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Is is just women who think anniversaries are important? Alright org relationships experts... what do you think?
It is my anniversary today... my man & I have been together 8 years... I reminded him a week or 2 ago... but haven't said anything since... and I have not heard from him at all today... and don't have a lot of confidence that he has remembered at all. Now, we don't usually do much... just cards and a nice dinner out... but am I wrong to be upset if he doesn't remember? Or does this stuff only matter to women and I need to get over it? | |
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In a word? Yes. 비 | |
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No, I don't think that it is just women who think anniversaries are important. I don't think that u are wrong to be mad. I would be very hurt and therefore mad at the one who has hurt me....
however, there is always a chance that he is planning a surprise celebration!!!!
For what it is worth...
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HAPPY ANNIVERSARY
Aww... Thanks
It would be so nice if he was planning something... we shall see. | |
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I don't know that it's the anniversary so much as generally making an effort My Legacy
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You started your relationship the day Janet Jackson had her wardrobe malfunction?
Bet he remembers that
(The New England Patriots defeated the Carolina Panthers 32–29) | |
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We did. Trust me, we both remember that part | |
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notice, all the really expensive gifts come up around the 100th anniversary
Wedding anniversay gifts
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this stuff is complex! have to be married for 35 years before you get to jade 
women think EVERYTHING is important. | |
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I used to think these things were important, after a while it all gets a bit old Rhythm floods my heart♥The melody it feeds my soul | |
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No, I know a guy who put so much importance into each month, and I just didn't get it. People like to say I'm the guy in the relationship, as if girls are expected to be the mushy ones. | |
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my husband hasn't forgotten ours yet. | |
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I would be pissed and I would tell him about it.
I'm not the most romantic person so our wedding anniversaries have always been very low key; except for last year when we renewed our vows. Even so, acknowledging when you met or married and how lucky he is to have you in his life sealed with a kiss, doesn't take a whole lot of effort. If you're hurt say something, but wait until you're kinda calm.
That is if he forgot... he may not have he may just be messin with ya a little.
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yes, of course. Men only celebrate it because we'll get in trouble if we don't. | |
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Smart guy. | |
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Nope.
My dude, for example, is very big on observing anniversaries. Not buying presents and stuff, as we're not a big gift-buying couple and I have no use for jewelry. But it's very important to him to set aside time to be together and celebrate the milestone we've reached. Even our six-month mark of dating was an anniversary to him. And as many Orgers can attest, he's very much a manly-man, so it's not like he's a girly exception.
We'll be celebrating four years of marriage this year.
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So... he definitely forgot... He does remember the Super Bowl connection... but that just makes him confused because the game is generally a week later than it was then...
(Also, just to clarify, we're not married, just been together a long time, neither of us really feels the need to get married, though I could go for some of the lace listed on that lovely chart!)
Anyway... I did mention it... to not much reaction from him. I forgive him because he's also having a really really rough time at work... but I was hoping for something.
I'm jealous of y'all with the sweet romantic guys! | |
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I'll give him until the weekend to make it up to me.Don't know if it's a woman or a man thing, some people are just not much in these kind of things.
When you're relationship is good, why worry about a date?
If forget almost every birthday of friends, that doesn't mean I don't love my friends, it's just that birthdays aren't important to me. | |
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My daughter was born on our first wedding anniversary, so we really have no excuse for forgetting it. We never buy anything for each other but we'll usually go out for a meal or something around that date.. the date itself is usually centred around my daughter's birthday celebrations. | |
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if it means something to them then its important
not just anniversaries, but also birthdays
so it really depends on the person n the type of relationship they r in
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After not receiving even a card on valentine’s day last year (I mean, really? Not even a fricking card? And it was our first valentine’s day together!) I have learned to clearly set my expectations around observing holidays and such. Better to talk about it ahead of time than have one of us disappointed and the other feeling like the biggest jerk in the world.
As for this year, I said I don’t need much, just a card and an acknowledgement of the day. I’m pretty much the same with our dating anniversary. Last year we went on a vacation together to celebrate one year, so we didn’t see the need for gifts. We’ll see how things go for this year (it’s in April).
btw – Traditionally romantic things may not be my bf’s strong suit, but it’s the little things that matter more anyway. Like when I’m in a terrible horrible no good very bad mood and he pulls me in his arms and tells me he loves me and that he feels a responsibility to make my life better. |
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Some ladies were JUST discussing this very topic anout 20 minutes ago near my desk.
And as some have mentioned, the answer is NO. Some of us guys do remember.
Even when we should forget. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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I like celebrating special occasions and am quite romantically inclined, and if I was married I'd definitely do something special for her on our wedding anniversary. But the anniversary of when you became boyfriend/girlfriend, I wouldn't even know what day that would be? The first day you talked? The first day you had sex? The first day you went on a date (and if so, what would count as a "date")? I guess if there was a specific day when you decided on exclusivity and shook hands on being boyfriend/girlfriend you could celebrate that day, but that's not how the relationships I've had were formed. It was more of a gradual process.
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My bf and I "count it" as the day we met. We flirted and spent hours talking together that night (it was my friend’s bday party) and he asked me out the next day. We didn’t call ourselves official until a couple of months later, but neither of us were actively dating anyone but each other from the get-go. When folks would ask us how long we’d been dating or together, it only made sense to count from that first day.
But yeah, I think it’s probably different for everyone. |
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This x a billion.
OP, PLEASE READ THIS POST!!! ^^^
I'm concerned that you said you're "giving him til the weekend to make it up to [you]," after briefly mentioning the anniversary and not getting the reaction you wanted.
Have you told him that it's important and that you specifically want him to do something to mark the occasion/give you a gift to make you feel appreciated?
What Carrie said can't be emphasized enough - if you don't clearly tell him what you want, you can't be upset when he doesn't give it! "He should know" doesn't fly. I've learned this from experience, as CarrieMpls has.
Shiloh, I wish you luck in lovingly communicating your wants and needs, and I wish you and your man more years of happiness!
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Yes it's just women. I never understood why they wouldn't make random days special. Why make things so predictable? Expecting something on a certain day, where's the fun in that? This one's for the rich, not all of 'em, just the greedy
The ones that don't know how to give | |
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