When it comes to dating or being with someone...where do YOU strike a balance between someone with a great Personality (that you get along with, can communicate with, and enjoy his/her company), a greate Physique (not just body but also handsome/beautiful or tailored to your physical ideals), and Possessions (house, car, bank account, vacation home, etc.) ?

How do you prioritize?

Would you be with someone with a so-so personality and little possessions but with your top physical ideals?

Would you be with someone with little possessions and so-so physically but with an amazing personality?

Would you be with someone with a poor personality, poor physical attributes, but more possessions than you could ever spend in one lifetime?

What's most important to you?

What is least important to you?

What doesn't matter either way to you?

...and a if you say ALL THREE matter just the same.

PurpleJedi said:

Would you be with someone with a so-so personality and little possessions but with your top physical ideals? For just sex? Sure. Otherwise, no.

Would you be with someone with little possessions and so-so physically but with an amazing personality? Yes

Would you be with someone with a poor personality, poor physical attributes, but more possessions than you could ever spend in one lifetime? No

PurpleJedi said:

When it comes to dating or being with someone...where do YOU strike a balance between someone with a great Personality (that you get along with, can communicate with, and enjoy his/her company), a greate Physique (not just body but also handsome/beautiful or tailored to your physical ideals), and Possessions (house, car, bank account, vacation home, etc.) ?

How do you prioritize?

Would you be with someone with a so-so personality and little possessions but with your top physical ideals?

Would you be with someone with little possessions and so-so physically but with an amazing personality?

Would you be with someone with a poor personality, poor physical attributes, but more possessions than you could ever spend in one lifetime?

What's most important to you?

What is least important to you?

What doesn't matter either way to you?

...and a if you say ALL THREE matter just the same.

They all matter to some extent, but some probably not in the way that you mean.

Personality and chemistry are number 1. How well we get along and how attractive I find you. For me attraction is about way more than looks, though they play a role.

Physique is a factor, but what I’m attracted to is a pretty broad range and if everything else is great that can compensate for a lot. I’m generally not attracted to muscle-y types or guys who are morbidly obese, but if you’ve got style, are really smart and make me laugh I might overlook both.

Possessions only matter in that they tell me a little something about you. I can’t imagine being remotely interested in someone who’s into, say, luxury sports cars. Or lives in a McMansion in the ‘burbs. It’s not my style and we’d probably have little in common. Doesn't make you a bad person, I just don't find it attractive.

I’m not into dating folks with absolutely no ambition, but having lots of money isn’t important either. If you’re happy with what you do or are working towards being happy with what you do, that’s what matters.

All you need is

Cloudbuster said:

All you need is

CarrieMpls said:

Cloudbuster said:

All you need is

Luvs ya baby.

Would you be with someone with a so-so personality and little possessions but with your top physical ideals? No

Would you be with someone with little possessions and so-so physically but with an amazing personality? Maybe, but the odds of me getting to know someone that I found so so in physical attraction really well are pretty slim

Would you be with someone with a poor personality, poor physical attributes, but more possessions than you could ever spend in one lifetime? no

What's most important to you? How he treats me and how I treat him

What is least important to you? Money

What doesn't matter either way to you? Everything matters to me

Physical attraction is what will get me to be into someone, but their personality and who they are as a person is the only thing that will get me to stay.

I think personality is #1, with physique running a close 2nd...

(There has been only one person who fits both (actually all three) in a way that keeps me extremely attracted to him...)

In general:

I've dated "pretty boys"/handsome men and a body builder. It doesn't matter what you look like if I can't stand to be around you for long. The same with possessions: it doesn't matter what you have if I don't like you.

Catch 22:

The last guy I dated is one of the nicest people I know- with a nice amount of "possessions" that he was willing to share- but I found myself looking at him like because I overlooked (physical) things in the beginning that I realized I just couldn't ignore.

Unless you are one of the lucky few, physical beauty will eventually fade. So, for me, I ask myself is this a dude I want to be with once the wrinkles set in and the belly gets bigger? Therefore, Personality is #1 on the list for me when choosing a mate. Physical traits are probably second. I like handsome dudes. Body types really don't matter much to me. I see guys with killer bodies all the time but their faces look like a monkey's behind. If I gotta wake up next to you and kiss you every morning, you must have an attractive face. Possessions are not very important to me. A job (or some kind of income) is necessary but I've never been one to judge anyone based on what they own.

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PurpleJedi said:

When it comes to dating or being with someone...where do YOU strike a balance between someone with a great Personality (that you get along with, can communicate with, and enjoy his/her company), a greate Physique (not just body but also handsome/beautiful or tailored to your physical ideals), and Possessions (house, car, bank account, vacation home, etc.) ?

How do you prioritize?

Would you be with someone with a so-so personality and little possessions but with your top physical ideals?

Would you be with someone with little possessions and so-so physically but with an amazing personality?

Would you be with someone with a poor personality, poor physical attributes, but more possessions than you could ever spend in one lifetime?

What's most important to you?

What is least important to you?

What doesn't matter either way to you?

...and a if you say ALL THREE matter just the same.

i look for a guy who likes birds. then, we go from there

You put them in the right order!

RodeoSchro said:

You put them in the right order!

I could never be with some old guy (or young guy_) who I was not physically attracted to, no matter what physical possesions they had. I do not understand how women will get with some nasty ole thing because they have lots of stuff and can buy me some silly ass purses or something. I just couldn't do it! I recently saw a picture of the father of Heidi Klum's first child, that old billionaire race car driver who's fat and wears banana thongs (the pic was of him at the beach) with curly wiry grey hair/ about 60 years old and tanned beyond belief, and I lost all respect for her. There is just no way she was with him for anything beyond money, just no way. I think he's also the one who knocked up Linda Evangelista (I could be wrong) and I'm thinking, didn't these women already have alot of money? How much more do they need? Are they so greedy that they would have sexy times with this piece of beef jerky? I don't think so.....

lauralevesque said:

I could never be with some old guy (or young guy_) who I was not physically attracted to, no matter what physical possesions they had. I do not understand how women will get with some nasty ole thing because they have lots of stuff and can buy me some silly ass purses or something. I just couldn't do it! I recently saw a picture of the father of Heidi Klum's first child, that old billionaire race car driver who's fat and wears banana thongs (the pic was of him at the beach) with curly wiry grey hair/ about 60 years old and tanned beyond belief, and I lost all respect for her. There is just no way she was with him for anything beyond money, just no way. I think he's also the one who knocked up Linda Evangelista (I could be wrong) and I'm thinking, didn't these women already have alot of money? How much more do they need? Are they so greedy that they would have sexy times with this piece of beef jerky? I don't think so.....

lauralevesque said:

I could never be with some old guy (or young guy_) who I was not physically attracted to, no matter what physical possesions they had. I do not understand how women will get with some nasty ole thing because they have lots of stuff and can buy me some silly ass purses or something. I just couldn't do it! I recently saw a picture of the father of Heidi Klum's first child, that old billionaire race car driver who's fat and wears banana thongs (the pic was of him at the beach) with curly wiry grey hair/ about 60 years old and tanned beyond belief, and I lost all respect for her. There is just no way she was with him for anything beyond money, just no way. I think he's also the one who knocked up Linda Evangelista (I could be wrong) and I'm thinking, didn't these women already have alot of money? How much more do they need? Are they so greedy that they would have sexy times with this piece of beef jerky? I don't think so.....

Actually, I'm wrong, he's not a race car driver, he owns something to do with race car somemthinng or other....

lauralevesque said:

lauralevesque said:

I could never be with some old guy (or young guy_) who I was not physically attracted to, no matter what physical possesions they had. I do not understand how women will get with some nasty ole thing because they have lots of stuff and can buy me some silly ass purses or something. I just couldn't do it! I recently saw a picture of the father of Heidi Klum's first child, that old billionaire race car driver who's fat and wears banana thongs (the pic was of him at the beach) with curly wiry grey hair/ about 60 years old and tanned beyond belief, and I lost all respect for her. There is just no way she was with him for anything beyond money, just no way. I think he's also the one who knocked up Linda Evangelista (I could be wrong) and I'm thinking, didn't these women already have alot of money? How much more do they need? Are they so greedy that they would have sexy times with this piece of beef jerky? I don't think so.....

Actually, I'm wrong, he's not a race car driver, he owns something to do with race car somemthinng or other....

Maybe the dude is packing serious heat.

I mean, Heidi has admitted that THAT was her initial attraction to Seal.

PurpleJedi said:

lauralevesque said:

Actually, I'm wrong, he's not a race car driver, he owns something to do with race car somemthinng or other....

Maybe the dude is packing serious heat.

I mean, Heidi has admitted that THAT was her initial attraction to Seal.

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I don't know, do you think he's packing heat?

I've dated the gammut physically.

I've dated ugly guys to the most gorgeous guy I ever seen in my life bar none.

The problem with me is that I dated this uber fine azzed guy (IMO) when I was only 16 and knew I would never find another guy that good looking so I put aside my vain attitudes and went for "personality".

I bombed many times trying to make it work with a guy I wasn't truly physically attracted to despite possessing good personality. I learned my lesson and now realize I need to have an instant physical attraction otherwise it will never work.

I did lower my standards on how fine a guy must be though. I had too.... I got fat and older, I was no longer the hottie I used to be. So I had to be more realistic.... so because of that dude gotta make a good living. That possession standard went up as I got older. A man must come with with a decent job and stability along with decent looks and an amazing personality for me now.

The older I get, the higher the standard in personality gets. Damn near impossible to please me in that area now.

lauralevesque said:

PurpleJedi said:

Maybe the dude is packing serious heat.

I mean, Heidi has admitted that THAT was her initial attraction to Seal.

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I don't know, do you think he's packing heat?

...uhm...possessions?

paintedlady said:

I've dated the gammut physically.

I've dated ugly guys to the most gorgeous guy I ever seen in my life bar none.

The problem with me is that I dated this uber fine azzed guy (IMO) when I was only 16 and knew I would never find another guy that good looking so I put aside my vain attitudes and went for "personality".

I bombed many times trying to make it work with a guy I wasn't truly physically attracted to despite possessing good personality. I learned my lesson and now realize I need to have an instant physical attraction otherwise it will never work.

I did lower my standards on how fine a guy must be though. I had too.... I got fat and older, I was no longer the hottie I used to be. So I had to be more realistic.... so because of that dude gotta make a good living. That possession standard went up as I got older. A man must come with with a decent job and stability along with decent looks and an amazing personality for me now.

The older I get, the higher the standard in personality gets. Damn near impossible to please me in that area now.

Well at least you did the normal thang...dated for looks while young, then the rest as you got older.

Sucks when you fixate on personality when you're young & full of vigor, then start going for looks when you're a tired old middle-aged shmuck with no bank.

I'd like everything to at least be average. I think personality is probably the most important but I want them to be attractive too. As far as possessions go as long as they own their own house and have a job, I'm fine.

How do you prioritize?

Would you be with someone with a so-so personality and little possessions but with your top physical ideals?

I don't care howe beautiful the person is, if I'm not just looking for sex, I won't even bother pursuing.

Would you be with someone with little possessions and so-so physically but with an amazing personality?

A younger person, sure. Any older person, probably not. It depends on the situation. If they're past 30 and they have little by way of possessions because they have no ambition or motivation, I find that to be a terrible turnoff. A 20 year old is fine because sometimes it takes a bit to find your drive. I do find 20 year olds with ambition to be very attractive.

But if the person doesn't own a lot because they simply are materialistic, I would like this. All depends on situation.

Would you be with someone with a poor personality, poor physical attributes, but more possessions than you could ever spend in one lifetime?

If it was an honest relationship, sure why not? For a few months, it may be fun. As long as it was honost, and they knew there wasn't a chance in hell that it would be a real thing, and vice versa. I mean man of these folks know those who are with them don't exactly find them all that thrilling.

What's most important to you? Physical. I don't believe love is a connection of 'like personalitie'. I think it's more primal and visceral than that. It's partly the reason why I don't think it's a love-is-forever thing.

What is least important to you? Money.

What doesn't matter either way to you? Looks. I know this sounds like I'm contradicting myself above, but I'm not. You can have a strong physical connection to someone who doesn't fit your ideal of 'good looking'.

...and a if you say ALL THREE matter just the same.

All three matter just the same.

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

I've dated the gammut physically.

I've dated ugly guys to the most gorgeous guy I ever seen in my life bar none.

The problem with me is that I dated this uber fine azzed guy (IMO) when I was only 16 and knew I would never find another guy that good looking so I put aside my vain attitudes and went for "personality".

I bombed many times trying to make it work with a guy I wasn't truly physically attracted to despite possessing good personality. I learned my lesson and now realize I need to have an instant physical attraction otherwise it will never work.

I did lower my standards on how fine a guy must be though. I had too.... I got fat and older, I was no longer the hottie I used to be. So I had to be more realistic.... so because of that dude gotta make a good living. That possession standard went up as I got older. A man must come with with a decent job and stability along with decent looks and an amazing personality for me now.

The older I get, the higher the standard in personality gets. Damn near impossible to please me in that area now.

Well at least you did the normal thang...dated for looks while young, then the rest as you got older.

Sucks when you fixate on personality when you're young & full of vigor, then start going for looks when you're a tired old middle-aged shmuck with no bank.

Did you mostly date Latinas when you were young? If so, then all Latinas generally look great when they are young.... its when we start popping kids out is when the mustaches and muffin tops appear.

So then it would make sense to start to pay attention to looks when the pickings slim down as far as beauty is concerned.