TD3 said:
I recall Jerry Springer making the observation about the differences between men and women guest on his show: He said, women would drop their purses in a minute and have at it, rock 'em/sock 'em. The men however would take one step forward and three steps back and still talke shit.
I watched the documentary on HBO did on fashion models post WWII to the early eighties last week. One of these women made a poignant observation she said, "I learned at an early age the camera can lie".
There's a big difference between reality TV and real life. (imo) The term "reality TV" is a contradiction in terms. These shows foundations are built upon degradation; there's always one or two people on these reality programs who's primary responsibility is to be over the top obnoxious. The mess is scripted that way.
The Jerry Springers, Brideziilla, Basketball Wives, Atlanta Housewives, Jersey Shore; the lot of these shows depend on people acting badly or no one would watch. Especially shows built around all women, who are all to willing to act a damn fool for exposure and a couple of dollars. TV producers encourage this type of behavior that otherwise would get anyone fired, locked up, and/or escorted off the premises in handcuffs in the real world.
There was someone in the wings to grab her ass when she started cussing/kicking/screaming or yell cut when things got too hot and heavy. This has nothing to do with being tough... it was an act. A women questioned her man if he had been creeping because she found a receipt for a box of condoms. That's real, it hurts, and its humiliating.
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Very true.
Which makes it all the more sad that she went into this knowing full well and publicly accepting his rejection of mongamy on national television during the course of several conversations. It was just foolish. I suppose she thought once they were married that the rules they set out would change, but I don't believe that open marriages are for everybody nor did I think she was ever that tough to withstand one, even though she goes on her "you ain't about this life" tirades to other women.
But one thing to keep in mind, is that this woman told her fiance on national tv, if you cheat, I need you to use a condom. She also told him in a previous conversation that she needed him to tighten up and try not to be seen publicly w/ women he was hagning out with- because she didn't want the tabloids going crazy so close to their wedding date. So she accepted it, before they were married, that this was going to be the modus operandi for how they were going to handle his libido issues. She asked that he simply let her know, so that she's not caught out there being bumrushed by the press. In that same converstaion, this fool actually told her that he also thought that if he sees a hot chick in the club, he wants to be able to bring her home...to their house (which, call me old-fashioned, but that just totally blows the mind), to which Evelyn's only response was, "but what if I don't like her
" Before all of this, they had even cancelled their engagement because of his cheating a few times, until they came up with the bright idea that he was just not going top settle down sexually with just her, and she had better let him do what he wants if she wanted to get married. So it's very clear that she went into this eyes wide open because she is about that life. I guess after she was standing there taking those vows, she really caught feelings for her husband and the actual insitution of marriage, and then wanted to see her situation through rose-colored glasses.
Still, no hitting should have taken place, ever....and I'm just praying that with her own violent history (because this is a women who says when she sees red, that she just wants to go for a person's throat and see blood)---that she will not exploit what happened to her with Chad to suddenly become the face of domestic violence, because there would be some hypocrisy issues there for me. But...like you mentioned before, this whole making selling your soul for money trend with these shows...I have a feeling it might happen, and I question if it would come from a really sincere place- particulary as Lozada herself is often quoted as saying how she has to ride her 15 minutes for as long as she can, and take advantage of as much branding opportunities as possible before her time runs out.