ZombieKitten said:

Beautifulstarr123 said:

I have taken the impression that he felt this way about you, since the courtship, and that you were compromising your expectations to be with him. I was baffled because 13 years is a long time for your spouse to put up that type of front, unless I hate to say it, there's someone else at the present time, and he's just saying this, to get out of the relationship, I don't know

Those are all things I can see NOW in hindsight within the context of what I know now (the last paragraph - what I've known since last year, the rest is stuff I've been dwelling on in the last few months)

Ok, you did state in so many words that you're going through a very confusing time. You're trying to piece it all together, and that's understandable. Wishing you the best