This thread is bound to stir some people mad... but that is not the intent. Still i think some people are WAY to sensitive.

I have some gay friend's that get bent out of shape if someone jokingly will say hey homo or you homo... after they usually say something like hey cunt bitch. Yet they get all cry cry cry i'm gay and idc if someone calls me fag, homo, queer, fudge packer etc. It's dumb to let words define you, but to me saying homo is like telling a dog hey ya dog! or telling a tall person hey! you are tall. I mean there so many other issues in the world... and you are crying about that?

And another... i see a lot of black & white people call each other the N Word daily yes... DAILY. But if they see it on TV or in a song or w/e by a certain person white & black people get bent out of shape. I Don't care for that word either, but for people white, black, latino etc. Who claim to hate the word yet i see them say it to each other & other people daily.

In fact i see tons of gay people calling each other fag & queer all the time but as soon as a straight person say's it they want to call GLADD

I'm really not offended by much, so this is just my POV but i think people are putting to much into these words, i honestly don't get offended by FAG,QUEER, N....A, HONKY, etc. Cause i know i am none of these now a word like a bitch... eh well i'm only human so of course i can be a bitch sometimes.

Any who, this is not meant to be spiteful in anyway i just want other peoples opinions

Especially You Spinlight always appreciate the comment you make on the threads

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Cause its a PC sensitive world we live in.

Obviously the intent and the context is what matters most.

Why not turn it around? Let's respect eachother and not call eachother "bitch" or "fag"...how would that look like

Funny by the way you don't get offended by the word N....a, yet you don't write the whole word.

LOL, why me?

I never, ever, ever, ever, ever call someone the F word or N word. It's just not my style. I'd rather tell them they have a stinky, dirty pussy or an engorged anus than ever utter words attached to hateful memories.

And though people suggest "it's a PC world" or whatever, let it be known that those words are used for hatred ALL. THE. TIME. All the time. All the time, children. Racism and homophobia have gone NOWHERE.... And these are still weapons. We don't need to get into the what ifs or anything, but suffice it to say that there are people out there who suffer the consequences of goons using those words and its much more severe than just a politically correct world.

Militant said:

Obviously the intent and the context is what matters most.

Usually when it around people i know, if i am being called a ''homo'' a ''queer'' or w/e it is not meant to be harsh. I Can understand if some dude walked down the street and called you a fag why that could piss you off...

Even then i wouldn't get pissed, i would just shrug it off. Then again that is just me.... i'm just not really offended by much.

robertlove said:

Why not turn it around? Let's respect eachother and not call eachother "bitch" or "fag"...how would that look like

Funny by the way you don't get offended by the word N....a, yet you don't write the whole word.

Because i know if i did there would probably be a stir, then i realized when people talk about the niggas in paris song they write the whole thing. So you actually made a good point there robertlove

Spinlight said:

LOL, why me?

I never, ever, ever, ever, ever call someone the F word or N word. It's just not my style. I'd rather tell them they have a stinky, dirty pussy or an engorged anus than ever utter words attached to hateful memories.

And though people suggest "it's a PC world" or whatever, let it be known that those words are used for hatred ALL. THE. TIME. All the time. All the time, children. Racism and homophobia have gone NOWHERE.... And these are still weapons. We don't need to get into the what ifs or anything, but suffice it to say that there are people out there who suffer the consequences of goons using those words and its much more severe than just a politically correct world.

I just always like your opinions on threads

But i get what you and a lot mean... the words have been used for hate before. But i am a tall guy as well 6'5 & been called a big bitch many times but that has been used for hate before to by some people as well Not to me but like trying to make them feel abnormal for how they look or there size. Hell i'm sure people can turn many words around and use them for hate.... but i always just think it's whatever they make it.

Just my 2 penny's

Gunsnhalen said:

Spinlight said:

LOL, why me?

I never, ever, ever, ever, ever call someone the F word or N word. It's just not my style. I'd rather tell them they have a stinky, dirty pussy or an engorged anus than ever utter words attached to hateful memories.

And though people suggest "it's a PC world" or whatever, let it be known that those words are used for hatred ALL. THE. TIME. All the time. All the time, children. Racism and homophobia have gone NOWHERE.... And these are still weapons. We don't need to get into the what ifs or anything, but suffice it to say that there are people out there who suffer the consequences of goons using those words and its much more severe than just a politically correct world.

I just always like your opinions on threads

But i get what you and a lot mean... the words have been used for hate before. But i am a tall guy as well 6'5 & been called a big bitch many times but that has been used for hate before to by some people as well Not to me but like trying to make them feel abnormal for how they look or there size. Hell i'm sure people can turn many words around and use them for hate.... but i always just think it's whatever they make it.

Just my 2 penny's

Well, for the record, I don't call fat people fat, I don't call Arab people anything along those lines, etc. I just stick to more flagrant ways of insulting someone should the need arise. And if its just a fun kind of DUDES DOIN DUDE THINGS type deal, I'm still the last person who's gonna utter a slur. lol. I dunno, it's just never been my thing.

I get why people are upset by it. I get why people are not upset by it. I'm somewhere in the middle. I'd prefer not to have someone call me any of that and I surely won't call anyone else a slur. But I don't shit bricks if my friends do it unless they're losing their minging minds and I have to reign them in.

Exactely what Spinlight said, these words come out of hate.

Instead of asking why people are so sensitive, the better question is, why still use these words?

"a rose is a rose is a rose"

funny how folks get all wrapped on

the lables instead of the intention

behind the lables...

I am older... I am around lots of kids at the schools my kids go to.Its funny to see some of these kids behavior, when they mess up and they HATE to apologize. They act JUST like their parents. Their parents are the same people who are quick to scream at teachers if their child got a poor grade was disciplined. They literally argue to teachers as to why their children need to behave badly and allowances should be made for that. "He's in special needs...."

In dealing with many adults I noticed many adults do NOT like being told what to do to adjust their bahavior, just like a little bratty kid that would rather throw a tantrum than admit to wrong.

They lack compassion. They do not want to adjust their behavior and only want others to see the world they way they see it. They are right because they only want to see things their way and simply feel like they are right in their views and those people generally have a VERY difficult time apologizing to anyone.

These people come from all walks of life... but a few things are common. They hold on to those bad habits taught by them through their parents. They aren't used to hearing the word NO and walk around with an inflated sense of self, they do not need to "bend" or consider anyone and consider others too sensitive or just wrong instead of just using a bit of compassion.

Heck, I have people like that in my own lovely family. "I am sorry" will NEVER come out of their mouths and they say things like "get over it" "geesh, you're so damn sensitive" often. They argue to why they should be able to say hatesul words in jest until they are blue in the face.

I stay away from people with that type of personality flaw because it makes them come off like assholes.

NOW... as for me...I will never tell someone what they should or shouldn't be sensitive about. I am not them and I do not live their life to know what has happened so I will not presume what someone should think or how someone should feel. Instead I will adjust my own behavior and say "I am sorry"... and learn from that experience. People need validation, and in an ever shrinking world we need to learn how to understand others and respect others feelings even if we do not have that sensitivity.

The most ignorant shit I tend to hear is "its not my problem", or "get over it"... funny thing because the people who tend to say that are some of the most sensitive muthafukkas I have ever met.

paintedlady said:

I am older... I am around lots of kids at the schools my kids go to.Its funny to see some of these kids behavior, when they mess up and they HATE to apologize. They act JUST like their parents. Their parents are the same people who are quick to scream at teachers if their child got a poor grade was disciplined. They literally argue to teachers as to why their children need to behave badly and allowances should be made for that. "He's in special needs...."

In dealing with many adults I noticed many adults do NOT like being told what to do to adjust their bahavior, just like a little bratty kid that would rather throw a tantrum than admit to wrong.

They lack compassion. They do not want to adjust their behavior and only want others to see the world they way they see it. They are right because they only want to see things their way and simply feel like they are right in their views and those people generally have a VERY difficult time apologizing to anyone.

These people come from all walks of life... but a few things are common. They hold on to those bad habits taught by them through their parents. They aren't used to hearing the word NO and walk around with an inflated sense of self, they do not need to "bend" or consider anyone and consider others too sensitive or just wrong instead of just using a bit of compassion.

Heck, I have people like that in my own lovely family. "I am sorry" will NEVER come out of their mouths and they say things like "get over it" "geesh, you're so damn sensitive" often. They argue to why they should be able to say hatesul words in jest until they are blue in the face.

I stay away from people with that type of personality flaw because it makes them come off like assholes.

NOW... as for me...I will never tell someone what they should or shouldn't be sensitive about. I am not them and I do not live their life to know what has happened so I will not presume what someone should think or how someone should feel. Instead I will adjust my own behavior and say "I am sorry"... and learn from that experience. People need validation, and in an ever shrinking world we need to learn how to understand others and respect others feelings even if we do not have that sensitivity.

The most ignorant shit I tend to hear is "its not my problem", or "get over it"... funny thing because the people who tend to say that are some of the most sensitive muthafukkas I have ever met.

I've had a lot of court cases where racist, homophobes, and sexist have justified their language as, "I or we were just joking." Really? I think many people... many cowards hide behind PC to justify their conduct and mindset. What these people really want is the right to publicly say whatever they want without public rebuke... "oh, I was just kidding." I maintain, a willingness to accept, ignore, or excuse sexually and racist based epithets some where down the line makes incivility a lil' more acceptable.

how does a muthafucka say "i don't aspire to callin folks names"

but call a bitch a bitch, now ME i ain't seen a PC day in a long

time. i say i can give less than a fuck about something and

that's that, but i would not be one to hide behind the joke thing.

i say fuck you if you can't take a joke.

it seems that the sensitive types are the same as them bitches

(male/female) who say "i just can't stand no drama" and you

know when you hear it DRAMA IS IMANENT.

sounds like somethin commin from the village idiot, yet

they want to see themselves as packaged in intellect

What kind of jam do sour grapes make?

sour grapes will get yo jaws LOCKED

and that's a hellova jam, ain't it

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I'm wearing fresh deodorant. Hope you don't mind sports scent.

that must be a 'happy'/gay reference

i don't understand

if you have something to say

don't be such a lil twit about it.

be a man or as close as you can get

to it, JUMP OUT YO LANE

i'll see how qwik i can fix yo ride...

Got that sour grape jam all over your sticky fingers, KB. Handle that.

Spinlight said:

Got that sour grape jam all over your sticky fingers, KB. Handle that.

i see you know how to stay in yo lane

long as you talk in gay code, only gay folks

can respond, when you decide to put on

some propper pants, HOLLA!!!

otherwise keep lettin people see how much

like a lil hoe you can be, basicly you may as well

be talkin behind my back, which is the

only place you can shoot from.

btw...

tell er'body how you seek the backin

of someone who don't rent to blacks

as a claim to fame.

you know, where you got the qwote

you used in the youtube thread

WOW!!!

i smell pussy all over you

see it all in you

^^ lmao... Trainwreck.

When it comes to homophobia, the world has still got a long way to go but it has come a long way for the better since I was in school back in the early 1980s. A lot more people are accepting now than they were then and a lot more people watch what they say now compared to then. I see a lot of kids these days calling each other "homo" and shit like that and I can see that with a lot of them, it's just a generic word like "asshole" or "motherfucker" and with some of them it's not and meant to be personal.

You are much younger than I am so you have grown up in times where it has not nearly been as bad as it used to be. But when I was in school, it was never used as a generic word. Each and every single time it was used, it was directed personally at a person who was either gay or who they believed was gay. The reason for them using the different variations and abbreviations of the word homosexual back then, was so if a teacher overheard the word but didn't hear the full conversation, they could weasel their way out of trouble if she didn't hear the full arguement but just happened to overhear that word that caught her attention. They can explain their way out of trouble with lies if she heard the word "homo" but not the rest of the conversation. She may not believe them, but then it's basically your side of the story against their's so there's nothing she can do about it. But there's no way of weaseling your way out of getting trouble if she heard the word "fag" unless the teacher happened to be a male coach who were mostly homophobic assholes themselves. Coaches should never be teaching classes or study halls.

A lot has changed since then but back then, it was never a generic word and it was always directed personally at a gay person as an abbreviated version and used as a hate word. Times have changed and it irritates me a little when I hear young people using it on each other but I'm not a fanatic about it because I know that a lot of them use it as a generic word, although plenty of them still use it as a personal word. But although times have changed, you never forget the hell you went through back then. It stays with you forever.

TD3 said:

What these people really want is the right to publicly say whatever they want without public rebuke...

.....and there it is

uPtoWnNY said:

TD3 said:

What these people really want is the right to publicly say whatever they want without public rebuke...

.....and there it is

Even if they flub innocently .... in a more minor way, most people will come up with a million excuses as to why they should say it instead of saying "I'm sorry".

i know someone who is supposed 2 b sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo tuff but he often runs off with the shits and i always say '4 a tuff guy u r way 2 sensitive'

but he never answers me or tells me why

and 2 b honest i think ppl are generally sensitive about things or other ppl they care about

because if they didnt care, it wouldnt affect them

vainandy said:

When it comes to homophobia, the world has still got a long way to go but it has come a long way for the better since I was in school back in the early 1980s. A lot more people are accepting now than they were then and a lot more people watch what they say now compared to then. I see a lot of kids these days calling each other "homo" and shit like that and I can see that with a lot of them, it's just a generic word like "asshole" or "motherfucker" and with some of them it's not and meant to be personal.

You are much younger than I am so you have grown up in times where it has not nearly been as bad as it used to be. But when I was in school, it was never used as a generic word. Each and every single time it was used, it was directed personally at a person who was either gay or who they believed was gay. The reason for them using the different variations and abbreviations of the word homosexual back then, was so if a teacher overheard the word but didn't hear the full conversation, they could weasel their way out of trouble if she didn't hear the full arguement but just happened to overhear that word that caught her attention. They can explain their way out of trouble with lies if she heard the word "homo" but not the rest of the conversation. She may not believe them, but then it's basically your side of the story against their's so there's nothing she can do about it. But there's no way of weaseling your way out of getting trouble if she heard the word "fag" unless the teacher happened to be a male coach who were mostly homophobic assholes themselves. Coaches should never be teaching classes or study halls.

A lot has changed since then but back then, it was never a generic word and it was always directed personally at a gay person as an abbreviated version and used as a hate word. Times have changed and it irritates me a little when I hear young people using it on each other but I'm not a fanatic about it because I know that a lot of them use it as a generic word, although plenty of them still use it as a personal word. But although times have changed, you never forget the hell you went through back then. It stays with you forever.

Great point... that generational gap is what also makes my son say that he doesn't really need to be that careful in certain parts of where we live because folks aren't as racist anymore. When I was young a black man couldn't be seen holding a white girls hand he would have gotten the living shit beat outta him... now all you see are inter-racial couples.

So my son can go anywhere with his white girlfriend and I can breathe easy that they will have a great time and not run into assholery.

I hear kids saying the stuff you mention as well... I don't let that bother me as long as they only say that mess to each other.

Why are people are so insensitive?

I will occasionally use "homo" - but only with people I know well. I mean...I'm pretty sure all have you have seen me say, "That's my homo. " to johnart.

But since I really am a gay man (or so says my main homo), it's okay.

NDRU said:

Why are people are so insensitive?

One question at a time, please.