I'm just curious.

Good question!

Nah. That means you have no choice but to be with the son-of-a-bitch especially if there's no connection. That's partially why I'm happy there are divorces. If divorce would be illegal, half the folks in the world would not wanna get married.

when i got married it wasnt because i could get divorced

even tho i am now in the process of getting divorced......

but i will never get married again cause its 2 messy and divorce really sucks and it's f'd up and there is no such thing as a clean divorce......

Yes.

I would have.

...but I would be in prison right now....

Yes, i would have still gotten married... Noone goes into a marriage with the mind set of "divorce is always an option"

tinaz said:

Yes, i would have still gotten married... Noone goes into a marriage with the mind set of "divorce is always an option"

...unless you're wealthy and/or a celebrity...

PurpleJedi said:

tinaz said:

Yes, i would have still gotten married... Noone goes into a marriage with the mind set of "divorce is always an option"

...unless you're wealthy and/or a celebrity...

True!!!!

I doubt anyone goes into marriage being happy about the option of getting divorced (if the marriage is based on love), but I'm not sure many people do enough to "be sure" and often jump the gun on marriage, thinking they know it will last forever, when they are short-sightedly giving in to their current emotions, not daring to think too far ahead.

PurpleJedi said:

tinaz said:

Yes, i would have still gotten married... Noone goes into a marriage with the mind set of "divorce is always an option"

...unless you're wealthy and/or a celebrity...

That's why prenuptial agreements exist--because people know "divorce is always an option".

Dave1992 said:

I doubt anyone goes into marriage being happy about the option of getting divorced (if the marriage is based on love), but I'm not sure many people do enough to "be sure" and often jump the gun on marriage, thinking they know it will last forever, when they are short-sightedly giving in to their current emotions, not daring to think too far ahead.

Yeah it's all about emotions Dave.

When you're in your 20's (even if you don't realize it) you're driven by hormones, which affects your emotions.

That whole "butterflies and rainbows" shit sometimes lasts, sometimes doesn't.

If there's other things keeping the relationship strong, then it survives. Otherwise, call a lawyer.

PurpleJedi said:

Dave1992 said:

I doubt anyone goes into marriage being happy about the option of getting divorced (if the marriage is based on love), but I'm not sure many people do enough to "be sure" and often jump the gun on marriage, thinking they know it will last forever, when they are short-sightedly giving in to their current emotions, not daring to think too far ahead.

Yeah it's all about emotions Dave.

When you're in your 20's (even if you don't realize it) you're driven by hormones, which affects your emotions.

That whole "butterflies and rainbows" shit sometimes lasts, sometimes doesn't.

If there's other things keeping the relationship strong, then it survives. Otherwise, call a lawyer.

Yeah. However, I wouldn't categorically exclude everyone older than 29 from being driven by current emotions, often due to being frustrated with past relationships, something like a mid-life crisis, feeling the urge to settle down and have kids etc.

That's why I probably won't get married. And if I do - and that's a huge if - only after having lived with a person for at least 10-15 years, getting through changes, including good and bad times. And only then will I consider having children with that person.

Dave1992 said:

PurpleJedi said:

Yeah it's all about emotions Dave.

When you're in your 20's (even if you don't realize it) you're driven by hormones, which affects your emotions.

That whole "butterflies and rainbows" shit sometimes lasts, sometimes doesn't.

If there's other things keeping the relationship strong, then it survives. Otherwise, call a lawyer.

Yeah. However, I wouldn't categorically exclude everyone older than 29 from being driven by current emotions, often due to being frustrated with past relationships, something like a mid-life crisis, feeling the urge to settle down and have kids etc.

That's why I probably won't get married. And if I do - and that's a huge if - only after having lived with a person for at least 10-15 years, getting through changes, including good and bad times. And only then will I consider having children with that person.

Of course not!!

I got married at 20 because I wanted to leave my country and drop college to live with my boyfriend.My father wouldn't let me without getting married and my husband's best friend convinced me (cause I really didn't want to get married) telling me that i could get divorced in few years...

Still married, by the way...

Absolutely!

Dave1992 said:

PurpleJedi said:

Yeah it's all about emotions Dave.

When you're in your 20's (even if you don't realize it) you're driven by hormones, which affects your emotions.

That whole "butterflies and rainbows" shit sometimes lasts, sometimes doesn't.

If there's other things keeping the relationship strong, then it survives. Otherwise, call a lawyer.

Yeah. However, I wouldn't categorically exclude everyone older than 29 from being driven by current emotions, often due to being frustrated with past relationships, something like a mid-life crisis, feeling the urge to settle down and have kids etc.

That's why I probably won't get married. And if I do - and that's a huge if - only after having lived with a person for at least 10-15 years, getting through changes, including good and bad times. And only then will I consider having children with that person.

LMAO. I am picturing you dropping the kids off at elementary school.

CUT TO: AN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, ATTENDED BY CHILDREN FROM 6 YEARS OLD TO 13 YEARS OLD

There are all the other parents, in the 20's and 30's. And here comes Rocking Dave - 50 years old!

Dave looks around at the the other parents, looks at the camera, and says to the audience, "There is a distinct possibility that not only am I the father of my child, but I am also the father of at least two of my child's classmate's parents. I only hope that I'm not overwhelmed with multiple shouts of 'Daddy!!!!' when I come back at the end of the school day!"

LOL.

No.

Not that I'm not one to be faithful or trusting in a marriage. Just I always need a back up plan in everything I do. Maybe it's because I'm young, but I'm always worried about marrying the wrong person. What if he's cruel to me? What if he beats me or verbally abuses me? What if, what if? I've been hurt enough before in simple friendships, I can imagine how much it would hurt if they were marriages.

I mean, I take myself to be a smart woman, but whatever decision I make, the odds have to be in my favour. And if it's a risky decision, I have to have a way out, just in case.

RodeoSchro said:

Dave1992 said:

Yeah. However, I wouldn't categorically exclude everyone older than 29 from being driven by current emotions, often due to being frustrated with past relationships, something like a mid-life crisis, feeling the urge to settle down and have kids etc.

That's why I probably won't get married. And if I do - and that's a huge if - only after having lived with a person for at least 10-15 years, getting through changes, including good and bad times. And only then will I consider having children with that person.

LMAO. I am picturing you dropping the kids off at elementary school.

CUT TO: AN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, ATTENDED BY CHILDREN FROM 6 YEARS OLD TO 13 YEARS OLD

There are all the other parents, in the 20's and 30's. And here comes Rocking Dave - 50 years old!

Dave looks around at the the other parents, looks at the camera, and says to the audience, "There is a distinct possibility that not only am I the father of my child, but I am also the father of at least two of my child's classmate's parents. I only hope that I'm not overwhelmed with multiple shouts of 'Daddy!!!!' when I come back at the end of the school day!"

LOL.

I just started a short story from Stephen King about a man who murdered his wife, so right now with that fresh in mind I'd have to say no.

While I agree with what some folks said, that almost no one gets married thinking they’ll get divorced some day, I do think getting married is taken too lightly a lot of the time. It’s a life-long decision.

That said, I’m happy with how I’ve approached my decision and I don’t think it would change anything. I'm not yet married but hope to be in the next few years. All because I've found the right person. We're not there yet, but it's in our future and we’re continuing to talk about how we see it working out for us.

CarrieMpls said:

While I agree with what some folks said, that almost no one gets married thinking they’ll get divorced some day, I do think getting married is taken too lightly a lot of the time. It’s a life-long decision.

That said, I’m happy with how I’ve approached my decision and I don’t think it would change anything. I'm not yet married but hope to be in the next few years. All because I've found the right person. We're not there yet, but it's in our future and we’re continuing to talk about how we see it working out for us.