ok its late, i mean early... oh what ever, and i am so tired, but i cant even sleep!!!

there is something troubling me!!!!

Well its a long story, but in a nutshell.. i have been single 4 about a year, and in a week i am going out on my first date in like 20 years!!

this guy has been asking 4 a while, waiting 4 me to buckle under pressure, and i did :disbelief, so now i guess seeing i agreed to it i am actually going to go out.... i know deep inside i should have said no 2 him again.....

anyway, how much has dating changed in 20 years, what should i expect??? what should i look out for???

should i look like a boring house wife or sex it up a lill????

i cant believe i am dating already is it 2 soon???

FUCK!!!

i think i'll text him and cancel

c i told u i need help!!!

i'm off 2 bed, u all better have some good advice 4 me when i get up

No worries. You'll be fine.

There is no other standard about dating than your own. And if that doesn't comply with the other, it's better to find out early on. Don't change to much for the date. Because you won't be able to keep up the appearences anyway.

If you like him, then have a good time and just see where it goes. No need to make life-time decisions. Just go with the flow.

buckling under the pressure doesnt sound like a good starting point .

go with the flow

He asked you on a date so chances are whatever he saw he already likes. Don't give him something that isn't yourself. Dress nice but don't come off desperate trying to pull off sexy anyone can see in some MTV reality show

now is it too soon? no one can say that for sure but yourself but the tricky part is not to "live" in that stage forever. Do you like him? if you weren't afraid would he be someone you would work up the nerve to ask out on a date? If so open the doors to possibility, you could be making at the very least a new friend, and who doesn't need more of them?

(I'm giving you advice I'm trying to give myself "getting back out there" isn't easy but if you think there's something "there" you want you gotta just... GO GET IT or atleast be open to it)

Dating is still the same as long as your date isnt 20yrs younger than you...If he is younger than you then you better bring some money to pay for the Whole date cause the young boys believe the women should pay these days...

If he's around your age you should have nothing to worry about...Since this is your first date and you see him regularly he is sooooooo OVER seeing you dressed like "June Cleaver" so you need to give him a hint of "Peggy Bundy"....And spray on your best bottle of "Smells Goods"..

You are going to have so much fun and it will feel so nice to laugh with someone instead of at the TV or the PC-screen..

Let us know how it went...

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[Edited 12/24/11 11:43am]

dJJ said:

No worries. You'll be fine.

There is no other standard about dating than your own. And if that doesn't comply with the other, it's better to find out early on. Don't change to much for the date. Because you won't be able to keep up the appearences anyway.

If you like him, then have a good time and just see where it goes. No need to make life-time decisions. Just go with the flow.

i just came out of the worst relationship in history its really a confidence thing 4 me

jon1967 said:

buckling under the pressure doesnt sound like a good starting point .

i know

and i dont think i am emotionally ready - but ummm the flesh is willing

eventually something is going 2 give!!!!!

matthewgrant said:

go with the flow

He asked you on a date so chances are whatever he saw he already likes. Don't give him something that isn't yourself. Dress nice but don't come off desperate trying to pull off sexy anyone can see in some MTV reality show

now is it too soon? no one can say that for sure but yourself but the tricky part is not to "live" in that stage forever. Do you like him? if you weren't afraid would he be someone you would work up the nerve to ask out on a date? If so open the doors to possibility, you could be making at the very least a new friend, and who doesn't need more of them?

(I'm giving you advice I'm trying to give myself "getting back out there" isn't easy but if you think there's something "there" you want you gotta just... GO GET IT or atleast be open to it)

ok thank u

and as 4 the dress part, well that's how i often dress, but i am thinking of toning it down a lill just 4 the date

Chancellor said:

Dating is still the same as long as your date isnt 20yrs younger than you...If he is younger than you then you better bring some money to pay for the Whole date cause the young boys believe the women should pay these days...

If he's around your age you should have nothing to worry about...Since this is your first date and you see him regularly he is sooooooo OVER seeing you dressed like "June Cleaver" so you need to give him a hint of "Peggy Bundy"....And spray on your best bottle of "Smells Goods"..

You are going to have so much fun and it will feel so nice to laugh with someone instead of at the TV or the PC-screen..

Let us know how it went...

[Edited 12/24/11 11:43am]

he is a few years younger, but not that many and i dont care about paying i like paying sometimes, i dont think it should always be up to the man!!! That would be wrong!!!!!

He asked me out because of my legs

i'll make sure they are still a stand out and visable - apparently he things my legs should be on billboards!!! OMG hahahaha

yes i think it will be fun and i should just do it and not worry about stupid things!!!!!!

confused .. so your body says yes your head says buckling ..

excellent, have fun ..

jon1967 said:

confused .. so your body says yes your head says buckling ..

excellent, have fun ..

did i just watch 1940's porn?????

ThisOne said:

jon1967 said:

confused .. so your body says yes your head says buckling ..

excellent, have fun ..

did i just watch 1940's porn?????

no just a silly movie i was watching u said help so i thought humors always helpful,didnt mean it to be offendn

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jon1967 said:

ThisOne said:

did i just watch 1940's porn?????

no just a silly movie i was watching u said help so i thought humors always helpful,didnt mean it to be offendn

[Edited 12/24/11 17:11pm]

Not offended ~ i liked it

anyway - i think i might cancel the Date.... well i'll ponder a bit more, but i am more inclined to cancel

ThisOne said:

jon1967 said:

no just a silly movie i was watching u said help so i thought humors always helpful,didnt mean it to be offendn

[Edited 12/24/11 17:11pm]

Not offended ~ i liked it

anyway - i think i might cancel the Date.... well i'll ponder a bit more, but i am more inclined to cancel

you didn't even GO yet????

the following is my favorite line in the movie 'trading places.' when it all boils down to it just be the you inside of you. if you decide to go on the date, i hope you have fun.

“Just be yourself sir. No matter what happens, they can’t take that away from you.”

Coleman giving advice to Billy Ray Valentine in Trading Places

ThisOne said:

he is a few years younger, but not that many and i dont care about paying i like paying sometimes, i dont think it should always be up to the man!!! That would be wrong!!!!!

He asked me out because of my legs

i'll make sure they are still a stand out and visable - apparently he things my legs should be on billboards!!! OMG hahahaha

yes i think it will be fun and i should just do it and not worry about stupid things!!!!!!

So he's a Legs Man? The Legs & Booty are my favorite parts of a womans body to check out..It's obvious the 2 of you have had long conversations about many things. That's very good. You got a "feel" for him before you said "yes' to the date.

I think it's good to start your New Year with a new Chapter in your life. Dating is a lot of fun and you can also gain a wonderful friendship...

Merry Christmas... .....

ThisOne said:

jon1967 said:

no just a silly movie i was watching u said help so i thought humors always helpful,didnt mean it to be offendn

[Edited 12/24/11 17:11pm]

Not offended ~ i liked it

anyway - i think i might cancel the Date.... well i'll ponder a bit more, but i am more inclined to cancel

Just go and see it as an exercise. You know, just like learning how to write. Do it a few times, get the hang of it and then decide on your signature.

Don't expect of yourself to be all perfect and have the perfect date when it's the first one again. Just go and see how you like it.

Can't start a new life without practicing all these things.

a date isnt what's needed .. maybe your makin it to complicated for an ez flesh is willing solution ..

i liked dating .. candles , good food great company .. partying like it was 99 on a dance floor.. then i woke up .. ouch doh .. no it was a joy always, two ppl tryng to connect on something just having fun light n ez .. eyes meeting, a touch, a mutual thought then laughing n then hot n sweaty i woke up again SH*(T.. im sori im just not helping ..

What! ure not gonna go?

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