missfee said:

daPrettyman said:

It ticks me off also. I have planned a couple of family reunions and it is SO HARD to get folks to to RSVP. I have even gone as far as to include email addresses, phone numbers and stamped post cards and the response is still not well. When you ask them why didn't they respond, you always end up getting a lame excuse.

Don't even mention getting them to pay their money on time!!

Urgh, family reunions are the worse. I feel for you. I'd never plan any of that mess. And yes MESS is what it turns out to be. You got folks there who did RSVP and paid their money, even if was just paid the day before, and somebody of somebody of somebody brings Lil' Junie's uncle's son and he brings his girlfriend and her three kids, etc. and NONE have paid a dime yet gone on over to the grill and made up some EXTRA plates to take home just like they have done grocery shopping.

I totally feel u on that!!

In 2005, our family hosted the family reunion. We decided to go to a hotel for a banquet. It was a really nice NEW hotel in Austin, TX. We sent letters, emails, postcards and CALLED people to see if they were coming and to let them know we had to have an ACCURATE head count for the hotel. Do you know that about 10 people showed up that said they were not coming? They then got attitudes when we told them that they would have to pay an extra $10 at the door due to the hotel charging for extra meals.

It just ticks me off dealing with family. If my family has to do it again, it will be a free-for-all. Hot dogs and chips all around!

daPrettyman said:

missfee said:

Urgh, family reunions are the worse. I feel for you. I'd never plan any of that mess. And yes MESS is what it turns out to be. You got folks there who did RSVP and paid their money, even if was just paid the day before, and somebody of somebody of somebody brings Lil' Junie's uncle's son and he brings his girlfriend and her three kids, etc. and NONE have paid a dime yet gone on over to the grill and made up some EXTRA plates to take home just like they have done grocery shopping.

I totally feel u on that!!

In 2005, our family hosted the family reunion. We decided to go to a hotel for a banquet. It was a really nice NEW hotel in Austin, TX. We sent letters, emails, postcards and CALLED people to see if they were coming and to let them know we had to have an ACCURATE head count for the hotel. Do you know that about 10 people showed up that said they were not coming? They then got attitudes when we told them that they would have to pay an extra $10 at the door due to the hotel charging for extra meals.

It just ticks me off dealing with family. If my family has to do it again, it will be a free-for-all. Hot dogs and chips all around!

Very true. Family, for some reason, are the WORSE when it comes to RSVP. They feel that just because they are family that they should "automatically" be counted in and don't call, don't send in no cards, nothing. And when you have to pick up the phone to CALL THEM, something I hate to do and feel like I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO DO, then they get this attitude as if "umm yeah I guess I'm coming, we should be there". WTF? You KNOW if you are coming or not. Stop acting like it should be a "pleasue" for you to be in my company where if you going to have that type of snobbish attitude, then you can stay your ass at home.

And don't get me started on the ones who have confirmed way back that they are coming but when it gets closer to the date, you do a common courtesy (well at least I do) to make sure hotel plans are straight and willing to help, if they need help for hotel, airport, rental car info, try to get an idea of when they arrive in town so I can greet them...then these fools talking about "well, I'm not sure if I'm going still because my money not looking right." WTF? People are full of shit sometimes. You know from the beginning if your money is going to be funny around the time of an event and even if it was actually the case of something that had come up (car trouble repairs, house repairs, emergencies, etc.) then I SHOULD HAD RECEIVED A PHONE CALL FROM YOU FIRST with this change in plan information.

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Don't even get me started on stag dos (bucks night, batchelor parties) Dudes alone and they are even worse. Then after giving you the run around for weeks and not frontin with the cash the ones that turn up get you fucked up by 7pm and tie you to a fucking lamp post covered in paint ball brusies. (the stag, not the lamp post)

lust said:

Don't even get me started on stag dos (bucks night, batchelor parties) Dudes alone and they are even worse. Then after giving you the run around for weeks and not frontin with the cash the ones that turn up get you fucked up by 7pm and tie you to a fucking lamp post covered in paint ball brusies. (the stag, not the lamp post)

I have a couple of friends and family who I know won't respond to RSVP's yet 8 times out of 10 they show up. I make allowances and count them as a yes. Getting hot bothered, pissed off is a waste to time and energy.

TD3 said:

I have a couple of friends and family who I know won't respond to RSVP's yet 8 times out of 10 they show up. I make allowances and count them as a yes. Getting hot bothered, pissed off is a waste to time and energy.

Maybe, but it's a human trait. So it's going to happen with most folks who work hard to plan events to accomodate their guests when some can't give a common courtesy to even respond when an RSVP is requested.

missfee said:

TD3 said:

I have a couple of friends and family who I know won't respond to RSVP's yet 8 times out of 10 they show up. I make allowances and count them as a yes. Getting hot bothered, pissed off is a waste to time and energy.

Maybe, but it's a human trait. So it's going to happen with most folks who work hard to plan events to accomodate their guests when some can't give a common courtesy to even respond when an RSVP is requested.

I wholeheartedly agree but I've learned to pick my battles with people in my life. For me this has become pretty much a known issue... if they show up fine, if they don't fine.