morningsong said:

So much optimissism in these parts.

hahaha I know right. But remember, staying together isnt the norm, rather an abnormalty. lol.... XD

morningsong said:

So much optimissism in these parts.

There's a lot of optimism when you're single and free to mingle.

To Al Green's, Let's stay together.

JustErin said:

dJJ said:

I just got a text that Londonboy is coming to Amsterdam for work!!!

It's the end of August and he'll stay with me and will take some time of so we can have a sort of holiday together. And lots of sex.

I'm happy when good shit happens

I thought he wasn't wanting to keep it going, or at least didn't feel the same way back...?

Are you hoping to just win him over while he stays with you?

Are you cool with maybe just being used (or maybe you're just using him as well) and you're prepared to deal with the temporary happiness he might give you?

Thank you for your heads up. You'r right.

Haven't heard anything from him since. He's coming over just to see me and have fun. I read to much into it.

I'll discipline my heart and prepare myself for 'just' a fun weekend and temporary happiness.

All that "It's so special, it must be destiny" were the butterflies that took over my realistic interpretations.

That's why people rush into things because they think something is destined. That's always a fatal mistake.

Timmy84 said:

That's why people rush into things because they think something is destined. That's always a fatal mistake.

Sho nuff

GoldDolphin said:

nursev said:

Fuck Love. I'm tired of trying

hahaha it's overrated anyways

Yes indeed

XxAxX said:

and how many types of love are there? sooo many. brotherly, sisterly, motherly, fatherly, friendly, horny, etc. imo real, true love is rare. convenience love is quite common

If you are having romantic feelings for your relatives....

JoeTyler said:

Love ain't destined

life can't be that cruel

Love ain't destined?! Brotha please!

Love is destined to crush your heart and then stomp on it.

Timmy84 said:

That's why people rush into things because they think something is destined. That's always a fatal mistake.

Preach.

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kewlschool said:

JoeTyler said:

Love ain't destined

life can't be that cruel

Love ain't destined?! Brotha please!

Love is destined to crush your heart and then stomp on it.

And to be shitted on.

missfee said:

kewlschool said:

Love ain't destined?! Brotha please!

Love is destined to crush your heart and then stomp on it.

And to be shitted on.

I know right? Destined my ass.

I used to think love was destined, but not anymore.

I used to think love would always win, would always find a way, but I call BS on that now.

Romantic love is just another form of control that people use against each other.

prittypriss said:

I used to think love was destined, but not anymore.

I used to think love would always win, would always find a way, but I call BS on that now.

Romantic love is just another form of control that people use against each other.

The miscellaneous crap that comes WITH romantic love (commitment, engagement, marriage, etc.) can be a form of "control" in the sense that you want that person dedicated to you and no one else (and vice versa). But there is no "control" with love itself. In fact, you often can't even control who you love romantically.

PurpleJedi said:

prittypriss said:

I used to think love was destined, but not anymore.

Romantic love is just another form of control that people use against each other.

The miscellaneous crap that comes WITH romantic love (commitment, engagement, marriage, etc.) can be a form of "control" in the sense that you want that person dedicated to you and no one else (and vice versa). But there is no "control" with love itself. In fact, you often can't even control who you love romantically.

I'm just down on love right now Jedi. Unrequited love sucks! Especially when the one that is unrequiting is with someone that is bad for them, and attracted to someone else who is even worse for them, and the one that has always been there for them is stuck in a back corner somewhere, unnoticed in any way except as a friend. Friend-zoned! Men! Bah!

prittypriss said:

PurpleJedi said:

The miscellaneous crap that comes WITH romantic love (commitment, engagement, marriage, etc.) can be a form of "control" in the sense that you want that person dedicated to you and no one else (and vice versa). But there is no "control" with love itself. In fact, you often can't even control who you love romantically.

I'm just down on love right now Jedi. Unrequited love sucks! Especially when the one that is unrequiting is with someone that is bad for them, and attracted to someone else who is even worse for them, and the one that has always been there for them is stuck in a back corner somewhere, unnoticed in any way except as a friend. Friend-zoned! Men! Bah!

Case-in-point.

Welcome to the club.

PurpleJedi said:

prittypriss said:

I'm just down on love right now Jedi. Unrequited love sucks! Especially when the one that is unrequiting is with someone that is bad for them, and attracted to someone else who is even worse for them, and the one that has always been there for them is stuck in a back corner somewhere, unnoticed in any way except as a friend. Friend-zoned! Men! Bah!

Case-in-point.

Welcome to the club.

It's not a club I want to be in, but thank you for the welcome.

Ok. Love may not be destined.

But that doesn't mean it deserves to get pooo-ed upon, right?

Isn't it just like everything else in life? Depending on your skills and recources, it's up to you what you make of it.

I'm just going with enjoying myself, getting my life on track, so I can make myself happy.

There's no need to blame love or other people. The only thing we control is our own decisions in life.

***You all know that my advises are primarily directed at myself, right?

prittypriss said:

I used to think love was destined, but not anymore.

I used to think love would always win, would always find a way, but I call BS on that now.

Romantic love is just another form of control that people use against each other.

Not true love.

Love is not enough with out respect for yourself and your partner.

Love without ethics is the real problem.

kewlschool said:

prittypriss said:

I used to think love was destined, but not anymore.

I used to think love would always win, would always find a way, but I call BS on that now.

Romantic love is just another form of control that people use against each other.

Not true love.

Love is not enough with out respect for yourself and your partner.

Love without ethics is the real problem.

Even in true love there's some form of control though, because you have to be molded with that person to work on a daily basis. Love sounds amazing and it is, but it requires a lot of work and dedication and quite frankly most people arent interested in that.

Or maybe people got the wrong exception of love. I think they got this "molding" thing from that...book (not mentioning it). And thing is that thing's how old and people still think "if I be what he or she wants me to be, it'll work" and sometimes that's not always the case and why people do that is really unhealthy.

OK, I married a man because in my horoscope for Dec 8 in 1994 it said I would meet my future husband on that day. I was at the pub, standing next to a heavy breathing drunk who was trying to whisper sexy things into one non-listening ear, when the clock ticked over midnight (making it Dec 8th) and a voice said near my other ear "hey Warren, have you met my wife?". I turned around. "Hi, I'm Leo. Is Warren bothering you?" I had a cat called Leo when I was a little kid! We both had a sister 4.5 years younger, both eldest child with only one other sibling, both same blood type, both write with the same grip, our families emigrated to Australia within 6 months of each other, we were both creative. He's named after a ninja-turtle, I'm named after a spider that can write I'm sure I can think of more uncanny co-incidences just like on Prince and Mayte's wedding invitations BUT I don't think love is predestined!

Call me unromantic

ZombieKitten said:

OK, I married a man because in my horoscope for Dec 8 in 1994 it said I would meet my future husband on that day. I was at the pub, standing next to a heavy breathing drunk who was trying to whisper sexy things into one non-listening ear, when the clock ticked over midnight (making it Dec 8th) and a voice said near my other ear "hey Warren, have you met my wife?". I turned around. "Hi, I'm Leo. Is Warren bothering you?" I had a cat called Leo when I was a little kid! We both had a sister 4.5 years younger, both eldest child with only one other sibling, both same blood type, both write with the same grip, our families emigrated to Australia within 6 months of each other, we were both creative. He's named after a ninja-turtle, I'm named after a spider that can write I'm sure I can think of more uncanny co-incidences just like on Prince and Mayte's wedding invitations BUT I don't think love is predestined!

Call me unromantic

No, I think most votes went to 'not destined' so stop the bullshit and just see if you get along and if so, maybe it's possible it works out and otherwise not.