Ottensen said:

paintedlady said:

I am frustrated, I can't really do much about it. So I came here to vent.

Why in God's name would any woman knowingly go after a guy that is with a woman she knows?

I am NOT speaking of a man flirting with a woman... I am speaking of when a woman that you are aquainted with (she can be a neighbor/friend/sister/cousin) and she KNOWS he's your guy and she STILL goes after him.

WTF???

Why go after someone else's guy? I would NEVER! I never did, never understood why a woman would.

Do you think most women do this? What drives them to this behavior?

Most, no.

But a smaller number of sick, selfish women who have no sense of humanity, respect, boundaries, or self worth...yeah, this unfortunately is their MO, sadly.

Well heck, my street must be a skank magnet then.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

paintedlady said:

My guy told me what these heffas were up to... he didn't have to tell me a damn thing.

These heffas didn't say not one word to me though. They just keep on smiling and acting like they like me.

Maybe you could tell them you are just a beard and your man is a flaming homo?

I don't think it would deter them.

"Oh he's gay?? ... I'll straighten him out!"

[Edited 1/10/12 13:15pm]

paintedlady said:

kewlschool said:

Harmless ORG type flirting or in your face flirting??? I flirt (When I'm in a relationship), but I wont mess with any other lady. Just not for me. Even in high school when the girl I had the biggest crush on finally noticed me and hit on me-only when I was dating someone else? WTF? Some people just want somebody else's person. I think it's a self esteem power play. The same reasons people are just mean to people, because they can.

(sorry for the rambiling)

She asked him over to her place (for sex ). She was direct enough.

HHHHWAT? t

Clearly it's the enemy putting this in my ear, but I say too bad this couldn't have been taped and uploaded for all her friends, family, and work colleagues to see via youtube. Since we wanna not just be ho'ish, but be a bold ho', too?

Ottensen said:

paintedlady said:

She asked him over to her place (for sex ). She was direct enough.

HHHHWAT? t

Clearly it's the enemy putting this in my ear, but I say too bad this couldn't have been taped and uploaded for all her friends, family, and work colleagues to see via youtube. Since we wanna not just be ho'ish, but be a bold ho', too?

This is why I am pissed.

he told me that she invited him over, and I quote:

"When you done going over there, you can come by here too..."

this heffa says hello to me all smiling everytime she sees me...

I can usually shrug this stuff off and not give it a second thought, but these heffas make me want to slash tires and tell their men (yes, they both have boyfriends) about their messy ways.

i swear i dont understand...i call my daughters school to check at the cashiers office, why she had to ask my name cause their was another female with my last name on the list......c'mon sons...!

Vendetta1 said:

There are women who just don't care. I feel there is no true sisterhood amongst women because if there were, there would be no way any of us would go after an attached man and especially a man attached to someone we know.Call it low self-esteem, ho-ishness, etc.

I don't know your guy but I know you. He ain't goin' nowhere.

Maybe it's a little of the "grass is always greener..." syndrome or they like a "challenge" or to feel like they're doing something dangerous. But maybe they're just triflin'.

I've had accquantances (friends of friends) go up to my SO at parties where we all were and proposition him. It's really low-class, imo. I'm also one who would call a guy out if he tried to step to me when I knew he had a girlfriend.

This is a tough one; if you openly call them out that might encourage them, they may thrive on drama and attention. On the other hand, it's hard to not say anything, then they think they're being all slick and getting away with something. Just bide your time and wait for the opportunity to present itself when you can let them know that you know what's up.

paintedlady said:

HotGritz said:

Two possible reasons:

1) she is a no good coniving, hating, jealous ass bitch who was waiting for an opportunity to hurt you

or

2) the dude was giving her signals and being the ho that she is, she couldn't help but respond.

He does attract attention, since he looks good in his work clothes... he has a nice body.

He smiles and says hello.... but I never caught any flirting either way around me.

My upstairs neighbor did tell me she thought my guy was handsome though. That was over a year ago... before she even flirted with him. I never thought anything of it. I tend not to be suspicious of women... I guess I ought to be.

Its sad but you have to watch women around your man unless they have one of their own. I think when its a friend, there has to be some deep rooted jealousy/envy on her part because why would she want to hurt you in that manner? She is obviously unhappy or unfulfilled so she wants what you have. She wants to steal your happy.

The only way to shut women like this down is for the man to do it. She will expect you to fight over him and being of a primitive mind, she will think that he will belong to her should she win such a fight. Men have to stand up and put these skank bitches in their place.

Have your guy tell this heffa to her face, while you are present, that he wants no part of her ass and that she needs to stop harassing him and move the fuck on. He must be cruel and leave no room for misinterpretation otherwise she will continue to persue him in an effort to wear him down and weaken his resolve.

I swear...its like highschool never truly ends .

paintedlady said:

Ottensen said:

HHHHWAT? t

Clearly it's the enemy putting this in my ear, but I say too bad this couldn't have been taped and uploaded for all her friends, family, and work colleagues to see via youtube. Since we wanna not just be ho'ish, but be a bold ho', too?

This is why I am pissed.

he told me that she invited him over, and I quote:

"When you done going over there, you can come by here too..."

this heffa says hello to me all smiling everytime she sees me...

I can usually shrug this stuff off and not give it a second thought, but these heffas make me want to slash tires and tell their men (yes, they both have boyfriends) about their messy ways.

SHE NEED HER ASS BEAT!!

I know Hotgritz and Jone70 are right on point with the advice...

he told me he turned down their offers flat. I am still pissed though.

These heffas are too bold! Highschool mentalities and they are both over 40!

paintedlady said:

I know Hotgritz and Jone70 are right on point with the advice...

he told me he turned down their offers flat. I am still pissed though.

These heffas are too bold! Highschool mentalities and they are both over 40!

I wonder if the story would change if you got everyone in the same room.

I don't trust women but I trust men even less.

HotGritz said:

Have your guy tell this heffa to her face, while you are present, that he wants no part of her ass and that she needs to stop harassing him and move the fuck on.

I will ask him to do this if one of these two heffas tries at him again.

I swear....

paintedlady said:

HotGritz said:

Have your guy tell this heffa to her face, while you are present, that he wants no part of her ass and that she needs to stop harassing him and move the fuck on.

I will ask him to do this if one of these two heffas tries at him again.

I swear....

How about hiring some women just like them to steal their men?

Vendetta1 said:

paintedlady said:

I know Hotgritz and Jone70 are right on point with the advice...

he told me he turned down their offers flat. I am still pissed though.

These heffas are too bold! Highschool mentalities and they are both over 40!

I wonder if the story would change if you got everyone in the same room.

Lady upstairs isn't all "hi honey" "hey gurl!" with me anymore... just a bland hello and that's it.

when she sees us together she walks by and doesn't speak at all.

That tell me she's guilty. She still says hello to me when I am alone, but I don't talk to her like I used to. I just keep it moving.

So for now... my boyfriend has my favor... time will only tell though.

damn.

[Edited 1/10/12 15:00pm]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

paintedlady said:

I will ask him to do this if one of these two heffas tries at him again.

I swear....

How about hiring some women just like them to steal their men?

I should call my sister....

This is why I don't fuck with bitches who don't have their own men or women! They have that slag mentality and are always trying to take something from someone else.

Then on the other hand, women who are attached can be difficult too cuz they look at me like I'm competition. I aint that type of chick. I'm selfish and don't share! Don't steal neither! Hate emotional and sexual thieves!

dump them both. they aren't worth your time

HotGritz said:

This is why I don't fuck with bitches who don't have their own men or women! They have that slag mentality and are always trying to take something from someone else.

Then on the other hand, women who are attached can be difficult too cuz they look at me like I'm competition. I aint that type of chick. I'm selfish and don't share! Don't steal neither! Hate emotional and sexual thieves!

The heffa upstairs always has some dude coming and going at all hours... chica across the street gotta man too!

I am not understanding the hoishness of these old assed women.

I knew ONE chick that was real uptight and thought EVERYBODY wanted her man.

Um... she had all other kindsa issues.

Possessive to and extreme, I understand how some women do not want women to be too friendly with their men, but I never was the possessive/jealous type and don't mind if he keeps old female friends. I am a bit aloof and free.... just so long as he doesn't share our problems with her.

paintedlady said:

HotGritz said:

This is why I don't fuck with bitches who don't have their own men or women! They have that slag mentality and are always trying to take something from someone else.

Then on the other hand, women who are attached can be difficult too cuz they look at me like I'm competition. I aint that type of chick. I'm selfish and don't share! Don't steal neither! Hate emotional and sexual thieves!

The heffa upstairs always has some dude coming and going at all hours... chica across the street gotta man too!

I am not understanding the hoishness of these old assed women.

I knew ONE chick that was real uptight and thought EVERYBODY wanted her man.

Um... she had all other kindsa issues.

Possessive to and extreme, I understand how some women do not want women to be too friendly with their men, but I never was the possessive/jealous type and don't mind if he keeps old female friends. I am a bit aloof and free.... just so long as he doesn't share our problems with her.

I'm the same way. Have as many female friends and you want just don't fuck them or put our business in their ear.

I would say that women go after another woman's man because they have this kind of mentality:

"If she has him, then there's something about him that I missed. I should give him a try."

Or they fell for them without knowing they were already someone else's. But rather than re-examine their feelings and move on, they still go after him.

It boils down to one hated condition: Selfishness. Caring for no one except having their needs fulfilled. People will ALWAYS act in ways to get their needs met. Remember that.

So....if a woman does this to your man:

Do not HESITATE to lay the beat down on THAT ASS!!!!:

Amenz!!!!!!

[Edited 1/10/12 16:46pm]

paintedlady said:

I am frustrated, I can't really do much about it. So I came here to vent.

Why in God's name would any woman knowingly go after a guy that is with a woman she knows?

I am NOT speaking of a man flirting with a woman... I am speaking of when a woman that you are aquainted with (she can be a neighbor/friend/sister/cousin) and she KNOWS he's your guy and she STILL goes after him.

WTF???

Why go after someone else's guy? I would NEVER! I never did, never understood why a woman would.

Do you think most women do this? What drives them to this behavior?

Is this an Alicia Keys thread or scheming women? Alicia walked right up in that backyard and got hers.....

There are two ways to look at it

You can't help who you are attracted to

or

Your self esteem is so low that you set yourself up to fall for people you can't have for various reasons without looking at the fact there are other fish in the sea that will love you for who you are if you just learn to love yourself first.

I should take my own advice.

Jerry Jerry Jerrrry

paintedlady said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

How about hiring some women just like them to steal their men?

I should call my sister....

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

I would say that women go after another woman's man because they have this kind of mentality:

"If she has him, then there's something about him that I missed. I should give him a try."

Or they fell for them without knowing they were already someone else's. But rather than re-examine their feelings and move on, they still go after him.

It boils down to one hated condition: Selfishness. Caring for no one except having their needs fulfilled. People will ALWAYS act in ways to get their needs met. Remember that.

So....if a woman does this to your man:

Do not HESITATE to lay the beat down on THAT ASS!!!!:

Amenz!!!!!!

[Edited 1/10/12 16:46pm]

!!!

XxAxX said:

dump them both. they aren't worth your time

Wish I could make them both move away.

I still say hi to my neighbor upstairs... I wish she wasn't so disrespectful, I actually liked her before all this mess.

KatSkrizzle said:

paintedlady said:

I am frustrated, I can't really do much about it. So I came here to vent.

Why in God's name would any woman knowingly go after a guy that is with a woman she knows?

I am NOT speaking of a man flirting with a woman... I am speaking of when a woman that you are aquainted with (she can be a neighbor/friend/sister/cousin) and she KNOWS he's your guy and she STILL goes after him.

WTF???

Why go after someone else's guy? I would NEVER! I never did, never understood why a woman would.

Do you think most women do this? What drives them to this behavior?

Is this an Alicia Keys thread or scheming women? Alicia walked right up in that backyard and got hers.....

"Alicia Keyes syndrome"...

alphastreet said:

There are two ways to look at it

You can't help who you are attracted to

or

Your self esteem is so low that you set yourself up to fall for people you can't have for various reasons without looking at the fact there are other fish in the sea that will love you for who you are if you just learn to love yourself first.

I should take my own advice.

Shhhiiieeetttt.... these heffas are old enough.

I can see liking a random guy, but to actively go after your neighbor's guy? They are just wrong for that.

I think you'll be just fine.

Billmenever said:

Jerry Jerry Jerrrry

... I would never stoop so low to fist fight over some mess , but damn these are some bold women!

I wonder if its because they are older they just are more direct? Still...