RodeoSchro said:

missfee said:

I like the list very much. I suppose the difficult part is actually doing it.

That's a great point!

The best way I've found to "do it" is to buy a calendar. Each night, write down the things you want to accomplish the next day. Then when you accomplish them, check them off. If you didn't accomplish it, carry it over to the next day and keep carrying it over until you get it done.

I've found it's best to use an actual calendar that gives you 10 - 20 lines for each day to write down stuff. Lots of people use their phones now for their calendars, but I've not found this to be as effective.

There's just something about actually writing things down that motivates me more than just typing on my phone.

Anyway, these are not things I made up. These are things I've learned throughout my life, and they are also things that have been taught or confirmed to me by some of the most successful people in the world.

So I know they work!

The thing about writing things down for me is that I tend to lose track of them. Putting things in my phone has been extremely helpful, since I have my phone on me at all times, I'll always have access to my list. I actually have a few lists in my phone already but a goal list for 2012 would be really helpful for me, especially with things that I know I need to work on for myself to have peace of mind.

missfee said:

KoolEaze said:

Right?

I expected some sort of voodoo or magic advice from Rodeo. But this sounds more complicated than a Ponzi scheme.

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We love ya, Rodeo!

RodeoSchro said:

4. Treat every person you meet as if they want to do something good for you. I've put this out here before, and I get ridiculous comments like, "You don't live in the real world! Everyone wants to kill you! No one wants to help you! Come on down to my neighborhood and get a taste of real life!" You know what I say to those people?

Who cares!

More than 99% of the people in the world are good at heart. I know there are bad people in the world, but guess what? 99% of THE BAD PEOPLE couldn't care less about you! A bad person only wants to hurt you if you put yourself in a position where they CAN hurt you. Like a mugger - if you meet a mugger in the day, on a crowded street, they aren't going to mug you. But if you meet them in a dark, secluded alley at night then sure! They're going to mug you. Well - stay out of dark, secluded alleys at night!

So if 1% of the people in the world are rotten, and 99% of the 1% couldn't care less about you, then why would you ever worry about the .001% of the people out there that might want to hurt you? Stay out of the places where they can hurt you, and you have no worries at all!

The point of this section, though, is to focus on believing that almost everyone you will ever meet will help you if you ask for help. They don't want to hurt you and if they have the chance, they'd love to help you.

If you approach each person you meet with the attitude of "Hi! I know you want to help me!" you will be amazed at the opportunities that open up for you. Those in a position to grant opportunities to others will grant those opportunities to people they feel will take advantage of the opportunity. If your attitude is exactly that, then you will find yourself showered with opportunity.

That's only logical but so many people go through life afraid of their own shadow that they never see the chances that are out there for them. That breaks my heart but you know what? That means there are not that many people out there with the same attitude as yours, which means the pool of people eligible for incredible opportunities isn't that big. Which increases your chances, right?

Right!

Yes, I know you covered this but I'm gonna say it anyway.

You've obviously never been raped, abused and victimized.

99% of the people in this world most certainly and definitely, not to mention QUITE ASSUREDLY do not have good intentions.

^^^^

I'm not arguing the effectiveness of this approach, btw. It sounds like a good plan. I'm just saying, it sounds fucking impossible to me with my personal experience.

PunkMistress said:

RodeoSchro said:

4. Treat every person you meet as if they want to do something good for you. I've put this out here before, and I get ridiculous comments like, "You don't live in the real world! Everyone wants to kill you! No one wants to help you! Come on down to my neighborhood and get a taste of real life!" You know what I say to those people?

Who cares!

More than 99% of the people in the world are good at heart. I know there are bad people in the world, but guess what? 99% of THE BAD PEOPLE couldn't care less about you! A bad person only wants to hurt you if you put yourself in a position where they CAN hurt you. Like a mugger - if you meet a mugger in the day, on a crowded street, they aren't going to mug you. But if you meet them in a dark, secluded alley at night then sure! They're going to mug you. Well - stay out of dark, secluded alleys at night!

So if 1% of the people in the world are rotten, and 99% of the 1% couldn't care less about you, then why would you ever worry about the .001% of the people out there that might want to hurt you? Stay out of the places where they can hurt you, and you have no worries at all!

The point of this section, though, is to focus on believing that almost everyone you will ever meet will help you if you ask for help. They don't want to hurt you and if they have the chance, they'd love to help you.

If you approach each person you meet with the attitude of "Hi! I know you want to help me!" you will be amazed at the opportunities that open up for you. Those in a position to grant opportunities to others will grant those opportunities to people they feel will take advantage of the opportunity. If your attitude is exactly that, then you will find yourself showered with opportunity.

That's only logical but so many people go through life afraid of their own shadow that they never see the chances that are out there for them. That breaks my heart but you know what? That means there are not that many people out there with the same attitude as yours, which means the pool of people eligible for incredible opportunities isn't that big. Which increases your chances, right?

Right!

Yes, I know you covered this but I'm gonna say it anyway.

You've obviously never been raped, abused and victimized.

99% of the people in this world most certainly and definitely, not to mention QUITE ASSUREDLY do not have good intentions.

True. And because of it, I wouldn't help 99.9% of the people I meet, even if they begged.

Again, not trying to be down on the intentions of this thread. They're clearly important and meant to be positive encouragement. I just don't believe most people will care whether or not you succeed brilliantly or fail miserably if it doesn't directly affect them as well.

Cerebus said:

PunkMistress said:

Yes, I know you covered this but I'm gonna say it anyway.

You've obviously never been raped, abused and victimized.

99% of the people in this world most certainly and definitely, not to mention QUITE ASSUREDLY do not have good intentions.

True. And because of it, I wouldn't help 99.9% of the people I meet, even if they begged.

Again, not trying to be down on the intentions of this thread. They're clearly important and meant to be positive encouragement. I just don't believe most people will care whether or not you succeed brilliantly or fail miserably if it doesn't directly affect them as well.

Yeah.

But I'm sure that if you could convince yourself otherwise, it would be positive motivation. I've already had the truth proven to me, though.

DAMN YOUTUBE!

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XxAxX said:

QFT!

Thanks for the great thread Rodeo. I think that another component of your formula would be mindfulness. It's so easy these days to give in to various distractions or be discouraged by negatives vibes. Maybe it would be helpful to talk a little about developing and maintaining a determined mindset in times of adversity and fending off negativity.

One example would be naysayers. People who discourage, disparage, call you crazy, etc.

Or in my case, having set a goal and made the preparations including saving enough money only to have a series of unexpected events deplete my savings, (root canal, car repairs, new central ac unit), and having to overcome being discouraged enough to begin again when my patience has been worn to a frazzle.

Deadcake said:

And what if you are ugly and shy?

You're doomed. Nothing can help you.

babynoz said:

Thanks for the great thread Rodeo. I think that another component of your formula would be mindfulness. It's so easy these days to give in to various distractions or be discouraged by negatives vibes. Maybe it would be helpful to talk a little about developing and maintaining a determined mindset in times of adversity and fending off negativity.

One example would be naysayers. People who discourage, disparage, call you crazy, etc.

Or in my case, having set a goal and made the preparations including saving enough money only to have a series of unexpected events deplete my savings, (root canal, car repairs, new central ac unit), and having to overcome being discouraged enough to begin again when my patience has been worn to a frazzle.

Keep your eyes on the prize. And also have some definitive goals which explain why you want what you desire. For instance, most people say they want a lot more money in their lives, but do they really want more money for its own sake? Are they going to date their money, or make love to it, or bring it out to friends and family just to show they have a lot of money? Of course not. People want money to exchange it for what they really want, which is more adventure, financial security for their families, freedom, etc. So instead of focusing on " I want to get more money in 2012", focus on what you really want, like "I want to buy a new house/car," or "I want to save enough money to send my children to college," or "I want to start a new business," or "I want to travel around the world" and shift your focus on how much money you will need to fullfill those goals, and see yourself achieving those goals as you build up to them.

The same process can work for finding that special someone or strengthening your relationship with your spouse or loved one. For example, I may say " I really want to meet some incredibly hot Playboy Playmates or supermodels so I can have awesone hot sex with them and they will fall in love with me." Do I really just want some hot sex with Playmates? Probably, but more likely I want to experience some love in my life. So the focus should be on how can I show more love to people in my life that would make me more attractive to other people. Or if you want to lose weight, instead of generally focusing on how many pounds you have to lose, which may seem daunting and discourage you from losing weight in the first place, focus on how you would feel if you lost the amount of weight you wanted to lose and how much healthier and better looking you would feel after you lost that weight. That way, you will begin to focus on establishing healthy diet and exercise patterns which will lead you to your goal.

Cerebus said:

728huey said:

babynoz said:

Thanks for the great thread Rodeo. I think that another component of your formula would be mindfulness. It's so easy these days to give in to various distractions or be discouraged by negatives vibes. Maybe it would be helpful to talk a little about developing and maintaining a determined mindset in times of adversity and fending off negativity.

One example would be naysayers. People who discourage, disparage, call you crazy, etc.

Or in my case, having set a goal and made the preparations including saving enough money only to have a series of unexpected events deplete my savings, (root canal, car repairs, new central ac unit), and having to overcome being discouraged enough to begin again when my patience has been worn to a frazzle.

Keep your eyes on the prize. And also have some definitive goals which explain why you want what you desire. For instance, most people say they want a lot more money in their lives, but do they really want more money for its own sake? Are they going to date their money, or make love to it, or bring it out to friends and family just to show they have a lot of money? Of course not. People want money to exchange it for what they really want, which is more adventure, financial security for their families, freedom, etc. So instead of focusing on " I want to get more money in 2012", focus on what you really want, like "I want to buy a new house/car," or "I want to save enough money to send my children to college," or "I want to start a new business," or "I want to travel around the world" and shift your focus on how much money you will need to fullfill those goals, and see yourself achieving those goals as you build up to them.

The same process can work for finding that special someone or strengthening your relationship with your spouse or loved one. For example, I may say " I really want to meet some incredibly hot Playboy Playmates or supermodels so I can have awesone hot sex with them and they will fall in love with me." Do I really just want some hot sex with Playmates? Probably, but more likely I want to experience some love in my life. So the focus should be on how can I show more love to people in my life that would make me more attractive to other people. Or if you want to lose weight, instead of generally focusing on how many pounds you have to lose, which may seem daunting and discourage you from losing weight in the first place, focus on how you would feel if you lost the amount of weight you wanted to lose and how much healthier and better looking you would feel after you lost that weight. That way, you will begin to focus on establishing healthy diet and exercise patterns which will lead you to your goal.

I wanted to tell you for a while already that you are one of the people here whose posts I always try to read even if they may be longer at times and I might be in a hurry, because you are one of the people here who have a lot to contribute and put the things you have to say in a wonderful throughtful way!

I am really tired this morning as I hardly got any sleep and had an crazy day yesterday, so I guess my words are not written in great English this morning, but I guess you understand what I mean

728huey said:

babynoz said:

Thanks for the great thread Rodeo. I think that another component of your formula would be mindfulness. It's so easy these days to give in to various distractions or be discouraged by negatives vibes. Maybe it would be helpful to talk a little about developing and maintaining a determined mindset in times of adversity and fending off negativity.

One example would be naysayers. People who discourage, disparage, call you crazy, etc.

Or in my case, having set a goal and made the preparations including saving enough money only to have a series of unexpected events deplete my savings, (root canal, car repairs, new central ac unit), and having to overcome being discouraged enough to begin again when my patience has been worn to a frazzle.

Keep your eyes on the prize. And also have some definitive goals which explain why you want what you desire. For instance, most people say they want a lot more money in their lives, but do they really want more money for its own sake? Are they going to date their money, or make love to it, or bring it out to friends and family just to show they have a lot of money? Of course not. People want money to exchange it for what they really want, which is more adventure, financial security for their families, freedom, etc. So instead of focusing on " I want to get more money in 2012", focus on what you really want, like "I want to buy a new house/car," or "I want to save enough money to send my children to college," or "I want to start a new business," or "I want to travel around the world" and shift your focus on how much money you will need to fullfill those goals, and see yourself achieving those goals as you build up to them.

The same process can work for finding that special someone or strengthening your relationship with your spouse or loved one. For example, I may say " I really want to meet some incredibly hot Playboy Playmates or supermodels so I can have awesone hot sex with them and they will fall in love with me." Do I really just want some hot sex with Playmates? Probably, but more likely I want to experience some love in my life. So the focus should be on how can I show more love to people in my life that would make me more attractive to other people. Or if you want to lose weight, instead of generally focusing on how many pounds you have to lose, which may seem daunting and discourage you from losing weight in the first place, focus on how you would feel if you lost the amount of weight you wanted to lose and how much healthier and better looking you would feel after you lost that weight. That way, you will begin to focus on establishing healthy diet and exercise patterns which will lead you to your goal.

This is great advice too.

imago said:

I love this.

I'm putting it in my profile just underneath the divas slapping each other and the fat guy in a speedo dancing.

...so long as you keep your priorities straight...

I printed this thread and will study it in detail.

2012 will be my year (unless the world explodes on 12/21/12 of course).

PurpleJedi said:

I printed this thread and will study it in detail.

2012 will be my year (unless the world explodes on 12/21/12 of course).

I said a prayer last night because I was going absolutely out of my mind about the things I went through this year and how I don't understand them and I really don't want to go through that again in 2012. And what do you know, this morning I wake up with thoughts in my head that make sense of what I was going through. Somehow, I go from, the past few months of feeling hopeless to waking up this morning WITH HOPE. So yeah, I'm on the same page with you....you have to claim your year and I'm determined to make 2012 my year as well.

Deadcake said:

And what if you are ugly and shy?

First of all, I'm sure you aren't ugly.

Second, so what? Decide what you want, and work backwards while figuring out ways you CAN achieve what you want that allow you work comfortably within what you think are your limitations.

Third, I'm sure you are beautiful!

missfee said:

PurpleJedi said:

I printed this thread and will study it in detail.

2012 will be my year (unless the world explodes on 12/21/12 of course).

I said a prayer last night because I was going absolutely out of my mind about the things I went through this year and how I don't understand them and I really don't want to go through that again in 2012. And what do you know, this morning I wake up with thoughts in my head that make sense of what I was going through. Somehow, I go from, the past few months of feeling hopeless to waking up this morning WITH HOPE. So yeah, I'm on the same page with you....you have to claim your year and I'm determined to make 2012 my year as well.

...for REAL!

hmmm, the writing it down, keeping a detailed track of it, checking it off part is definitely something I will be doing, I was thinking about that a few days ago. I don't know about the 99% part, in my 20s I assumed that, but over the past 15yrs even the not so extreme events in my life have told me something completely different. But still attitude is most of the battle so I guess that's more of what it is than anything.

I prefer letting a psychic octopus make the tough calls in my life.

RodeoSchro said:

NDRU said:

I prefer letting a psychic octopus make the tough calls in my life.

That and random acts of voodoo/hoodoo and magic

Serious said:

728huey said:

Keep your eyes on the prize. And also have some definitive goals which explain why you want what you desire. For instance, most people say they want a lot more money in their lives, but do they really want more money for its own sake? Are they going to date their money, or make love to it, or bring it out to friends and family just to show they have a lot of money? Of course not. People want money to exchange it for what they really want, which is more adventure, financial security for their families, freedom, etc. So instead of focusing on " I want to get more money in 2012", focus on what you really want, like "I want to buy a new house/car," or "I want to save enough money to send my children to college," or "I want to start a new business," or "I want to travel around the world" and shift your focus on how much money you will need to fullfill those goals, and see yourself achieving those goals as you build up to them.

The same process can work for finding that special someone or strengthening your relationship with your spouse or loved one. For example, I may say " I really want to meet some incredibly hot Playboy Playmates or supermodels so I can have awesone hot sex with them and they will fall in love with me." Do I really just want some hot sex with Playmates? Probably, but more likely I want to experience some love in my life. So the focus should be on how can I show more love to people in my life that would make me more attractive to other people. Or if you want to lose weight, instead of generally focusing on how many pounds you have to lose, which may seem daunting and discourage you from losing weight in the first place, focus on how you would feel if you lost the amount of weight you wanted to lose and how much healthier and better looking you would feel after you lost that weight. That way, you will begin to focus on establishing healthy diet and exercise patterns which will lead you to your goal.

I wanted to tell you for a while already that you are one of the people here whose posts I always try to read even if they may be longer at times and I might be in a hurry, because you are one of the people here who have a lot to contribute and put the things you have to say in a wonderful throughtful way!

I am really tired this morning as I hardly got any sleep and had an crazy day yesterday, so I guess my words are not written in great English this morning, but I guess you understand what I mean

Totally agree.

babynoz said:

Serious said:

I wanted to tell you for a while already that you are one of the people here whose posts I always try to read even if they may be longer at times and I might be in a hurry, because you are one of the people here who have a lot to contribute and put the things you have to say in a wonderful throughtful way!

I am really tired this morning as I hardly got any sleep and had an crazy day yesterday, so I guess my words are not written in great English this morning, but I guess you understand what I mean

Totally agree.

Did I really type "throughtful"