I was watching a show today,and they had a woman guest ,who was talking about her book,"Why Woman Have Sex?". SOOOOooooo.....

Do you think that sex is something that should be done only when you're in love—except for that one time you wanted to get back at your ex? Are you happy to use sex just as a tool for physical release, and not attach any emotion? Have you ever used sex to get a job, get over an ex, or get validation that you rocked that bridesmaid dress? Did it do the trick, or leave you feeling you'd let yourself down? Men, have you ever had sex for reasons more complicated than you'd like to admit? Do you feel the idea that you have sex only for pleasure has led to your physical and emotional needs being ignored?

Discuss...

because my hands get bored???

This is some deep shit here...

Well, I personally would not do the act unless it was with someone I truly loved and cared about. I wouldn't be comfortable any other way.

I don't need sex to give me validation that I am sexually attractive. I never used sex to get a job or get over an old relationship. And I certainly don't use sex as a form of get back or revenge.

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to alleviate the need to have sex

Because I love it and I can and do often !

is this one of these trick questions?

no pun intended.

I engage in it as a physical way of showing my love and affection to my partner. I love giving and receiving physical pleasure. Now the "ways" I have sex can vary depending on a variety of factors, (but that's a different thread) but the choice to have sex is always the same-- love and affection.

If I need to have an orgasm for purely selfish reasons-- stress, boredom, he's not availabble, or simply horny and I don't want to wait for him to get home I masturbate.

I am feeling Nammie's answer...

I also need my endorphine rush and all the chemicals to flow to my brain.. seratonin n' such. It prevents depression in healthy doses.

I have sex because I like the physical activity (as a fat heffa I need to move on occasion and there really is no better motivator) I need to get my heart pumping and the blood flowing.

The health benefits aside, I love his smell, taste and his weight. I love his hands and his kisses and the way he looks at me. It makes me feel damn good to see his nostrils flare at the sight of me and watching him enjoy me the way he does helps my ego.

That's right... his reward is that I enjoy watching him feel the pleasure of me. That's for my ego too... and I enjoy handling him.

I am glad we found each other, its been almost 3 years. The sex gets better and better since I am learning his body. I like him and enjoy him, he is a good man and after the sweatty exchange, we sit smile and hold each other. That's so nice too.

I have it because I feel like I need it and get very unhappy when I don't have it.

I have it for the pleasure of it and to provide pleasure to my partner...but I don't need to be in love with the person, I just need to be really physically attracted to them and/or have strong sexual chemistry.

I totally get off on seeing them get very excited and being in so much pleasure and I guess that sense of power is a bit addicting...especially if it is with someone I really care for.

paintedlady said:

I am feeling Nammie's answer...

I also need my endorphine rush and all the chemicals to flow to my brain.. seratonin n' such. It prevents depression in healthy doses.

I have sex because I like the physical activity (as a fat heffa I need to move on occasion and there really is no better motivator) I need to get my heart pumping and the blood flowing.

The health benefits aside, I love his smell, taste and his weight. I love his hands and his kisses and the way he looks at me. It makes me feel damn good to see his nostrils flare at the sight of me and watching him enjoy me the way he does helps my ego.

That's right... his reward is that I enjoy watching him feel the pleasure of me. That's for my ego too... and I enjoy handling him.

I am glad we found each other, its been almost 3 years. The sex gets better and better since I am learning his body. I like him and enjoy him, he is a good man and after the sweatty exchange, we sit smile and hold each other. That's so nice too.

Oh P Lady stop with the fat factor you are NOT fat have you seen a pic of me??? Gurl please, you got it going on!!!, Not to say we big gurls are not luxe and lovely 'cause we certainly A-R-E!!!

Honestly there's nothing like the ego boost of lovingly giving a bj or the look on your lover's face when he brings you to orgasm from some good 'ol fashion cunninglus especially when it's unexpected.

There's a reason why I don't photo whore edit

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nammie said:

paintedlady said:

I am feeling Nammie's answer...

I also need my endorphine rush and all the chemicals to flow to my brain.. seratonin n' such. It prevents depression in healthy doses.

I have sex because I like the physical activity (as a fat heffa I need to move on occasion and there really is no better motivator) I need to get my heart pumping and the blood flowing.

The health benefits aside, I love his smell, taste and his weight. I love his hands and his kisses and the way he looks at me. It makes me feel damn good to see his nostrils flare at the sight of me and watching him enjoy me the way he does helps my ego.

That's right... his reward is that I enjoy watching him feel the pleasure of me. That's for my ego too... and I enjoy handling him.

I am glad we found each other, its been almost 3 years. The sex gets better and better since I am learning his body. I like him and enjoy him, he is a good man and after the sweatty exchange, we sit smile and hold each other. That's so nice too.

Oh P Lady stop with the fat factor you are NOT fat have you seen a pic of me??? Gurl please, you got it going on!!!, Not to say we big gurls are not luxe and lovely 'cause we certainly A-R-E!!!

Honestly there's nothing like the ego boost of lovingly giving a bj or the look on your lover's face when he brings you to orgasm from some good 'ol fashion cunninglus especially when it's unexpected.

There's a reason why I don't photo whore edit

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<---- Fat and proud because I can put both soles of my feet up on the cheeks of my face without farting or cutting off circulation.

See you too stoopid luv u gurl........................

Fat and flexible helluva thang edit..Go big gurls GO!!

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paintedlady said:

nammie said:

Oh P Lady stop with the fat factor you are NOT fat have you seen a pic of me??? Gurl please, you got it going on!!!, Not to say we big gurls are not luxe and lovely 'cause we certainly A-R-E!!!

Honestly there's nothing like the ego boost of lovingly giving a bj or the look on your lover's face when he brings you to orgasm from some good 'ol fashion cunninglus especially when it's unexpected.

There's a reason why I don't photo whore edit

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<---- Fat and proud because I can put both soles of my feet up on the cheeks of my face without farting or cutting off circulation.

You dirty lady!

For an orgasm.

nursev said:

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Because I'll never paint like Michelangelo, or produce a guitar solo like Hendrix or Zappa, or write like Hugo or Mann.

As a functional man responsible for bringing home the bacon, removing dead squirrels from my yard, keeping my 17-month baby girl entertained and laughing hysterically by hackey-sacking in the kitchen, or balancing my off-hours from 50-70 hour work weeks against house projects to get our home 'marketable'...

It makes me want to feel like a rock star. I want to wow. It's my last chance at any kind of artistry or imagination. It's all that's left that's fun and relaxing at the same time. It's the only thing that once I get it going, I have something to prove.

if weare being honest......erm... i dont and havent in almost 20yrs. all of that seems to have left me- i do wank occasionally but i think my libido is hibernating. at this point icant even imagine dating anyone let alone being close to them or sex. its not repulsive but it has become an overwhelmingly awkward thing to me.

Why oh why did I come in this thread.

It reads like bad porn and online sex ads..."I want to pleaseeeeee my mannnnnn"

"I want to feel like a star!"

Uh...

*turns around and runs like hell*

I think the better question here is why I don't have sex.

novabrkr said:

I think the better question here is why I don't have sex.

That would also make a great thread.

wavesofbliss said:

if weare being honest......erm... i dont and havent in almost 20yrs. all of that seems to have left me- i do wank occasionally but i think my libido is hibernating. at this point icant even imagine dating anyone let alone being close to them or sex. its not repulsive but it has become an overwhelmingly awkward thing to me.

I would hope that anyone that posts would be honest,and I appreciate yours wavesofbliss.

EmeraldSkies said:

novabrkr said:

I think the better question here is why I don't have sex.

That would also make a great thread.

I mean right now.

Because it feels damn good!

Because I'm damn good at it.

you know, sex is one of those things which doesn't need to be rationalized

period, lol

i wish i had me a man 2 hump around with me every now and again i have yet 2 experience the joye of whoring yet