NDRU said:

imago said:

If you're a woman, I think after 24 is definately when you should stop.

Thank you!!! I am so tired of these oldie-von-moldies trying to act like they deserve love after 30!

They deserve love at any age, actually! Who doesn't?

But, do you keep pouring money into a 1987 Pontiac LeMans after the paint has oxidated and the transmission has been replaced twice already?

By Pontiac Lemans, I mean vagina.

By money, I mean cortisone

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Some of the oddest people I've ever encountered have been people on this forum.

imago said:

Tokyo89 said:

I love pin-up artwork.

I'm not sure if it's a 1950's fondness type of thing or not.

I also love Norman Rockwell's artwork, so quite possibly.

Nothing is more tragic to me than Jackson Polluck or Andy Warholl nonsense.

Agree 100%

There are people that get married after 70.

I think hope, no matter how foolish it may seem, is what keeps you young.

I will be 51 very soon and can't imagine that it will "NEVER" HAPPEN.

If I am fooling myself, I need to keep doing that until the day that I die.

I've heard about this;

(CBS) Rates of sexually transmitted diseases have doubled among 50- to 90-year-olds in the past decade.

And the authors of a new editorial want to know why.

According to the editorial, an estimated 80 percent of 50- to 90-year-olds are sexually active. This activity has contributed to rises in cases of syphilis, chlamydia, and gonorrhea among 45- to 64-year-olds in the U.S. and the U.K.

According to CDC estimates, there were almost 900 cases of syphilis in 45 to 64-year-olds in 2000, and in 2010, the number grew to more than 2,500. In the elderly age group, 6,700 people were diagnosed with chlamydia in 2000; by 2010? 19,000. The number of new HIV diagnoses in people over 50 has also doubled between 2000 and 2009, according to the editorial's authors .

Editorial author Rachel von Simson, of King's College London, told WebMD that all the baby boomers who helped usher in the sexual revolution might have simply stayed sexually active.

Or the reason could be drugs. According to a 2010 study that examined the relationship between erectile dysfunction rates and STD rates among the elderly, the dramatic rise in STD cases coincides with Viagra's introduction in 1998, HealthPop reported.

Can anything be done to buck the trends? The editorial authors propose a solution: When older men go to see a doctor to get a prescription for a drug like Viagra for erectile dysfunction, doctors should see this as an opportunity to discuss safe sex and the high risks of developing an STD.

Said von Simson, "Just like younger people, older people who are sexually active are at risk for STDs."

The National Institute on Aging has more on HIV, AIDS, and older people.

Deadflow3r said:

There are people that get married after 70.

I think hope, no matter how foolish it may seem, is what keeps you young.

I will be 51 very soon and can't imagine that it will "NEVER" HAPPEN.

If I am fooling myself, I need to keep doing that until the day that I die.

Ha, I agree if that's what I have to believe in until I die, so be it I'm glad at least that I'm not tied down to a guy and a bunch of kids though. I can barely deal with my dog sometimes

Tittypants said:

To say "Men ain't shit" is offensive imo. Don't get mad @ all men, because of the men you've decided to be in relationships with turned out to be assholes...that's your fault for choosing them. There are good guys out there, some of you ladies don't give them a chance. It's hard to talk to woman imo, they want to judge you before they even get to know you. I've never played/cheated on/abused a woman in my life, & I'd do whatever I could to make my woman happy. I would suggest that you never give up on finding someone....just give some a chance.

Okay let me correct my grammer-Men are not shit!

PurpleJedi said:

nursev said:

and that's exactly where you need to be-ur on the right track I'm telling u men ain't bout shit

...and here I was, getting ready to throw blows with KingBad over you???

but oh well

prodigalfan said:

nursev said:

At 40 I'm Happy Been Married-Didn't work and I moved on I noticed as I got 30 that men ain't bout shit so I'm cool with it

you shoulda quit about 17 days ago

Yep.

After 24, just stop!

I've waisted to many years on men, and truly am sorry for that.

Please, give my life some meaning by learning from my mistakes:

Don't bother with finding yourself a man.

Spend all your energy in finding out what activities make you happy by trying them out by yourself.

The find out what kind of people truly make you happe and who are easy for you to be friends with, because you naturally want to make them happy and they make you happy. Stick with them.

Don't waste your energy by trying to be someone else in order to impress some boy or girl.

Just spend your time in finding activities/friends/work/study/hobbies that make you happy!

And when you have structured your life in a way that you are naturally happy, naturally you'll meet the people with the same hobbies/interests/values and maybe one of them will fall in love with you and do his utmost best to court you.

JUST DON'T WAIST YOUR PRECIOUS YOUTH AND SPIRIT BY SPENDING YOUR TIME AND ENERGY CHASING SOMEBODY.

MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!

Only then, you can share your happiness with somebody else.

imago said:

Ocean said:

imago said: Omg 24

Because after 24, her body stops producing estrogen, hemogloben and cortisone I believe.

:fallfoff:

I wish reading that just raised my cortisone levels

imago said:

NDRU said:

Thank you!!! I am so tired of these oldie-von-moldies trying to act like they deserve love after 30!

They deserve love at any age, actually! Who doesn't?

But, do you keep pouring money into a 1987 Pontiac LeMans after the paint has oxidated and the transmission has been replaced twice already?

By Pontiac Lemans, I mean vagina.

By money, I mean cortisone

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[Edited 8/22/12 10:44am]

yeah and who wants a crack in the driver's seat?! Okay, bad analogy...

littlemissG said:

NDRU said:

Thank you!!! I am so tired of these oldie-von-moldies trying to act like they deserve love after 30!

Deadflow3r said:

There are people that get married after 70.

I think hope, no matter how foolish it may seem, is what keeps you young.

I will be 51 very soon and can't imagine that it will "NEVER" HAPPEN.

If I am fooling myself, I need to keep doing that until the day that I die.

She should stop looking for a man the day Imago's wang falls off...

which should happen any day now....considering he's not getting any younger.

Give up now.

Seriously, learn how to be happy by yourself for the rest of your life. If a guy comes along, great, if not, then no biggie.

I gave up a long time ago. I really thought I'd be alone for the long haul and I was perfectly happy with that idea. Then I happened to meet a really great guy when I was 34. I'm 37 now and we're still together. I'm ever so happy to have found him but my life would still have been happy and fulfilling if I hadn't, just in a different way.

SeventeenDayze said:

Although menopause is still a good decade or so away, it seems like I feel like it's starting to be too late to find a nice guy and whatnot. It seems that after age 28, the number of single, available, sane, employed men exponentially falls off year after year.

I've never dated much in the past and don't know if I'm really up for it these days because so many guys are lazy in relationships.

I think I should give up, have any of you given up?

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CarrieMpls said:

Give up now.

Seriously, learn how to be happy by yourself for the rest of your life. If a guy comes along, great, if not, then no biggie.

I gave up a long time ago. I really thought I'd be alone for the long haul and I was perfectly happy with that idea. Then I happened to meet a really great guy when I was 34. I'm 37 now and we're still together. I'm ever so happy to have found him but my life would still have been happy and fulfilling if I hadn't, just in a different way.

Yeah I think you're right and I'm pretty much set in my ways ( which I have been since about age 11/12 LOL) Glad that you were able to find a nice guy that you're still with. I guess the best thing is just to learn to live alone and be grateful that I'm not dealing with a loser on the couch drinking beer, not helping change diapers and who plays video games all day. I can do bad all by myself I reckon but I just wonder sometimes how much longer will it be though...

Stymie said:

I think you need to work on yourself before you seriously think about getting a partner.

Don't worry about finding him; let him find you. Despite our sometimes shallow behavior, guys know what they want. Forget all that frontin' about being a playa--every man has his ideal image of just loving one! When he does find you....

nursev said:

Never been one of those people that just need to be with somebody-My best friend is like that. Bad relationships with both men and women and just never learned to like/love herself and be content.

See. This is me, too. I haven't been in a relationship in years. I have no tolerance for bullshit. When I was actively looking to get involved, I ended up making bad choices. Now I am content to be single and hassle free. I enjoy my own company and I don't need a man to define who I am or to make me happy. I create my own joy.

Yeah, there is no way I could go years without a man(men) in my life. No way.

I might not be ready right now to jump back into something again, but I know I would never be content being alone.

I honestly can't understand how people can be happy without a partner in their life. Not being disrespectful, just saying I don't understand.

JustErin said:

I honestly can't understand how people can be happy without a partner in their life. Not being disrespectful, just saying I don't understand.

Exactly, you have to have someone to blame!

JustErin said:

Yeah, there is no way I could go years without a man(men) in my life. No way.

I might not be ready right now to jump back into something again, but I know I would never be content being alone.

I honestly can't understand how people can be happy without a partner in their life. Not being disrespectful, just saying I don't understand.

I agree with you.

I haven't dated in a while, but I hope that I won't be alone forever.
I'm not even looking to be married anymore, but it'd be nice to have a S.O.

I was saying to someone the other day that it bugs me when married women/women in relationships give the following BS advice...

1. "You don't need a man to be happy". Really? Then why don't you give yours up and we can hang out?
2. "You have to be happy with yourself first." Okay. Who said I wasn't, and were you when your man came along? Probably not, but it seems that way now that you've met someone.
3. "Marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be." Sooo... are you ready to give up yours?
4. "Get out and do things for yourself or by yourself." Again.
   Yeah, well, I have been. Meanwhile, you have someone to share experiences with...
5. "Do you know how many women would love to be in your position?" Stop playing. You'd give up your man to be alone every night? Yeah... No.

I know they mean well, and think it's a "pep talk", but it comes off as patronizing BS.
It's like eating a big ole sandwich while telling a starving person it's not even good and they're not missing anything, because hunger is actually more fulfilling.

weird grammar thing...

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chocolate1 said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, there is no way I could go years without a man(men) in my life. No way.

I might not be ready right now to jump back into something again, but I know I would never be content being alone.

I honestly can't understand how people can be happy without a partner in their life. Not being disrespectful, just saying I don't understand.

I agree with you.

I haven't dated in a while, but I hope that I won't be alone forever.
I'm not even looking to be married anymore, but it'd be nice to have a S.O.

I was saying to someone the other day that it bugs me when married women/women in relationships give the following BS advice...

1. "You don't need a man to be happy". Really? Then why don't you give yours up and we can hang out?
2. "You have to be happy with yourself first." Okay. Who said I wasn't, and were you when your man came along? Probably not, but it seems that way not that you met someone.
3. "Marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be." Sooo... are you ready to give up yours?
4. "Get out and do things for yourself or by yourself." Again.
   Yeah, well, I have been. Meanwhile, you have someone to share experiences with...
5. "Do you know how many women would love to be in your position?" Stop playing. You'd give up your man to be alone every night? Yeah... No.

I know they mean well, and think it's a "pep talk", but it comes off as patronizing BS.
It's like eating a big ole sandwich while telling a starving person it's not even good and they're not missing anything, because hunger is actually more fulfilling.

JustErin said:

Yeah, there is no way I could go years without a man(men) in my life. No way.

I might not be ready right now to jump back into something again, but I know I would never be content being alone.

I honestly can't understand how people can be happy without a partner in their life. Not being disrespectful, just saying I don't understand.

I honestly can't understand how people think they can't be happy alone. No disrespect there either.

CarrieMpls said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, there is no way I could go years without a man(men) in my life. No way.

I might not be ready right now to jump back into something again, but I know I would never be content being alone.

I honestly can't understand how people can be happy without a partner in their life. Not being disrespectful, just saying I don't understand.

I honestly can't understand how people think they can't be happy alone. No disrespect there either.

Carrie, I remember when you first posted about your boyfriend and how happy you were.

I'm not saying you weren't happy before you met him, but isn't the happiness you've shared with him better?

I'm generally happy...

BUT it gets boring, it can be lonely, and I'm not into random sexual encounters and one-night stands. Having someone to spend time with, and share things with is nice.

chocolate1 said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, there is no way I could go years without a man(men) in my life. No way.

I might not be ready right now to jump back into something again, but I know I would never be content being alone.

I honestly can't understand how people can be happy without a partner in their life. Not being disrespectful, just saying I don't understand.

I agree with you.

I haven't dated in a while, but I hope that I won't be alone forever.
I'm not even looking to be married anymore, but it'd be nice to have a S.O.

I was saying to someone the other day that it bugs me when married women/women in relationships give the following BS advice...

1. "You don't need a man to be happy". Really? Then why don't you give yours up and we can hang out?
2. "You have to be happy with yourself first." Okay. Who said I wasn't, and were you when your man came along? Probably not, but it seems that way now that you've met someone.
3. "Marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be." Sooo... are you ready to give up yours?
4. "Get out and do things for yourself or by yourself." Again.
   Yeah, well, I have been. Meanwhile, you have someone to share experiences with...
5. "Do you know how many women would love to be in your position?" Stop playing. You'd give up your man to be alone every night? Yeah... No.

I know they mean well, and think it's a "pep talk", but it comes off as patronizing BS.
It's like eating a big ole sandwich while telling a starving person it's not even good and they're not missing anything, because hunger is actually more fulfilling.

weird grammar thing...

[Edited 8/24/12 14:37pm]

You make some very good points .

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

And going back to the original topic...

Why are you so hung up on finding a man!? This ain't the 50's where a woman if she don't have a man by age 20 she's an old maid.

Maybe you should let him find you? I think you're prematurely over-reacting thinking that men are dropping off the side of Earth because you're over 28. You're still young and in your child bearing years, so what's the rush for? If you're really worried about your clock ticking for children, do realize there is a sperm bank.

I hope you don't think that finding a man is going to make you once and for all "happy". This is a big mistake in thought if you think so. "Happily ever after" is what you make of it...

And what kind of man are you looking for? Long term relationship man? Marriage man? One night stand man?

If he doesn't love you for what you are (that includes your age), maybe you should reconsider your checklist when it comes to men.

Why not? I know that for me being with the man I love is what makes me happy in life.

LadyCasanova said:

I've been with some good men

But I've also been with some even better women

If you find that all the men you are around are leaving a sour taste in your mouth you should come

play on our side. I'd be more than happy to make you tingle all over

On a more serious note, just love yourself and live your life the best way you can. Love has a

habit of hitting you when you least expect it.

That is my experience too. I never looked for a man in my life. I cannot choose who I fall in love with anyway.