Harlepolis said:

dJJ said:

I think I would talk to the school psychiatrist about your worries.

Maybe even with a mentor from school?

I would want to share and discuss what worries me. Maybe there are things going on between her and classmates or on internet.

Together with the psychiatrist I would discuss and plan on how to act. And evaluate how it went to see if I could be of any better support for her.

I also want to advise to make sure to get support for yourself too. Makes you stronger so you can be somebody she knows she can rely on.

It's allways nice to back yourself up with some professional knowledge and diverse information about her in different settings.

Good luck.

I do think it is important to do something. Don't wait and see. Better save than sorry.

Wish you and your daughter well!

And thats exactly my intention when I posted this thread I've been through some stuff when I was her age, but A) We're so different, when I got hurt I lashed out on folks and I built a tough facade, whereas she's openly vulnrable and when she gets hurt, she bottles it up. And B) Even though I gained some emotional intelligence pretaining folks who go through depression, I still fall short when it comes to the professional intelligence.

Basically I needed some headache free guidance. I love my family but one thing they're not good at is keeping their mouth shut, which really ain't skin off my teeth, but I perish the thought when my child see a difference of their treatment to her like she's somebody with a terminal illness. One good thing about her relationship with my family, is they never changed on her, they treat her like the the rest of the kids, I try to maintain that by keeping this from them.

You guys have no idea how comforting your advices were. Appearantly, she felt that I was disturbed by her work, when we were eating out, I asked her casually if there're other thngs she worked on and didn't show me? She said yeah, and asked "Can I handle it if she'll show me?" My heart sank, but after remembering what you guys said, I shrugged it off. And true to form, I handled well(Paintedlady, I mentioned Gustav Klimt and the rest of 'em. Nice touch! it sparked the conversation more).

Whoever said lack of understanding creates fear never lied. I still don't fully understand what she's going through, but I'll be, with professional help.

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why not take her to an art museum in your area to broaden her scope of art. sounds like she might be a very talened artist. or go to the library on your own and check out some books by famous artist of the past. like vermeer, van gogh, j. tissot and others. bring the books home and put them on one of your living room tables. let her discover them . give her a chance to enhance her artistic skills.

also take her to a place where cd's are sold and look at some of the album covers. now they are scary imo. however my friends 16yr old is into the type of music that produces some crazy looking album covers. like the album covers below.

the choice in the music does not seem to affect the teen's school grades, has lots of good friends and yes does spend sometimes extended time alone. the teen is an only child. not sure if that affects the need to be alone at times.

my friend said she wanted to sprinkle 'holy water' all over her teens room (and the teen is african-american) after she saw the scary album covers and listened to the music.

maybe your daughter's art is a reflection of the generational world around her.

i think (hopefully) it's just a phase.

it's the times.

free2bfreeda said:

why not take her to an art museum in your area to broaden her scope of art. sounds like she might be a very talened artist. or go to the library on your own and check out some books by famous artist of the past. like vermeer, van gogh, j. tissot and others. bring the books home and put them on one of your living room tables. let her discover them . give her a chance to enhance her artistic skills.

also take her to a place where cd's are sold and look at some of the album covers. now they are scary imo. however my friends 16yr old is into the type of music that produces some crazy looking album covers. like the album covers below.

the choice in the music does not seem to affect the teen's school grades, has lots of good friends and yes does spend sometimes extended time alone. the teen is an only child. not sure if that affects the need to be alone at times.

my friend said she wanted to sprinkle 'holy water' all over her teens room (and the teen is african-american) after she saw the scary album covers and listened to the music.

maybe your daughter's art is a reflection of the generational world around her.

i think (hopefully) it's just a phase.

it's the times.

My daughter is not that selective when it comes to her music as she's content with what I already play. Like her mom, she's becoming such the Prince enthusiast, gradually. She would take the Ipod from my purse and link it to the speaker, and next thing you know, the Camille album is being played. She seems at home with Prince' music, as he was known for producing dark music, for lack of a better term? LOL it seems she got attracted by the same element that drew me in. She would play whatever I have on from the Ipod, and will resort to her usual drawing activities.

Thank you for the books advice. I have my eyes on a few coffee table books that would seem to interest her.

PunkMistress said:

KingBAD said:

when i was a kid i was good at drawin

and very creative in my characters,

a lot of my creations took on morbitity

and strange animalistic people rather,

people with animal characteristics.

my family distroyed my work,

imagine years later when most cartoons

were those very characters

art is the mind findin expression

of imagination, if it's not on paper

it's just in the head. YOU can see

it on paper, you won't see it in her head...

I'm so sad to hear that your creativity was squashed in such a harsh and hurtful way.

you're always so sweet