Terrib3Towel said:

You think I'm being irrational? Well maybe I am, I'm new to the dating world. I don't know what to expect I guess. This isn't the first time I've been shut down, I'm tired of being rejected dammit.

Terrib don't you get yourself angry over this guy. As someone who's also new to the dating world, I too can be very impatient but at the same time very lenient.

Even if a guy is shy, he'll show you in some way that he likes you. Not answering text messages is to me, bad etiquette.

You deserve better.

[Edited 6/21/12 23:46pm]

Sometimes I read txt msgs, but am unable to reply right away and then I forget I haven't replied yet. But even if that's the case, I'd say at this point he's not really interested.

Cerebus said:

Also, for some reason I thought you were a guy. Didn't we talk about football or somethin'?

He is, I think.

what did u say in your text message???

ThisOne said:

what did u say in your text message???

"Please NEVER text me ever again"

ZombieKitten said:

ThisOne said:

what did u say in your text message???

"Please NEVER text me ever again"

After no answer from the first text message, I would have left it at that and went about my business. If he didn't answer within 24 hours, then he wasn't interested. A 2nd text would had made it seem like you were pressed or desperate. So after he saw the 2nd one, it didn't make him respond any more faster than when he received the first one. Just go on chile....men who are interested will let you know right away. You have nothing to lose.

So somebody clue me in because I'm not up to date on this sort of thing: do people actually not call each other anymore?

Ottensen said:

So somebody clue me in because I'm not up to date on this sort of thing: do people actually not call each other anymore?

Exactly.

Before you jump to conclusions on this guy, let me tell you a story:

We called this banker one time about a rather large loan for us. He was interested and we agreed to have another call. We called him, got his voice mail, and left a message. He never returned the call.

We were some kind of mad at him for a long time. We disparaged him whenever we talked about bankers (thankfully only within the company).

About a year later, he called. It turned out he'd had an episode with his stomach, went to the hospital, and found out he had a large tumor in his belly. He was immediately operated on, and lots of treatment followed.

Needless to say, I felt really, REALLY bad about what I'd said and thought about the guy. Now, I don't jump to conclusions when someone doesn't return the call.

Cerebus said:

ThisOne said:

missfee said:

Terrib3Towel said:

missfee said:

After no answer from the first text message, I would have left it at that and went about my business. If he didn't answer within 24 hours, then he wasn't interested. A 2nd text would had made it seem like you were pressed or desperate. So after he saw the 2nd one, it didn't make him respond any more faster than when he received the first one. Just go on chile....men who are interested will let you know right away. You have nothing to lose.

My major concern was coming across desperate, but hell I am desperate.

No you aren't. Don't feel that way. Just have a right to pick choose who you want to date just like every one else in the world. You don't have to take on the first person who may show interest in you.

when was the last time somebody used a TELEPHONE to make a call???

see, i'm old school. if you use the phone to call and don't get an answer

or a return call, you can qwit wonderin about dumb shit and move on.

technology is a muthafucka these days...

KingBAD said:

when was the last time somebody used a TELEPHONE to make a call???

see, i'm old school. if you use the phone to call and don't get an answer

or a return call, you can qwit wonderin about dumb shit and move on.

technology is a muthafucka these days...

Exactly!

Personally, in a "new relationship" context, I think texts are kind of a chicken shit way of communicating. How interested can someone be if they don't even want to talk to you? Plus, the whole thing has an, "I don't want to be rejected to my face, so I'm just going to send a text" vibe that's kind of wimpish.

Alright. So my ex lived four-hundred miles away while we were courting, and my current boyfriend's parents are divorced and now that it's summer lives a few hours away for a few days every other week. On top of all that I'm a teenager so texting is pratically all I know as far as outside communication (other than say skype. But phone calls are almost unheard of).

Anyway, I often don't text back within the first hour, and sometimes I fall asleep early and it'll be the next day. This isn't for any reason other than I'm often genuinally busy, or too tired to come up with a witty response. Texting is fun 'cause it's light and flirty. If I don't have anything brillant to text at the moment, I don't. I never do a double text in the same day. I text once. No response, I MIGHT text tomorrow, but only if I have something different to say.

Also, yes, early on, especially with my ex, I'd be constantly checking my phone, and sometimes I'd wait to text him back just because I didn't want to seem too eager.

Personally, I'd say give this guy a day or two to respond. You don't know his texting style. My ex would respond anywhere from right away to the next day, while my current bf almost always responds within the hour.

Terrib3Towel said:

Basically there's a guy I like, but I'm super shy and can't bring myself to ask him out. He gave me his number and I texted him, but I haven't gotten a text back. I know he worked today, but its like 10:30, nobody works that late.

Screw love. I'm dying alone.

Also I want to point out, if a guy is interested, he'll ask for YOUR NUMBER as well as him giving you his. When real men are interested they do call you first, and don't opt to texting. Especially when you two initially meet. If he texts first, unless its to ask if you are available to talk so that he can call you, it's a red flag. I don't think texting from the other party should acceptable until you two have felt each other out and even so, to me texting is only for things like "hope you have a good day", "have a great lunch" or something along those lines....long drawn out conversations SHOULD NOT be by way of text messaging. If you find that the guy does more texting than calling, then that's a red flag. Again this is all just my opinion through the situations I've been through in dating.

Terrib3Towel said:

Cerebus said:

Also, for some reason I thought you were a guy. Didn't we talk about football or somethin'?

I'm a guy, and I loove sports so we probably did at one point.

WELL START ACTIN' LIKE ONE!

Cerebus said:

Terrib3Towel said:

Cerebus said: I'm a guy, and I loove sports so we probably did at one point.

WELL START ACTIN' LIKE ONE!

I hate that!

You got 3 minutes to txt me back or I'll hate your slow texting ass guts!!

BUT, if I like you that much I might text you again or hear you out if you have an excuse to tell me later..

Eagerbeavers are not sexy.

He's probably having a life and doesn't like it when somebody else tries to make him responsible for their happiness. Why not first find out if you like him enough? You can't know if you just met.

Give it time, find out what kind of man he is, what is habits and needs are. Then decide if that could be working for you.

This sounds desparate loserish. Not attractive at all.

dJJ said:

Eagerbeavers are not sexy.

He's probably having a life and doesn't like it when somebody else tries to make him responsible for their happiness. Why not first find out if you like him enough? You can't know if you just met.

Give it time, find out what kind of man he is, what is habits and needs are. Then decide if that could be working for you.

This sounds desparate loserish. Not attractive at all.

Everybody keeps their phone right next to them. Reading a text and replying to it takes seconds.. If they don't reply, they probably don't like you.

Terrib3Towel said:

Basically there's a guy I like, but I'm super shy and can't bring myself to ask him out. He gave me his number and I texted him, but I haven't gotten a text back. I know he worked today, but its like 10:30, nobody works that late.

Screw love. I'm dying alone.

i have a pending file in my cell phone as well as full use of the calender. if a new person has been placed on my call list and i do not hear back from them via a call or a text in a certain amount of time that person's name gets DELETED from my call file.

i've found deleting a name for a cell/mobile phone file can give one a micro sense of power just kidding.

if the deletee wants 2 contact me. no problem.

Tokyo89 said:

dJJ said:

Eagerbeavers are not sexy.

He's probably having a life and doesn't like it when somebody else tries to make him responsible for their happiness. Why not first find out if you like him enough? You can't know if you just met.

Give it time, find out what kind of man he is, what is habits and needs are. Then decide if that could be working for you.

This sounds desparate loserish. Not attractive at all.

Everybody keeps their phone right next to them. Reading a text and replying to it takes seconds.. If they don't reply, they probably don't like you.

Wrong. Absolutely a bit GIANT NO! I sometimes won't be in the same room with my phone for a day or two. Don't assume that just because you're tied to technology that everybody else is the same way.

So... no text

nursev said:

So... no text

you lookin to have phone text with somebody

i'll have you thinkin i was in the room wittcha

KingBAD said:

nursev said:

So... no text

you lookin to have phone text with somebody

i'll have you thinkin i was in the room wittcha

I know u would

nursev said:

KingBAD said:

you lookin to have phone text with somebody

i'll have you thinkin i was in the room wittcha

I know u would

igottawhisslewhightEDIT

[Edited 6/22/12 17:44pm]

nursev said:

So... no text

Nope..

I'm so over this bastard.