Is having sex chats with strangers in chatrooms cheating?

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If you think it is cheating and worth splitting up over, then it is.

But I don't think it's nearly as bad as actually sleeping with someone else. Emotional cheating does not carry risk of disease or pregnancy. We ogle porn and celebrities, so it's a bit of a gray area.

But it's your feelings that matter

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Reply #2 posted 04/30/12 2:57pm

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And why is your sex life rubbish? Are you partly to blame for that? It does not excuse cheating, but it's something to think about.

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Reply #3 posted 04/30/12 2:58pm

tinaz

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So, they exchanged numbers and now have gone to texting instead of a chat room???

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Reply #4 posted 04/30/12 2:58pm

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peppeken said:
Caught my partner texting this same guy he met in some chatroom.all sexual talk whilst our sex life is rubbish. He doesn't think it's cheating - just harmless fun. Is it worth splitting up over? [Edited 4/30/12 14:44pm] [Edited 4/30/12 14:45pm]

The fact that one person is having an issue and the other is not concerned about it is the issue.

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Reply #5 posted 04/30/12 2:59pm

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tinaz said:

So, they exchanged numbers and now have gone to texting instead of a chat room???

How many of those texts included pics of Peenie Weenies? lol

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Reply #6 posted 04/30/12 2:59pm

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I wouldn't put up with it, but I also have made that clear to my bf. In my mind, if you wouldn't want your partner to know about it it's probably cheating.

If you haven't already talked about it, I'd explain how it makes you feel and talk through your expectations of each other. Whether or not you break up based on what's already happened is up to you.

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Reply #7 posted 04/30/12 3:01pm

tinaz

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

tinaz said:

So, they exchanged numbers and now have gone to texting instead of a chat room???

How many of those texts included pics of Peenie Weenies?

IMO its cheating.. ESPECIALLY since they have now crossed over to exchanging phone numbers.. sad

So sorry hug

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Reply #8 posted 04/30/12 3:18pm

peppeken	tinaz said: So, they exchanged numbers and now have gone to texting instead of a chat room??? Yes.
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peppeken	Thanks guys
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Reply #10 posted 04/30/12 3:22pm

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tinaz said:

IMO its cheating.. ESPECIALLY since they have now crossed over to exchanging phone numbers..

So sorry

I agree with Tina... sad

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Reply #11 posted 04/30/12 3:24pm

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peppeken said:
Thanks guys

Im so sorry peppeken.. sad

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Reply #13 posted 04/30/12 3:37pm

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Not good.

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Reply #14 posted 04/30/12 3:39pm

XxAxX

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run away. hug find someone cool enough for you

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Reply #15 posted 04/30/12 3:39pm

XxAxX

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^ sorry. inner child posting.

talk to your partner about how you feel. see if it is something he will work on with you

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Reply #16 posted 04/30/12 3:45pm

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CarrieMpls said:

If you haven't already talked about it, I'd explain how it makes you feel and talk through your expectations of each other. Whether or not you break up based on what's already happened is up to you.

This is a good point.

We all know sleeping with someone is cheating, but if you have not discussed what the lines are, some people might think flirting is okay, sexting is okay (I certainly think it's crossing the line!) or whatever.

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Reply #17 posted 04/30/12 3:57pm

peppeken	NDRU said: And why is your sex life rubbish? Are you partly to blame for that? It does not excuse cheating, but it's something to think about. ... He can't get it up or come!
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Reply #18 posted 04/30/12 4:11pm

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peppeken said:
NDRU said:

And why is your sex life rubbish? Are you partly to blame for that? It does not excuse cheating, but it's something to think about.

... He can't get it up or come!

It's not sounding good for this guy

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Reply #19 posted 04/30/12 5:07pm

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If he wouldn't do it openly, with you there, or ask your permission beforehand, it's cheating.

Right?

That's how I've always looked at it. If he didn't want you to know about it or share in it with you then I think a line has been crossed. But that's just my two cents.

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Reply #20 posted 04/30/12 5:11pm

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NDRU said:

peppeken said:
NDRU said: ... He can't get it up or come!

It's not sounding good for this guy

maybe he needs a fucking poncho. bitches be all up on his dick, meaning, his dick be all up on it own dang self yeah!

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Reply #21 posted 04/30/12 5:11pm

nursev	chocolate1 said: tinaz said: IMO its cheating.. ESPECIALLY since they have now crossed over to exchanging phone numbers.. So sorry I agree with Tina...
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Reply #22 posted 05/01/12 6:41am

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NDRU said:

If you think it is cheating and worth splitting up over, then it is.

But I don't think it's nearly as bad as actually sleeping with someone else. Emotional cheating does not carry risk of disease or pregnancy. We ogle porn and celebrities, so it's a bit of a gray area.

But it's your feelings that matter

I think it's cheating too

the partners focus is distracted.

I don't know. I think both are just as bad, but just different.

The idea of someone you love having physically cheated 1nce vs Emotionally which tends to be an ongoing thing. Can probably hurt a person on the inside for a longer period of time that a 1 time hook up.

But that probably depends on the indivuals state of being too

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Reply #23 posted 05/01/12 6:43am

OldFriends4Sal e	peppeken said: NDRU said: And why is your sex life rubbish? Are you partly to blame for that? It does not excuse cheating, but it's something to think about. ... He can't get it up or come! He can get it up that probably means he is either masturbating or actually having sex with someone
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Reply #24 posted 05/01/12 8:27pm

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Yes

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Reply #25 posted 05/01/12 8:46pm

peppeken	Thanks guys he is now dumped for good!
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Reply #26 posted 05/01/12 9:34pm

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tinaz said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

How many of those texts included pics of Peenie Weenies?

IMO its cheating.. ESPECIALLY since they have now crossed over to exchanging phone numbers..

So sorry

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Sorry.... sad but I agree with the above. Go with your gut feeling...... Only you know what you will tolerate. Good luck sweetie.

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