Have any of you been asked out by someone older than you? If so, did you pursue anything with them or did you stop while you were ahead? Share your stories please!

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Ok, seriously lol...only once. I was 20 and she was 33. I was in Germany attending a party, and she immediately took a liking to me. Kept holding my hand (I never held hers back lol), kept talking about how she and I could travel around Europe together, kept asking if I wanted to go back to her place. I declined all of it, but it had zero to do with age (she was very pretty as well). For me, either you connect or you don't. I didn't feel that with her. Age means very little in my eyes.

Isn't someone always younger/older in a relationship? Do you mean, like, a decade or more older?

I've lost count by this point.

Yeah, I did in my late teens and twenties. Best advice--don't do it.

I did...I was 23 and he was 35. Didn't last long..only a month from my memory. He turned out to be just as immature as the guys my own age.

I was 18, he was 40. It was a mess.

I went out with a 19 year old and I was in my late 30's. Neither of us asked the other out, it just happened. It was great while it lasted. It was never going to last, but then we both knew that.

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How old/mature are YOU?

This is important because if you are young and in your formative years (even in your early-mid twenties) you can still be manipulated by an older lover who will not compromise with you because that person may feel like their experience out ranks your opinion.

It will be an un-fair love affair that has the younger partner feeling unheard and always compromising themself.

As for me, I always dated guys my age until recently when I hit my late 30's.

I have now been seeing a guy 13 years my senior for 3+ years now and we get along great. BUT- only because I know who I am and stubbornly push back when he pushes me. We go toe to toe respectfully and I know how to handle his personality. He is a stubborn man, but eventually comes around when I stand my ground. If he met me when I was younger, he would run all over me.

Know who YOU are and then you can date someone who isn't the same age as you.

When I was 34, I had a lovely relationship with a 20 year-old. She was actually engaged to a guy her own age in another city, so we were both in it just for friendship and sex. Still friends today. Ah, the memories...

I was 27 and he was 34

Byron said:

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Ok, seriously lol...only once. I was 20 and she was 33. I was in Germany attending a party, and she immediately took a liking to me. Kept holding my hand (I never held hers back lol), kept talking about how she and I could travel around Europe together, kept asking if I wanted to go back to her place. I declined all of it, but it had zero to do with age (she was very pretty as well). For me, either you connect or you don't. I didn't feel that with her. Age means very little in my eyes.

You dated Bea Arthur?!

Genesia said:

Byron said:

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Ok, seriously lol...only once. I was 20 and she was 33. I was in Germany attending a party, and she immediately took a liking to me. Kept holding my hand (I never held hers back lol), kept talking about how she and I could travel around Europe together, kept asking if I wanted to go back to her place. I declined all of it, but it had zero to do with age (she was very pretty as well). For me, either you connect or you don't. I didn't feel that with her. Age means very little in my eyes.

You dated Bea Arthur?!

You didn't know?

paintedlady said:

How old/mature are YOU?

This is important because if you are young and in your formative years (even in your early-mid twenties) you can still be manipulated by an older lover who will not compromise with you because that person may feel like their experience out ranks your opinion.

It will be an un-fair love affair that has the younger partner feeling unheard and always compromising themself.

As for me, I always dated guys my age until recently when I hit my late 30's.

I have now been seeing a guy 13 years my senior for 3+ years now and we get along great. BUT- only because I know who I am and stubbornly push back when he pushes me. We go toe to toe respectfully and I know how to handle his personality. He is a stubborn man, but eventually comes around when I stand my ground. If he met me when I was younger, he would run all over me.

Know who YOU are and then you can date someone who isn't the same age as you.

Until my current relationship, I had a tendency to date same age or younger. Dude is nearly 8 years older than me now. But he's so much more active and sportive than me, it's hard to keep up with him sometimes and he puts my former dates who were younger to shame!

For the right amount of money, no age is an obstacle.

Take, for example, the infamous Duchess of Alba;

My boyfriend is 21 years older than I am and we've been together for more than 8 years. I was 24 and he was 45 when we started dating... we've had no problems, except for the occassional waitress who thinks he's my dad.

shiloh66 said:

My boyfriend is 21 years older than I am and we've been together for more than 8 years. I was 24 and he was 45 when we started dating... we've had no problems, except for the occassional waitress who thinks he's my dad.

That's better than a waiter thinking your dad is your boyfriend, especially when you're in your 20's and people think you still look like a kid, makes you wonder right?

Ottensen said:

paintedlady said:

How old/mature are YOU?

This is important because if you are young and in your formative years (even in your early-mid twenties) you can still be manipulated by an older lover who will not compromise with you because that person may feel like their experience out ranks your opinion.

It will be an un-fair love affair that has the younger partner feeling unheard and always compromising themself.

As for me, I always dated guys my age until recently when I hit my late 30's.

I have now been seeing a guy 13 years my senior for 3+ years now and we get along great. BUT- only because I know who I am and stubbornly push back when he pushes me. We go toe to toe respectfully and I know how to handle his personality. He is a stubborn man, but eventually comes around when I stand my ground. If he met me when I was younger, he would run all over me.

Know who YOU are and then you can date someone who isn't the same age as you.

Until my current relationship, I had a tendency to date same age or younger. Dude is nearly 8 years older than me now. But he's so much more active and sportive than me, it's hard to keep up with him sometimes and he puts my former dates who were younger to shame!

The guy I'm dating is more athletic than me also... but I think the age thing isn't an issue after 35+ because most people have come into their own by then.

PurpleJedi said:

For the right amount of money, no age is an obstacle.

Take, for example, the infamous Duchess of Alba;

WhooGEEWHOAAAcotDAY-UM!!

surely some of that is photoshopped? My mother-in-law is 82 and while I have no idea what her tummy looks like, her arms don't look anything, noway, no how like that

I haven't really dealt with anyone my age.. They always have at least 10 years on me, but that's the way I like it

i dated a guy that was 29 yrs. old, and i was 19. (it ended very badly, i mean it couldn't have gone much worse than it did, very dangerous relationship!)

then i dated a guy that was 33 yrs. old, and i was 21, it also ended very badly. so i didn't have a good luck with dating older men at all.

now i have been with a younger man for years, and it's working perfect!

My relationship ended very badly and was rocky though not very long either though my longest at the same time. The ones with people closer to my age were stale dates, and I couldn't really relate to them in terms of interests, but that was better than pretending to be exactly like me to impress me and living a lie.

Ottensen said:

PurpleJedi said:

For the right amount of money, no age is an obstacle.

Take, for example, the infamous Duchess of Alba;

WhooGEEWHOAAAcotDAY-UM!!

surely some of that is photoshopped? My mother-in-law is 82 and while I have no idea what her tummy looks like, her arms don't look anything, noway, no how like that

I just lost my lunch................

Never dated anyone older than me, not even by like a year. Always younger.

But I once slept with a man who was 30 when I was 19. He was a friend of a friend and over time manipulated the hell out of me, and I guess you can say seduced me. It only happened once and I was traumatized because he was the only person I slept with that I DID NOT want to sleep with.

That kind of manipulation never happened again and I guess turned me off older men for life!

Tittypants said:

Graycap23 said:

Ottensen said:

WhooGEEWHOAAAcotDAY-UM!!

surely some of that is photoshopped? My mother-in-law is 82 and while I have no idea what her tummy looks like, her arms don't look anything, noway, no how like that

I just lost my lunch................

She is 82 and in a bikini! Ya'll can say what you want, but that is one BRAVE woman to even dare!

Her upper arms look rough IMO... but the rest of her looks pretty damn good, and those tits look real.

paintedlady said:

paintedlady said:

bunnyscotcooper said:

paintedlady said:

How old/mature are YOU?

This is important because if you are young and in your formative years (even in your early-mid twenties) you can still be manipulated by an older lover who will not compromise with you because that person may feel like their experience out ranks your opinion.

It will be an un-fair love affair that has the younger partner feeling unheard and always compromising themself.

As for me, I always dated guys my age until recently when I hit my late 30's.

I have now been seeing a guy 13 years my senior for 3+ years now and we get along great. BUT- only because I know who I am and stubbornly push back when he pushes me. We go toe to toe respectfully and I know how to handle his personality. He is a stubborn man, but eventually comes around when I stand my ground. If he met me when I was younger, he would run all over me.

Know who YOU are and then you can date someone who isn't the same age as you.

That's what I was telling him, that I wanted to find out who I was, but I agreed to meet with him talk and get to know one another. I've always wanted to date an older man b/c guys my age don't understand what the hell I am talking about, but now that one asked me out...I am apprehensive about trying for anything b/c I'm not ready to settle down. I'm young, I'm into myself and school and I am learning to be on my own. I don't want to be in a longterm relationship.

It seems like you and him do not want the same things. I can not tell you what to do, but choose wisely and think about what you really want.

If you want to focus on you and your youth, you should and have every right to. Because as you get older, your resposibilites will grow.

Now is the only time you have to be free and have fun before you have to focus on work/family/etc.

Now is the time to have fun and be young. If he really cares about you, he will understand.

When I was in my mid 20s my girlfriend was 14 years older, and despite being a difficult relationship, it was also one of the longest relationships I´ve ever had.

I think as soon as both partners are above 25 or, say, 27, age doesn´t really matter anymore.

I´m not into the NOI doctrine but I think they got it right when they said that the best age for a partner is your own age divided by two and then you add 7.

I couldn´t be with someone younger than that because I think it would be too creepy.

To my amazement, some younger girls have tried to convince me that it´s perfectly ok for a man at my age to be with girls in their early 20s but I strongly disagree.

Maybe I´d think differently if I were 60 and a multimillionaire.