jone70 said:

I don't understand most people's total lack of consideration for others. Everyone is so self-absorbed and focused on themselves they often forget - or simply don't care - how their actions (or inactions) affect others.

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Possibly because as we first leave the womb we are alone and experiencing everything by ourself? Also in those last moments of our lives we are ultimately alone so perhaps this is why we only focus on ourselves? It is completely natural to consider ourselves but to consider others takes effort? I don't know.

iloveannie said:

jone70 said:

I don't understand most people's total lack of consideration for others. Everyone is so self-absorbed and focused on themselves they often forget - or simply don't care - how their actions (or inactions) affect others.

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[Edited 8/5/12 16:05pm]

Possibly because as we first leave the womb we are alone and experiencing everything by ourself? Also in those last moments of our lives we are ultimately alone so perhaps this is why we only focus on ourselves? It is completely natural to consider ourselves but to consider others takes effort? I don't know.

But people who are focused on themselve expect other people to consider them (because they are "more important"). I don't get it. I mean, just for simple stuff, even. Like the asshole delivery guy who double parks his truck on the street making so the entire city bus full of people can't get by, for example. One person's actions are holding up dozens of other people, but he doesn't seem to care. Or when people have been waiting in a long line and when they finally get to the front they don't know what they want, they can't find their wallet, they don't have the forms filled out properly, etc. thereby making the wait for everyone else that much longer. Maybe I'm expecting too much out of people, but these seem like simple things that wouldn't take much effort.

jone70 said:

iloveannie said:

Possibly because as we first leave the womb we are alone and experiencing everything by ourself? Also in those last moments of our lives we are ultimately alone so perhaps this is why we only focus on ourselves? It is completely natural to consider ourselves but to consider others takes effort? I don't know.

But people who are focused on themselve expect other people to consider them (because they are "more important"). I don't get it. I mean, just for simple stuff, even. Like the asshole delivery guy who double parks his truck on the street making so the entire city bus full of people can't get by, for example. One person's actions are holding up dozens of other people, but he doesn't seem to care. Or when people have been waiting in a long line and when they finally get to the front they don't know what they want, they can't find their wallet, they don't have the forms filled out properly, etc. thereby making the wait for everyone else that much longer. Maybe I'm expecting too much out of people, but these seem like simple things that wouldn't take much effort.

I wholeheartedly agree with both your posts.

I find that people are assholes in general and I am finding that being kind and courteous more work every day. I'd like to go the asshole route just for a little while.

Stymie said:

jone70 said:

But people who are focused on themselve expect other people to consider them (because they are "more important"). I don't get it. I mean, just for simple stuff, even. Like the asshole delivery guy who double parks his truck on the street making so the entire city bus full of people can't get by, for example. One person's actions are holding up dozens of other people, but he doesn't seem to care. Or when people have been waiting in a long line and when they finally get to the front they don't know what they want, they can't find their wallet, they don't have the forms filled out properly, etc. thereby making the wait for everyone else that much longer. Maybe I'm expecting too much out of people, but these seem like simple things that wouldn't take much effort.

I wholeheartedly agree with both your posts.

I find that people are assholes in general and I am finding that being kind and courteous more work every day. I'd like to go the asshole route just for a little while.

Sometimes these a-holes have medical conditions (mental or physical) that hinder their judgement. That being said if your an a-hole to a customer service person and I'm in line. I will say all the things that should be said to you. First off, knock it off, you are not allowed to treat people that way period.

jone70 said:

iloveannie said:

Possibly because as we first leave the womb we are alone and experiencing everything by ourself? Also in those last moments of our lives we are ultimately alone so perhaps this is why we only focus on ourselves? It is completely natural to consider ourselves but to consider others takes effort? I don't know.

But people who are focused on themselve expect other people to consider them (because they are "more important"). I don't get it. I mean, just for simple stuff, even. Like the asshole delivery guy who double parks his truck on the street making so the entire city bus full of people can't get by, for example. One person's actions are holding up dozens of other people, but he doesn't seem to care. Or when people have been waiting in a long line and when they finally get to the front they don't know what they want, they can't find their wallet, they don't have the forms filled out properly, etc. thereby making the wait for everyone else that much longer. Maybe I'm expecting too much out of people, but these seem like simple things that wouldn't take much effort.

All that, plus...

Look the fuck behind you before you let a self-closing door go - so it doesn't slam in the face of the next person coming out (or going in). Are you really so rushed/lazy/important that you can't hold a door for two fucking seconds 'til that other person has a chance to grab it?

I'm not saying you have to stand there and play doorman - just not to let it slam in someone's face. Is that so hard?

kewlschool said:

Stymie said:

I wholeheartedly agree with both your posts.

I find that people are assholes in general and I am finding that being kind and courteous more work every day. I'd like to go the asshole route just for a little while.

Sometimes these a-holes have medical conditions (mental or physical) that hinder their judgement. That being said if your an a-hole to a customer service person and I'm in line. I will say all the things that should be said to you. First off, knock it off, you are not allowed to treat people that way period.

I'm always willing to give people the benefit of the doubt but that would be a huge number of people. Is there something wrong with a person who slows down in your lane because they are talking on their cellphone or doesn't signal? Is there something wrong with people who don't let you exit a door before they enter?

Genesia said:

jone70 said:

But people who are focused on themselve expect other people to consider them (because they are "more important"). I don't get it. I mean, just for simple stuff, even. Like the asshole delivery guy who double parks his truck on the street making so the entire city bus full of people can't get by, for example. One person's actions are holding up dozens of other people, but he doesn't seem to care. Or when people have been waiting in a long line and when they finally get to the front they don't know what they want, they can't find their wallet, they don't have the forms filled out properly, etc. thereby making the wait for everyone else that much longer. Maybe I'm expecting too much out of people, but these seem like simple things that wouldn't take much effort.

All that, plus...

Look the fuck behind you before you let a self-closing door go - so it doesn't slam in the face of the next person coming out (or going in). Are you really so rushed/lazy/important that you can't hold a door for two fucking seconds 'til that other person has a chance to grab it?

I'm not saying you have to stand there and play doorman - just not to let it slam in someone's face. Is that so hard?

i fucking hate that shit.

Stymie said:

kewlschool said:

Sometimes these a-holes have medical conditions (mental or physical) that hinder their judgement. That being said if your an a-hole to a customer service person and I'm in line. I will say all the things that should be said to you. First off, knock it off, you are not allowed to treat people that way period.

I'm always willing to give people the benefit of the doubt but that would be a huge number of people. Is there something wrong with a person who slows down in your lane because they are talking on their cellphone or doesn't signal? Is there something wrong with people who don't let you exit a door before they enter?

A lot of that is people only involved in their own world, making them a-holes.

Sometimes it's just spacing out.

I don't understand why everybody is so damn cautious when they speak:

Example:

Susan calls Mike at 8am and says "I'm running a little late, I'll be in at 11:00am"

Mike ask's Jody if Susan called and if so, what time will she be in. Jody says yes she called and supposedly she'll be in at 11:00am. Why couldn't she just say "yes Susan called and she'll be in at 11" If Susan isn't in at 11, then thats on Susan, not Jody! People today speak like their in a court of law.

Also hate when people act stupid like they don't know what a simple statement means. For example if the same Susan called and said she'll be in shortly, Jody may respond to Mikes answer with "Susan said she'll be in shortly, whatever that means". Jody knows damn well what it means! I don't get it.

Funkcreep said:

I don't understand why everybody is so damn cautious when they speak:

Example:

Susan calls Mike at 8am and says "I'm running a little late, I'll be in at 11:00am"

Mike ask's Jody if Susan called and if so, what time will she be in. Jody says yes she called and supposedly she'll be in at 11:00am. Why couldn't she just say "yes Susan called and she'll be in at 11" If Susan isn't in at 11, then thats on Susan, not Jody! People today speak like their in a court of law.

Also hate when people act stupid like they don't know what a simple statement means. For example if the same Susan called and said she'll be in shortly, Jody may respond to Mikes answer with "Susan said she'll be in shortly, whatever that means". Jody knows damn well what it means! I don't get it.

Jody doesn't sound cautious or stupid. She's just a shady asshole. And what's she got against Susan?

Stymie said:

Genesia said:

All that, plus...

Look the fuck behind you before you let a self-closing door go - so it doesn't slam in the face of the next person coming out (or going in). Are you really so rushed/lazy/important that you can't hold a door for two fucking seconds 'til that other person has a chance to grab it?

I'm not saying you have to stand there and play doorman - just not to let it slam in someone's face. Is that so hard?

i fucking hate that shit.

My mom would knock me into the middle of next week if I let a door go as a kid. She did not go in for losing control of a door - any kind of a door. And if you actually slammed one on purpose? Oh, man...you better run - and just keep on runnin'.

And don't even get me started on my dad and car doors. If you slammed a door on one of his cars (he was in the business), heaven help you.

I am the gentlest door closer on the face of the earth.

Shyra said:

paintedlady said:

I just can't be bothered what people think about my clothes...

I am realtively short and obese and I will walk around feeling cute showing my arms in a spagetti strapped summer maxi with an sunhat that sports a 11.5" brim on occasion ....

yes, people OPENLY talk shit about me when I walk down the street. "Hey Haitian!" Like being called a Haitian would insult me. I wear what I feel comfortable wearing and I don't care...

funny thing, I bought that big ol' hat 2 years ago and now its in the damn Lexus commercial.

I never really cared what others thought of how I dressed and never followed trends.

I also will never understand why people care so much about what others have anyways. Its like society at large centers around envy ....

those who have and plan to have look down on those who don't

those who get do so to say they got it first

those who get want the biggest, best, fastest, prettiest... to feel superior to others so they can use their possesions as a measuring stick to proclaim their superiority to others....

as a society we sad as hell.

See.

This is why I love this lady so much. She's got good sense and we think alike. We must have been twins in another life.