Hudson said:

I'm 33, never been married, no kids, single(but I'm never lonely, LOL) and yes I'm straight! lol!

KidaDynamite said:

Tittypants said:

I just turned 30 in July. I am not single.

Not single, huh?

Let's see a pic of you. You know how some women like to throw themselves at 'not single' men.

missfee said:

Well I won't be there until I turn 30 on the 30th of this month....but where are the single 30's folks at on the org???

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38...not single...most of my adult life has been pretty blah...been working for few years to change that...been having some fun doing so.

Adisa said:

missfee said:

Well I won't be there until I turn 30 on the 30th of this month....but where are the single 30's folks at on the org???

[Edited 9/12/12 5:41am]

38...not single...most of my adult life has been pretty blah...been working for few years to change that...been having some fun doing so.

Abdul said:

I'm 33, never been married, no kids, single(but I'm never lonely, LOL) and yes I'm straight! lol!

Clinging onto my 30's (38)

Married

Career

2 kids

dog

house

2 cars

3 holidays a year

Middle of a Midlife crisis

PREDOMINANT said:

I am 29, I'll be 30 next year. I do not have any children and I am single. The worst thing that anybody can say to me is: Why are you single? Your way too good looking to be single? Why dont you have kids? They act like you did something wrong, or your choose to be single without kids. Naw, I didnt choose this, things have just worked out like this.

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Just turned 30 in June.

Girl4both said:

I am 29, I'll be 30 next year. I do not have any children and I am single. The worst thing that anybody can say to me is: Why are you single? Your way too good looking to be single? Why dont you have kids? They act like you did something wrong, or your choose to be single without kids. Naw, I didnt choose this, things have just worked out like this.

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I get really, really irritated with this too, I think it's stupid to put yourself through something you know you don't want, and selfish to have children if you truly don't want them though having them is a great thing too.

Spinlight said:

Just turned 30 in June.

Happy Belated birthday.

Girl4both said:

I am 29, I'll be 30 next year. I do not have any children and I am single. The worst thing that anybody can say to me is: Why are you single? Your way too good looking to be single? Why dont you have kids? They act like you did something wrong, or your choose to be single without kids. Naw, I didnt choose this, things have just worked out like this.

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I totally understand 200%. I get the questions too. The "So have you met anyone new lately?", "Have you tried online dating?", "Any single guys at church or work?". Urgh. The attitude is that something is highly wrong with this picture if you are independent, no kids, good career and no boyfriend. I'm not desperate. If I was, I would had stayed with the worthless fucker I wasted 4 years of my 20's on. I always feel that when folks give the billion and one questions like this that in some way they resent the fact that I'm single with no kids and they aren't.

31

car

job I like: 5 years

renting: no roommates yay but this rent keeps going up

Single

met someone this summer I really liked but they had to move away just as we were getting to know each other (3 meetings)

Cinny said:

31

car

job I like: 5 years

renting: no roommates yay but this rent keeps going up

Single

met someone this summer I really liked but they had to move away just as we were getting to know each other (3 meetings)

missfee said:

Cinny said:

31

car

job I like: 5 years

renting: no roommates yay but this rent keeps going up

Single

met someone this summer I really liked but they had to move away just as we were getting to know each other (3 meetings)

Yeah, the closest I got to a summer luv I think.

I will be 35 next month, single with no kids. The biological clock has not started ticking yet but I'm not excited about approaching advanced maternal age either.

Man we haven't checked in on our ages for a long time because I thought everyone was still in their late 20s and felt like only I was getting older

Cinny said:

Man we haven't checked in on our ages for a long time because I thought everyone was still in their late 20s and felt like only I was getting older

We're all still young though.

good job cinny

I have the car

job

degree (want to try for post-grad)

and someday the condo though no plans for that yet

alphastreet said:

good job cinny

I have the car

job

degree (want to try for post-grad)

and someday the condo though no plans for that yet

would love a condo. someone i know just bought one with a platonic friend! can't imagine doing that but here i am still renting

Cinny said:

alphastreet said:

good job cinny

I have the car

job

degree (want to try for post-grad)

and someday the condo though no plans for that yet

would love a condo. someone i know just bought one with a platonic friend! can't imagine doing that but here i am still renting

Whether renting or owning, if you can afford the rent or mortgage on your own independently then you are doing well.

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missfee said:

Cinny said:

would love a condo. someone i know just bought one with a platonic friend! can't imagine doing that but here i am still renting

Whether renting or owning, if you can afford the rent or mortgage on your own independently then you doing well.

that's what I keep telling myself

Cinny said:

missfee said:

Whether renting or owning, if you can afford the rent or mortgage on your own independently then you doing well.

that's what I keep telling myself

Then what's wrong Cinny? You are doing fine.

I own a townhouse and pay a mortgage...sometimes I get a little sad because I have no one right now to share with it, BUT then most of the time I'm glad it's just me because at least I know when I leave the house if there are dishes in the sink, then I know I left them there. However at the end of the day, I'm proud that I'm able to hold down a mortgage by myself. If I was renting, I would feel the same way. Some folks our age haven't yet achieved this.

missfee said:

Cinny said:

that's what I keep telling myself

Then what's wrong Cinny? You are doing fine.

I own a townhouse and pay a mortgage...sometimes I get a little sad because I have no one right now to share with it, BUT then most of the time I'm glad it's just me because at least I know when I leave the house if there are dishes in the sink, then I know I left them there. However at the end of the day, I'm proud that I'm able to hold down a mortgage by myself. If I was renting, I would feel the same way. Some folks our age haven't yet achieved this.

Nah I just wish I could hold down a mortgage for a place with more space, and I can't see it happening without another person, which leads me to the "bein single still kinda sucks" logic.

But I hear you on them dishes in the sink

Cinny said:

missfee said:

Then what's wrong Cinny? You are doing fine.

I own a townhouse and pay a mortgage...sometimes I get a little sad because I have no one right now to share with it, BUT then most of the time I'm glad it's just me because at least I know when I leave the house if there are dishes in the sink, then I know I left them there. However at the end of the day, I'm proud that I'm able to hold down a mortgage by myself. If I was renting, I would feel the same way. Some folks our age haven't yet achieved this.

Nah I just wish I could hold down a mortgage for a place with more space, and I can't see it happening without another person, which leads me to the "bein single still kinda sucks" logic.

But I hear you on them dishes in the sink

Well I wouldn't look at it quite like that...and DON'T look at it like that. Shop around, if owning is really a major goal of yours, trust me, you can do it yourself. I'm not saying I haven't been in your position, but I'm just saying that you can do anything you can put your mind to without anyone else. When I signed the papers to have my townhouse built, and I was still living at home with my mom, I kept thinking to myself "do I know what I'm doing? do I know what I'm getting myself into? will I be able to handle it on my own? maybe I should have rented first."...I kept the faith and it happened. And mind you when I signed my contract, I was making $15K less a year than what I'm making now. It's a buyer's market, shop around...that is if owning is really what you want. Trust me, you can make your dream a reality. I'm a testimony to that...but's it all in your mindset.

missfee said:

Cinny said:

Nah I just wish I could hold down a mortgage for a place with more space, and I can't see it happening without another person, which leads me to the "bein single still kinda sucks" logic.

But I hear you on them dishes in the sink

Well I wouldn't look at it quite like that...and DON'T look at it like that. Shop around, if owning is really a major goal of yours, trust me, you can do it yourself. I'm not saying I haven't been in your position, but I'm just saying that you can do anything you can put your mind to without anyone else. When I signed the papers to have my townhouse built, and I was still living at home with my mom, I kept thinking to myself "do I know what I'm doing? do I know what I'm getting myself into? will I be able to handle it on my own? maybe I should have rented first."...I kept the faith and it happened. And mind you when I signed my contract, I was making $15K less a year than what I'm making now. It's a buyer's market, shop around...that is if owning is really what you want. Trust me, you can make your dream a reality. I'm a testimony to that...but's it all in your mindset.

That is inspiring. thanks!

Cinny said:

missfee said:

Well I wouldn't look at it quite like that...and DON'T look at it like that. Shop around, if owning is really a major goal of yours, trust me, you can do it yourself. I'm not saying I haven't been in your position, but I'm just saying that you can do anything you can put your mind to without anyone else. When I signed the papers to have my townhouse built, and I was still living at home with my mom, I kept thinking to myself "do I know what I'm doing? do I know what I'm getting myself into? will I be able to handle it on my own? maybe I should have rented first."...I kept the faith and it happened. And mind you when I signed my contract, I was making $15K less a year than what I'm making now. It's a buyer's market, shop around...that is if owning is really what you want. Trust me, you can make your dream a reality. I'm a testimony to that...but's it all in your mindset.

That is inspiring. thanks!

No problem. Feel free to orgnote me if you need more inspiration. I've been on my own and a home owner for 4 years now and can tell you all about the ups and downs of it...but keep faith and hope alive.