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DOES FACEBOOK WRECK MARRIAGES? Divorce lawyers are seeing an increase in cases that involve social networking sites.By MSN Money partner 6 hours ago
This post comes from Quentin Fottrell at partner site SmartMoney.
"I see Facebook issues breaking up marriages all the time," says Gary Traystman, a divorce attorney in New London, Conn. Of the 15 cases he handles per year where computer history, texts and emails are admitted as evidence, 60% exclusively involve Facebook.
"Affairs happen with a lightning speed on Facebook," says K. Jason Krafsky, who authored the book "Facebook and Your Marriage" with his wife, Kelli. In the real world, he says, office romances and out-of-town trysts can take months or even years to develop. "On Facebook," he says, "they happen in just a few clicks." (Post continues below.) The social network is different from most social networks or dating sites in that it both reconnects old flames and allows people to "friend" someone they may have only met once in passing. "It puts temptation in the path of people who would never in a million years risk having an affair," he says. Facebook declined to comment.
Even when extramarital affairs develop with no help from Facebook, experts say the site provides a deceptively comfortable forum for people to let off steam about their lives and inadvertently arouse the suspicions of spouses.
"The difference with Facebook is it feels safe, innocent and private," says Randy Kessler, an Atlanta-based lawyer and current chair of the family law section of the American Bar Association. (See "Facebook and Divorce Discussed in WSJ.") "People put an enormous amount of incriminating stuff out there voluntarily." It could be something as innocuous as a check-in at a restaurant, he says, or a photograph posted online.
When couples do end up in divorce court, lawyers say Facebook posts are used to determine alimony and child custody. Last year, a superior district court judge in Connecticut ordered a divorcing couple to hand over the passwords of their respective Facebook accounts to the other's lawyers. Kessler says it's an extremely useful vehicle to gather evidence. "It helps me cross-examine a witness," he says. Any pattern of behavior that's recorded on Facebook relating to parenting skills, excessive partying or even disparaging remarks about a spouse that violates a court order could be admissible in court.
Of course, it's not Facebook's fault it's being dragged through divorce court, he says, "It's the people who use it."
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More than a third of divorce filings last year contained the word "Facebook," according to a U.K. survey by If it wasn't Facebook it would be something else. FB just creates a record in a way that did not exist before. My Legacy
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Can I just say how much of an attention whore Mark Zuckerberg is? | |
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Can you all jump on facebook right now and make sure I win Prince tix? You'll need a FB account, doesn't matter if your marriage is wrecked you can still help me out
I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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I forgot you posted about this lol I'll probably help you out later tonight. | |
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i think that most marriages are not made in heaven, and facebook gives married people a chance to cheat without actually leaving home. so, in a way, yes, facebook has provided an entirely new arena for infidelity. facebook is like the person who offers a drink to an alcoholic
but, it's the people involved who wreck a marriage and only they can do that. | |
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I seriously don't think everyone is equipped for "marriage". Only a few seem to have really successful marriages. | |
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They tell me it makes temptation a whole lot easier to follow, hardly no work at all. Folks are gluttons for punishment I guess. | |
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the assholes in the marriage 'wreck it' fb just puts it on front street i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT... 
STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE... | |
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not too much later love! It finishes in less than 10 hours!!! I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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Pubs also wreck marriages, so do conferences away, long working hours, gaming consoles, gosh you name it, it's wrecked a marriage! I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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People wreck their own marriages. FB is more of a "where/how it happened" and not "why a marriage fell apart".
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you saw me say that first
i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE... | |
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Oh shit, lemme get this out of the way. | |
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No... but, you said it better. | |
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:blush: i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE... | |
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I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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I love FZ too btw, keep meaning to tell you!
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Facebook is of the devil | |
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"Phwoarrr, i'd wreck your marriage love, nah wat a meen gal? He heyyy!", if this were the 70s. | |
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it gets people talking with long sticks, yes.
My favourite bit of the early 2000s was the bluetooth headset - "Is it mentally ill or is it bluetooth?"
Nah, it's the one and only Anthill Mob. | |
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I was just kidding around | |
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Like King & Painted said...it's not THE reason for wrecked marriages, but definitely the tool of choice for trifflin' folk.
Makes it EASY AS SHIT to reconnect with an old flame.
If not FB, then something else.
This being the information age and all.
By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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Studies show that lactose tends to wreck marriages much more than Facebook does. |
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I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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Mmhmm... | |
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It amazes me that people are bold enough to cheat with their gf/bf or spouse on Facebook. If they wanted to hook up secretly wouldn't they think good old fashioned regular email accounts like yahoo and gmail would suffice. Don't laugh at my funk
This funk is a serious joint | |
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That's because when it gets to that point...
they just don't give a FUCK.
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I cannot say Facebook is ruining relationships, but shareholders are blaming the owner for the stock tumble, and suing for fraud:
http://www.guardian.co.uk...sfeed=true
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