flyorra said:

why is it everytime i meet a guy online they want me to look at their dick, and if i refuse to take sexy pictures of myself for them, or whatever...they unfriend me??? wtf. i just want to cry sometimes. what is wrong with me??? i can't take it anymore.

You must be about 12 years old if that type of stuff made you cry. Don't chat to strangers online thinking you're gonna meet prince charming.

The internet is full of scumbags.

ZombieKitten said:

Cock city!

"...if we cannot make babies...maybe I'll just show you mine..."

Pr1nceQuik said:

ZombieKitten said:

PurpleJedi said:

Ocean said:

ZombieKitten said:

This particular one talked about normal stuff like his kids and his jobs - not once did his chit chat ever go there. Wasn't random even. Was friendly and helpful in GD and again, he never showed me his tackle but poor Kylie wasn't so lucky

Omg .. I swear there was NO clue that was coming ... Is he even still around Hun?

ZombieKitten said:

Ocean said:

Omg .. I swear there was NO clue that was coming ... Is he even still around Hun?

I think he changed his name to PurpleJedi

ZombieKitten said:

Ocean said:

Omg .. I swear there was NO clue that was coming ... Is he even still around Hun?

I think he changed his name to PurpleJedi

Ocean said:

ZombieKitten said:

I think he changed his name to PurpleJedi

Ahhh it's all making sense now

veronikka said:

ZombieKitten said:

I think he changed his name to PurpleJedi

[Edited 5/24/12 22:34pm]

YOU TOO?!?!

flyorra said:

why is it everytime i meet a guy online they want me to look at their dick, and if i refuse to take sexy pictures of myself for them, or whatever...they unfriend me??? wtf. i just want to cry sometimes. what is wrong with me??? i can't take it anymore.

wow!

Um....what's wrong with looking at their dicks? I mean, if they're offering. I have only 3 dick pics left. I deleted the rest.

If they unfriend you then eff 'em! Guys like that are for amusement only. You can't take them seriously for a relatonship. I don't know why anyone would look for love online. Just get your flirt on, fib a lil to satisfy their egos and keep it moving. Chances are they're old slobs or married trolls.

Wait till you get those dudes who turn out to be women. Then you will really want to cry. j/k sort of

HotGritz said:

flyorra said:

why is it everytime i meet a guy online they want me to look at their dick, and if i refuse to take sexy pictures of myself for them, or whatever...they unfriend me??? wtf. i just want to cry sometimes. what is wrong with me??? i can't take it anymore.

wow!

Um....what's wrong with looking at their dicks? I mean, if they're offering. I have only 3 dick pics left. I deleted the rest.

If they unfriend you then eff 'em! Guys like that are for amusement only. You can't take them seriously for a relatonship. I don't know why anyone would look for love online. Just get your flirt on, fib a lil to satisfy their egos and keep it moving. Chances are they're old slobs or married trolls.

Wait till you get those dudes who turn out to be women. Then you will really want to cry. j/k sort of

This is why I love you! OMG

PurpleJedi said:

Ocean said:

Ahhh it's all making sense now

You're not doing anything wrong, except trying to meet guys online.

There aren't any cool guys online trying to meet girls. Sorry, but that's the truth.

RodeoSchro said:

You're not doing anything wrong, except trying to meet guys online.

There aren't any cool guys online trying to meet girls. Sorry, but that's the truth.

That's quite a harsh comment, but I sort of have to agree.

And, by the way, could you please send me your daughter's email adress?

JustErin said:

Ottensen said:

When I had my forays into online dating some years ago that never happened to me. Ever. Maybe it's the type of site that makes a difference in the level of expectation people have for each other and the quality of man one encounters online?

Anyway, sorry to hear that happened to you.

How long ago was this? I went on a dating site about 6-7 years ago and it never happened either....but last year....ugh...cock city. Maybe times have just really changed.

This would have been like 4 or 5 years ago...but people are really on sites now (that aren't specifically for sex) just swingin' ding-a-lings around? Good lord!!

RodeoSchro said:

Dave1992 said:

RodeoSchro said:

You're not doing anything wrong, except trying to meet guys online.

There aren't any cool guys online trying to meet girls. Sorry, but that's the truth.

That's quite a harsh comment, but I sort of have to agree.

Sorry, boys but I beg to differ . To begin with, "cool" is relative when it comes to what people look for in meeting new people or potential mates. I already know what is attractive and cool to me may not be so to others and I could care less. I go for what is interesting to me, not to the masses. For example, in my online searches I managed to meet and make friends with people ranging from biologists to commercial airline pilots to classical musicians, I think I even had a 2 date trial with an aerospace engineer- all were attractive, educated, respectful men with excellent manners, who travel the world and simply were not into the bar scene or fix-ups. I think there can be many of us who have spent so much time on the party scene, meeting people through work, etc., that you simply desire to try something fresh & new, while also being very pragmatic and cutting to the chase. Those that I met may not be the types of folks interesting or cool to some, but it worked for me. I maintain that the only reason why I didn't actually pursue long term relationships with these wonderful people (with the intent of marriage) was due to distance, & separate career aims that would not logistically coincide with each other, at least not without someone having to move and restructure their lives entirely (with the exception of Aerospace man, he simply wasn't creative/musical enough for my tastes). And that's too complicated for this stage of a settled, ornery old lady's life . I had fun though, and to this day you will hear nary a negative word from either side (man or woman) about this or that one not having conducted themselves positively or respectfully with one another while we dated. Until I finally found "the One", I enjoyed the people I met and thought they were mad cool.

So far as others who might disagree with your statement --- tell my very cute niece there are no cool guys online. She met her husband online, a man who by all accounts is a nice, responsible male who simply wanted someone with the same interests and value system as he had (and he's even cute!). They're only 5 years in, but they seem to be doing just fine. She didn't find an action movie/rock star boyfriend online, but she was able to find someone in a neighboring town comparable education, job aspirations, and background similar to hers that she enjoyed and felt comfortable with- and she may not have met him had she only tried to meet new people in the vicinity in which she lived.

Note to all: there is no such thing as finding the perfect or coolest mate (online or otherwise), rather than finding the perfect and coolest person for you.

Ottensen said:

Dave1992 said:

That's quite a harsh comment, but I sort of have to agree.

Sorry, boys but I beg to differ . To begin with, "cool" is relative when it comes to what people look for in meeting new people or potential mates. I already know what is attractive and cool to me may not be so to others and I could care less. I go for what is interesting to me, not to the masses. For example, in my online searches I managed to meet and make friends with people ranging from biologists to commercial airline pilots to classical musicians, I think I even had a 2 date trial with an aerospace engineer- all were attractive, educated, respectful men with excellent manners, who travel the world and simply were not into the bar scene or fix-ups. I think there can be many of us who have spent so much time on the party scene, meeting people through work, etc., that you simply desire to try something fresh & new, while also being very pragmatic and cutting to the chase. Those that I met may not be the types of folks interesting or cool to some, but it worked for me. I maintain that the only reason why I didn't actually pursue long term relationships with these wonderful people (with the intent of marriage) was due to distance, & separate career aims that would not logistically coincide with each other, at least not without someone having to move and restructure their lives entirely (with the exception of Aerospace man, he simply wasn't creative/musical enough for my tastes). And that's too complicated for this stage of a settled, ornery old lady's life . I had fun though, and to this day you will hear nary a negative word from either side (man or woman) about this or that one not having conducted themselves positively or respectfully with one another while we dated. Until I finally found "the One", I enjoyed the people I met and thought they were mad cool.

So far as others who might disagree with your statement --- tell my very cute niece there are no cool guys online. She met her husband online, a man who by all accounts is a nice, responsible male who simply wanted someone with the same interests and value system as he had (and he's even cute!). They're only 5 years in, but they seem to be doing just fine. She didn't find an action movie/rock star boyfriend online, but she was able to find someone in a neighboring town comparable education, job aspirations, and background similar to hers that she enjoyed and felt comfortable with- and she may not have met him had she only tried to meet new people in the vicinity in which she lived.

Note to all: there is no such thing as finding the perfect or coolest mate (online or otherwise), rather than finding the perfect and coolest person for you.

I think what RodeoSchro meant, was that he usually wouldn't find any of those online guys cool. At least that's how I meant it and that's why I put a very self-ironical tongue-in-cheek remark in my post, too.

I completely understand and respect anybody who's cool (meaning, they know how to behave, don't talk shit and are generally nice company), but personally, it's not part of my "cool" lifestyle to look for women on the net. That's probably bound to change, but right now it just doesn't fit into my mindframe!

Dave1992 said:

Ottensen said:

Sorry, boys but I beg to differ . To begin with, "cool" is relative when it comes to what people look for in meeting new people or potential mates. I already know what is attractive and cool to me may not be so to others and I could care less. I go for what is interesting to me, not to the masses. For example, in my online searches I managed to meet and make friends with people ranging from biologists to commercial airline pilots to classical musicians, I think I even had a 2 date trial with an aerospace engineer- all were attractive, educated, respectful men with excellent manners, who travel the world and simply were not into the bar scene or fix-ups. I think there can be many of us who have spent so much time on the party scene, meeting people through work, etc., that you simply desire to try something fresh & new, while also being very pragmatic and cutting to the chase. Those that I met may not be the types of folks interesting or cool to some, but it worked for me. I maintain that the only reason why I didn't actually pursue long term relationships with these wonderful people (with the intent of marriage) was due to distance, & separate career aims that would not logistically coincide with each other, at least not without someone having to move and restructure their lives entirely (with the exception of Aerospace man, he simply wasn't creative/musical enough for my tastes). And that's too complicated for this stage of a settled, ornery old lady's life . I had fun though, and to this day you will hear nary a negative word from either side (man or woman) about this or that one not having conducted themselves positively or respectfully with one another while we dated. Until I finally found "the One", I enjoyed the people I met and thought they were mad cool.

So far as others who might disagree with your statement --- tell my very cute niece there are no cool guys online. She met her husband online, a man who by all accounts is a nice, responsible male who simply wanted someone with the same interests and value system as he had (and he's even cute!). They're only 5 years in, but they seem to be doing just fine. She didn't find an action movie/rock star boyfriend online, but she was able to find someone in a neighboring town comparable education, job aspirations, and background similar to hers that she enjoyed and felt comfortable with- and she may not have met him had she only tried to meet new people in the vicinity in which she lived.

Note to all: there is no such thing as finding the perfect or coolest mate (online or otherwise), rather than finding the perfect and coolest person for you.

I think what RodeoSchro meant, was that he usually wouldn't find any of those online guys cool. At least that's how I meant it and that's why I put a very self-ironical tongue-in-cheek remark in my post, too.

I completely understand and respect anybody who's cool (meaning, they know how to behave, don't talk shit and are generally nice company), but personally, it's not part of my "cool" lifestyle to look for women on the net. That's probably bound to change, but right now it just doesn't fit into my mindframe!

and it doesn't have to...nor do I think that anyone should think they should try to convince you otherwise. However I just wanted to be clear that the net can and has worked for some folks in allowing them to meet, date, or even marry perfectly normal, highly intelligent, multi-dimensional people that they consider cool for their own taste. Now I know that it's likely the exception more than the rule, but it is possible. It doesn't come without being highly scrutinzing, though-that I can promise ...but yep, the above was really the only point I was trying to make, not change anyone's mind about what they think is right for them. I don't know what's right for anyone else, I can only speak for myself

Dave1992 said:

RodeoSchro said:

You're not doing anything wrong, except trying to meet guys online.

There aren't any cool guys online trying to meet girls. Sorry, but that's the truth.

That's quite a harsh comment, but I sort of have to agree.

And, by the way, could you please send me your daughter's email adress?

Touche!

OK, here is her address:

Sydney@MyDadHasABigGun.com

JustErin said:

RodeoSchro said:

You're not doing anything wrong, except trying to meet guys online.

There aren't any cool guys online trying to meet girls. Sorry, but that's the truth.

So your attempts to meet nice cool guys online were unsuccessful? Just curious how you came up with this conclusion?

You're the best, Erin! I would listen to you, but I heard somewhere that you can't get your own shit worked out.

Ottensen said:

Dave1992 said:

That's quite a harsh comment, but I sort of have to agree.

Sorry, boys but I beg to differ . To begin with, "cool" is relative when it comes to what people look for in meeting new people or potential mates. I already know what is attractive and cool to me may not be so to others and I could care less. I go for what is interesting to me, not to the masses. For example, in my online searches I managed to meet and make friends with people ranging from biologists to commercial airline pilots to classical musicians, I think I even had a 2 date trial with an aerospace engineer- all were attractive, educated, respectful men with excellent manners, who travel the world and simply were not into the bar scene or fix-ups. I think there can be many of us who have spent so much time on the party scene, meeting people through work, etc., that you simply desire to try something fresh & new, while also being very pragmatic and cutting to the chase. Those that I met may not be the types of folks interesting or cool to some, but it worked for me. I maintain that the only reason why I didn't actually pursue long term relationships with these wonderful people (with the intent of marriage) was due to distance, & separate career aims that would not logistically coincide with each other, at least not without someone having to move and restructure their lives entirely (with the exception of Aerospace man, he simply wasn't creative/musical enough for my tastes). And that's too complicated for this stage of a settled, ornery old lady's life . I had fun though, and to this day you will hear nary a negative word from either side (man or woman) about this or that one not having conducted themselves positively or respectfully with one another while we dated. Until I finally found "the One", I enjoyed the people I met and thought they were mad cool.

So far as others who might disagree with your statement --- tell my very cute niece there are no cool guys online. She met her husband online, a man who by all accounts is a nice, responsible male who simply wanted someone with the same interests and value system as he had (and he's even cute!). They're only 5 years in, but they seem to be doing just fine. She didn't find an action movie/rock star boyfriend online, but she was able to find someone in a neighboring town comparable education, job aspirations, and background similar to hers that she enjoyed and felt comfortable with- and she may not have met him had she only tried to meet new people in the vicinity in which she lived.

Note to all: there is no such thing as finding the perfect or coolest mate (online or otherwise), rather than finding the perfect and coolest person for you.

Well, I will hold your niece up as the exception that proves the rule!

But seriously, cool guys are not looking for chicks online.

RodeoSchro said:

RodeoSchro said:

Dave1992 said:

That's quite a harsh comment, but I sort of have to agree.

And, by the way, could you please send me your daughter's email adress?

Touche!

OK, here is her address:

Sydney@MyDadHasABigGun.com

Texas, baby!

ZombieKitten said:

Cock city!

RodeoSchro said:

Ottensen said:

Sorry, boys but I beg to differ . To begin with, "cool" is relative when it comes to what people look for in meeting new people or potential mates. I already know what is attractive and cool to me may not be so to others and I could care less. I go for what is interesting to me, not to the masses. For example, in my online searches I managed to meet and make friends with people ranging from biologists to commercial airline pilots to classical musicians, I think I even had a 2 date trial with an aerospace engineer- all were attractive, educated, respectful men with excellent manners, who travel the world and simply were not into the bar scene or fix-ups. I think there can be many of us who have spent so much time on the party scene, meeting people through work, etc., that you simply desire to try something fresh & new, while also being very pragmatic and cutting to the chase. Those that I met may not be the types of folks interesting or cool to some, but it worked for me. I maintain that the only reason why I didn't actually pursue long term relationships with these wonderful people (with the intent of marriage) was due to distance, & separate career aims that would not logistically coincide with each other, at least not without someone having to move and restructure their lives entirely (with the exception of Aerospace man, he simply wasn't creative/musical enough for my tastes). And that's too complicated for this stage of a settled, ornery old lady's life . I had fun though, and to this day you will hear nary a negative word from either side (man or woman) about this or that one not having conducted themselves positively or respectfully with one another while we dated. Until I finally found "the One", I enjoyed the people I met and thought they were mad cool.

So far as others who might disagree with your statement --- tell my very cute niece there are no cool guys online. She met her husband online, a man who by all accounts is a nice, responsible male who simply wanted someone with the same interests and value system as he had (and he's even cute!). They're only 5 years in, but they seem to be doing just fine. She didn't find an action movie/rock star boyfriend online, but she was able to find someone in a neighboring town comparable education, job aspirations, and background similar to hers that she enjoyed and felt comfortable with- and she may not have met him had she only tried to meet new people in the vicinity in which she lived.

Note to all: there is no such thing as finding the perfect or coolest mate (online or otherwise), rather than finding the perfect and coolest person for you.

Well, I will hold your niece up as the exception that proves the rule!

But seriously, cool guys are not looking for chicks online.

that's true, cool guys are looking for drunk chicks in bars

RodeoSchro said:

Ottensen said:

Sorry, boys but I beg to differ . To begin with, "cool" is relative when it comes to what people look for in meeting new people or potential mates. I already know what is attractive and cool to me may not be so to others and I could care less. I go for what is interesting to me, not to the masses. For example, in my online searches I managed to meet and make friends with people ranging from biologists to commercial airline pilots to classical musicians, I think I even had a 2 date trial with an aerospace engineer- all were attractive, educated, respectful men with excellent manners, who travel the world and simply were not into the bar scene or fix-ups. I think there can be many of us who have spent so much time on the party scene, meeting people through work, etc., that you simply desire to try something fresh & new, while also being very pragmatic and cutting to the chase. Those that I met may not be the types of folks interesting or cool to some, but it worked for me. I maintain that the only reason why I didn't actually pursue long term relationships with these wonderful people (with the intent of marriage) was due to distance, & separate career aims that would not logistically coincide with each other, at least not without someone having to move and restructure their lives entirely (with the exception of Aerospace man, he simply wasn't creative/musical enough for my tastes). And that's too complicated for this stage of a settled, ornery old lady's life . I had fun though, and to this day you will hear nary a negative word from either side (man or woman) about this or that one not having conducted themselves positively or respectfully with one another while we dated. Until I finally found "the One", I enjoyed the people I met and thought they were mad cool.

So far as others who might disagree with your statement --- tell my very cute niece there are no cool guys online. She met her husband online, a man who by all accounts is a nice, responsible male who simply wanted someone with the same interests and value system as he had (and he's even cute!). They're only 5 years in, but they seem to be doing just fine. She didn't find an action movie/rock star boyfriend online, but she was able to find someone in a neighboring town comparable education, job aspirations, and background similar to hers that she enjoyed and felt comfortable with- and she may not have met him had she only tried to meet new people in the vicinity in which she lived.

Note to all: there is no such thing as finding the perfect or coolest mate (online or otherwise), rather than finding the perfect and coolest person for you.

Well, I will hold your niece up as the exception that proves the rule!

But seriously, cool guys are not looking for chicks online.

Oh I'd say the airline pilot based in Dubai was cool as heck. He was Chinese and unusually tall, very fit. He was textbook cute. Once we stopped dating I became his style consultant to decorate his new home (since that's sort of what I do for a living anyway), and I must say he was pretty fierce. Great taste. I styled each room, simply by picking and ordering furniture, for the floorplans he mailed and skyping the conference and decision making calls-we did the entire thing digitally when he wasn't flying into Hamburg- and it was FUN, and by far the easiest style consulting job I ever booked in my life! When I saw just how open he was to certain elements of design and lifestyle (the job even included picking out a music collection that complimented different elements of his life: party music, dinner music, workout music, decompression/wind down after flying music, expanding the classical and jazz collection music). That was a person who was kind, handsome, multi-faceted, and cool as heck. Unless I would have met him randomly walking around Hamburg between flights one day, I never would have met this person had it not been online.

The other folks were just fine too, even the aerospace engineer, but his taste in music wasn't eclectic enough for me and at this age I was not willing to be someone's teacher when it came to what I liked. Been there done that, and was not interested. We did have a great date at a seminar on Japanese tea service (the really formal one, with the thick matcha tea and the formaly kimonoed ladies), and we went crazy checking out museums exhibits . Not cool activities to others, but absolutely di-vine to me...he was great, only lived 2 hours away in Berlin, but I didn't like his taste in music, so. Poof-gone.

Had I not been swept off my feet with my Boo, I would still date with a mix of people from real time activities and friends, with a splash of heavily vetted online folks . Actually, just before I started dating my husband I was striking up a new friendhip with a Japanese wine importer with his own tea farm who loved jazz trumpet. His travels brought him to Hamburg often (cause we're the shipping/import-export hub for N. Europe) His tea was imported here, and he imported European wines to Japan. But I know the real reason why he came here so often was the food and jazz festivals, the business was just an excuse for him to come and eat German sausages and get tickets to Till Bronner shows. He was cute and fun and (thankfully) just the right height for me to wear heels , and good lord, being Japanese- his style was so.on.point. So, while I know cool is relative, being able to talk to someone knowlegable about my two favorite things (tea and wine), while listening to Chet Baker and chow down on bratwurst was exceptionally cool to me. The fact that he could dress his butt off didn't hurt either.

I didn't want to say it initially, but if a person is not finding cool people online, I suspect they might not be stringent enough with their screening before they make first contact. By the sheer numbers of people online alone, all of them cannot be bad apples. The first 5 sentences of a site mail always said everything I needed to know before I ever replied to a person, even if it was to say "thank you for your response, not interested at this time, God bless". Clearly there are some people that should never even get beyond the first mail and deserve no reply at all. I can't even imagine how you get to the stage where someone thinks it's remotelyokay or has an avenue to offer to show you a screen shot of their penis. That is completely foreign to me, and again, it makes me wonder "where are folks looking to find these scumbags?" E-Harmony? Yahoo Love? Black planet? Chile, please.

In any event, I maintain that one can find cool people online; I did. I know you hold these scenarios up as the exception and that's okay. From the horror stories I'm hearing you're right. But finding someone cool to meet is not impossible. You just have to be ruthlessly cut and dry with your screening process to keep the idiots away. Do I think it's for everyone? No. But honestly I enjoyed my forays into online dating...so much so that I actually daydream about having my own site. I want a hoity toity site of my own one day (that is if I don't just become a full-on professional matchmaker)