Not rude or inappropriate at all. I would do the same thing.

Not to me it doesn't.

Wedding gifts plucked from the mini-bar may be pushing it though.

If you can do it without issue, I don't see it as being rude. However, they might have a block of rooms reserved for wedding guests, and the hotel has booked around that need, making switiching tricky. You might end up on the opposite side of the building from where all of the festivities are.

Super tacky. If you can afford to upgrade your room you probably shouldn't be allowing them to cover your room in the first place.

fielder said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

fielder said:

Super tacky. If you can afford to upgrade your room you probably shouldn't be allowing them to cover your room in the first place.

I actually asked her not to pay, but she insisted.

Of course she insisted, that's normal for such arrangements. But seriously, there is nothing wrong with upgrading.

Tacky would be other people taking issue with it and making a big deal out of nothing.

It' not inappropriate if your hubby chooses to upgrade the room.

insomnia said:

If you can do it without issue, I don't see it as being rude. However, they might have a block of rooms reserved for wedding guests, and the hotel has booked around that need, making switiching tricky. You might end up on the opposite side of the building from where all of the festivities are.

This is most likely the situation. If the rooms are blocked you're pretty much in the room you have. Also it seems that since its been paid for it is what it is.

If you really want the upgrade I would suggest going off block and booking and paying for the suite yourself. It will save alot of time and headache, and Im sorry but I think it could cause alot of issues with the other guest/family members in the party.

Honestly I would just let it go.

Also this is in June which, depending on the location, is going to the busy season.

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As long as he's paying for the upgrade himself it's not a problem at all. He'll simply provide his credit card at check in and you'll be fine. I think your bridal party will be too busy with authentic wedding logistic issues to mind one bit. These situations are not uncommon for guests coming in for out of town weddings, so as long as you're taking care of the upgrade expense yourself it's generally fine.

why would he wanna upgrade if he doesn't know what the room is like yet

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Dewrede said:

why would he wanna upgrade if he doesn't know what the room is like yet

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It stands to reason that their travel intenerary/info has been discussed already.

^

Apparently not ; 'At this time we don't know where or what type of lodging will be provided'

I'm with you nothingbutjoy in thinking it isn't nice but maybe that is just me.

Have fun at the wedding!!!

Dewrede said:

^

Apparently not ; 'At this time we don't know where or what type of lodging will be provided'

Then call the wedding organizers, call the hotel or check the hotel website, determine if they can upgrade the rooms outside of the wedding block. Easy enough and not really that big a deal.

Seems to me that the path of least resistance is to make your own reservation if your husband is firmly set on upgrading. It's not that it's rude, per se, but it could be misinterpreted by sensitive folks. Why bother with that hassle? There is the issue also that if you're getting a reserved block that you wouldn't be in the same location as your group since you'd be making a separate reservation in the summer time (like someone else mentioned).

It also could potentially make you guys look like cheapskates anyway.

Count your blessings that your friends are financially well off and also generous, then donate the money that could be spent on upgrading to a worthy cause?

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JustErin said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

fielder said: I actually asked her not to pay, but she insisted.

Of course she insisted, that's normal for such arrangements. But seriously, there is nothing wrong with upgrading.

Tacky would be other people taking issue with it and making a big deal out of nothing.

This.

It is standard for the bridal party to pay for hotel rooms for out of town guests - and to include them in the rehearsal dinner and brunch the day after the wedding. (Leaving your guests on their own is very bad form.) Upgrading a room is nothing for anyone to get twisted over - if someone wants a little more space or a king size bed, it's not a big deal.

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To be honest, if I was getting married and was treating everybody to what I obviously thought was a sufficient or even nice hotel room, I would feel a bit annoyed if they didn't think it was enough. I guess if it had been a longer stay it would have been more understandable but a night or two? Surely it can't be torture to settle with what you've generously been given for that amount of time.

It all depends on the people in question though. If you're invited to the wedding you probably know them well enough to anticipate how they would react.

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i'd be offended

If I were getting married and one of my guests upgraded their hotel room I'm sure I wouldn't even know and I definitely wouldn't care.

I can't afford to put up guests in a hotel room, though. So what do I know?

JustErin said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

fielder said: I actually asked her not to pay, but she insisted.

Of course she insisted, that's normal for such arrangements. But seriously, there is nothing wrong with upgrading.

Tacky would be other people taking issue with it and making a big deal out of nothing.

That's what I thought. I did ask her not to pay, but when she insisted I dropped it immediately. It is a very nice thing for her to do. She wants to do it, so I'm accepting the gift. That's why I'm having trouble with the idea of upgrading. It's a gift.

I also see the point of the hotel setting up a block of rooms. I don't want to be removed from the group, so I'll see what the arrangements are and then decide if we need to upgrade.

CarrieMpls said:

If I were getting married and one of my guests upgraded their hotel room I'm sure I wouldn't even know and I definitely wouldn't care.

I can't afford to put up guests in a hotel room, though. So what do I know?

It really sort of depends on the relationship. It's pretty common for close family and friends. Less so for "hangers on."

since the accommodations have already been booked, it might cause problems to upgrade. for example, your friend will be presented with the bill, including charges for the upgrade. the hotel will likely have trouble understanding that it should separate the upgrade charge from the fee it is charging your friend. at this point, your friend might not want the hassle of clearing that up.

CarrieMpls said:

If I were getting married and one of my guests upgraded their hotel room I'm sure I wouldn't even know and I definitely wouldn't care.

I can't afford to put up guests in a hotel room, though. So what do I know?

This is what I think, I can't imagine anyone would even know

NDRU said:

CarrieMpls said:

If I were getting married and one of my guests upgraded their hotel room I'm sure I wouldn't even know and I definitely wouldn't care.

I can't afford to put up guests in a hotel room, though. So what do I know?

This is what I think, I can't imagine anyone would even know

You would be amazed what folks ask the front desk for when checking in. Everyone wants upgraded and if Aunt Emma is shoved in a small room while someone non family gets an upgrade a stink will be made.

XxAxX said:

since the accommodations have already been booked, it might cause problems to upgrade. for example, your friend will be presented with the bill, including charges for the upgrade. the hotel will likely have trouble understanding that it should separate the upgrade charge from the fee it is charging your friend. at this point, your friend might not want the hassle of clearing that up.

So long as your upgrade doesn't cause the bride/groom any additional costs or hassles, then it should be no problem.