i'm supposed 2 b grown up enough to walk away ~ just ignore it

but

i rather revenge

Thought about it...ALOT...but no.

Not at all.

at least not at this point in my life.

I only know one thing for sure ...

"The truth comes out in the wash"

eventually the truth comes out and if you were right, the ones around you will know it eventually.

A liar is always found out and they will have to deal with people knowing the wrong they did.

I have people I meet and say "Wow, you are not at all how ______ described you, you are nice/intelligent/funny/great and I like you!" I am always welcomed back and people continually ask of me and want to see me again.

I always have family members dogging me and making my name into mudd and when folks meet me they learn otherwise. I stopped worrying how people try to paint me and who said what about me. All I know is, when people say shit about me that is negative, the truth comes out and the gossiper usually comes out looking bad in the end.

Mind you, I speak of just FAMILY.... I won't even touch friends (fake) and exes who have done shit to me. Heck, I'd have to post a damn book.

I stay as honest as possible, never do what I wouldn't want done to me and this helps me to guard my peace of mind and my kids happiness which is all that matters to me. If I stayed mad at people who did dumb shit to me, I would be a down right horrible crab of a human being and I will not let people rob me one minute of laughter and happiness.

The BEST revenge is not letting other get you down and being happy.

Eventually, the assholes in your life will realize they are assholes and they will reap the "rewards" of the negative seed they sow (karma).

I don’t believe in revenge at all.

Justice when a crime is committed, yes.

But not revenge.

Nope, not at all.

Then again, no one has ever done anything seriously spiteful to me. So it’s quite easy to answer ‘No’. But even if someone did, I don’t see the point of taking revenge. Negativity begets negativity.

Is revenge important to me? Hell yes!!!

However, I believe in Karma and I'm pretty much satisfied in knowing what goes around come around. That's the best revenge.

No because it would not take away the pain I feel when somebody hurt me.

Serious said:

No because it would not take away the pain I feel when somebody hurt me.

No it doesn't take away the pain. But, at least it will make you giggle for a few seconds.

kitbradley said:

Serious said:

No because it would not take away the pain I feel when somebody hurt me.

No it doesn't take away the pain. But, at least it will make you giggle for a few seconds.

I guess for feeling like that I would have to hate the person who did me wrong.

Yes. Why ask such an obvious question?

ThisOne said:

i'm supposed 2 b grown up enough to walk away ~ just ignore it

but

i rather revenge

no. justice, yes. revenge, no.

justice means the system addresses whatever has been done, (the 'bad deed') in a traditional fashion, and beyond bringing the matter to the court's attention, i'm not involved.

revenge means i would have to persoanlly take action and, in most cases, i just don't want to prolong my contact with the kind of asshole who provokes revenge.

that is, it's bad enough that there are psycho losers in the world, people who take pleasure in causing other people problems, but attempting to gain revenge against such losers is pointless.

first of all, the type of person who does 'bad deeds' is the kind of person who is generally angry at the world, and would enjoy a follow-up encounter. (when you wrestle with a pig, you both get muddy but only the pig enjoys it).

losers like this won't care, you can't change them, and they are not able to understand right/wrong. secondly, i'm waay too busy enjoying and living my own life. i can't be bothered to go there just because some one else was an asshole toward me.

Living well is the best revenge. I have to remind myself of this from time to time but I know seeking revenge will not make my heart feel any better, especially if we're talking in the romantic sense. But I will admit the moment I realize the one who wronged me is naturally regretting their actions, it makes me feel good. Not justified, not spiteful, just happy that the person finally understands.

And as far as those other bitches, I feel the universe will take care of them for me. I may not ever witness the person getting theirs but I know the day will finally come. For me to make their life as miserable as they've made mine makes me no better than them.

Success is always the best form of revenge imho.

I really like the TV show.

Physical revenge? No.

Psychological revenge? Yup.

It's better to be smart than to do something stupid.

The principle of revenge is horribly stupid, illogical, short-sighted and has harmed (and even killed) so many people in this world, it's unbelievable.

Though I know that I probably wouldn't be strong enough to not want to kill the person who, for example, harms someone very, very close to me, I honestly hope that in that moment I would be surrounded by people who would stop me from doing it, because deep down I know that it's wrong and stupid.

I'd much rather break the chain and set a good example for the future generations; forget how to take revenge, but learn how to avoid being hurt in the first place.

If I'm honest, I have a nature increasingly inclined toward revenge. It's counter to much of what I believe to be good, though, so I generally allow myself brief meditative moments to "study hell," as my father used to say, and then I push myself to move on. It just doesn't fit who I'm striving to be.

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Lammastide said:

If I'm honest, I have a nature increasingly inclined toward revenge. It's counter to much of what I believe to be good, though, so I generally allow myself brief meditative moments to "study hell," as my father used to say, and then I push myself to move on. It just doesn't fit who I'm striving to be.

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Yes, it may be good to at least acknowledge human nature, even if we can then rise above it and not act upon our natural impulses.

I was just imagining beating the crap out of my boss this afternoon! And she is a woman

I'm guilty of this but when I'm mad, really mad, I start getting thoughts I shouldn't and can't calm down, and then continuously call myself a sick fu.ck for it

but no, I'm a good girl, if someone has done something really bad, I tell myself to think about what I can learn from it....and hope that THEY learn from it too someday, I'm sure the universe will provide that opportunity and hopefully they are forgiven.

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Co-sign on what Timmy said. I get revenge by cutting mfers off. They're dead to me - I don't acknowledge them, they no longer exist in my world.

uPtoWnNY said:

Co-sign on what Timmy said. I get revenge by cutting mfers off. They're dead to me - I don't acknowledge them, they no longer exist in my world.

Word.

When I was younger, yes. Now, I just get out of the way, and let Karma fuck them up...

i took revenge once, when a boyfriend cheated.. finishing with him was revenge enough (4 him anyway) but i wasn't gonna let her get away with it, the bitch!

so i went to the pet shop & bought a load of creepy crawlies, i dunno what the were but they were fucking gross.. the things they feed lizards/ reptiles.

anyway i emptied the lot through her letterbox, there must have been a million of them.

and then i informed income support that she had a job on the side, that would teach her to swan about like lady muck.. & i was quite happy to be unanonymous

& i have no regrets about doing that, i felt very satisfied, revenge helps!! i recommend!!

At one point in my life, yes. It was as a matter of "pride". And the more mean and nasty I could make it the better.

At this piont, no, not at all. I get more satisfaction in the quiet confidence of knowing I'm right than I would get from any kind of "revenge".

Also, what Timmy and uptown said. If I really need to take revenge on someone then they probably aren't someone I would want in my life anyway. On to the next one.

Yeah I do the cutting off bit too, though I end up holding grudges for a very long time and eventually beat myself up for wasting time though I have to change that now.

Honey, I live for it!

uPtoWnNY said:

Co-sign on what Timmy said. I get revenge by cutting mfers off. They're dead to me - I don't acknowledge them, they no longer exist in my world.

I cut them off too but only after I've gotten even with them. I don't want anyone around me either that I can't stand so I have no problem whatsoever cutting them off. But I will keep them around and be sweet as pie to them long enough for me to cook up something evil for them while their dumb ass thinks I'm a damn fool that doesn't realize I'm being fucked. I have to be the one that comes out on top though. I absolutely have to.

Yes.

The first court decision about the divorce was sweet.

And the second one, after my ex his appeal, was even sweeter.

I feel a lot better now. And am very happy I did choose to take it to court. Otherwise, I could have never enjoyed this fantastic feeling.

Before, I was all about turning around in a different direction and don't look back. This time I was not able to have myself screwed over again. And am extremely happy with the outcome. Tastes sweet.

Nope. If someone really hurts me or pisses me off to the point that I can't forgive them, I just completely cut them out of my life.