....well, I did tell you so!

http://news.yahoo.com/men...33519.html

Men's Porn Use Linked to Unhappy Relationships

Young women who report that their romantic partners look at porn frequently are less happy in their relationships than women partnered with guys who more often abstain, new research finds.

The study bolsters some anecdotal evidence that men's porn use can shake the self-esteem of their girlfriends or wives, though certainly not all couples have conflicts over pornography, said study researcher Destin Stewart, a clinical psychology intern at the University of Florida. Stewart decided to investigate the effect of porn on relationships after some of her clients revealed that they were struggling with the issue.

Discovering explicit material on a partner's computer "made them feel like they were not good enough, like they could not measure up," Stewart told LiveScience.

The results showed that women who reported that their boyfriends or husbands looked at more pornography were less likely to be happy in their relationships than women who said their partners didn't look at pornography very often. When women were bothered by their partner's porn use, saying, for example, that they believed he was a porn addict or that he used porn more than a "normal" amount, they were also more likely to have low self-esteem and to be less satisfied with both their relationship and their sex life.

That says more about the women with them than the guys. If you can't be honest about what ya like then it's kind of your own fault.

I'm not a big fan of porn and I'm glad my bf isn't either but I'm also realistic. I assume he checks it out from time to time and that's cool. He doesn't need to hide it from me and I wouldn't be disturbed if I found it in his browser history or something.

These studies are ridiculous. If they knew their man was a porn addict or connoisseur then why did they pursue the man? They think they would stop jacking off because they got somebody?

Oh it's all relative. The study was with "young women," plus what does "frequently" and "abstain more often" really mean?

long as it's not, like, cannibal porn i'm good

XxAxX said:

long as it's not, like, cannibal porn i'm good

there's such a thing as that? ....gee, im so naive.

Timmy84 said:

ZombieKitten said:

Timmy84 said:

These studies are ridiculous. If they knew their man was a porn addict or connoisseur then why did they pursue the man? They think they would stop jacking off because they got somebody?

I guess that stuff is more easily kept secret before people shack up together I got no issues with porn as long as the real sex keeps on coming

Yeah keep it simple. No one likes a junkie.

I think what this study really reveals is

"Young women who report that their romantic partners look at porn frequently are less happy in their relationships than women who don't know their romantic partners look at porn frequently"

Rococo said:

XxAxX said:

long as it's not, like, cannibal porn i'm good

there's such a thing as that? ....gee, im so naive.

see, current news re Montreal Monster Magnotti

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

JoeTyler said:

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

But it's okay if you're not married? What mechanism shuts off the desire to watch porn once you get married?

JoeTyler said:

they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

Many men would say that isn't the type of woman you marry.

sextonseven said:

JoeTyler said:

they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

Many men would say that isn't the type of woman you marry.

These men are stupid though . It is not a good idea at all to marry somebody if the sex is not really great with your partner.

JoeTyler said:

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

It is nice to watch porn together with your partner. And watching porn has nothing to do with things your partner is not willing to do or that somebody in a porn movie is hotter than your partner, at least not for me and I am very sure it is the same for my boyfriend too.

ZombieKitten said:

Timmy84 said:

These studies are ridiculous. If they knew their man was a porn addict or connoisseur then why did they pursue the man? They think they would stop jacking off because they got somebody?

I guess that stuff is more easily kept secret before people shack up together I got no issues with porn as long as the real sex keeps on coming

ZombieKitten said:

Timmy84 said:

These studies are ridiculous. If they knew their man was a porn addict or connoisseur then why did they pursue the man? They think they would stop jacking off because they got somebody?

I guess that stuff is more easily kept secret before people shack up together I got no issues with porn as long as the real sex keeps on coming

Right.

JoeTyler said:

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

Do you really expect someone's sexual interest/fantasy life dies because they married?

Who gets everything they want in a partner?

You may as well say, if she were just available to him when he wanted it (whatever "it" is) then he wouldn't be watching porn.

The point of this study is that his watching porn gives her an inferiority complex. She's obviously not enough for him or enough of what he wants.

Serious said:

JoeTyler said:

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

It is nice to watch porn together with your partner. And watching porn has nothing to do with things your partner is not willing to do or that somebody in a porn movie is hotter than your partner, at least not for me and I am very sure it is the same for my boyfriend too.

Yeah. What Serious said.

I'm sure some people (men or women) that have self esteem issues will feel this way. I also think that if one partner doesn't feel comfortable watching porn, they'll probably feel unhappy that their partner watches it.

Some people don't have a problem with their partners watching porn. Some people enjoy watching porn together. In my opinion, people who actually communicate with their spouses will never have a problem with this.

CarrieMpls said:

That says more about the women with them than the guys. If you can't be honest about what ya like then it's kind of your own fault.

I'm not a big fan of porn and I'm glad my bf isn't either but I'm also realistic. I assume he checks it out from time to time and that's cool. He doesn't need to hide it from me and I wouldn't be disturbed if I found it in his browser history or something.

It's not about being honest. The girls get insecure about themselves and how attractive their man rates them. Because their men need porn in order to satisfy themselves, the real life girlfriend isn't enough for them.

Timmy84 said:

ZombieKitten said:

Timmy84 said: I guess that stuff is more easily kept secret before people shack up together I got no issues with porn as long as the real sex keeps on coming

Yeah keep it simple. No one likes a junkie.

I don't think guys tell their dates about their internet porn addiction.

Girls have to find out later on, when they'r already in the relationship.

NDRU said:

JoeTyler said:

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

But it's okay if you're not married? What mechanism shuts off the desire to watch porn once you get married?

the real thing, lol

PANDURITO said:

I think what this study really reveals is

"Young women who report that their romantic partners look at porn frequently are less happy in their relationships than women who don't know their romantic partners look at porn frequently"

Do you suggest it's better to not inform girls?

Personally I hate it when somebody keeps relevant information from me.

I want to be able to decide about my life myself. If somebody decides to not give me the full information, he prevents me from making my own decisions. I don't like that.

I want to be able to decide for myself if I want to be with a partner who gets off on porn. It's relevant in many ways. I like a partner who is on the same page concerning my moral values. I want to know that my partner contributes to a system based on exploiting and abusing youg woman.

JoeTyler said:

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

Agree.

I think I can recognize sex partners who watch porn and those who don't. The porn watchers have a very limited array of skill and fantasy. They just want to re-enact a porn video. Boring lovers.

Lisa10 said:

I'm sure some people (men or women) that have self esteem issues will feel this way. I also think that if one partner doesn't feel comfortable watching porn, they'll probably feel unhappy that their partner watches it.

Some people don't have a problem with their partners watching porn. Some people enjoy watching porn together. In my opinion, people who actually communicate with their spouses will never have a problem with this.

Yep. Most important imo.

sextonseven said:

JoeTyler said:

they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

Many men would say that isn't the type of woman you marry.

yeah, I'm laughing, I mean it, don't get me wrong, but in the USA A LOT of people still think that sexual experimention, strong sexual appetite,"weird" sexual activities, etc are directly linked to addiction/depravity/infidelity

the perpetual conservative myth that a "good" wife should be a prune who occasionally enjoys missionary sex...

Serious said:

JoeTyler said:

I don't get why any man with a girlfriend, or a married man, could possibly want to watch/buy porn

many men say: "0h, I keep watching porn because my wife just won't do the stuff you see in a porn movie", or "see, I love my wife, but she's just not as hot as a pornstar", or "meh, jerking off to porn twice a week is harmless, who cares, it's not cheating"...

ant that's ridiculous; they should have known better...or they should have married someone else (a more sexually active woman, a hotter woman, or whatever)

It is nice to watch porn together with your partner. And watching porn has nothing to do with things your partner is not willing to do or that somebody in a porn movie is hotter than your partner, at least not for me and I am very sure it is the same for my boyfriend too.

yep, that's actually a lot of fun

but the study was about "engaged/married men who watch porn alone", lol and I think one of the causes is fetichism, or stuff their gfs/wifes just won't do...

JoeTyler said:

I love porn and would have no problems if my man watched it.....hell, I'd watch it with him.

Those people that don't like for their partners to watch porn are insecure.