Hello fellow orgers,

so... a bit of a strange topic to bring up. And no Kingbad this is not a dirty sex thread

I met this guy on set a few week's ago, and we have gone out on about 7 or 8 dates now. I met his roommates, went out with his friend's a couple times all that business. We have only been doing this a few week's so we are not defined, and trying to rush......

But there is something to me that is.... odd. He tried to ''establish some rules with me'' And he said ok, you probably don't want me making out with other guys... but what about girls? of course i laugh thinking he was jk.

But no! homeboy is for real. Tonight we went out, he got drunk and he was macking on his female friend's and kissed 2 of them & made out with 1! i mean MADE OUT with tongue and all that shit , and just last week one day after set. His best friend who is gay also, brought a female friend with him. His friend started making out with a guy, and than the guy he made out with when and made out with the girl!!!! we where like wtf And that same chick is the one that my guy was making out with tonight. And after he made out with her, after that he was all over me like the girl thing never happened

IDK how to feel about all this, he is a great guy. And most bi guys i have ever known where just really gay & it was the ''lesser evil'' to be bi.

Either way, idk how to feel about him making out with girls. Should i be like wtf? or should it not be a big deal?

Whether it's guys or girls, you should be "wtf" if you're looking to be exclusive.

If you're "not defined", then do you consider his actions disrespectful?

I think it all boils down to politeness and courtesy. And that hinges on the boundaries you set for him. Then again, I can't see how making out with ANYBODY around somebody you're dating, whether you label yourselves or not, is polite.

he is a whore ~ is that what u want?????

and dont listen 2 him if he brings up 'but its a diffenert hole' excuse

imago said:

Whether it's guys or girls, you should be "wtf" if you're looking to be exclusive.

If you're "not defined", then do you consider his actions disrespectful?

I think it all boils down to politeness and courtesy. And that hinges on the boundaries you set for him. Then again, I can't see how making out with ANYBODY around somebody you're dating, whether you label yourselves or not, is polite.

That last part is it!

I don't want to rush thing's, but i do like the guy and think it could go somewhere. But in my mind, when i am with a guy whether it is the first date, the 17th date.... or hell even if the guy was just a hook up or whatever. I feel you should be with him, and not be macking on other guys or making out with guys/gals or cows

But that is my view, he see's it different and not to mention alchol is involved. And he is a lot of male queeny friend's that also egg him on to drink more & egg him on to do stupid shit

Even though they all go to UCLA and are smart kids, when they go to bars... commen sense jumps out the window QUICK

ThisOne said:

he is a whore ~ is that what u want?????

and dont listen 2 him if he brings up 'but its a diffenert hole' excuse

Well we haven't even had sex yet, so luckily he has not tried to invite the idea of some 3-way up

Gunsnhalen said:

ThisOne said:

he is a whore ~ is that what u want?????

and dont listen 2 him if he brings up 'but its a diffenert hole' excuse

Well we haven't even had sex yet, so luckily he has not tried to invite the idea of some 3-way up

but we both know he's thinking about it

i couldn't really follow, yet i do believe he is a douchbag, no offense to you, but he is not worth it hun, unless you are BOTH in some kind of arrangement or agreement, you can't have ur cake and eat it too.

so...you go on a date with a guy and during your date he starts to kiss with somebody else???

What kind of date is that???

It doesn't mean shit if he's making out with girls or boys.

Are you sure you want somebody like that as your bf??

robertlove said:

so...you go on a date with a guy and during your date he starts to kiss with somebody else???

What kind of date is that???

It doesn't mean shit if he's making out with girls or boys.

Are you sure you want somebody like that as your bf??

Get rid of him. How can you allow yourself to be treated like that? You deserve better.

Dave1992 said:

this isnt about u is it????

flyorra said:

Sex is natural

Sex is fun

Sex is best when it's one on EVERYONE! Whoopie!

Cerebus said:

Cerebus said:

Sex is natural

Sex is fun

Sex is best when it's one on EVERYONE! Whoopie!

God bless George Michael.

Making out isn't sexual.

Oh wait, it is.

But seriously, anyone that does that, I don't think they're there for a relationship, they're just there to act like a party animal and if you want a relationship, maybe now's not the time to pick someone like that.

Cerebus said:

Sex is natural

Sex is fun

Sex is best when it's one on EVERYONE! Whoopie!

Timmy84 said:

But seriously, anyone that does that, I don't think they're there for a relationship, they're just there to act like a party animal and if you want a relationship, maybe now's not the time to pick someone like that.

get out while you can

Sounds like dude is being upfront with you on who he really is, you need to be upfront with him and yourself on who you really are.

Believe it or not, i was sort of in MacDaddy's mindset.

I wouldn't say this guy is a douchebag, he is actually incredibly nice and sweet. It's just the thing mentioned here that make's me feel uneasy, the thing is he wanted to ''establish'' those rules.

And call me crazy, but being 21 i have had 3 boyfriend's. And only 1 i think was really serious, and i never actually had a guy say her let's laydown some rules & shit.. and soon as all this stuff.

It's just new to me, and the fact that his best friend has the same issue going on , i didn't even mention the fact the chick asked ME if i wanted to makeout to. I was like oh heffffahhhhhhhhhhhhhh NO

PurpleJedi said:

Timmy84 said:

But seriously, anyone that does that, I don't think they're there for a relationship, they're just there to act like a party animal and if you want a relationship, maybe now's not the time to pick someone like that.

jedi i misss you

Oh &

Gunsnhalen said:

PurpleJedi said:

jedi i misss you

Oh &

touché

robertlove said:

so...you go on a date with a guy and during your date he starts to kiss with somebody else???

What kind of date is that???

It doesn't mean shit if he's making out with girls or boys.

Are you sure you want somebody like that as your bf??

...this.

If hes doing that shit when youre around, well...............................

Gunsnhalen said:

Believe it or not, i was sort of in MacDaddy's mindset.

I wouldn't say this guy is a douchebag, he is actually incredibly nice and sweet. It's just the thing mentioned here that make's me feel uneasy, the thing is he wanted to ''establish'' those rules.

And call me crazy, but being 21 i have had 3 boyfriend's. And only 1 i think was really serious, and i never actually had a guy say her let's laydown some rules & shit.. and soon as all this stuff.

It's just new to me, and the fact that his best friend has the same issue going on , i didn't even mention the fact the chick asked ME if i wanted to makeout to. I was like oh heffffahhhhhhhhhhhhhh NO

what kind of rules, if you mean he wants an open relationship and you are not into that then i think you need to let him go, you can't change yourself and you can't change him. even if he is nice, i am sure there are guys who are nicer than him, who will let you be yourself without feeling like you are not playin right. i think luv4u said it best, next thing you know he is sleeping with your bestfriend...just saying.

Gunsnhalen said:

Believe it or not, i was sort of in MacDaddy's mindset.

I wouldn't say this guy is a douchebag, he is actually incredibly nice and sweet. It's just the thing mentioned here that make's me feel uneasy, the thing is he wanted to ''establish'' those rules.

And call me crazy, but being 21 i have had 3 boyfriend's. And only 1 i think was really serious, and i never actually had a guy say her let's laydown some rules & shit.. and soon as all this stuff.

It's just new to me, and the fact that his best friend has the same issue going on , i didn't even mention the fact the chick asked ME if i wanted to makeout to. I was like oh heffffahhhhhhhhhhhhhh NO

He's incredibly nice and sweet...tiny problem: he makes out in front of your face with other people when you're on a date with him.

He should only have eyes for you!

i don't know you of course, but have some self-respect.

robertlove said:

Gunsnhalen said:

Believe it or not, i was sort of in MacDaddy's mindset.

I wouldn't say this guy is a douchebag, he is actually incredibly nice and sweet. It's just the thing mentioned here that make's me feel uneasy, the thing is he wanted to ''establish'' those rules.

And call me crazy, but being 21 i have had 3 boyfriend's. And only 1 i think was really serious, and i never actually had a guy say her let's laydown some rules & shit.. and soon as all this stuff.

It's just new to me, and the fact that his best friend has the same issue going on , i didn't even mention the fact the chick asked ME if i wanted to makeout to. I was like oh heffffahhhhhhhhhhhhhh NO

He's incredibly nice and sweet...tiny problem: he makes out in front of your face with other people when you're on a date with him.

He should only have eyes for you!

i don't know you of course, but have some self-respect.

Agreed. Gunsnhalen, if you wouldn't do that to him then why is it okay for him to do it to you? The key is you need to explain to him what you need and he needs to explain what he needs. If it's cool then continue-but he doesn't appear to be in a serious relationship mode. And quit making excuses for him (see second sentence.).