I'm a person that puts importance on time. In fact, my definition of on time is actually arriving a few minutes early, however, I have some young cousins who watch entirely too much "reality TV" and for their birthday parties, both arrived 45 minutes to an hour late to have what they call a "grand entrance". My opinion? Trifling. Arriving late (on purpose) to your own event shows a lack of disrespect for your guests who have taken time out of their busy schedules to support you. Arriving late only shows that it's all about you and that your guests should feel "honored" that you picked them to be a part of your day.

What's your opinion?

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missfee said:

I'm a person that puts importance on time. In fact, my definition of on time is actually arriving a few minutes early, however, I have some young cousins who watch entirely too much "reality TV" and for their birthday parties, both arrived 45 minutes to an hour late to have what they call a "grand entrance". My opinion? Trifling. Arriving late (on purpose) to your own event shows a lack of disrespect for your guests who have taken time out of their busy schedules to support you. Arriving late only shows that it's all about you and that your guests should feel "honored" that you picked them to be a part of your day.

What's your opinion?

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I can't help but think of my 25th birthday. I was an hour late cause I was too anxious to leave home and when I finally did, I had to get last minute waxing done and then conveniently fill gas, then was worried about driving on the highway, which all contributed. But when I got there, only 5-6 people were there and then more started arriving, so it wasn't too bad. It was the biggest party I had in my 20's, but I didn't plan it too well and I cringe looking back cause now I'm very picky about mixing friends and would do it freely then thinking I'd matured, but this all led to trouble in later years, and though I tried to hang out with everyone, I think I did it with some more than others, and most of the years I celebrated with family anyways who insisted on it, so I guess I didn't know how to act cause it was in childhood I was spoiled with over the top parties and then it faded when I lost interest. I may have been full of myself a little bit and thinking like that reality show too, ahead of myself at the time, but I know now that's no way to act and try to be dilligent with time

People who do this sort of thing I gift with the book called:

Basic Black, Home training for Modern Times.

Hate if when you are waiting for someone to show up to their own party. A few minutes is understandable, but 45 minutes is only excusable when you are a bride.

it's silly but can also be disrespectful if intentional because some people aren't into social events but would be there just for you so the least you could do is show respect to your guests.

Rayan said:

it's silly but can also be disrespectful if intentional because some people aren't into social events but would be there just for you so the least you could do is show respect to your guests.

yeah I agree, and some are traveling far to see you or coming after work instead of going home to rest....I can't believe how self-centered I was, but was also dealing with being depressed though this is something I've improved on in the past year. Keeping promises and trying to make it on time

What I do, is if they're on that "grand entrance" stuff. I actually wait till they arrive, tell them "I'mma bounce now, laters." and leave. I understand that we got "Black people time" but really?

That's my "grand leaving"

But if some people just aren't into social events or whatever then that's understandable.

I blamed it on my culture too and joked about it, but didn't realize it came off like I was being an asshole

It's downright trifling to arrive late at your own event. It shows a lack of regard for your guests; smacks of "I'm more important than you and my time is more valuable than yours." If I tell someone I will arrive at a specific time, I am there at that time or a few minutes early. If I'm too early, like the time I arrived at Johnart's picnic 30 minutes before start time, I will wait in my car until the appointed time. Even then I was too early casue I think I caught John & Ron at an "inopportune time."

5-10 min late = classy

more than that = trifling, disrespectful, irresponsible, wrong or just plain unnecessary, unless there's a real reason...

Tiresome. Why not respect everyone's valuable time and show up on time?

Depends on how late and also depends on what type of event.

If's is an even that let's say starts at 3 PM, be there on time.

It's if a party at a night club for 10 PM, who cares it's a night club. As long as you're not a hour late, it's all good.

Being late to any event is disrespectful. I have a lot of respect for other people's time. I'm a very punctual person. Yes, there are times where I cut it very close with my time but I'm rarely late and if I am it's by 2-3 minutes. I have friends that cut it close EVERY FUCKING TIME they have to meet someone and they're late EVERY FUCKING TIME. They call it being fashionably late, I call it them being unfashionably an asshole. It really is not hard to be on time. It's not. Quit using excuses, people!

And to someone who is purposely late to their own party, well that's some straight up douchebaggery right there. You know what you have to do to get ready. You know how much time it takes to do it. Quit fiddle farting around on your cell phone and get your ass in gear.

Trifling

FUCK OFF!!!

i coulda blew it off all the way, OR

cancelled the shit at the last minit...

be happy yo dull asses had somethin to do.

i wish a mufukka would call me triflin because

i didn't feel the need to 'hangout'

YOU LUCKY YO PUNK ASS GOT INVITED IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!

Trifling

JuliePurplehead said:

Being late to any event is disrespectful. I have a lot of respect for other people's time. I'm a very punctual person. Yes, there are times where I cut it very close with my time but I'm rarely late and if I am it's by 2-3 minutes. I have friends that cut it close EVERY FUCKING TIME they have to meet someone and they're late EVERY FUCKING TIME. They call it being fashionably late, I call it them being unfashionably an asshole. It really is not hard to be on time. It's not. Quit using excuses, people!

And to someone who is purposely late to their own party, well that's some straight up douchebaggery right there. You know what you have to do to get ready. You know how much time it takes to do it. Quit fiddle farting around on your cell phone and get your ass in gear.

This right here!

MacDaddy said:

JuliePurplehead said:

Being late to any event is disrespectful. I have a lot of respect for other people's time. I'm a very punctual person. Yes, there are times where I cut it very close with my time but I'm rarely late and if I am it's by 2-3 minutes. I have friends that cut it close EVERY FUCKING TIME they have to meet someone and they're late EVERY FUCKING TIME. They call it being fashionably late, I call it them being unfashionably an asshole. It really is not hard to be on time. It's not. Quit using excuses, people!

And to someone who is purposely late to their own party, well that's some straight up douchebaggery right there. You know what you have to do to get ready. You know how much time it takes to do it. Quit fiddle farting around on your cell phone and get your ass in gear.

This right here!

God, do I agree with Julie on this one.

It's pure douchebaggery. It's not just my time that's important--it's everyone elses' time too. Shit, EVERYBODY has a busy schedule these days--if they can be on time, so can I.

JuliePurplehead said:

Being late to any event is disrespectful. I have a lot of respect for other people's time. I'm a very punctual person. Yes, there are times where I cut it very close with my time but I'm rarely late and if I am it's by 2-3 minutes. I have friends that cut it close EVERY FUCKING TIME they have to meet someone and they're late EVERY FUCKING TIME. They call it being fashionably late, I call it them being unfashionably an asshole. It really is not hard to be on time. It's not. Quit using excuses, people!

And to someone who is purposely late to their own party, well that's some straight up douchebaggery right there. You know what you have to do to get ready. You know how much time it takes to do it. Quit fiddle farting around on your cell phone and get your ass in gear.

Thank you, agree 100%

Somebody should have reminded them that (1) You ain't famous. and (2) You ain't famous!!!

Trifling!

HonestMan13 said:

Somebody should have reminded them that (1) You ain't famous. and (2) You ain't famous!!!

Trifling!

For that one night you are. If it's yo party that a lot of people are coming too, you a celeb for that one night.

Tomorrow you'll go back to paper and plastic, but for that night you famous.

When everybody and their Aunt LuLu does it. Trifling. Doing stupid petty stuff doesn't automatically make one a diva.

morningsong said:

When everybody and their Aunt LuLu does it. Trifling. Doing stupid petty stuff doesn't automatically make one a diva.

And sadly, that's the impression that my cousins seem to have, that they are being "divas" where in they are still living off of mommy and daddy. I'm telling you, some of these young girls out here are just mimicking the things they see on TV and feel that if they do the same that they are representing "that life". This is the one time that Evelyn Lozada's quote really does come to light...what my young cousins have yet to understand is that they "ARE NOT ABOUT THAT LIFE". Just because you are 18 and in your early 20's doesn't mean you are automatically hot shit or a grown ass person or that your shit doesn't stink when you can't even handle living on your own yet. Remember around the time when Beyonce was filming "Dreamgirls" and the rumor mill was that she was on this "Cayenne Pepper" or some kind of "syrup" diet (which is basically starving yourself) to lose some pounds quickly for her role? Well the oldest of my young cousins did this diet believing that this is what she had to do to be like her idol.

Myself and other family members have tried to talk to my cousins about what life is about and they get defensive as if they know everything. So they will just have to learn the hard way. And that's where I leave it.

JuliePurplehead said:

Being late to any event is disrespectful. I have a lot of respect for other people's time. I'm a very punctual person. Yes, there are times where I cut it very close with my time but I'm rarely late and if I am it's by 2-3 minutes. I have friends that cut it close EVERY FUCKING TIME they have to meet someone and they're late EVERY FUCKING TIME. They call it being fashionably late, I call it them being unfashionably an asshole. It really is not hard to be on time. It's not. Quit using excuses, people!

And to someone who is purposely late to their own party, well that's some straight up douchebaggery right there. You know what you have to do to get ready. You know how much time it takes to do it. Quit fiddle farting around on your cell phone and get your ass in gear.

This is it right here.

It's a respect thing. Having respect for other people's time.

I wonder if Prince is reading this thread.

If it is your event, that means you are the host/ess, which further means that you should be there to greet your guests as they arrive. They are not throwing the party for you - you are throwing the party for them.

Exceptions to this:

1) A wedding, where the bridal party is expected to make an entrance. The bride's parents are usually the host and hostess of a wedding, so this is not a problem.

All I know is that if you wear a cape and have a little fan secured to the back of your waist so that your cape is always flowing, you can arrive any dang time you want.

RodeoSchro said:

All I know is that if you wear a cape and have a little fan secured to the back of your waist so that your cape is always flowing, you can arrive any dang time you want.

Unless you have a REALLY GOOD excuse? Trifling.

Especially one that shows up 3 hours late.

RodeoSchro said:

All I know is that if you wear a cape and have a little fan secured to the back of your waist so that your cape is always flowing, you can arrive any dang time you want.