I am like this as well ... took years to become comfortable with it
I don't see it as so strange now nor do I feel bad/quilty about it ~ it is what it is
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Well, I guess there are two possibilities:
1. Pity, as well as all other emotions, did not exist in the beginning, but through millions of years of evolution, for some reason we went from "Survival of the Fittest" whereby it was kill or be killed, to human beings that have an endless range of emotions. I can understand how an emotion like anger could have evolved, because anger triggers various body and chemical mechanisms that are useful in defense but do not appear in a natural, calm state. But I can't think of a single reason why humans would have evolved an emotion like pity. So, that leaves possibility #2;
2. This is the way God made us.
I firmly believe in possibility #2. | |
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Do you think God pities us? 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Of course not. He loves us. | |
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Same here. | |
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I agree with the conclusion these were acts of empathy and compassion, and I believe we're at our best when we not only recognize opportunities to demonstrate them but especially when we actually do.
Dave, your uncertainties might lie in the fact that actual gifts and gestures of that sort are so rare in our time. Cultivate that response, for all our sakes. We all should. [Edited 1/18/12 23:06pm] | |
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There is too little of this. Or perhaps it's rarity is what makes it so pure and meaningful. I guess it depends on how you view our existence: just another chemical/electrical reaction or some beautiful moment of human compassion. Either choice it really is the same thing.
I feel pity for you if you truly feel that way. Is this really how we want or should be? Scared, insular, ignorant?
You did a beautiful thing. You saw someone else's pain and offered comfort. If only the whole world worked like that. | |
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We can. We just need to take a little time to sit and think before we act. We have the ability to be both good and bad. For the most part we are indifferent. | |
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You don't think it could have anything to do with survival of our species? Care and nurture? | |
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RodeoSchro said: Well, I guess there are two possibilities:
1. Pity, as well as all other emotions, did not exist in the beginning, but through millions of years of evolution, for some reason we went from "Survival of the Fittest" whereby it was kill or be killed, to human beings that have an endless range of emotions. I can understand how an emotion like anger could have evolved, because anger triggers various body and chemical mechanisms that are useful in defense but do not appear in a natural, calm state. But I can't think of a single reason why humans would have evolved an emotion like pity. So, that leaves possibility #2;
2. This is the way God made us.
I firmly believe in possibility #2. I guess in early man days someone that is pitiful and pathetic - perhaps like an infant or very elderly person - cannot care for themself. The act of pitying is a recognition that this is someone lesser than you, who may not survive on their own without your help but may also be a liability to your own survival. It's a judgement call. I feel like pity is a looking down of sorts in my opinion, possibly without a real desire to help, as opposed to compassion with empathy, and dignity, which is free of scorn. a whore in sheep's clothing | |
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Personally, and on a side note, I wish more people would refer to their dictionaries when defining the meaning of words. Although we all have our own grasp of words and their meanings there are actual, documented explanations of each and every one. It's so much simpler and rewarding to just look up the words or terms you see people use or attempt to use yourself.
Pity, empathy, sympathy, compassion. They are all grouped together yet all mean something different.
If all you feel is pity then it's not your fault (to anyone this). Not being able to relate to a person, an event or a feeling is not a failing on the individual's part. | |
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Yeah, I know a lot of people say stuff like this. My head must be wired funny though because I pretty much always feel empathy and pity for people - unless I just know the person is an asshole then I pretty much don't care and admittedly, sometimes even enjoy watching them experience misfortune and feel they deserve it. But that's extraordinarily rare; I can think of less than a handful of people during the course of my life that I've actually felt that way towards.
I even felt bad for Mister Hands for dying after he fucked that horse, which even I don't completely understand. 비 | |
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I never really feel pity....more so empathy or compassion.
And yet like Imago said, I'm sometimes impervious to what's going on. Maybe at those times, we're more into ourselves.......... | |
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I edited the title and some words in the orginial post to replace "pity" with "empathy", because what I felt clearly falls under the common connotation of "empathy" rather than "pity", after having read your responses. | |
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I wouldn't call myself ignorant or scared; maybe a little paranoid and shy when it comes to getting closer to others on an emotional level. I don't know whether this is how I want or should be, but I do know that most of the time I feel safer and more comfortable keeping a certain privacy and an emotional distance. That's mainly why I don't know how to react to and what to think of moments such as these, when something inside of me wants to connect and show love out of empathy.
I do think it's important and I will certainly not try to supress it, but I'm not sure whether I would be able to be so "open" towards all strangers I meet. It's probably some kind of self-protection mechanism. | |
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Love they fellow man as they say. Not like imago does mind you
Then again I seem to remember also being told "Stranger Danger". Again that probably applies to imago
Sorry imago. Just jesting. | |
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There was this bird on the bus yesterday that I felt pity for. Oh no, wait a minute, it was an erection. Yep, definately an erection. Coachman's Lob as they say. | |
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I know that feeling. Makes you want to connect with them, on a very deep level, aye? | |
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Dave1992 said:
I know that feeling. Makes you want to connect with them, on a very Fixed it for ya... | |
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It's damp on that deep level anyway!
Oh lord, the org... | |
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POMADE
DAVE1992
By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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PUT EM ON THE LIST PUT EM ON THE LIST
~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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...not yet...not yet... By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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Pity us, we're guilty sinners... | |
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i think that was nice to acknowledge the man that was crying. who knows what he had on his plate, at least he knew someone cared if only briefly | |
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