lauralevesque said:

Unfortunately those feelings will stay for awhile but they do eventually go away. I had a guy who was "the one that got away" and I pined for him forever, finally, though, it dwindled and then about 15 years later (as in a few months ago) I googled him and my once, lithe, handsome, J.Crew wearing poet- is now middle aged- chubby, balding, and all in all, goofy looking! I'm now officially over him.

Really?

I think if the same thing happened to me, it wouldn't matter that he looked different.

JustErin said:

lauralevesque said:

Unfortunately those feelings will stay for awhile but they do eventually go away. I had a guy who was "the one that got away" and I pined for him forever, finally, though, it dwindled and then about 15 years later (as in a few months ago) I googled him and my once, lithe, handsome, J.Crew wearing poet- is now middle aged- chubby, balding, and all in all, goofy looking! I'm now officially over him.

Really?

I think if the same thing happened to me, it wouldn't matter that he looked different.

Right. Normally it wouldn't matter but this guy, I was CRAZY about and he was very mean to me, always telling me how "inadequate" I was- I wasn't smart enough, rich enough, didn't dress well enough- He was always cheating and then telling me how gorgeous the women were after he was found out (and they were- he wasn't lying) - I don't know why I put up with it but I just couldn't help being nuts about him. He was very focused on his "look" so to me it was funny to find that he's just your everyday middle aged man now. Oh! And also not the "famous writer" he was always bragging that he was going to be!

lauralevesque said:

JustErin said:

Really?

I think if the same thing happened to me, it wouldn't matter that he looked different.

Right. Normally it wouldn't matter but this guy, I was CRAZY about and he was very mean to me, always telling me how "inadequate" I was- I wasn't smart enough, rich enough, didn't dress well enough- He was always cheating and then telling me how gorgeous the women were after he was found out (and they were- he wasn't lying) - I don't know why I put up with it but I just couldn't help being nuts about him. He was very focused on his "look" so to me it was funny to find that he's just your everyday middle aged man now. Oh! And also not the "famous writer" he was always bragging that he was going to be!

He never really was the one that got away then, was he?

I think you get over somone quickest if you date someone else.

Serial monogomists always seem to rebound the quickest.

CarrieMpls said:

Time is all you really need.

I don’t pine over any crushes or exes from my youth. I have an ex or two that at the time I thought I could never possibly get over it all but, eventually I did. Time takes care of most of it, and finding a new partner REALLY helps. Nothing like a new love to get over an old one, or so the saying goes. Certainly there are people who will always have a place in my heart but that’s all it is anymore – a small little place.

nursev said:

Truth is time does make it better, but the feelings are always there just put away. That's all I can say

That is the truth right there!

Those feelings become manageable, but they will creep back into the front of your mind from time to time.

imago said:

CarrieMpls said:

Time is all you really need.

I don’t pine over any crushes or exes from my youth. I have an ex or two that at the time I thought I could never possibly get over it all but, eventually I did. Time takes care of most of it, and finding a new partner REALLY helps. Nothing like a new love to get over an old one, or so the saying goes. Certainly there are people who will always have a place in my heart but that’s all it is anymore – a small little place.

novabrkr would like this one!

Call me bitter, cold or whatever, but I seriously believe that the only way 2 stay in love is 2 stay out of love.

The thrill often dies when u really get 2 know some1.

ZombieKitten said:

imago said:

novabrkr would like this one!

Oh my god.

I know I'm going to regret this , and that I really shouldn't want to ask.

But I find myself powerless in resisting the urge to ask why.

Why?

imago said:

ZombieKitten said:

novabrkr would like this one!

Oh my god.

I know I'm going to regret this , and that I really shouldn't want to ask.

But I find myself powerless in resisting the urge to ask why.

Why?

he could really let himself go and be real in the sex and gasssssss thread