me for a few weeks looking to at least hook up...which I, of course, didn't go for.

I don't know what other women are doing on there, nor do I care but I'm not on there banging dudes hoping they will like me.

This time around I've had 412 dudes contact me (or so the stupid stats tell me). I've ignored almost every single one of them except maybe a half dozen and only agreed to meet one of them so far. Yeah, the number of good guys on there is low and most of them are obviously looking for sex, but I just don't reply or tell them I'm not interested if we talk and that's what they want. No biggie for me, but I guess insecure, silly girls might do anything to make some dude like her.

But I do find those messages trolling for sex entertaining, though.

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

He's not different at all. All he wants is casual sex with no strings attached. He thinks that coming at it from this angle will fool the ladies into thinking he's worth a try out.I read an article in the newspaper about a divorcé who joined eharmony or RSVP and basically slept with 200 women in the first year. Internet dating turned him into an asshole because the seemingly endless choices and opportunities made him shy away from actually picking one SPECIAL lady and actually focusing on her instead of on to the next one. He hadn't intended for that to happen, but it made him depressed and cynical and he was just using the sex to ease his numbness, not realizing that THAT was the cause of his numbness.

eHarmony, you say?

Yeah, she did...

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

yeah, depressing

the way some women just sleep with the guys they meet hoping that it might turn out to be more, when in reality it's pretty obvious the guys that are on there just want sex. Regardless of what each party seeks in reality, it seems like what they GET out of it mostly are empty couplings without any real connection - and that's pretty sad to me.

but that's just what I've heard from you, other people on here, or newspaper articles. I've never actually even seen a dating site I also hear of success stories - people who really DO meet the loves of their lives. But then, that article on the other thread about men not marrying for love makes me totally depressed too.

I'm going to be a hermit I swear I can't handle it any more!!!!

Well, I've only ever met two dudes from a dating site. One I was with for over a year and it was fucked up serious, and the other I wasn't feeling it so nothing came from it, except him texting me for a few weeks looking to at least hook up...which I, of course, didn't go for.

I don't know what other women are doing on there, nor do I care but I'm not on there banging dudes hoping they will like me.

This time around I've had 412 dudes contact me (or so the stupid stats tell me). I've ignored almost every single one of them except maybe a half dozen and only agreed to meet one of them so far. Yeah, the number of good guys on there is low and most of them are obviously looking for sex, but I just don't reply or tell them I'm not interested if we talk and that's what they want. No biggie for me, but I guess insecure, silly girls might do anything to make some dude like her.

But I do find those messages trolling for sex entertaining, though.

I find these dating sites a little dodgy, but I guess it really depends on how you prefer to meet someone. I signed up on few dating sites few years ago, and I ended up being totally confused. I know from life experience, that I always got disappointed by dates that were attractive, and had the best time with people that I would never thought I'd go on a date. I'm talking about how I met and went on a date in real life not dating sites.

So I guess on this premise, I know I'd never figure out how online dating works. With me it's only about chemistry.

I guess I may take up the online challenge sometime again, and see what creeps are out there.

[Edited 10/11/12 20:08pm]

PurpleJedi said:

NDRU said:

eHarmony, you say?

Yeah, she did...

And craigslist. Craigslist is a good place to land some booty...so I've been told.

Adisa said:

PurpleJedi said:

Yeah, she did...

And craigslist. Craigslist is a good place to land some booty...so I've been told.

ESPECIALLY if you're willing to pay her for, uhm, "gas money".

PurpleJedi said:

Adisa said:

And craigslist. Craigslist is a good place to land some booty...so I've been told.

ESPECIALLY if you're willing to pay her for, uhm, "gas money".

U nasty! We had thread about gas here a while ago.

OzlemUcucu said:

PurpleJedi said:

ESPECIALLY if you're willing to pay her for, uhm, "gas money".

U nasty! We had thread about gas here a while ago.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

yeah, depressing

the way some women just sleep with the guys they meet hoping that it might turn out to be more, when in reality it's pretty obvious the guys that are on there just want sex. Regardless of what each party seeks in reality, it seems like what they GET out of it mostly are empty couplings without any real connection - and that's pretty sad to me.

but that's just what I've heard from you, other people on here, or newspaper articles. I've never actually even seen a dating site I also hear of success stories - people who really DO meet the loves of their lives. But then, that article on the other thread about men not marrying for love makes me totally depressed too.

I'm going to be a hermit I swear I can't handle it any more!!!!

Well, I've only ever met two dudes from a dating site. One I was with for over a year and it was fucked up serious, and the other I wasn't feeling it so nothing came from it, except him texting me for a few weeks looking to at least hook up...which I, of course, didn't go for.

I don't know what other women are doing on there, nor do I care but I'm not on there banging dudes hoping they will like me.

This time around I've had 412 dudes contact me (or so the stupid stats tell me). I've ignored almost every single one of them except maybe a half dozen and only agreed to meet one of them so far. Yeah, the number of good guys on there is low and most of them are obviously looking for sex, but I just don't reply or tell them I'm not interested if we talk and that's what they want. No biggie for me, but I guess insecure, silly girls might do anything to make some dude like her.

But I do find those messages trolling for sex entertaining, though.

oh no, I never meant to insinuate you did, of course. I meant from you I've learned men are on dating sites trolling for sex and that makes sense - where can they get sex in real life except hookers when they are such losers

and silly girls come in all ages and from all kinds of backgrounds, messed up, desperate etc - ever hopeful to meet the one. They might be lacking in common sense but I still feel bad for them when they are taken advantage of, because they are losers too. I'm sure each hook-up breeds regret and self-loathing when the guy doesn't call again, or tells her she's a dog etc.

And just so I'm not misunderstood, I know decent people are on there too, present company included.

JustErin said:

I'm constantly being accused of being a fake account, especially when I don't reply to people I am not interested in. I always get another message telling me I am fake.

Not responding is one of the worst things you can do...the message goes from "You're the hottest thing ever" to "Who the f**k do you think you are?" in a split second.

robertlove said:

JustErin said:

I'm constantly being accused of being a fake account, especially when I don't reply to people I am not interested in. I always get another message telling me I am fake.

Not responding is one of the worst things you can do...the message goes from "You're the hottest thing ever" to "Who the f**k do you think you are?" in a split second.

that applies to cat calls in the street too

what does an attractive woman "owe" those losers

ZombieKitten said:

robertlove said:

Not responding is one of the worst things you can do...the message goes from "You're the hottest thing ever" to "Who the f**k do you think you are?" in a split second.

that applies to cat calls in the street too

what does an attractive woman "owe" those losers

Yeah, but you ignored mine.

kewlschool said:

Helps if you're in the same street as me

JustErin said:

I was on over a year ago, only went on one date and ended up getting into a relationship with that dude so logged off the site after about 2 weeks.

Well, I thought I would give it another try. This time I've been on for a couple of months. Maybe I'm being way too picky because I've only gone out once with one guy but I wasn't feeling it at all with him so no go there (thankfully he has finally stopped texting me looking for sex).

And maybe now I'm looking at this whole experience as more of a form of entertainment.

I got this message recently from a 44 year old man with a big old grey moustache:

After reading your profile, I was very intrigued by what you mention.... This may seem as little different from the entire letter you’ve received…. Well to this I say …I’m different… and looking to find a friend with benefits.I have a high sex drive but i am not interested in just having sex with anyone......Friends first and then chemistry.....I like to be very sexually creative and I will give you an example:

…First would like to enter a candle light room with Jacuzzi …bottle of champagne (chilled)…We enter the Jacuzzi and consume the champagne…Second…. Would like to caress you from the neck down…. Third message every muscle of your body to relax you…. Either hot oil or lotion…Fourth the ability to help you achieve a climax using sex toy or my tongue to a point where her whole body shake.. And finally …If at that time you which to have sex…. Well I’ll leave up to you to ask…. I will give it my 150% to fullfil your fantasy.…I’m also good with my hands

I am looking for a long term friend with benefits and someone who can be discreet and sexually creative...

Looking forward to hearing from you

I do hope you will express your opinion regarding this email...and then we can discuss any change in the event to follow…Hope to hear from you soon...Please grant me your email address and we will talk on MSN messenger.

I could not stop laughing as I read it. Do women actually like messages like this?

Sounds like one of them Nigerian rip off guys.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

Well, I've only ever met two dudes from a dating site. One I was with for over a year and it was fucked up serious, and the other I wasn't feeling it so nothing came from it, except him texting me for a few weeks looking to at least hook up...which I, of course, didn't go for.

I don't know what other women are doing on there, nor do I care but I'm not on there banging dudes hoping they will like me.

This time around I've had 412 dudes contact me (or so the stupid stats tell me). I've ignored almost every single one of them except maybe a half dozen and only agreed to meet one of them so far. Yeah, the number of good guys on there is low and most of them are obviously looking for sex, but I just don't reply or tell them I'm not interested if we talk and that's what they want. No biggie for me, but I guess insecure, silly girls might do anything to make some dude like her.

But I do find those messages trolling for sex entertaining, though.

oh no, I never meant to insinuate you did, of course. I meant from you I've learned men are on dating sites trolling for sex and that makes sense - where can they get sex in real life except hookers when they are such losers

and silly girls come in all ages and from all kinds of backgrounds, messed up, desperate etc - ever hopeful to meet the one. They might be lacking in common sense but I still feel bad for them when they are taken advantage of, because they are losers too. I'm sure each hook-up breeds regret and self-loathing when the guy doesn't call again, or tells her she's a dog etc.

And just so I'm not misunderstood, I know decent people are on there too, present company included.

But women like that will do this no matter where they meet men. You see it when you go out to clubs.

What I am noticing the most on these sites is that a lot of married men are on there trolling. It's so easy for them, they don't even have to go out to meet women now. They do all their "networking" from the comfort of their home right under their wives' noses.

I was talking to one dude a little, never agreed to meet him then one night I saw him out with his wife and two kids. I told him the next day that I thought he had a cute family and later that day he deleted his account (or at least that account).

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

oh no, I never meant to insinuate you did, of course. I meant from you I've learned men are on dating sites trolling for sex and that makes sense - where can they get sex in real life except hookers when they are such losers

and silly girls come in all ages and from all kinds of backgrounds, messed up, desperate etc - ever hopeful to meet the one. They might be lacking in common sense but I still feel bad for them when they are taken advantage of, because they are losers too. I'm sure each hook-up breeds regret and self-loathing when the guy doesn't call again, or tells her she's a dog etc.

And just so I'm not misunderstood, I know decent people are on there too, present company included.

But women like that will do this no matter where they meet men. You see it when you go out to clubs.

What I am noticing the most on these sites is that a lot of married men are on there trolling. It's so easy for them, they don't even have to go out to meet women now. They do all their "networking" from the comfort of their home right under their wives' noses.

I was talking to one dude a little, never agreed to meet him then one night I saw him out with his wife and two kids. I told him the next day that I thought he had a cute family and later that day he deleted his account (or at least that account).

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

oh no, I never meant to insinuate you did, of course. I meant from you I've learned men are on dating sites trolling for sex and that makes sense - where can they get sex in real life except hookers when they are such losers

and silly girls come in all ages and from all kinds of backgrounds, messed up, desperate etc - ever hopeful to meet the one. They might be lacking in common sense but I still feel bad for them when they are taken advantage of, because they are losers too. I'm sure each hook-up breeds regret and self-loathing when the guy doesn't call again, or tells her she's a dog etc.

And just so I'm not misunderstood, I know decent people are on there too, present company included.

But women like that will do this no matter where they meet men. You see it when you go out to clubs.

What I am noticing the most on these sites is that a lot of married men are on there trolling. It's so easy for them, they don't even have to go out to meet women now. They do all their "networking" from the comfort of their home right under their wives' noses.

I was talking to one dude a little, never agreed to meet him then one night I saw him out with his wife and two kids. I told him the next day that I thought he had a cute family and later that day he deleted his account (or at least that account).

Yes, girls do seem to have one goal in life; get attention from boys. Somehow, society (movies, songs etc) has tought these girls that their status depends on how many boy would want to f*uck them.

So, in order to get a high position on the girls status ladder, they please guys (dressing slutty, laughin at stupid jokes, being insecure) in stead of guarding their own happiness.

And the sad consequence of men's behavior is that women can't believe a man's words. Can you really blame a woman, for believing what a man says to her? Or is it a woman's fault if she is so naive to think what the man is saying to her, actually is the truth?

I mean, I would want to be able to belief a guy. However, if I do that, I'm naive and I my heart gets broken again.

Is it my fault that I believed Londonboy his "I love you so much, let's build a life together"?

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

JustErin said:

I was on over a year ago, only went on one date and ended up getting into a relationship with that dude so logged off the site after about 2 weeks.

Well, I thought I would give it another try. This time I've been on for a couple of months. Maybe I'm being way too picky because I've only gone out once with one guy but I wasn't feeling it at all with him so no go there (thankfully he has finally stopped texting me looking for sex).

And maybe now I'm looking at this whole experience as more of a form of entertainment.

I got this message recently from a 44 year old man with a big old grey moustache:

After reading your profile, I was very intrigued by what you mention.... This may seem as little different from the entire letter you’ve received…. Well to this I say …I’m different… and looking to find a friend with benefits.I have a high sex drive but i am not interested in just having sex with anyone......Friends first and then chemistry.....I like to be very sexually creative and I will give you an example:

…First would like to enter a candle light room with Jacuzzi …bottle of champagne (chilled)…We enter the Jacuzzi and consume the champagne…Second…. Would like to caress you from the neck down…. Third message every muscle of your body to relax you…. Either hot oil or lotion…Fourth the ability to help you achieve a climax using sex toy or my tongue to a point where her whole body shake.. And finally …If at that time you which to have sex…. Well I’ll leave up to you to ask…. I will give it my 150% to fullfil your fantasy.…I’m also good with my hands

I am looking for a long term friend with benefits and someone who can be discreet and sexually creative...

Looking forward to hearing from you

I do hope you will express your opinion regarding this email...and then we can discuss any change in the event to follow…Hope to hear from you soon...Please grant me your email address and we will talk on MSN messenger.

I could not stop laughing as I read it. Do women actually like messages like this?

How is any of this "sexually creative"? Sounds pretty predictable to me.

that's what he's holding the flowers for in his picture, and the things he intends to do with them

dJJ said:

JustErin said:

But women like that will do this no matter where they meet men. You see it when you go out to clubs.

What I am noticing the most on these sites is that a lot of married men are on there trolling. It's so easy for them, they don't even have to go out to meet women now. They do all their "networking" from the comfort of their home right under their wives' noses.

I was talking to one dude a little, never agreed to meet him then one night I saw him out with his wife and two kids. I told him the next day that I thought he had a cute family and later that day he deleted his account (or at least that account).

Yes, girls do seem to have one goal in life; get attention from boys. Somehow, society (movies, songs etc) has tought these girls that their status depends on how many boy would want to f*uck them.

So, in order to get a high position on the girls status ladder, they please guys (dressing slutty, laughin at stupid jokes, being insecure) in stead of guarding their own happiness.

And the sad consequence of men's behavior is that women can't believe a man's words. Can you really blame a woman, for believing what a man says to her? Or is it a woman's fault if she is so naive to think what the man is saying to her, actually is the truth?

I mean, I would want to be able to belief a guy. However, if I do that, I'm naive and I my heart gets broken again.

Is it my fault that I believed Londonboy his "I love you so much, let's build a life together"?

I know exactly what you're saying.

I was given a promise in my last relationship and it was broken. That is the hardest thing about the whole situation. Everything else I have dealt with but that one broken promise just stings so bad and probably will forever. I have always been more of a Doubting Thomas but this last relationship absolutely makes me not trusting of any dude, no matter what they say. I now just brush off anything I'm told as probably insincere, but that said, I'm not willing to just cut them out of my life.

Maybe I'll never fully trust anyone again, but maybe I will.

JustErin said:

dJJ said:

Yes, girls do seem to have one goal in life; get attention from boys. Somehow, society (movies, songs etc) has tought these girls that their status depends on how many boy would want to f*uck them.

So, in order to get a high position on the girls status ladder, they please guys (dressing slutty, laughin at stupid jokes, being insecure) in stead of guarding their own happiness.

And the sad consequence of men's behavior is that women can't believe a man's words. Can you really blame a woman, for believing what a man says to her? Or is it a woman's fault if she is so naive to think what the man is saying to her, actually is the truth?

I mean, I would want to be able to belief a guy. However, if I do that, I'm naive and I my heart gets broken again.

Is it my fault that I believed Londonboy his "I love you so much, let's build a life together"?

I know exactly what you're saying.

I was given a promise in my last relationship and it was broken. That is the hardest thing about the whole situation. Everything else I have dealt with but that one broken promise just stings so bad and probably will forever. I have always been more of a Doubting Thomas but this last relationship absolutely makes me not trusting of any dude, no matter what they say. I now just brush off anything I'm told as probably insincere, but that said, I'm not willing to just cut them out of my life.

Maybe I'll never fully trust anyone again, but maybe I will.

Yep.

Well, for me the pain from London was more than I could handle at that moment.

Since then, I'm doing fine as a hermit, getting my life in order.

Getting lied to anyways. Found out the plumber is a part of scam group.

And owner of floor company took 'secretly' pictures of me, pretending to make pictures of the floor. And scrued me over, so people who were supposed to rent my house, couldn't move in yet.

I'm so done with guys not being able to discipline themselves, and therefore hurt women. Just because they can.

Hermit life for me. For now at least.