JustErin said:

Ocean said:

JustErin said:

I've never written one before and I have been trying to get myself to write one for a couple of weeks now...but I can't get myself to start it.

Why have u being trying to get urself to write one?

Because I think I need to.

I once wrote a letter to Penthouse Forum.
Does that count?

Ocean said:

JustErin said:

I've never written one before and I have been trying to get myself to write one for a couple of weeks now...but I can't get myself to start it.

Why have u being trying to get urself to write one?

Isn't it obvious?...Because I came back to the Org

I've written some; usually in a moment where I felt like letting go of all the expectations in the world and undress to the bare bones of my most inner feelings, the ones I am often too afraid to show.

I have also received some; most of them quite superficial and childish, some of them very sincere, which I am still thankful for, because I felt close to somebody while reading them.

I sure have! Several. I wrote them all the time when I was a teenager, though I don't know I gave many away.

I wrote a few to someone I was in a long distance relationship with.

I have written a few to my current bf, but not on actual paper. The email kind, but it's a love letter nonetheless.

I tend to express myself better in writing than speaking. If I have something that's hard for me to say I write it down. When we first got together I wrote long emails to him a lot. It helped me express my concerns and needs and wants when I'd get too choked up to say them in person.

I don't need to so much anymore now that we're so far in, but it still helps me to type things out now and again.

I don't know that I've ever recevied one, though.

JustErin said:

I've never written one before and I have been trying to get myself to write one for a couple of weeks now...but I can't get myself to start it.

Just start. Start with anything stupid. Sometimes just the act of wiriting gets you going. You can always edit. Your first few lines or paragrpahs even may be lame, but it'll get you thinking about what you want to say and then you can figure out how best to say it.

I had a crush on one of my childhood friends when we were kids, I was 5th grade and he was in 4th, I told my mom I want to marry him when I was 7 anyways my cousin gave me some pretty stationary one day, so I took the heart shaped one and wrote a little secret admirer message without putting my name in it, and when we were at congregation, when his mom left her purse for a minute, I snuck over and kept the note under it. I never found out if he got it or not, but when my frienemy found out I liked him, she was pressuring me to say stuff to him and I was, but shouldn't have listened. When I tried giving him an extra chocolate I got one day, he confronted me and pushed me away cause his friends were around. I didn't talk to him again for a few years, but then we started saying hi again if we ran into each other, and our moms have been good friends since we were babies anyway so I do still run into him sometimes and he's still very, very cute with an awesome smile, but he's probably taken.

CarrieMpls said:

JustErin said:

I've never written one before and I have been trying to get myself to write one for a couple of weeks now...but I can't get myself to start it.

Just start. Start with anything stupid. Sometimes just the act of wiriting gets you going. You can always edit. Your first few lines or paragrpahs even may be lame, but it'll get you thinking about what you want to say and then you can figure out how best to say it.

Yeah, I know. Like you, I am a great one for putting my thoughts down on paper and have written many, many letters. I even write letters that I never send. It's just to get it all out.

But this time it's different and something is stopping me.

yes, i've written many, many love letters over the years. some i really wish i had never written, i feel very stupid about them now. because i was so naive at the time that i poured my heart out to men that didn't deserve it.

the ones that i wrote (and still write) to my husband he still has, and i have the ones he wrote me. those are very special. i even wrote several poems for him, and he wrote one for me.

Back in the day.

Too damned old for that shyte now.

PurpleJedi said:

Back in the day.

Too damned old for that shyte now.

Not sure what age has to do with it.

JustErin said:

PurpleJedi said:

Back in the day.

Too damned old for that shyte now.

Not sure what age has to do with it.

Well, it's just that when I was younger I was a whole hellaoffa lot more idealistic. So the whole "Soulmate/Love of my Life/And They Lived Happily Ever After" was relevant. So I did the whole "love letters, poems & sketching our initials on trees" thing.

Now, I'm more pragmatic. Love letters? How about we go to dinner in the City, catch a Latin American post-modern art exhibit at the MoMA, discuss our likes/dislikes over drinks, and see where it goes from there.

I'm over 40 for Christ's sake. Shoot me if I carve my initials on anything other than my tombstone.

Then again...if I meet someone that knocks my socks off and get those "butterflies" that everyone raves about...I will probably deny ever having authored this post as I sharpen my pocketknife.

Instead of a Valentine love letter, I made this song for someone years ago:

I did not make the video though, which took it more to a children's story vibe.

the video I would make would be quite different.

PurpleJedi said:

JustErin said:

Not sure what age has to do with it.

Well, it's just that when I was younger I was a whole hellaoffa lot more idealistic. So the whole "Soulmate/Love of my Life/And They Lived Happily Ever After" was relevant. So I did the whole "love letters, poems & sketching our initials on trees" thing.

Now, I'm more pragmatic. Love letters? How about we go to dinner in the City, catch a Latin American post-modern art exhibit at the MoMA, discuss our likes/dislikes over drinks, and see where it goes from there.

I'm over 40 for Christ's sake. Shoot me if I carve my initials on anything other than my tombstone.

Then again...if I meet someone that knocks my socks off and get those "butterflies" that everyone raves about...I will probably deny ever having authored this post as I sharpen my pocketknife.

I think this is more about being a bit jaded than being old, though. The two don’t always go hand in hand.

I do think we all get a bit more world-weary as we get older. And for you to go through what you have fairly recently it’s understandable to be jaded when it comes to romantic notions.

But yeah, you may not always feel this way. The right girl comes along and you may be writing poetry again.

JustErin said:

PurpleJedi said:

Back in the day.

Too damned old for that shyte now.

Not sure what age has to do with it.

I think what he means is that he's too old to read fine print anymore.

XxAxX said:

Dear Imago:

i love your threads. i don't know why, but i do. sometimes i think reading your posts is a bit like eating something way too spicy. you know you'll be sorry later, you know it will burn your mouth and leave your tongue feeling swollen and irritated for half a day, but you can't help taking a bite. so what i want to say is i guess i consider you to be the tabasco sauce of the GD forum. please, don't you ever, ever stop burning my lips.

sincerely,

X

oh lawd

JustErin said:

I've never written one before and I have been trying to get myself to write one for a couple of weeks now...but I can't get myself to start it.

If it's for the recent breakup, all I can say is don't do it while you're still feeling strong emotions.

Yes. And it made it back to my Mom, after the girl's parents read it. They did not approve of our relationship. Ahhh, those teenage years.

imago said:

JustErin said:

I've never written one before and I have been trying to get myself to write one for a couple of weeks now...but I can't get myself to start it.

If it's for the recent breakup, all I can say is don't do it while you're still feeling strong emotions.

Not really, it's super complicated...I'd call it more like a separation, I guess. And the point of doing it now is because the emotions are so strong.

CarrieMpls said:

PurpleJedi said:

Well, it's just that when I was younger I was a whole hellaoffa lot more idealistic. So the whole "Soulmate/Love of my Life/And They Lived Happily Ever After" was relevant. So I did the whole "love letters, poems & sketching our initials on trees" thing.

Now, I'm more pragmatic. Love letters? How about we go to dinner in the City, catch a Latin American post-modern art exhibit at the MoMA, discuss our likes/dislikes over drinks, and see where it goes from there.

I'm over 40 for Christ's sake. Shoot me if I carve my initials on anything other than my tombstone.

Then again...if I meet someone that knocks my socks off and get those "butterflies" that everyone raves about...I will probably deny ever having authored this post as I sharpen my pocketknife.

I think this is more about being a bit jaded than being old, though. The two don’t always go hand in hand.

I do think we all get a bit more world-weary as we get older. And for you to go through what you have fairly recently it’s understandable to be jaded when it comes to romantic notions.

But yeah, you may not always feel this way. The right girl comes along and you may be writing poetry again.

imago said:

JustErin said:

Not sure what age has to do with it.

I think what he means is that he's too old to read fine print anymore.

(Did I miss? Where's my glasses?)

PurpleJedi said:

CarrieMpls said:

I think this is more about being a bit jaded than being old, though. The two don’t always go hand in hand.

I do think we all get a bit more world-weary as we get older. And for you to go through what you have fairly recently it’s understandable to be jaded when it comes to romantic notions.

But yeah, you may not always feel this way. The right girl comes along and you may be writing poetry again.

awwww...

I've been jaded too. And downright bitter at times. It takes a while to get over it all but I bet you will eventually. And you've learned a lot in the process. It's ok to get tougher about things, as long as you don't close yourself off completely or forever. Don't let anyone do that to you.

Yes.

My mom found it.

I was forced to come out.

Hey, I'm impressed. I actually made a thread that did well.

I've only once received one and it was not very "lovey", more an apology letter

But I have written a couple, and never sent them since in both cases it was an unrequited love and I was only writing for my own benefit.

PurpleJedi said:

JustErin said:

Not sure what age has to do with it.

Well, it's just that when I was younger I was a whole hellaoffa lot more idealistic. So the whole "Soulmate/Love of my Life/And They Lived Happily Ever After" was relevant. So I did the whole "love letters, poems & sketching our initials on trees" thing.

Now, I'm more pragmatic. Love letters? How about we go to dinner in the City, catch a Latin American post-modern art exhibit at the MoMA, discuss our likes/dislikes over drinks, and see where it goes from there.

I'm over 40 for Christ's sake. Shoot me if I carve my initials on anything other than my tombstone.

Then again...if I meet someone that knocks my socks off and get those "butterflies" that everyone raves about...I will probably deny ever having authored this post as I sharpen my pocketknife.

I for one would love to see you carve your initials on your tombstone.

paintedlady said:

In one of my first serious relationships he was a Marine... he wrote me and I wrote him. Every letter had some form of proposal or saying he couldn't wait to get home to get married.

I call those his "jailhouse" letters... because as soon as he came home for good he got amnesia and forgot what he wrote and treated me like crap. I then broke up with him seeing that he wasn't going to marry me.

I kept all the notes and cards that were filled with empty promises in a hat box. I brought that hat box to his place. Opened it up and dumped all the letters on his bed. Told him to keep all his empty promises.

He then called me the next day to apologise for saying I was pressuring him and that once he saw the letters he realized why I was so upset.

Punk.

I have yet to write another love letter... don't think I ever will.

Painted...girl you know I HAVE received jailhouse letters. And you know from who. You're right...when guys are away from you with no other options, they will pour out their hearts and write 10 pages.

Once they are back in civilization...

JustErin said:

Ocean said:

JustErin said: Why have u being trying to get urself to write one?

Because I think I need to.

not really,

i already know how bad you want me.

words would only sully the feelin

[Edited 8/28/12 21:31pm]