I claim my wife's fist kids as my own, to me there's no such thing as step this nor step that, I feel they are mine,heck, they are mine!!! I guess this question is for the fellas who are in situations like this. Their father and I have a communication, I don't put my hands on them because I would not want another man to put his hands on my children,but I do discipline them when they are out of hand. And we all love each one another and they have great respect for me.

Unless the children themselves have a problem with you, then nah it's not, especially if their father is cool with it.

I don't have children but I would open my heart and home to kids who were not mine as long as we establish some rules of respect in the home. I applaud you for taking them on and am glad you are friendly with their father. I'd love to do away with the labels from society as well, if I were to adopt a child I'd always refer to that child as my own without regards to their nationality, once its official then they are my family.

fred12 said:

I claim my wife's fist kids as my own, to me there's no such thing as step this nor step that, I feel they are mine,heck, they are mine!!!

Apparently there is.

I guess this question is for the fellas who are in situations like this. Their father and I have a communication, I don't put my hands on them because I would not want another man to put his hands on my children,but I do discipline them when they are out of hand. And we all love each one another and they have great respect for me.

But you're okay with putting your hands on "your own" children? Why is that okay? They're not your property. It's not up to you to do with them as you please even if you're their biological father.

EvilAngel said:

fred12 said:

I claim my wife's fist kids as my own, to me there's no such thing as step this nor step that, I feel they are mine,heck, they are mine!!!

Apparently there is.

I guess this question is for the fellas who are in situations like this. Their father and I have a communication, I don't put my hands on them because I would not want another man to put his hands on my children,but I do discipline them when they are out of hand. And we all love each one another and they have great respect for me.

But you're okay with putting your hands on "your own" children? Why is that okay? They're not your property. It's not up to you to do with them as you please even if you're their biological father.

I was going to ask a similar question. But where I disagree with you is that as a parent he is fully entitled to smack his own children. Smacking is NOT abuse. But that's a whole 'nother thread.

EvilAngel said:

fred12 said:

I claim my wife's fist kids as my own, to me there's no such thing as step this nor step that, I feel they are mine,heck, they are mine!!!

Apparently there is.

I guess this question is for the fellas who are in situations like this. Their father and I have a communication, I don't put my hands on them because I would not want another man to put his hands on my children,but I do discipline them when they are out of hand. And we all love each one another and they have great respect for me.

But you're okay with putting your hands on "your own" children? Why is that okay? They're not your property. It's not up to you to do with them as you please even if you're their biological father.

How the fuck did you deduce that from what was written??

EvilAngel said:

fred12 said:

I claim my wife's fist kids as my own, to me there's no such thing as step this nor step that, I feel they are mine,heck, they are mine!!!

Apparently there is.

I guess this question is for the fellas who are in situations like this. Their father and I have a communication, I don't put my hands on them because I would not want another man to put his hands on my children,but I do discipline them when they are out of hand. And we all love each one another and they have great respect for me.

But you're okay with putting your hands on "your own" children? Why is that okay? They're not your property. It's not up to you to do with them as you please even if you're their biological father.

Never once said I hit my children!!! There are more ways to discipline your kids

dannyd5050 said:

EvilAngel said:

But you're okay with putting your hands on "your own" children? Why is that okay? They're not your property. It's not up to you to do with them as you please even if you're their biological father.

How the fuck did you deduce that from what was written??

Easy, the only reason he gave for not putting his hands on them was that he said he wouldn't like it if another man put his hands on his children and not that he was against corporal punishment in general. Sure what he said doesn't necessarily mean he's pro's CP, but still....

yes and no.....

If it's a child from a former relationship and things are out in the in the open then things shouls be fine BUT if the child came from an affair that's is another story.... That can be hella hard to deal with.

I adopted a dog I thought was from just a friend of my ex's, turned out it was from my exe's lover. That was hard for me to deal with even though the pooch was a sweetheart and we had many enjoyable years together, I always looked at him, (once I found out), as the bastard child of my ex. I never mistreated the dog.

I cannot imagine dealing with a child that was born during an affair even though the child is innocent, but if I had to I would never mistreat the child.

Dunno, I've never been in that situation. But once I was making out with a woman I was dating and that was 40 at the time and I was 30 and then her son that was 20 and not living with her anymore walked through the door with his own key and I was like should I call him "son".

Just wanted to contribute.

nammie said:

yes and no.....

If it's a child from a former relationship and things are out in the in the open then things shouls be fine BUT if the child came from an affair that's is another story.... That can be hella hard to deal with.

I adopted a dog I thought was from just a friend of my ex's, turned out it was from my exe's lover. That was hard for me to deal with even though the pooch was a sweetheart and we had many enjoyable years together, I always looked at him, (once I found out), as the bastard child of my ex. I never mistreated the dog.

I cannot imagine dealing with a child that was born during an affair even though the child is innocent, but if I had to I would never mistreat the child.

The way I look at it, a child didn't ask to be born, and neither did the dog. Therefore, I see no justification for mistreatment (not saying you did).

Timmy84 said:

Unless the children themselves have a problem with you, then nah it's not, especially if their father is cool with it.

Beautifulstarr123 said:

nammie said:

yes and no.....

If it's a child from a former relationship and things are out in the in the open then things should be fine BUT if the child came from an affair that's is another story.... That can be hella hard to deal with.

I adopted a dog I thought was from just a friend of my ex's, turned out it was from my exe's lover. That was hard for me to deal with even though the pooch was a sweetheart and we had many enjoyable years together, I always looked at him, (once I found out), as the bastard child of my ex. I never mistreated the dog.

I cannot imagine dealing with a child that was born during an affair even though the child is innocent, but if I had to I would never mistreat the child.

The way I look at it, a child didn't ask to be born, and neither did the dog. Therefore, I see no justification for mistreatment (not saying you did).

I hear you and I agree.

I was amazed and ashamed at how much an innocent animal bothered me. But the good thing was it was the dog that alerted me to my ex'es affair so I have so much to be greatful for -- that dog gave me the last bit of info I needed.

He lived his life with love and was spoiled just as all our animals are here. I miss him and think of him often Tonic may you rest in peace and thank you for all you did for me.

if u genuinely care for both the man and the child then no it should not be hard at all

ofcourse there will be trying moments but thats no duifferent from raising your own kids

its important that the child feels loved and accepted - if that is not the case then there will always be difficulty