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Please i need some words of wisdom.... something...

Shit...why can't i calm down right now

I'm rubbish at comforting people. Really.

Was he young? Was he unwell before he died? What is running through your mind to worry you like this?

In November a friend died. Not someone I knew really well, but the wife of one of my husbands best friends. We only went to their wedding last year and she was only in her mid-30's. Her death was comepetely sudden and the knock-on effect has been huge.

Lisa10 said:

I'm rubbish at comforting people. Really.

Was he young? Was he unwell before he died? What is running through your mind to worry you like this?

In November a friend died. Not someone I knew really well, but the wife of one of my husbands best friends. We only went to their wedding last year and she was only in her mid-30's. Her death was comepetely sudden and the knock-on effect has been huge.

he was 24.. i think

i hope you feel better, anxiety attacks are scary, i had those years ago. i would suggest going to get some help to deal with the anxiety, a professional can help you with ways to deal with it. take care.

kimrachell said:

i hope you feel better, anxiety attacks are scary, i had those years ago. i would suggest going to get some help to deal with the anxiety, a professional can help you with ways to deal with it. take care.

I've been trying to calm down for the past three days

That's what I would suggest as well.

Kimrachell is right, sudden onset of anxiety...see your doctor.

Talk to your circle of friends about it. People who also knew him.... I think it will help you get your head around it.

I'm sorry, that's really all I have.

i was in a bad car accident once n had nerve sbuggin about stuff like this i had to talk to someone ..

so id say talk to someone about it and get it out of your system ..

tell on yourself to save yourself i heard sum1 say once

about getn stuff out that bothers you.

jon1967 said:

i was in a bad car accident once n had nerve sbuggin about stuff like this i had to talk to someone ..

so id say talk to someone about it and get it out of your system ..

tell on yourself to save yourself i heard sum1 say once

about getn stuff out that bothers you.

the more i talk about it the worse it gets

Yesterday i felt like i was getting a hold of things then i told my parents about him dying and the anxiety got worse.

I had to go to the emergency room this summer because of two sudden deaths. The doctor told me it was anxiety, and prescribed some anxiety pills. To be frank, I didn't take them. So far, my daughter and my family has been my support, and I find things to do to occupy my time, instead of thinking about death. Also, my brother-in-law's mother and sister passed this summer as well within the same week.

angel345 said:

I had to go to the emergency room this summer because of two sudden deaths. The doctor told me it was anxiety, and prescribed some anxiety pills. To be frank, I didn't take them. So far, my daughter and my family has been my support, and I find things to do to occupy my time, instead of thinking about death. Also, my brother-in-law's mother and sister passed this summer as well within the same week.

I went to the emergency room last summer because of anxiety too

Go to the doctor. They will probably prescribe you Xanex. Those things are like little miracles in a bottle.

From someone who has experience this, you have to face your fear of death and accept that this is a natural part of life and its a passage we all have to take. You can not stop death, you will die and you won't really know it when you die. What comfort me was my relationship with God and that He will be there and is the only one who knows when I bow out of this world and pass to the life after. So... my advice is when you have a panic attack, close your eyes and think about a moment or a song anything that brought you joy in your life, if you think about the panic attack it will become worse so even if its terrifying start singing a song or something to help you. Imagine something, and then when the thought of death comes up, you have to realize that death comes when you don't expect it and its only your thoughts that are convincing you you're going to die. tell yourself, I'm not going to die even if your heart is screaming you're gonna die!!! Due to panic disorder, I have a heart arrythmia now but if I knew then what I know now, thats what I would be saying to myself. And of course, seek some help with it and journal, that always helps.

kitbradley said:

Go to the doctor. They will probably prescribe you Xanex. Those things are like little miracles in a bottle.

If you can feel them coming on (and a lot of people can after they've had a few bad ones), learn how to breathe properly. You need to take short, even, shallow breaths - not deep, dramatic, sighing, long ones. The latter makes it worse, the former is the only thing that ever helped me.

BlackAdder7 said:

With all due respect this is not the place to get the help you need. There are so many resources for professional Counseling. If I'm not mistaken you're a student. Your campus has an office with good qualified professionals. Take advantage of it.

I've received treatment from a professional in the past From Both my Campus doctor and primary physician. It works but only temporary.

Sometimes a simple chat on the web does wonders..for me at least.

Im talking to an orger on Facebook and im starting to feel alittle more calm.

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Cerebus said:

If you can feel them coming on (and a lot of people can after they've had a few bad ones), learn how to breathe properly. You need to take short, even, shallow breaths - not deep, dramatic, sighing, long ones. The latter makes it worse, the former is the only thing that ever helped me.

I have been doing this for the past couple days. Im starting to calm down alittle but know my head is pounding. I didnt know short breathing help i thought it made it worse.

I tried drinking beer to calm down but it didn't work.

I am happy you are calming down a bit and I know from experience how much talking to supportive people is helpful in all kind of situations. I wish you all the best and that you will find somebody professional who can help you too .

I know how you feel. And I know it is not effective to just tell yourself how irrational it is. Or hear others tell you how irrational it is. That doesnt work. It's some sort of a chemical reaction.

What works for me is stepping away. I go visit people I know that do a lot of great and selfless work. And when I go visit them, I feel a great warth in humanity. It triggers something in me and helps me put things in perspective. My anxieties and worries disappear. Do something for others is

the best thing I think of.

And stay away from the internet. As I type this I think I should take my own advice.

formallypickles said:

Cerebus said:

If you can feel them coming on (and a lot of people can after they've had a few bad ones), learn how to breathe properly. You need to take short, even, shallow breaths - not deep, dramatic, sighing, long ones. The latter makes it worse, the former is the only thing that ever helped me.

I have been doing this for the past couple days. Im starting to calm down alittle but know my head is pounding. I didnt know short breathing help i thought it made it worse.

I tried drinking beer to calm down but it didn't work.

Not short like, short and fast panicked breathing. Just a comfortable, consistent, in and out - maybe a little more shallow than your regular breathing. The reason for this is so you're actually focusing on your breathing instead of the panicked feelings.

Now, it may not work for you, but it did wonders for me and a couple of other friends who have had anxiety problems over the years. But for me it related to the feeling coming on. I had attacks that were so bad I was unable to do anything but sit in a chair or lay on the floor with my eyes closed and sweat. However, I could feel them coming on sometimes HOURS before they hit that hard. Eventually I found that if I got hold of my breathing I could stop them from happening AND make them go away after they'd started.

In fact, for me, taking those really deep breaths followed by a long exhale actually made it worse, sometimes instantly triggering an attack.

Nothing you do is wrong or right, though, so long as it makes you feel better. If something works, do it - if it doesn't, don't. It's important that whatever you do is comfortable for you.

Thanks everyone, You don't know how much your words are helping me out right now.

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TypoQueen said:

I have been suffering with them for sometime now. all advice I can give is visit your doctor, talk to someone and try find ways to calm down, easier said than done but you got to keep trying, one day at a time...

Yep, visit your doctor.

Yeah. Talk to your doctor. He'll be happy to give you some pills.

(Yes, sarcasm. Because pills fix everything, don't'cha know.)

Now i just feel dead and numb inside with anxiety.