The people I'm closest to are my mom, sister, and my mom's mom. I'll wish the others if there is an occasion and only when I'm up for it, but I keep them at bay, it is what it is. It's not that things are terrible, I get along okay with them but feel terribly misunderstood and sometimes unaccepted so it's better this way.

vainandy said:

kimrachell said:

i don't like to say bad things about others, but i must say i have an awlful family that hates one another! no one is kind to the other one, they are always looking to bring someone else in the family pain and suffering. i don't understand it, and i never will! there is one person in my family that suffers from mental illness that doesn't seek help, and causes me constant hurt almost by the things they do and say. the only way i can deal with it is because i live in another state far away from this person.

some of the things i have seen done and said in my family is just insane, and for that reason i never get to spend holidays or birthdays with family. i feel jealous when i read about people visiting their parents or other family for christmas, because in my family it just can't happen.

i have always been the kind of person that loves for family to be kind and loving to each other. and get together for holidays and birthdays. it really makes me sad that my son misses out on that because people in my family cannot stop fighting or living in the past.

sometimes in order to protect yourself though, you must divorce yourself from family.

From what I've seen, you're very much into family, well, your husband's family anyway, and church. That's usually the type of person I clash with but you have always been kind, respectful, and nonjudgemental to us freaks, outcasts, and wierdos around here and we absolutely love you for it! If your family has a problem with you, it's their loss, not yours.

I agree with all of this. Kim is one of the people I love even though I have never met her.

Vendetta1 said:

vainandy said:

From what I've seen, you're very much into family, well, your husband's family anyway, and church. That's usually the type of person I clash with but you have always been kind, respectful, and nonjudgemental to us freaks, outcasts, and wierdos around here and we absolutely love you for it! If your family has a problem with you, it's their loss, not yours.

I agree with all of this. Kim is one of the people I love even though I have never met her.

thank you so much, that means a lot to me!

kimrachell said:

Vendetta1 said:

I agree with all of this. Kim is one of the people I love even though I have never met her.

thank you so much, that means a lot to me!

I know!! She makes the rest of us look bad!

I should have done it a loooooong time ago I'm amazed I survived the weekend!

My family are all just fine on their own, singularly, but together in one house for 2 days, FRIKKING DISASTER

kewlschool said:

kimrachell said:

thank you so much, that means a lot to me!

I know!! She makes the rest of us look bad!

vainandy said:

kimrachell said:

i don't like to say bad things about others, but i must say i have an awlful family that hates one another! no one is kind to the other one, they are always looking to bring someone else in the family pain and suffering. i don't understand it, and i never will! there is one person in my family that suffers from mental illness that doesn't seek help, and causes me constant hurt almost by the things they do and say. the only way i can deal with it is because i live in another state far away from this person.

some of the things i have seen done and said in my family is just insane, and for that reason i never get to spend holidays or birthdays with family. i feel jealous when i read about people visiting their parents or other family for christmas, because in my family it just can't happen.

i have always been the kind of person that loves for family to be kind and loving to each other. and get together for holidays and birthdays. it really makes me sad that my son misses out on that because people in my family cannot stop fighting or living in the past.

sometimes in order to protect yourself though, you must divorce yourself from family.

From what I've seen, you're very much into family, well, your husband's family anyway, and church. That's usually the type of person I clash with but you have always been kind, respectful, and nonjudgemental to us freaks, outcasts, and wierdos around here and we absolutely love you for it! If your family has a problem with you, it's their loss, not yours.

What Andy has said could of come from my own mouth! Kim you are one of those people who I feel never judges, and even tho I am not a "religious" person per se, you dont make those of us who struggle with faith feel like we are wrong and going to hell... And that says alot about a person to me... You would be what I would call a true "christian" in every sense of the word... And even tho we have never met in real life, thru fb and the org I have gotten to know you and feel an honest love of being a friend from you.. your genuine, that is so rare these days!

I am sorry Josh cant be involved with your side but being as toxic as they are he doesnt need that... you have started your own family in the way that you want a family to be.. you have put an end to the cycle of hate and I commend you for that! Its hard to do! I too am slowly phasing some family out because I dont agree with how they feel and how they hate other family who havent done anything wrong other than be different... It makes me sad, but I dont need that anymore.. I want happiness, and love, and to enjoy being around family, not dreading it...

You have had some hard times in your life but it hasnt turned you bitter or hateful, I love you for that! Never let them make you feel like you are wrong for not being part of their hatred and meaness... As Andy said, Its their loss, NOT yours!!

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