Let's say that a guy took you out to dinner, but then later ask you to pick up the tab... would you be offended ?

I would be F**ing Mad :Mad2:

i'm quite capable of picking up my own acid if it falls to the floor

I think I would be more offended if he busted out with a coupon such as BUY ONE GET ONE FREE!

Paisley said:

u silly

Paisley said:

Ooooh! Classy.

althom said:

Dont tell me you admit to doing that?

Paisley said:

He is trying to save money and be practical. If he just spends money and has no house or saving plan, think about all those full priced dinners he bought and think what kind of future will you have with him. Why are women insulted when a man tries to save money?

SuperC said:

It wouldn't bother me cause I'm stingy with money myself but I'm sure there are some girls out there that would be offended.

I've been known to pick up the tab, but to ask me to - after the meal?

Last meal we'd have together.

look if u know u broke, then don't offer me a dinner at red lobster I'll be fine with a home cooked meal, but I'll be damned if u take me out and ask me to pay the bill...

LaVisHh said:

No i wouldn't do that AFTER the meal. My attitude is whoever suggest usually pays or we go dutch. I don't mind paying all some of the time. But this is the new millenium and women can take care of themselves. I carry the bill most of the time, but i ain't superman.




Pay it edit
[This message was edited Thu Feb 27 20:21:04 PST 2003 by SuperC]

LaVisHh said:

Want to go for a bite, Lav? Oops...seems I've left my wallet at home.

Ok ladies tell me this...A couple of weeks ago I went with a (very nice) girl out for dinner, we had a great time chitchatting, had some drinks etc, so we were done and I asked for the check (I wanted to pay, I´m a little old fashioned when it comes to stuff like that: men pay for dinner!), so I get the check and she grabs it out of my hands and says: I want to pay!, so after protesting from my side she pays (and I´m not feeling comfortable), I say next time it´s on me,...agreed.


But unfortunatly it didn´t work out between us, so what do I do. We still can get allong with each other, I see her often when I go out, shall I leave everything like it is or shall I ask her for dinner again so I can set it straight???

DigitalLisa said:

Yeah, but mostly because it would be unexpected and I never have any money on me!

Jasper said:

This incident seems to be bothering you. If you believe this event - with her paying - ended up creating a sour taste in her mouth...just politely ask her when you see her...tell her if this caused any pain and that you meant well. It's always better to ask, than to assume.



On a personal note, that incident wouldn't have made me upset in the least, when I offer to pay - it's because I want to!

SuperC said:

I agree, Superman...err SuperC...

LaVisHh said:

Thanks LaV! It doesn´t really bother me that she paid, cause she really insisted on paying, the thing bothering me is that we had one date wich she paid and that I never got the change to do it back, although I promissed. Maybe I will ask her again and take her to a fancy restaurant and the whole date is one my account. I think that´s the best thing to do.

Thnks.

Jasper said:

You're welcome, Jasper.

I agree.

rather moot question:


no REAL man
would invite a woman to dinner
& then ask her to pay;

that's something a "scrub" would do...

Paisley said:

i had a friend who was dating a guy who did that. the only time he took her out was when he had a burger king coupon.

as for me, i wouldn't be offended but there wouldn't be a second date. if i asked him out, then i would offer to pay.
[This message was edited Fri Feb 28 10:42:00 PST 2003 by sparxxxtresss]

I don't mind paying, and I often offer to pick up the tab myself. If a guy asks me out, I don't necessarily assume he's paying. I'm happy to pay my own way.

However, to ask someone out then ask them to pay for you, is just wrong.

that's just ghetto right there...i ain't talkin just plain-ol' ghetto, but that's like grade-a ghetto.

Paisley said:

so that's why my ex dumped me

This girl I know told me that she was asked out by this guy I also know (I don't much care for the guy) to go to the drive-in movie theater.

On the night of the movie he called her and said that he didn't have a car so if they were to go she was going to have to drive. She thought it was a bit odd that he had asked her out to a place which required a car and didn't have one, but being a cool person she agreed to pick him up.

As they were in the line of cars getting ready to buy the tickets she looked at him expecting him to give him the $12 ($6 for each person). He then said to her, "I don't have any money so I guess you are going to have to pay". If this wasn't bad enough by itself he had waited until they were already past the point of no return before saying anything.

She paid and was too nice to say anything to him, but I've told this story to tons of people. I can't even imagine the gall of this guy to treat her like that. What if she hadn't brought along any money? How embarrassing would that have been for her to get to the booth and have to say that they didn't have any money?